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How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating?

Updated on February 5, 2017

There are various theories and even misleading advice about how to tell if your boyfriend, spouse, partner etc is cheating. Unless you have concrete evidence such as catching him in the act, you can never be 100% sure so it's a good idea to proceed with caution otherwise you may spoil your one chance at true love! It is best to consider everything in context and base your assumptions on careful thought and consideration of the facts. The tips and 'signs' below are only a guide and may in fact be a sign of something completely unrelated to cheating. It could even be the onset of a medical problem! Use some common sense too.

But here are a few things to look out for. The more you have occurring at the same time, the more serious you should consider the possibility that your partner may be cheating on you.

1. Your boyfriend suddenly becomes more caring and becomes more attentive to your needs than usual.

2. Your boyfriend starts showering you with gifts for no apparent reason.

3. You start getting a gut feeling that something isn't right in your relationship.

4. Your boyfriend constantly talks about ending your relationship each time you argue or fight.

5. Your boyfriend constantly picks fights with you.

6. Your mate is excited when leaving you but quiet and moody when he is with you.

7. Your communication starts to break down and you know it's not your fault.

8. Your boyfriend's tastes change e.g. his clothing, music etc...

9. Your boyfriend continually criticizes another girl whom you think he normally would be attracted to.

10. Your boyfriend starts to criticise things about you that he used to find attractive and appealing before.

11. Your mate stops doing something that he knows you really enjoy.

12. Your boyfriend would rather spend time with his friends than be with you.

13. He doesn't want to talk about your future relationship.

14. He stops being affectionate to you.

15. He has been acting emotionally distant recently.

16. Your boyfriend talks in his sleep and mentions the name of one particular person on more than one occasion.

17. He's not interested in being intimate any more.

18. He becomes offended when you make simple natural enquiries about situations or people that involve him.

19. Your mate starts paying less and less attention to your kids.

20. Your mate becomes less interested in spending time with you. He starts giving excuses for not being able to do things with you or spend time with you.

These are some of the many signs that you can use to tell if you boyfriend or partner is cheating on you. Remember though that they may be signs that something else is wrong in your relationship or they could be a result of stress unrelated to your relationship.

If you suspicions are based on a particular incident or incidents, it's best to confront your boyfriend right away to establish the truth.

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      Nicole  8 years ago

      I do beleivethat this is the truth about mates and boyfriends. I think mine is doing the same to me but I cant be sure of it. But take many notes to ths.

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      jessica 8 years ago

      i think my boy friend is cheating on me because he dont talk to me as much he dont call me . i think there is somthing going on he dont care that am sick all he wants is sex.

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      Courtney 7 years ago

      I believe this but he tells me he loves me says everything to make me smile but he used to alwyas want to have sex but now he just dont want to only sometimes

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      mariela 7 years ago

      My boyfriend and I fight all the time and he tries to kick me out and tries to put me down he says he loves me but he never wants to talk things out

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      unknown  7 years ago

      i dont know im confused like i werent allowed any male friends but now he is saying thatt he can talk to girls and i can talk to boys, which i understand except its weird how all of a sudden he said that i can talk to lads,, and also he has now got this lasses number and they seem close but he says they are just friends,, im so confused and dont know what to think,,and he makes excuses up, our relationship has changed,,, can anyone help?

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      confused 7 years ago

      i dont know, somehow my boyfriend seems different to me. we fight alot, usually its not my fault but i still take the blame. then i always have to come to him, hes never coming to me. so idk, if hes cheating cuz i seen him txtin sum girl(s) lately, and he says its his cousins...

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      keisha 7 years ago

      my boyfrind used to call everynight and hen he jus stopped outta the blue recently..he havent called mii in 3weeks..now hes alwayz telling mii to call him

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      Toni 7 years ago

      Well my boyfriend has put a password on his phone... he have multiple texts after one another. he always say its his home boys, family members or close friends.. he dont want me to have guy friends.. when we always argue he tells me that he dont think i want to be with him... he just came friendly to everybody... just dont understand im confused.. but im strong headed so im just taking notice of every new thing he do..

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      unknown  7 years ago

      i have been with my boyfreind nearlt a year now and i have noticed changes like he used to be so nice to me but know hes only intrested in playing his game and talkin to his mates and i feel so left out and then he hardly kisses me anymore ave confrounted him about it but he just say i love you u know i do ... but for some reason i keep thinkin thats unture to be honest i wanna belive that hes not cheating but everytime he goes out i get worried is this jus paranoia coz its happend to me before . can some one help

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      foreverME 7 years ago

      I can only tell most of you girls out there, that no matter how much you love this guy, no matter how strongly you feel about hi and how pure your feelings are for him....never ever let your guard down. It is wise to say "belive in yourself". If you have a gut feeling or your mind is trying to tell you something, listen to it!! The common mistakes that us females make, is that we listen to our hearts most of the time and it ends up being broken. Use your mind, that's why you have it. Trust your instincts, open your eyes. Even if he says "No I'm not, you're crazy, I would never do that" it's better you give yourself time to think it through then live with that gut feeling yet never act on it. If he loves you he will follow you. However whatever happened in his past is his business, as long as you are together and you have a mutual understanding to be faithful, there should only be you and him. Take it from my eight year relationship, the love of my life, I was the love of his, we never got sick of each other and the sex was always there, it was always special, he was always attracted to me. But men always want more, I don't care what any woman says...men always want more. And we would do ANYTHING for them, even if that means overlooking their transgressions. Don't be foolish, listen to your mind.

