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Love is in the Air, But He Isn't Committing

Updated on August 29, 2015

Other Couples Are Getting Engaged, Why Not Me?

It can be totally frustrating for any woman when all her friends are getting married and they have been together even less time.

Why would a man date a woman for a long time, knowing she would love to get married, but still not pop the question.

Is he "Not" the marrying kind? Probably not too likely, it is you are not the one he wants to marry. Yikes!!! That hurts!

When your relationship is going great and then he pulls away. Understanding the reason why can change your relationship.

He may love you but still pull away and won't marry you. Don't be left wondering why and trying to figure out how to get him to change his mind.

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Love is Not For Sale

Love is given.

Love is received.

Love is never forced.

There is no love unless it is given freely.

Everything else is a lie.

Bride waiting
Bride waiting

Why Is He Bailing Out Of The Relationship?

Inside a Man's Mind

How many times have you heard about a couple that were madly in love and the next thing you know they are breaking up?

What happened?

You wonder who did what to end the relationship. Was he just a jerk? Did he cheat on her or did she cheat on him?

The woman is heartbroken and did not see it coming. Surprisingly, that is usually the case. Many times this decision comes after a marvelous weekend together.

Maybe a couple of days past and he texts her, that maybe they should both start seeing other people.

What is that all about?

See other people!

Everybody was thinking he would soon be asking her to get married and surely there would be a wedding in the next year or two.

How can anyone comprehend such craziness? There just must be something deeper than what they are telling everyone. The truth is it does go beyond what they can even understand.

A man will pull away from a relationship for a variety of reasons but the hardest one for many women to grasp is when he still proclaims he loves her.

How can you love someone but not want to commit to them? To go even further, to end the relationship, yet still saying he loves her.

The truth of what a man feels is not always governed by women's power of reasoning. Women believe if you love someone you love them and should not want to leave them. Men don't look at it this way.

Committing to marriage for a man is that he can see the rest of his life with a woman. If he doesn't feel right about the forever bit he will walk away, even if he loves her.

So what is a woman supposed to do? Learn how men think and you can change his mind and have him begging to marry you.

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Happiness begins with you.

Someone else cannot bring you happiness.

Happiness is an inside job.

It is never about what you have.

Accept My Love
Accept My Love

Going, Going, Gone Or Is It?

Pull Yourself Together and Change His Mind

Women are usually shocked when they thought their relationship was headed for marriage and now it is looking like it is over.

The perfect couple everybody said!

Now you are hanging your head in shame and embarrassment, what did you do wrong? Probably nothing that you really could understand or have seen coming.

He is telling you it is time to see others or maybe we should cool it for awhile. Maybe he is talking about getting his career off the ground first.

Why do you feel like you are rehashing all the stuff you thought you had talked about months ago and had worked out. Why now is he having a change of heart?

You were sure that you would soon be married and now all the time you have invested in this relationship seems to becoming to an end.

Many women find themselves in the same situation each year and wonder if they can ever find someone that won't flake out on them.

It really hurts when you see your life being shattered at the hands of someone that just recently proclaimed to love you. You ask him if he still loves you and he says yes. Kind of hard to believe when he is walking away.

Women either love a guy or don't , of course they might say they do just so as not to hurt his feelings. Sometimes men will also say they love you, when they no longer do, just to avoid a confrontation.

But sometimes a man may actually still love a woman, but will walk away. Which leaves women in total disbelief of what a man says.

So what you are asking is the big reason they pull away? Very simply...they cannot picture their life with that woman. They may not know why, but they just can't see forever with her.

Solution is you need to get inside a man's mind and see how he thinks and processes relationships. Once you can do this you can be the woman he wants to share the rest of his life with.

Sure you will have to change a number of things you do, but it is possible.

Another thing you should know, men don't usually go about wanting to repair or fix the problem that there might be.

It is just a part of what makes them different than women. Most marriage counseling is sought by women and many times men refuse to go, but marriages are still saved.

This is just an example of if you want the relationship to work, you will have to be proactive.

You can learn how to change things around to make the relationship work. It may not seem fair, but something worth having is worth the effort.

There are some relationships that should end and letting go may be hard, but there is love out there for you may even be better than the one you are losing. It is not the end of the world. But learning how to make a relationship work can put you in a better position next time around.

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Relationship Books - How to get that man of yours to marry you!

Don't take advice from your single girl friends. (Hint: They are still single!)

101 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit To You: The Secret Fears, Doubts, and Insecurities That Prevent Most Men from Getting Married
101 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit To You: The Secret Fears, Doubts, and Insecurities That Prevent Most Men from Getting Married

His fears, doubts, insecurities, etc. Find out what you need to do, to change the way he feels about you.

The Get-Your-Man-to-Marry-You Plan: Buying the Cow in the Age of Free Milk
The Get-Your-Man-to-Marry-You Plan: Buying the Cow in the Age of Free Milk

*How to know if it's really time to push for a ring.

*The differences between "me" excuses, "you" excuses, and "institution of marriage" excuses


How do you feel about happiness? Do you think it is an inside job?

Or do you think money and love can give you happiness?

Guestbook Comments - Would love to hear what you have to say.

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    • Mary Stephenson profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Stephenson 

      5 years ago from California

      @NoYouAreNot: Well you are right by being who you are, but how about being the best you can be. Men and women seem to think entirely different about relationships. If he has great qualities and you really want him to be part of your life, then may be it is worth the effort to work on the relationship. If you have to become who you are not then by all means look elsewhere. But it is all about compromise as that is always necessary in any relationship. Thanks for your input.

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      5 years ago

      " can be the woman he wants to share the rest of his life with" -- hmmm, how about being the woman you really are, and not becoming someone else for the sake of one man?

      Why not make up your mind that this man may simply not be the right for YOU (I mean, if he really wants some other type of woman to spend his life with), and move on?

      Just wondering...

    • Mary Stephenson profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Stephenson 

      5 years ago from California

      @Mommy-Bear: Absolutely, it is never about just one person, it is about 2 people getting along.

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      5 years ago

      I think you have to learn to learn to compromise to keep a great relationship happy.

    • Mary Stephenson profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Stephenson 

      5 years ago from California

      @SteveKaye: Thank you for the comment.

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      5 years ago

      This wonderful lens should help many. It's very well done.


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