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5 Key Factors to make a long-distance relationship work peacefully
Many people say long-distance relationships are some teenager’s fantasy what can’t work out.
But it is very well possible. Either long-distance relationship or a “common” one, both have the same roots of foundation. The only difference is that there is practically no physical contact.
But this is not a terminator for a long-distance relationship! Long-distance relationships are as much as probable to fail as a common relationship. If you do it right, they can even be much more connecting to your partner than a common relationship.
Of greatest importance in my opinion is to determine when you will see her/him again. Every relationship seeks warmth and comfort. This wouldn’t be attainable if you are never going to see her/him. That’s why make appointments! Even if it is only a weekend you will pass together, they are often a precious memory. And also, you should know when the long-distance relationship will have its end. There has to be a perspective for both, so both can look forward to something. Either you move in together or just move near your beloved one. There needs to be a definite perspective to have an incentive.
Communication is the Alpha and Omega in every relationship. In a long-distance relationship it is just more pronounced. You will be talking a lot in such circumstances. Use Skype, MSN etc. in order to spend time with your partner. Try to call your partner via e.g. Skype, because your voice is much more powerful than emotionless sentences (even if you do emoticons). Additionally, if you could use a webcam, this would be even better.
You are spending a lot of time with your partner via Skype or social media like Facebook. But don’t make her/him feel like being chained to a leash. Give your partner her/his space so she/he can pursue her/his hobbies or meet up with friends etc.
Have a Routine
A routine to both can stick with and both are happy with is very important. You should always have certain time left, like in the evening, where you can chat with each other. Do this on a regular daily basis and if one of you is tied up with business, let the other know about this by a text or a quick call.
Having a routine also strengthens your connectivity and intimacy, because of the time spent and the knowledge that both are doing something together, what both are fighting for.
Do cute things
the distance shouldn’t stop you from being a cute girl/boyfriend. Still, you can show your partner in various ways your unending love. Write her/him a cute text with a short poem or just I love You. A cute e-mail will also make your partner happy. Though we live in a 21st century modernized world, you can write an old-fashioned love letter to your dearest. There are many online flower shops where you can order a bucket of flowers and send them to your honey.
All those things and many more will make it much easier for both to have a long-distance relationship.
I hope I could help some of you with this and if there is something I forgot, just tell me.