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      Chista 7 years ago

      you know its hard to not think of that when you have taht feeling..i mean think about it and it hurts specaily when you have given everything up for him. i dont know if its bad not being able to trust him or not believeing him but i do know taht loves hurts. and if you have been hurt in the past thats one of the main reasons why you will think your present partner would do the same. you should try to prove him wrong. be crazy naughty and everything you think of being capable of doing to change that ugly feeling of ours that we have inside of us. i mean they are with us after all and they do spend time with us. iv learn so much from my past and now, i mean i love him, i trust him wich sometimes i feel insicure of what he can be doing to me behind my back. us girls know how we are and also know how man are. thats why iv learn to give him space and when im with him show himcrazy adventures that we can both do. i mean iv been with him for 3 years he has beautiful friends and all and ofcourse theres some jeleousy going on but i have to learn to believe in my self and be able to trust him and my self..prove him wrong show him that you can be wild and sweet and everything else i mean you have to win in the relationship. and be happy.

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      mariee 7 years ago

      Sooo tell me why i feel the same about my boyfriend for the past few days our arguing has been outrages! I confronted himm on cheating and he tells me noo but i have the biggest gut feeling that something isnt right im nt sure if its because of what ive been thru i admit im affraid and he has me drawn 2 my weakness which i hate...he tld me he didnt wanna b with any1 else and if icontinueed tlkn shit 2 him he would cheat on me 2 prove me right sooo i tld him jus be honest and he tells me one thing and its like ok then wenn i go read shit hes tlkn abt how he misses some chickk and

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      lover 7 years ago

      My boyfriend doesnt return my texts

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      Brittany Goins 7 years ago

      Well me and my boyfriend used to fight alot and now we dont. There are rumors going around in our school that my boyfriend got another girl pregnant. And he is tellin me that he would never do anything to hurt me and thats not true. I dont know wat to do anymore. Someone give me advice.

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      In Love  7 years ago

      Brittany well i think you should talk wit his friends cause it mite be true of talk to the gurl and if it is you should not be wit somebody like that who will break your heart and lie to your face. trust me i know.

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      violet 7 years ago

      my boyfriend has been talking to his ex-gf for a long time now. he was with her for a year and about 5 months. before he left her for me and i understand what they had was real and im just scared he is going to leave. he have been dating for almost 6 months next week. but we broke up 2 weeks ago because i caught him cheating on me wit his other girl. we got back together and now i think he has something with his ex. but i can't bare the thought that i'm going to lose him again. but this this time i'm going to get back with him and make myself look like a whore that he can come back with, but i love him.

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      Jill 7 years ago

      iv caught my bf saying a bunch of sexual stuff to other girls, iv found it in his computer, on his phone, men are all cheaters, there all the same

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      ritz 7 years ago

      i just want to say that i have also passed through the same feeling i loved a boy from bottom of my heart .my relationship continued for about 5 years and now we are not talking to each not bcz we broke up but i had a feeling that he is cheating with me .but he has excuse for everything i say .i dont know how to judge .but

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      tabby 7 years ago

      i think my bf is cheatin on me we dont talk that much anymore and we been together for 3 months he talks to his friends more then me i dont kno wat to do

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      NIKA 7 years ago

      I agree with this so much and why it is repeating to me. Cheating men just dont change. We met on the chat line and I called to see was he on there. I had a feeling and it was true. I found him on there and I know there has been others calling names and I want to end the relationship then I know all the signs were there. I have to listen good.

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      cindy 7 years ago

      so ive been w/my bf almost 3 years and recently i heard from sum1 that they heard 3 months ago he was talking to somegirl which i knew liked him, and i talked to her and she said its tru but she foundout we were still together so she got pissed and he he told her they can b friends w/benefits and she said no and he got mad at her. but i never really notices anything except she txt him once sayin hey but he nvr w/b..ahhh he says hed never cheat on me and he loves me alot!wat do u say???

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      holly  7 years ago

      idk if my boyfriend is cheating. when he his with his friend chris he ignores my phone calls and tex... he doesnt come over as much anymore we fight. he doesnt call very much and we dnt hang out very much either.

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      ME 7 years ago

      MY BOYFRIEND CHEATED ON ME A YR AGO N IT JST CRUSH ME N MY DUMBASS IS STILL WIT HIM I CANT 4GET ABOUT WAT HE DIID 2 ME N AT THIS POINT HE STILL DENIES IT N IT WAS ON HIS FACE ME N DA OTHER GIRL HE WAS TALKING 2 WHEN 2 HIS HOUSE N HE CAME OUT N DIIDNT SAY ANYTHING JST DROVE OFF AFTER DAT I STILL CALL HIM N SHE WAS CALLING HIM ASWELL SOO IT WAS CRAZY MY POINT IS DAT HE NEVER APOLOGIZE N ADMIT 2 IT DEN DA GURL KEPT CALLING MY CELL N SHE TOLD ME THEY HAD SEX IT WAS JST SAD N IAM STILL WIT HIM I DNT LIKE HIM NO MORE I JST DNT KNOW WAT 2 DO CUZ HE KEEPS ON CALLING ME HELP I CANT 4GET ABOUT WAT HAPPEN ITS ALWAYS ON MY MIND N HE DOESNT EVEN TRY 2 MAKE THINGS BETTER HES JST THE SAME JERK WERE ALWAYS ARGUING CUZ I BRING HER UP N HE GETS MAD I THINK HE STILL LIKES HER BUT WHEN WE WANT BACK HE TOLD HER 2 STOP CALLING N I TOLD HER 2 MAY B THATS WHY HE DOESNT TRY GETTING AT HER THEY WORK 2 GETHER MY FRIEND TELLS ME DAT SHE BETS THEYRE STILL SEEING EACHOTHER BUT HE SAYS NO DAT THEY DNT EVEN TALK HELP PLZ IAM CONFUSED IDK WAT 2 DO

