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Mother of the Bride’s Role and Responsibilities
The mother of the bride-to-be knows that her daughter is obviously too excited and probably floating in the “clouds” and won’t be able to do much detailed planning for her wedding.
She knows the bride to be will be more immersed in the task of building her wedding website, choosing her wedding dress, planning her honeymoon, and thinking about moving into her new home.
As the bride’s mom, she is aware of the onerous task of planning a wedding, no matter how small it may be. Someone has to pay attention to the finer details that are required to make the marriage ceremony a success.
What is the Role of Mother of the Bride?
Long before the wedding day, the bride should give her mother an idea of the kind of ceremony she desires for her wedding. From that point on, the may commence. The role played by mothers of the bride include (in no particular order): wedding plans
- Deciding on a theme for the wedding (with much input from her daughter)
- Collation of the guest lists and deciding on who to invite and who not to invite
- Narrowing down the guest list if need be (this happens most times)
- Helping the bride-to-be in choosing her dress and bridal accessories
Helping to choose bridesmaids outfits
- Scouting for wedding event planners
- Choosing the venue (banquet room or hall for reception)
- Arranging for transporting the bride and her father to the church/registry, and reception
- Choosing the colour scheme for the day
- Arranging for music – a DJ or live band
- Finalizing the wedding invitations designs and arranging for printing
- Choosing the wedding cake design
- Getting the photographer and a professional videographer
- Deciding on choice of wedding favors
- Finding the best caterers and drawing up a menu
- Taking care of lodging for out-of-town guests if any
- Calling on the church and the vicar for church matters
Helping to plan for, and attend the bridal shower and rehearsal dinner
Additionally, the mother of the bride role may include liaising with the mother of the groom on all dress or gown issues concerning the two of them.
On a Lighter Note...
Duties on the Wedding Day
The mother of the bride should leave the wedding ceremony at the church or registry, earlier than everyone else, even before the bride and groom (if a wedding planner is not employed).
She and the father of the bride have to be there to greet and welcome all invited guests as they walk into the reception hall.
She must act the perfect hostess at the wedding and reception and ensure the guests are comfortable and having a wonderful time.
This also includes standing in the receiving line, sitting at the parent's table, and making sure the bride has greeted all her guests.
The bride’s mother must ensure everyone is doing what they have to do; making sure all guests are well attended to.
All this can be done with the help of a wedding planner if one has been employed
Finally, the mother of the bride dances with the father of the bride or an escort if he is unavailable, and then she must dance with the groom during the first formal dance.
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