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Is it a Great Idea to Live Together with Your Partner before Marriage?
Living Together with Your Partner
Relationships can be Complicated
I have lived with my partner for a year and a half before getting married. Surprisingly, my parents were fine with the idea.
Most cultures don't approve of that happening before marriage. In the Indian custom it is not allowed by many families.
At that time, I was twenty and my parents did not interfere with my decisions.
Being old enough to know what I was getting myself into it did not make them feel too concerned.
Growing up in a westernized lifestyle my life was different in comparison to the traditional lifestyle.
· I was not told ''not to,'' or ''do not!''
Living together with my partner before marriage allowed me to see him for who he really is, and we grew to accept each other’s habits.
We felt as one and happy. My observations each day had allowed us to know one another much deeper in thought.
The way we approached each day made us see our lives together as one.
I think living together before marriage does help many couples in the later married lives.
To live together in the same apartment, and to sleep in the same bed, you know what you are expecting in the relationship.
It helped me to not only know more about my partner, but also, to see our different moods at different times.
I knew of a couple who lived together for ten years before marriage. The couple turned out well together in their marriage of six years.
Another couple lived together four years together before marriage.
They too are still together after marriage.
The understanding between two people becomes clear each day, and they tend to trust each other easily.
It may not work out for every couple to live together before marriage and still succeed at a marriage.
For those who have been successful it shows they have a much better relationship.
· Some people feel it is a whole lot of nonsense living together with their partners before marriage what do you think?
· It is a great idea to live together with your partner before marriage?
· Look at it this way:
in living with your partner before marriage it does open your eyes to many aspects of the whole relationship.
You get to test yourself with your partner.
You have an opportunity to see how you can get along each day.
Arguing about the daily chores shows you what else is wanted of you in the relationship.
Your love here is put to the test and you get to see how you can make changes if needed.
I learned to be myself. I knew I had a long-term relationship in noticing our daily habits, and experiences it brought us closer together.
The little arguments allowed me to figure out other options. I found ways to deal with the small stuff.
I learned about my partner and about myself and of the important conversations, of our lives together each day.
We learned how to communicate and respect each-others needs.
There was no time to walk away from stupid fights, or arguments. We solved our issues then and there that left us with no apologies.
The importance of our relationship showed every day.
With both feet in the water we swam together, and doing exactly that swimming together back to back and front to front, also side by side.
If you are happy together you are good to be in the relationship.
Some couples feel the success of their relationship is not determined by. Whether or not they are still together it mostly depends on their happiness.
Happiness surely counts for many relationships.
Another issue with partners living together before marriage they feel the spark is blown out the window.
The actual spark of excitement is not in the marriage but once they spend their time living together prior to their marriage.
The idea of moving together is very eliciting but later in the marriage they feel the excitement no longer exists.
However, your choice of lifestyle and may not work out for every couple. Some couples while living together break up before they even get to the altar.
Some parents still don't accept the idea for their children to live together with their partners before marriage.
You make your own choices. The way you choose to deal with the consequences is entirely your choice.
Problems arise with some couples when they don't live together.
They don't know where their partner is spending time and what they getting up to.
In such cases, trust is not easily developed between couples.
Most couples who live together don't feel satisfied in their marriage. A fact indeed only if the reach the altar.
If you love your partner enough to live together then you are able to pass all obstacles.
Love him or her for what you see not for what you want to see.
People are not happy with living together the real excitement passes by quickly and it leaves their marriage less satisfied.
On the other side of things living together does show you to stay or to go.
You can always move out if you don't want to live with your partner. In this way you won't feel trapped in the relationship, and then tying the knot won't be so stressful.
When you marry your new life begins with your partner. You won't be living in the one bed-roomed apartment instead move into a home to plan a family.
You have a different perspective on the relationship when you live together before marriage.
Moving in together sounds the same as a marriage, and if the dating process does not work out you break up.
The same for the marriage when you want out you get a divorce.
People move in together for the wrong reasons also, they marry for the wrong reasons.
· If you found you are not compatible while living together won’t that be better to know before marriage?
The rush into marriage can make many couples feel excited and overwhelmed with themselves but when married they see their true self and then don’t want to go further.
Trouble begins in harmony and before you know it divorce is on their minds.
In real relationships you face all times together not only the good times whatever comes your way you have to take it.
Surviving the battles shows you are in a good marriage.
You discover your partner's values and true self when you live together before marriage.
The commitment deepens between two people and your disgust with your partner truly shows deeply and directly.
When you wait for marriage to see all of what concerns then you would want to leave that marriage.
Some couples can find this a complicated matter especially, when there is a lack of commitment to the other.
To leave your partner hanging and waiting for better days means you have doubts about the relationship..
Many dating relationships go on for years without a true commitment.
When not in a marriage they just live together hoping for the best or are too scared to give in.
Married lives change all the time with two people involved.
Whether you are in a relationship or still looking for one with careful thought you can make your decisions.
Your choices made can enlighten your plans.
· To sum up:
I think couples should live together before marriage there are certain personality traits and habits that become apparent.
When two people live together they get see it all.
One can gain a specific preview of what their lives would be together when married.
You understand your needs for each before entering the legal act.
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