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      boys suck find a man!! 7 years ago

      OKKKK PLSSS SOME PPL NEED TO READ WHAT I AM PUTTING HERE.... SOME OF THESE ARENT TRUE BC I DO A LOTTTTTT OF THESE THINGS TO MY BF & I AM NOT CHEATING ON HIM. IM WITH HIM EVERYDAYY & THE ONLYY REASON Y I DONT GET INTIMATE WITH HIM AS MUCH AS WE USED TO IS BC WE R AROUND EACHOTHER A LOTTT SO WE PICK FIGHTS MORE & HE PISSES ME OFF LOL. SO IT WILL TURN ME OFF & I WONT WANT TO CUDDLE OR BE INTIMATE WITH HIM BC WERE SO MAD AT EACHOTHER MOST OF THE TIME. SO IF YOU R LIKE THAT THEN THE INTIMATE THING DONT MEAN NE THING. MAYEB U FOUGHT OR W.E IT DONT MEAN HES CHEATING. & IM THE ONE WHO PICKS FIGHTS A LOT TOO BC MAYBE YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME 2GETHER.. & MY BFS TASTE CHANGES SOMETIMES. HE GOT HIS EARS PEIRCED AND STARTED LIKING DIFERNT ALCOHOL DRINKS.. BUTTT HES ALWAYSSSSSS WITH MEEE.... HE NEVER WENT OUT DRINKING WITH SOME OTHER GIRL TO LIKE A DIFF DRINK.. PPL CHANGE SO DO YOU . DO YOU THINK YOU LIKE THE SAME THINGS AS WHEN U MET UR BF.. YOU HAVE TO CATCH UR BF 100% sure b4 u make assumptions. best time is to catch him when hes with his friends bc most likely the "other girl" is around. trust me his friends wont tell if there is one too.. do some snooping,or go thro his phone. Ynot? hire a hotttt girl that you can trust.. go around him with a recorder and wherever he is work or out with his friends... etc... ask him out see if he falls for it. If he does he dont care about you!!!! ANd move on. try my advice it works!!

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      FOR VIOLET 7 years ago

      honeyy if he cheated on you once & you took him back so easily then he will take advantage now & cheat whenever bc he thinks you will jus keep taking him back.. & if he broke up with his ex gf that he dated for a yr and a half then chances r he will do it to you bc you only been together for 6mnths its not that long hon. and especiallly if he cheated on you b4 with some random girl. he willl do it with the girl he cared about b4 thinking you will jus take him back if things dont work out between them agaiin. you have to be able to not be his rebound or take him back. when you do that he knowss su care a lot about him and the person who cares the less in the relationship is the one who dont get hurt. you have to tech yurself not to be so vulnerable and excepting. even tho its hard and hurts trust me it will hurt even more in the end when he breaks your heart. yu need to put an image that you dont care as much and that you can have whoever you want. this makes guys not wanna screw up bc they have no second chances again if they do mess up so they wont mess up in the first place. Trust me i been in 4 different long relationships and i was in the control of all of them including the break ups. Not all men are bad.. if hes cheating... he isnt worth it. let him go and find someone else whose better & my mom always said if you love him let him go bc its always to have loved and let go then to have never loved at all. bc eventually he will hurt you enuff to where u cant and wont have love for him ne more.

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      In love and confused 7 years ago

      I think that about half of that is what is happenin with him..... ugh this sux :(

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      IDK 7 years ago

      I went on his computer and i found that he gave 2other girls his number and i cinfronted him about it and he said that oh i didnt do it!!and swore up n down that he didnt to do!i mean he did this before!he has a pic of one of his friends on his ipod and she is a gurl!!i mean would any guy do that!a 2yr relationship isnt goin that well!idk wat to do!he says he loves me but is it true?he doesnt like talkin bout gettin married cuz he says that he doesnt kno wats goin to happen in the future!idk wat to do can anyone help!!

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      julie 7 years ago

      idk mi he says he loves mehh but one dey on his lil status or wadeva say i really luv her but idk yy she is havin 2nd thoguths but i nevah said anthing bout havin 2nd thoughts so im questionable about dat nd he tlks bout havin kids wit mehhnd errythng else nd errytyme i kall him his line is busy nd he always kall mehhbac lke 20mmins lata but i do da same to him but im not cheatin or maybe/...but yea i do luv himnd dnt kno how to tell him dat i thnkk he is cheatin nd if i ask him ani questions bout dat he's gone say so yhu dnt trust mehh nd i dnt wana hear dat shyt all fukn dey..but yea

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      Lea. 7 years ago

      I was with my boyfriend for over a year, and I was always happy with him, even near the end. I noticed that he didn't text me as much, stopped calling as much, when he was out with other girls, he sometimes said he had to rush off, this went on for two months, all because I believed him when he said, he loved me, and he'd never leave me, and we had a future together. It was bullshit, he was shagging some other girl, and only stayed with me for additional months because he didn't know how to tell me. And because he enjoyed the sex. Fucking twat.

