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What Sneaky and Cheating Husbands Do and What To Do with Them
The Undeserving Husband Has to be Kicked
One in a Million You
For the Wives
In the first place you should know why you had chosen the man to be your husband out of the many who had pursued you. Okay, let's see;
You had chosen him because first, you love him.
And why him?
Because he portrays the man of your dreams, the man who made your heart beat faster, the man you can entrust your feelings, your body, and your dreams with. He deserves your love; he deserves to be your partner for life, at least you thought; you can foresee a happy and fulfilling future with him.
In fact it was fine with you not to get married but when this man came along you cannot just ignore and brush off the idea that he met all your requirements for the kind of husband you desired and dreamed off. Wow! What a perfect life!
The New Husband?
Now he is your husband. Happy, to start with, until you discovered his nature. A weakling! No backbones! Disgusting!
What did he do?
First, he prepares the way to cheat you.
For distant relationships where the husband is far away in which you just meet regularly in the net; this cheating husband blocks you from all his activities in the net. He hacks you if needed just so you cannot function normally in the internet. He can have access to all your internet activities just so he knows if you might accidentally slip into his secrets; but you won't have access to his. He dates anyone in dating sites and meets them in real for "sex" purposes, eventually. He flirts unlimited; he has all the time to do that because his wife far away is "on schedule" for their chat and has no way of proving her suspicions.
He uses many id's and accounts to camouflage himself and he has fun doing it. He feels very confident that he will never be found by his wife; the idiot doesn't realize that he makes mistakes sometimes; that he forgets sometimes; that he mistakenly sends the flirty message to his wife instead of to his women.
When you confront him, he gets angry and accuses you of accusing him; worse he accuses you of doing what he actually is doing; this is a behavior of a cheater, a liar.
He tries hard to prove that he is decent and having integrity. You don't prove your integrity, people will see, hear, observe and know whether you are trustworthy or having integrity through your values system in words and actions.
The Sad Fact
The sad fact reveals itself. You married a cheater; a weakling; a man with no backbones; a man who is a slave to his basic animal instincts; a man whose pants and genitals are bigger than his head and life as a whole; a man whose happiness is below the belt; a man whose inherent animal instincts are for the sex organs of the opposite sex. A man who needs a decent sex partner for a wife yet cannot control his cravings for promiscuous and loose moral women.A man who hides his weaknesses in the shadow and strength of a decent woman while he continues in his obsessions with the women of his weakling caliber. A man who cannot be contented with just one woman in his life; a man whose prime survival is lascivious sex, and more disgusting and shameful kinky activities and obsessions.
What's worse is he blames his decent wife for his actions; this is very typical for a weakling; he is incapable of accepting his own truth; incapable of seeing what darkness and rotten things he keeps within him. He tries to portray a decent personality of himself and you bought it in the onset, only to discover the shocking truth later.
He is a major disappointment to you.
What to do with a cheating husband
A cheater is born being a cheater.
Always a cheater
First you suspect, it will just be a matter of time when the truth finally reveals itself. Don't try to pry, it will just be a waste of time and energy. It's already good that you are aware of his personality; be vigilant and assertive of the clues. This would be very hard because you will have a lot of arguments between yourselves; but it will pay off one day. If you are wrong in your suspicions and you stick together then be happy. If you find yourself to be wrong and the marriage broke up without you having the chance to prove anything because there was actually nothing to prove, then sit down and check yourself; be happy still because your marriage relationship had actually opened your secret fears for you; and you will do better next time. It's actually a win-win situation.
On the other hand, if you discovered that your suspicions about his cheating had been proven to be true, then congratulate yourself; you had just proven that you can protect yourself from this types of men; this will be one of the basis for your decision-making concerning whether to marry again or to stay single, or on what type of men you will marry in the case where you decide to marry again.
Next is, if you had proven that your husband actually cheated on you, then for God's sake! Let him go immediately! He does not deserve you. Don't give him a second chance to hurt your feelings more than you already are experiencing. Remember: A CHEATER IS A BORN CHEATER, no excuses.
Don't punish yourself with the weakness of others. It's not your fault that your husband is a weakling. You made a mistake, alright, by wrongfully believing in him in the first place, and worse, loving him...Forgive yourself and let go of him because he cannot help hurting you; it's second nature to him to hurt decent women like you; his type works only for promiscuous and loose moral women and these types of women are everywhere; he will not run short of them and will have more than enough supply of them to go through in his entire life...he just cannot stop being him.
Get rid of him instantly before you reason to yourself about your stupid feelings. Be firm and trust that there is always something better for you, someone else, perhaps, who is your equal in integrity. Forgive and let go of your husband.
You say you love him and so you cannot let go of him? Think about this; imagine him making love with all the women he meets...what do you feel? Be honest with yourself...love yourself first...
The key is "Love yourself first before you can love anyone." You cannot give what you don't have.