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Love vs. Lust

Updated on November 20, 2012
Love and Lust Mischievous kiss Forever Love and knowledge live not together
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There are many articles out there and some research that has been done on the topic of love vs. lust. This particular article/hub will just be off my own personal experiences. I do not claim to be an expert when it comes to relationships as I am only 27 but I do feel like relationships is an area that God has called me too.

The topic of Love vs. Lust is one that will never get old and one that still a lot of people battle with. When we talk about the differences between love and lust it is important to point out that for starters, love is long term and lust is temporary. I will even go as far as saying that love is forever and lust is temporary.

Now, how can I say that love is forever? Explore this with me. Let's say that you were in a relationship that lasted hmm maybe 2 years and well you developed a love for that person. 9 times out of 10, if the love was real, that loved that you developed will always be there. You may not love the person that same way but you will still have love for that person. See with love it does not matter how long you have known the person or how long you were with them. Love has no time limit or requirement.

That brings me to the next difference, noticed that I used the word "developed" when I talked about love, this is because love has really nothing to do with feelings because love is an action word, it something that you do!! I LOVE YOU-that is something that you are doing, you have chosen to love a person and you are doing it. This is where many get confused when it comes to love and lust.

Now, lust has EVERY thing to do with feelings. The expressions "I feel like I love you" is different from "I love you", "I feel like I could love You" is different from "I love you" "I feel Like" translate to I am not sure or I think. Many times we rush to tell someone that we love them when we are not really sure, it is probably best to wait until you know for sure.

Lust is mostly related to physical attraction, most people, not all, decide to date someone based off physical attraction. Some people even feel that they cannot date someone that they are not physically attracted too. Hence why the saying "Love is blind" is not true, what is true though is that lust is blind.

See when we spend so much time looking at the outer appearance it blinds us from seeing the inner appearance. We might turn down someone who has inner appearance(heart, personality , etc) is wonderful just because they were not as attractive and who knows the attractive person could have an unattractive personality or attitude.

Sometimes lust can also turn into idolization. For instance, maybe a person has always had an "ideal guy/girl" in mind, what he/she would look like, act like, etc or even maybe a person is still stuck on a guy/girl from the past so they are looking for the qualities that the one guy/girl had. Then they find someone similar and they think hey he/she is the one, this is it, this is the person I have always wanted but they can't really see that it might not be. They secretly might not even be that happy with the person but the settle because its who they think that they want.

Most times the person that we end up with is not who we wanted but who we needed. This topic is important because lust is usually what leads us too and sometimes keeps us in unhealthy relationship. Lust does not care, love does. Eventually where there is lust, there is control because lust will be one-sided. A person who lusts after you only wants you for a certain reasons and they can do without you if you happened to go against what they want. A person who loves you cannot go with you no matter what.

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      MsLofton 5 years ago from IL

      Thanks Krillco, I totally agree with you. I like your contrast of desire and lust, lust is really selfish.

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      William E Krill Jr 5 years ago from Hollidaysburg, PA

      A good exploration! I often contrast 'desire' and 'lust'. Desire is a holy and giving sexual impulse, while lust is simply selfish and using of sex. Love, I must agree, is forever. One may love a person, but make the painful decision not to be with them because aspects of the relationship are irretrievably unhealthy.

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      MsLofton 5 years ago from IL

      Thanks Billybuc

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I agree with your analogy completely, especially about ending up with who we need. Well done!

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