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      Lauren 7 years ago

      Wow. I think relationships are one of the hardest things out there to do. You have to be strong ladies. Don't put up with cheating, or any male treating you like shit. I have have been with my bf for one and a half years. I can be insecure and I do worry about him cheating if he does do anything to hurt me, the best way to get back at them which I will do is to cut them off completely give urself time with youur family and best friends move on and get into a other relationship after u have given urself time. By stopping txtin, calling, emailing! It shocks them,

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      Lauren 7 years ago

      Wow. I think relationships are one of the hardest things out there to do. You have to be strong ladies. Don't put up with cheating, or any male treating you like shit. I have have been with my bf for one and a half years. I can be insecure and I do worry about him cheating if he does do anything to hurt me, the best way to get back at them which I will do is to cut them off completely give urself time with youur family and best friends move on and get into a other relationship after u have given urself time. By stopping txtin, calling, emailing! It shocks them, teaches them a lesson and shows urself respect.

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      jacqueline 7 years ago

      dont beleive this cause iv been goin out with my fiance for 2 years and he always buy me things for no reason. i have cheated on him but it was just a kiss and i told him a few weeks later about it. then i was talkin to other guys on the internet and things and we have got through his and he still hasnt cheated on me so not all guys cheat!! there is still trust issues but who blames him i dont but girls if u are with the right guy dont mess it up and dont beleive everything u heard have har evidence first

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      bryanna 7 years ago

      my boyfriend and i were doing really well at first, he would send me the sweetest messages every morning, call all the time and talk sweet to me, then we started having sex and we started arguing alot then all of a sudden he started being nice and when we used to argue he would always put it on me and would always say "im such a bad boyfriend" and try and make me feel bad for him, but he's nice now and when we argue he puts the blame on him, does this mean anything ?

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      alex. 7 years ago

      its a tripp; i just recently had my bf leave me and most of the signs that are given on here about jow to know if hes cheating or not is exactly how he would act. i wouldnt even bother tjinking it over twicw cause i know hes got someone else

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      chrissy 7 years ago

      i just moved in with my boyfriend and he stays distant from me and always makes excuses for him to leave he says he has to work but i dont believe him i check his phone but i think he erases his texts i ask him does he cheat and he states" he doesnt do that" i ask him why he love me and he says "cause i love you" what do i do

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      cassie 7 years ago

      i think my boyfirend is cheating on me i hate him cuz he says that im cheating on him but i know he is the one who is cheating on me

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      cassie 7 years ago

      i think my boyfirend is cheating on me i hate him cuz he says that im cheating on him but i know he is the one who is cheating on me

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      bea 7 years ago

      I don't think all those possibilities are true.. Most are, but some can happen with out the guy actually cheating.

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      krystyna 7 years ago

      about 15 out of 20 my bf does...i dont want to think hes cheating but i have a feeling :/

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      mysterygurl 7 years ago

      :D NONE OF THIESE R TRUE FOR MII RELATIONSHIPP!! ^_^

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      scaredhurt 7 years ago

      i think my botfriend of a year is cheatin and we have a daughter and one on the way...why i think this well for one the sex has changed he is either "not fillin good" or "just not in the mood" he left the go to two stores it would be mabe an hour trip if you use the excuse he did " got lost in krogers" he was gone for four and a half hours ( both stores are 5 mins for the house)the day my daughter was born he went to clean his car out and take a shower ( just used the water and took the trash out when i called 2 and a half hours later he was just gettin to the appt. ( 20 in from the hospital) he forgot it was valentines day and went to get me something from the dollor tree and then said he was goin to his dads ( was gone all day ) we didnt even have sex he dont play with our lil girl like he used to he. when we do have sex its done i about two min ( not even kiddin i timed it ) so i dont know they say if you accuse then they will cheat so i dont but my gut and every one eles says differintly this passed christmas we tried to have a three some with my close friendcause he wanted it ( it was supposed to be them on me) well it was him on her and me in the floor feelin like shit it took him 30 min to even notice it was botherin me he look at her the way he used to look at me thats when things changed he was just fine with her ( my frined) stayin with us untill about tow or three months after that then he wanted her out BAD so i need some advice please tell me what u think if you dont want to relpay on here e-mail me at brittanycopley@yahoo.com please give me your feed back

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      Love 6 years ago

      My boyfried has cheated on me already I took him back but I feel like he is cheating on me again. He took our relationship status off on fb and when I asked him to put it back he snapped on me. I ignored it b/c he is going trough a lot or so he tells me. His phone has a password and he don't feel confortabel if I had his phone I just feel like some thing is going on or he is tryna hide something. But if he does cheat again I am truly done. But how can I be shure ? How do I find out?

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      Rachel  6 years ago

      he has been acting diffrent then he really is and when i want to have sex he says "im not in the mood" or "im to tierd" or " my throut hurts" or " just not into it". he has a cell phone that is constantly glued to his hand and he hides his messages from me and when he is on the internet he changes the page when i walk up he has cheated on me before and i jsut dont know wat to do? i have asked but he telss me he never would?

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      bella nova 6 years ago

      How will u ever know but I wish all of us good women luck wit these lying, cheating men......

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      Miharu 6 years ago

      Horrible grammar/spelling. I can barely understand a damn thing any of you are talking about.

      What are you, a bunch of ten-year-olds?

