- Gender and Relationships
Melting Moments | After 26 Years He Still Makes Me Melt
Married and Melting... still
In a couple of months, my hubby and I will be celebrating 26 years of marriage. The best part? Melting moments.
What do I mean by that? I mean, each day, he still makes me melt. It's little moments, big moments and all the moments in between. We are truly a team and I am thankful, everyday, that we found each other.
What does he do to give me these melting moments? Glad you asked...
All images are from my personal collection unless otherwise noted
Melting Moments -- In the Beginning
Met and Married Kinda Quick
Tim and I met when my moped crashed going down the hill to his Pro Shop. His blue eyes and easy smile had me melting right from the beginning. He was so much more mature than most of the guys I had dated. He was 5 years older than me, a college graduate and was already working in his chosen field. Bonus points to a girl of 20 with stars in her eyes.
We married 3 months after meeting.
Walking down the aisle on my dad's arm, he looked at me. He didn't smile exactly, it was more of a combination of shell shock, love and eagerness. I melted -- right there coming down the aisle. Daddy knew, he kinda giggled and urged me forward. Don't get me wrong -- I wasn't hesitating. I was just so bowled over by the emotions I could read on his face, I couldn't breath or move. I melted on the spot.
The first time we met, his blue eyes and easy smile took my breath away.
Being a Daddy
for the first time
Tim was a trooper during my entire first pregnancy. He would make late night runs for Suzy-Q's (that craving cost me a lot of pregnancy weight gain), he always made sure my feet were propped up on a pillow or two while watching TV, he gave me back rubs and foot rubs and even took over a lot of the household chores he didn't want me doing (taking out the trash, carrying in groceries or heavy laundry baskets).
When I finally went into labor, we had a long couple of days. We had decided to go with natural childbirth so, no epidural or drugs. (Not sure what the heck I was thinking when I made that decision.) I had back labor with our son. Each contraction was excruciating but not really productive. I was exhausted after hours of this. At one point, I remember realizing that someone was putting pressure and rubbing the small of my back as I had each contraction. As one particularly hard one began to ease, I turned my head to see Tim was the one applying the counter pressure.
I took in his roughshod appearance -- sweating forehead, concerned blue eyes and disheveled, yellow hospital gown. While intimacy was the very, very last thing on my mind at that point -- I melted anyway. He was trying so hard to lighten my load and make me more comfortable in anyway he could, my heart melted and swelled with love, all at the same time.
This is my favorite photo. I took it from my delivery bed not long after Brendan was born. I love it -- my two men.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, - but by the moments that take our breath away.
No truer words have ever been spoken. Thank you, Maya Angelou, for reminding us of this.
Our Rehearsal Dinner, 1986We have watched friends and even family get married and divorced during our time together. Sometimes more than once.
Marriage is work -- like most things worthwhile. Listening, compromising and commitment are key. A marriage combines two individuals with their own needs, likes and wants. You have to work to keep your individuality while still being a part of something bigger -- the marriage relationship.
Sure, we argue -- who doesn't? He's underwear hits the floor at the base of the hamper instead of in it - I forget to let the dog out and there's an "accident" - he wants to watch sports and I want to watch a romantic comedy... Then, there's the bigger issues like finances, raising kids, moving, buying cars or houses -- we listen to each other and compromise when needed. Sometimes I win, sometimes he wins but we both win in the end.
Here are some of the melting moments my husband has given my over the years...
- I have problems with sinus headaches. I usually don't say anything when I am having one. It makes me melt when he instinctively knows I have a headache. He sits me down and massages my forehead and cheeks. (Counter pressure at its best!)
- When I get a random text message from him in the middle of the day that says: "What's up good looking?" or "How's your day, beautiful?"
- He comes in from work carrying a small gift -- a fountain pop, a flower or plant, a new mystery book I've wanted, etc... -- he'll stop on his way home just because "he was thinking of me".
- I flip open my ever present calendar sitting next to my laptop and find an "I love You" written on that day.
- The way he talks baby talk -- first to our kids when they were young and now to our little Borkie dog, Jordan. It's adorable!
- The different inflections in his voice when he calls me by name or nickname, depending on the situation: -- Effie, woman, Weezy, girlfriend, sweetheart... Sometimes just his voice can make me melt!
- When I open my Christmas stocking he has filled with one very large bag of chocolate stars because he couldn't think of anything else.
- An impromptu "date night". We might go to a movie, the park to walk around, to a ball game or out for ice cream.
Our First Dance Song
"Just you and I
Sharing our love together
And I know in time
We'll build the dreams we treasure
And we'll be all right
Just you and I"
~ written by Frank Meyers, performed by Eddie Rabbit and Crystal Gayle
What do You Think of Melting Moments?
Do you believe in melting moments?
Yes! The he/she in my life gives me goosebumps and makes my heart flutter in these moments.
Melting Moments Movies - Date Night at Home
Jerry Maguire is one of our favorite movies to watch together. It has sports for him and romance for me. Our favorite parts in the movie do differ -- he likes the "Show me the money" scene and I like the "You complete me" scene. Either way, this movie is a hit with us!
Yeah, He's a keeper!
Melting Moments of True Love
True love is not about the hugs and kisses, the 'I love you's' or the 'I miss you's', but about the chills that hit every part of your spine when you think about him/her.
~ credited to Lauren P.
Happiness is experiencing... - Melting Moments with your spouse and best friend
This says it all. I have been with Tim, now, longer than I was at home with my parents. He truly is my best friend. We fight, love and live this roller coaster ride of life together, always -- remembering and making melting moments along the way.
Something that Melts
I was asked to name something that melts. That's easy -- me!
No, I'm not made of ice or sugar or marshmallow, just a flesh and blood girl that was lucky enough to find her soul mate. He makes me melt, everyday in big and small ways as I hope I do for him.
He's a bit of a goofball, a serious and fun father, a loyal employee and my very best friend.
I ask you, wouldn't this make you melt?
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