      Go back to school.

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      mpp 6 years ago

      thanks you "Miharu" for the reminder

      It been now a year a 2 months that i am with my boyfriend. Everything was going ok and one night in april (4 month ago) he texted me that he stoped seeing or talking to his best friend (that he had feelings before me) because he didnt want have the tentation (even thow she has a boyfriend and is engaged). Now yesterday night i saw his cell phone (cause we can look in to each others cell phone) and i saw that he was texting this girl that he had feeling for before (and that played with him as well, he telling me that a long time ago). He tells me he wanted to see how she was going and everything . He went to her houseand realized that she changed and he is happy for her. I just have this feeling... that i dont like. When he told me for his best firend girl i was just cruched.... im scared he will fall for this girl.... even if he tell me he love me and wants to be with me and im his woman.

      I am just insecure at this point ...does anyone have tips for me or did anyone pass through this... thanks anyways

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      mpp 6 years ago

      oh and i forgot to say that he told me if he cheated on me he would feel so bad (and that he is such a bad lier)he would tell me. And hge would tell me if he dosent feel ok anymore in our realtionship.....

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      SoTired. 6 years ago

      SO IVE COME TO THE CONCLUSION THAT MY BOYFRIEND IS SUCH A LIAR !!! HE IS STARTING TO BLAME EVERYTHING ON HIS FRIENDS AND EVERYTIME I QUESTION HIM ABOUT THINGS.... HE MANAGES TO FLIP IT ON ME MAKEN ME FEEL BAD LIKE I DID SOMETHING WRONG.

      THEN THESE RANDOM GIRLS BE COMING IN THE PICTURE AND HE SAYS "SHE'S MY BESTFRIEND" IM JUST WONDERING... HOW MANY "BESTFRIENDS" CAN ONE PERSON HAVE?? I MEAN I KNOW I HAVE BESTFRIENDS BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE I CAN JUST CALL MY FRIEND !

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      mpp 6 years ago

      -Girls you have to CONFRONT!!!

      -You have the right to know the truth (even thow it can hurt)

      -My boyfriend tols me the truth (that nothing is happening with this girl and she is just a long time friend)

      -But you know what ...my parents a divorced...my father was having lots of mistresses and then he asked for a divorce...my mother didnt know of course cause she trusted him!

      -What I am saying here is, trust your boyfriend Yes (but always have a little sneak peek on anything you can grab.... just to see you know... it never really hurts)

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      BeLL 6 years ago

      I dont even know what to think? i honestly do think hes cheating on me but im not to sure. He says he isnt but only god really knows the truth.... i wus thinking of getting my cards read, but im afraid to see wut comes up.

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      LoveConfused 6 years ago

      My Bf & I have been together for a little over a year & we never really fought till now. & its over the lilest things. He's way more loving & affectionate for no reason. He never wants to call till 9pm even if he has free mins & won't tell me why. I tried to confront him about cheating but he just gets angry. He bowls in a leauge w/ this girl who he's known his whole life & is crazy obsessed w/ him. I told I'm I don't like is a hundred times but he continues to bowl w/ her. He use to not let me look at his phone but now he doesn't care. He'll answer txts/call no matter what we're doing but 1 number always txts him & he has everyone saved in his contacts except that 1. I asked him who it was a few times & he gave me different answers almost each time. What do I do??

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      lovely 6 years ago

      i caught my bf texting with other girl saying " i love you", my lady , my love, my best love. i confront him and he just said that she's only his especial friend. i texted the girl but when my bf know it he shout at me he got so furious and he wants to hurt me. during that time i feel that he choose that girl than me.me the one who took good care of him i feel so pitty for my self i give and i do everything to make him happy but it wasnt enought for him ,at the end i realized that men no matter what u do for them they would'nt get satisfied..

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      UnluckyInLove 6 years ago

      My bf & I have been together for 1 year & 3 mnths. He's been so different lately. More sweet/loving than ever for no reason, craves sex every chance he gets, hardly txts back, usually a 3 hr period, says he's tired a lot, even smells different. He puts on cologne more than usual. He never lets his phone leave his sight. Gives vague answers about everything. I confronted him about cheating & he got upset but not nearly as upsent as he should have been...(if he wasn't cheating) I'm graduating 1 year early & have college paid for & planned out. Please help me! I don't want to throw away my future for someone I love so much but can't love me.

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      UnluckyInLove 6 years ago

      My bf & I have been together for 1 year & 3 mnths. He's been so different lately. More sweet/loving than ever for no reason, craves sex every chance he gets, hardly txts back, usually a 3 hr period, says he's tired a lot, even smells different. He puts on cologne more than usual. He never lets his phone leave his sight. Gives vague answers about everything. I confronted him about cheating & he got upset but not nearly as upsent as he should have been...(if he wasn't cheating) I'm graduating 1 year early & have college paid for & planned out. Please help me! I don't want to throw away my future for someone I love so much but can't love me.

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      lala 6 years ago

      that helps thix....

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      monique 6 years ago

      i know my boyfriend is cheating on me. I've tried everything to make things right. He constantly cheat on me and bring me back stds. He doesnt even care enough to use a condom with other girls. And i know he still talks to his ex. I've been with him since i was 13, im 17. I love him so much but i gotta let him go. I don't know what to do/

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      addy 6 years ago

      My boyfriend is always hanging out with his friends after work. He comes home late from work and never wants to spend time with me. We are always fighting about little things. And he is always getting rides and I dont know who he is getting rides from..

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      Sophii 6 years ago

      Yeah, I know my bf is cheating now because he doesnt talk to me.....at all. No text. No call. Only when I text him asking him if he wants to see me later, his excuse is, I got things to do, another time.

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      me2 6 years ago

      i think he is but i dont know he wont talk to me it makes me upset i wanna cry but i gotta be strong

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      Bodeniyi 6 years ago

      Wow... boyfriends and cheats, my girlfriend loves me and we trust eachother, if she see any funny sms on my phone, she ask me about it first... just because she knows how me and my other friends both guys and girls talk.

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      rere 6 years ago

      well i think my boyfriend is cheated on me wit another boy .... hes changed so much wen hes around boys he's da happiest person i know but wen hes wit me hes angry i jux dont understand

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      unknown 6 years ago

      my boyfriend loves me too much...i love him too...

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      nickibaby 6 years ago

      i am at the verge of tears now..my boyfriend just came back from ashort trip and suddenly his girlfriend texts him and from the msg i c he wants her back..i have confronted him about it and he is flippin everything back in me.we been on almost a year now and i cant bear to think he is cheating in me cos it kills me.i just feel insecure and i have lost confidence in myself.hes following 17 out of 20 of the signs above an di dont know what to do...i need help cos im going out if ma mind

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      denise 6 years ago

      me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 yrs and a few months i got locked up for 4 months and he wuz there for me but things started to go down hill he wuznt the same with me anymore wene i got out it looked like he had a mark on his neck but i didnt say anything bout it but wene we had sex he did things diff with me things he knws i dnt like and my x friend likes those things and i heard alot bout them 2 being 2gether while i wuz locked up but he tells me he loves me but he lives like 4 hrs away and he always tells me bout another gurlfriend but he says he is joken around bout it but he tells me he will come and see me but wene the times comes something always comes up why he cnt come here to see me and he talks to me like im one of his friends and on wkends wene he dnt come here i cnt get ahold of him at all he turns his phone off sometimes or just dnt pick it up then tells me that he went to sleep thats why he turned his phone off so nobody would bother him but i feel like there is some other gurl but why doesnt he want to break up and just be with her i dn tget it and ive told him that to shit why have me here wene u have her there idk wat to do ive told him im done with him but her sweet talks me then we r still together i think its all bs to me but i do love him alot and want it to work but its getn old to me he could be here rite now but no he rather be there so he can go out thats wat i think but he wnt eva tell me tha truth and ill never knw tha truth

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      nichole 6 years ago

      I think my boyfriend cheats because he used to and once a cheater always a cheater he sed he loves me but I think he still cheat well I am not sure because he chose me but who knows

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      nichole 6 years ago

      I think my boyfriend cheats because he used to and once a cheater always a cheater he sed he loves me but I think he still cheat well I am not sure because he chose me but who knows

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      MIkaela 6 years ago

      Guys my boyfrie is apparently cheeting on me, im 15 and a half and before i was with him i was with his worst enimie (luke), when i was with luke he told me he was infertile and we had unprotected sex, i just gave birth to his child and i dint even know i was pregnant, my current boyfriend was angry but he still stayed with me even though it wasn his child. now if he was cheeting he wouldnt do that. lthe baby is now with luke and my boyfind still loves me and we are going on a year. I give him space with his mates but we are still inlove more then ever, we got the bar implanted in my arm because we wernt ready for a baby, not as a couple, but yes i think he loves me.

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      CantStandThisBS 6 years ago

      My boyfriend(of 6 months) has been a little distant lately. He still talks about our future relationship, but is distant about other things. He calls me late at night and there's always calls coming in during our whole conversation, he says they are for his dad, but his dad is usually out or asleep. We text each other more than we talk and those texts are few and far between, and sometimes he stops out of the blue and doesn't text back for hours on end. I don't want to think he's cheating, but there are so many things telling me he is. In his past relationships he has cheated and I knew about it, I just hope he's not cheating on me. He talks to other girls, gives them his number and doesn't tell me, and his friends try to hook him up with chicks all the time(not to mention his father trying to). I just feel that if he doesn't find someone to cheat on my with, he'll take his friend's suggestions(or his father's). Maybe all this could be due to the fact that I've been cheated on before and don't want it to happen again, but something tells me it's more than a hunch. Oh well, guess I have to wait and let the rest of this relationship pan out and see how things fall.

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      Unknown 6 years ago

      My boyfriend has been doing all of that stuff and being very protective over his phone and stuff. I recently caught him txting a couple girls but he keeps saying they are just friends or his cousin. I want to believe what he tells me but my instincts tell me he's lying . Someone please help .

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      clueless 6 years ago

      about a month ago i caught my boyfriend cheating and i didnt no what 2 do so i start 2 get even wit him so i introdue myself 2 the girl sence we work @ the same company we had lunch.So we talked n tslked until we couldnt talk no moore so the plan was 2 set him up intersert whatever he thought he had goin on.i do have 2 tell u the rest just said he not happy!!!!!!!!!PLAYERSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

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      zazzy 6 years ago

      Hmm how do i start...

      well i think my boyfriend is cheating with me.. well his mate told me he was trying to get with girls at clubs n stuff...n he said he don't n all he does is sit down n drink -.- (yh im sure) but the thing is his friend told me something he said when his friend wasn't even there...so how would his friend even know about it :S:S

      his hiding stuff on the pc n his phone his now has a password n every time we fight he blames me for starting it..i try talking to him about it n he dont wanna know or he gets pissed off..

      he said he would never cheat on me coz his dad done it to his mum n he knows how his mum was so upset n all.. but idk...

      we been going out for 4years now and we have a baby..maybe his bored of me? coz my body has changed coz i had a baby?

      i just dont know anymore. im scared to leave him coz i love him so much....

      HELP?!?

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      MENA 6 years ago

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      mystery 6 years ago

      @ boys suck find a man!!

      I agree with you and that's a great idea about hiring a hot girl to catch him in the act. I think I may try that with my fiance.

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      Anonymous 6 years ago

      Confused. I really dnt know what to think anymore. Idk if u call this one cheating. I read this shit msg my bf sent to this mofo and its somethin you say flirtin. I cant take it anymore. Wherever he ask me if i do trust. I always say i dont coz ive been to everythin im tired of believin all his lies.. Am i doin the ryt thing here? But whenever i ask him if he loves me he always say he does and he will nver cheat on me bc he loves me.. And im kinda puzzled.. Idk when to believe him..help?

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      Nicole 6 years ago

      I've been with my boyfriend for 1yr and 6 months now nd our relationship would have been longer buti cheated on him nd then we broke up nd got bak together. He has 2 exs that still lyk him and one of them go to our school and he told me tht he jus stopped having feelings for her nd the other ex tht doesn't go to our school is always trying to get him to have sex wit her nd stuff because they were eachothers first. My boyfriend flirts alot with girls at school but him nd them always tell me tht all he talks about is how much he loves me and why. I really love my boyfriend and I would never cheat on him because he's the best thing that has ever happened to me. Jus the other day his ex texts me asking, " has labios told u yet?" and I said no wat does he need to tell me? Nd she said tht she's not going to tell me cuz I'm his girl nd he needs to talk to me. Soo then I tell her not to text me nd stuff. Nd we get into it nd she said tht I'm not the only one he's sleeping with and how she feels sorry for me cuz I believe him and then she says that the reason he wanted to take a break from having ax with me was because he was having sex with her. Nd tht kinda Hurt cuz I kinda believe it for some reason. And thenn she say, " I bet he didn't tell u that he got me pregnant, huh? Nd I told her tht sh wishes. But I just don't kno how someone could lie to ThT extent. I mean y would sh aim me asking me has he told me yet? It's jus soo weird nd I don't want to believe he's cheating cuz he's a really good boyfriend and has helped me in a lot of ways. he lives down the street from her and can sneak out and see her anytime lyk he use to wen they were together. Smh I jus don't know wat to do.

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      boo 6 years ago

      ladie things will get better. i have the same problems with my boyfriend one moment he nice to me n the next he rude. why?...idk. he calls me n the next he dissapears for a couple of days sometimes a week. but i love him so much i just cant let go...but it will come to a stop sooner or later my foot is going to be coming down. but like i said ladies things will get better 4 u. u mite think ur hurt but ur really not. dont listen to waht other people say listen to ur heart first......man dont realize they have somethin good until she gone. good luk ladies love yall.

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      TEENA 6 years ago

      i think my boy friend is cheating on me.

      1) he never answers hes phone r text me bak till at night

      2) he wont even let me touch hes phne

      3)one time i caught him texting a girl than when i said something he delted her num n said there u have nothing to worry about.

      4) he always say i was just with my boys

      is he cheating hellp!

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      thegothturtle98 6 years ago

      Yeah I kind of agree with miharu about the grammar...but that's not the point. If you have a boyfriend that is cheating on you, why don't you just leave him? And sex before marriage? Really?

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      ????????????? 6 years ago

      i think my boyfriend is because he shouts at me first

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      Jessica 6 years ago

      I think my boyfriend is cheating on me but im not too sure, im pregnant and he thinks its best to give it up for adoption cuz the baby will have a better life but he wont go to the altra sounds, and hes never home he leaves for work then says hes with his friend will till like midnight every night.... he never does anything with me anymore we used to everything together and he wouldnt leave my side??

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      Katy 6 years ago

      For some reason i feel like my boyfriend is cheating or still has feelings for a girl that he used to really like. they had history supposbly? and idk what to do. im rather paranoid to get hurt, or its a gut feeling telling me not to trust her or him near eachother. i ask him if he cares for her and he says he 100% dosen't. he also asks me questions about my ex boyfriend. i dont know, im so confused. what should i do? keep an eye on him or her? check texts, calls? please someone answer me.

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      linda 6 years ago

      I've been with my bf goin on 5yrs now...he suddenly starting to act different..i ask him if he was cheatin he said no i would never do tht to u blah blah...he use to text me everyday call me all the time i use to b so annoyed by him sumthin now he stop calling and texting..thts unlike him...i asked him if everything is ok with his family or i doin sumthin ...he said no its me babe its not u...i also tdma him its ok if u dont wanna b with anymore...he said yes i wanna spend the rest of my life with u blah blah....WHY do i have this strong feeling he is cheating? We dont see eachother much but when he do come around he will beg for sex and go to sleep he never wanna tlko abt our relationship he said theres nothing to tlko abt..he completly stop calling and texting i do all the calling somtimes he will sometimes he Wont and when he do answer he dont say much ill get mad and hang up. In the pass if i ever hang up on him he would immediately call me back he Wont calll at all.only time speak is when i call..now it have been a whole week since i havnt call him ...jus to see if he gonna call me ....still waiting.....i notice when i keep myself occupied i dont think of him or having to think abt calling him...i think its time to move on..i wish i can jus forgotten he existed and move on wit my life...he is 29 and im 22 .. i needs to enjoy life too..i wasted 5yrs of my life... the end...

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      Whattodo 6 years ago

      My friend started going out with her bf nearly 4 yrs ago. I never liked her bf. I don't think he is genuine. Recently, a few people have told me that they saw him with other girls. I want to tell her but I don't know whether I should. She is so inlove and would not believe since she knows that I don't like the guy.

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      Melanie 6 years ago

      I know my boyfriend is cheating for sure because in December at his work's Christmas party which was formal he introduced me to this girl and which he was paying more attention to her than me. And whenever I ask him if he ever wants to get together on a Saturday night. He always answers I'm busy. I think he is in love with that girl. I dated him for nothing.

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      Babygirlbball3323 6 years ago

      Me and my man have been dating for three years on and off. Apparently he still talks to other girls behind my back. Tonight we was chilling watching tv then he fell asleep next to me and his phone fell out his packet... So I picked it up and it was a message from a area code that wasn't ours... Anyways the text was " are u busy? Can we meet in person we need to talk I'll be home in a lil bit" so I wake his ass up and was like who is this.. He grabs his phone reads it then deletes it super fast and say babe I don't know that number or who that was... What got me all upset is how fast he grab his phone and deleted the text as if he was afraid I was gonna see something that I wasn't suppose to see... Like to tonight... Can someone tell me what they think on that?

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      Unknown 6 years ago

      @Babygirlbball3323

      that is a bad situation, honestly he is up to something if he snatched his phone away that quickly. dont worry or stress. just find a time to talk to him about it and tell him how you truly feel about him being fishy. ask him again about that situation to see if he says the same or changes it. if you love him try to work things out. in MY OPINION.. i dont think its worth it. you dont deserve that sweetie. dont settle for less. there is someone out there that is the one for you, u will meet him one day.. dont worry about these 'boys" trust me its not worth your time.

      goodluck and keep your head up

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      kookoo 6 years ago

      i feel that my boyfriend always wants to play

      with my best friend!! physiacally

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      princesz101 6 years ago

      my boyfriend has dating websites in the computer im courious wat he says to other people so i look in the history and i click it so i can see wat he says

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      spazzy_wazzy90 6 years ago

      when ever i hang out with my boyfriend somebody would txt him and i would want to look at what that person wants or what he is saying. One time i took his phone and from him and he kept on wanting to grab it from me saying "no you cant read my messages" would you think that he sexting other girls on his phone i have a feeling that he is but i love him and he really loves me! we always talk on the phone but i know that he really cares about me but the one thing i dont like what he does is that he does drugs and smokes. I have been dating him for 3 months now can you tell me what i should do?? should i stay with him or leave him???

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      tammy 6 years ago

      my boyfriend has cheated on me more than 6 times and i have catch him in every last one but it never was any action or anything i just go wit my conscience and find out what my mind tells me is true and he will deny it at first but then he will come out and say yes he's cheating on me and i'll be so hurt but i always taking him back or he keeps telling me he wants to be with me!but he constantly talks about girls who want to like him and i do sit and listen to what he has ta say but my mind is telling me that he is playing again.i dont know what to do can anyone help me??? am i stupid to keep taking him back after all the times he cheated on me???

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      kimberly wills 6 years ago

      In my option I come to think all guys are cheaters and i think if you love the guy your with you should give it a break for at least 6 months that means dont talk to him underr any circumstances meaning birthdays even if hes sick and if you feel like your lonley go find some one go to a mall or a dateing site let and dont have any contact with him and if hes call or text just be like you gotta change or we not getting back togeather have him think that but wen he says he misses you dont respond then in 6 moths if hes loves you and hes willing to change he will leave who he is with for you that will show he cares for you and love you

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      kimberly  6 years ago

      In my option I come to think all guys are cheaters and i think if you love the guy your with you should give it a break for at least 6 months that means dont talk to him underr any circumstances meaning birthdays even if hes sick and if you feel like your lonley go find some one go to a mall or a dateing site let and dont have any contact with him and if hes call or text just be like you gotta change or we not getting back togeather have him think that but wen he says he misses you dont respond then in 6 moths if hes loves you and hes willing to change he will leave who he is with for you that will show he cares for you and love you anyone have any question facebook me at mizzbarbie123@yahoo.com

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      camel 6 years ago

      men are born to be cheaters and good liars too. they will take any opportunities if given. they will try to test it and when they do, they can't stop. 9 out of 10 mean are stonehearted. their p**** is stronger than their damn ass brain.

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      .,shay 5 years ago

      .,wooh..it's over..

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      brandon 5 years ago

      for all the girls reading this, if u think ur boy friend is cheating on you then more then likly they are. but a 100% chance of u knowing if they r cheating on u is if they have canceled almost all ur dates. u should take this from me because im a boy and im talking about me. i cheated on my girl friend and thats what i did was try to say away from places where my other girl friend might be with family or something. and that one time when i went on the date with her, she saw me and it was the worred choice i have ever made and i would do anything to get Abby back, and i wont get her back because she hates me and i know i was a jerk. just woman i dont expect u to undersand this but if u have a boyfriend that ends up cheating on u then if they comes to ur door in the winter in summer clothing and is starting to cly and wants to atleast be friends, take it!! he does care

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