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My Best-Friend, My ex-boyfriend

Updated on August 2, 2016

Why should a couple be restrained based off what other people think about them? That’s the plot of teen movies, not the real world. I’ve found it fascinating how a group of people think they can control who other people are.

Before I continue, I want to clarify that I am a straight dude, but a strong supporter of the LGBT community and what they stand for. This is my friends story, someone I will admire till the end of the line...

One day one of my best friends (and ex girlfriend) told me that she likes girls. This friend of mine, was the first person I ever kissed . She was afraid of what I was going to say. This is someone that lives next door, this is someone that I’ve known since fourth grade, someone who’ve I’ve laughed with countless times, someone who helped me through some tough times when I didn’t know what to do.

Honestly I was a little hurt that she was afraid to tell me this, but I totally understand why. If you were in her position would you want to tell your good-friend-turned-ex-boyfriend-turned-good-friend that you liked girls? I know it’d be tough for me.

But about a year or so later, she tells me that she was gonna be a lot more like me, she told me that she was on T. I was confused at first, only because I thought she was talking about tea and not testosterone. But after we laughed and cleared that up, I was smiling. I was smiling because of how proud I was to be a friend of someone who was able to tell me that. I swear, sometimes he has more balls than me, and he’s certainly more of a man than a lot of the guys I know. It’s not like my friend chose to be a dude, it’s who he felt in his heart he really is, and I’ll support him till the end of the line.

He is the reason I decided I needed to sit down and take the time to write this. Everyone needs to understand something, and that is, let people be who they are. I know this isn’t necessarily about someone being transgender, but same-sex marriage is what we see on the news more than anything else from the LGBT community.

I found a website that lists “10 reasons why homosexual “Marriage” is harmful and must be opposed”. Now I want to make one thing clear, just putting “Marriage” in quotes like that, disgusts the hell out of me. Why is it in quotes? Who made the author of this article decide what “marriage” is?

All 10 reasons are horrible and flawed, such as; “It always denies a child either a father or a mother”, “It validates and promotes the homosexual lifestyle”, “It turns a moral wrong into a civil right”, “It imposes its acceptance on all society”, and last but not least the worst, “It offends God”. I know that’s not ten, but the few I felt are the most important to discuss.

“It always denies a child either a father or a mother” Some parents pass away, some are bravely fighting America’s wars, and some parents just leave. All of those things don’t rely on sexual orientation. Denying same sex marriage won’t guarantee a child having a father and a mother, sadly, that’s just how the world works.

“It validates and promotes the homosexual lifestyle”. Well there isn’t much to be said about this one. Validating and promoting the lifestyle is kinda the point. Many members of the LGBT community don’t want to come out because of websites like the one I’m describing, claiming it isn’t ok to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender.

My friend was afraid to tell me he was a dude because he was afraid of what I would say. Fear of acceptance is what we tell our friends and family members not to worry about. “Just be yourself” is the advice you give your friend when s/he wants to go out with someone, that principle shouldn’t be any different here. Let people be who they are.

“It turns a moral wrong into a civil right”. Whose moral are we talking about here? Because to the LGBT community it is a moral right as well as what should be a civil right to be able to marry the person they love. Now what the writer of the article continues to say baffles me, and this is indeed a passage from this “point”,

“Homosexual activists argue that same-sex “marriage” is a civil rights issue similar to the struggle for racial equality in the 1960s.

This is false.

First of all, sexual behavior and race are essentially different realities. A man and a woman wanting to marry may be different in their characteristics: one may be black, the other white; one rich, the other poor; or one tall, the other short. None of these differences are insurmountable obstacles to marriage. The two individuals are still man and woman, and thus the requirements of nature are respected.

Same-sex “marriage” opposes nature. Two individuals of the same sex, regardless of their race, wealth, stature, erudition or fame, will never be able to marry because of an insurmountable biological impossibility.

Secondly, inherited and unchangeable racial traits cannot be compared with non-genetic and changeable behavior. There is simply no analogy between the interracial marriage of a man and a woman and the “marriage” between two individuals of the same sex.”

Now, obviously there are many things wrong with this, but first of all, I love how this piece explains what is wrong with it right off the bat, “None of these differences are insurmountable obstacles to marriage”, Yeah, well being two dudes or two women shouldn’t be a problem either. Secondly, getting married isn’t biology. Animals don’t get married but they still reproduce. Getting married is a social construct, not biology. Oh, and you want an analogy, I got one for you, there are a lot of fish in the sea, some like salmon, some like tuna, but they are still flipping fish.

“It imposes its acceptance on all society” Again, that’s the freaking point.

“It offends God” and finally, the one that upsets me the most. All religion, at it’s core, is an opinion. I think a hamburger tastes better with BBQ sauce than it does without. . I think DC comics are better than Marvel comics. Some people believe the Christian way is right others think the Islam way is right. All of those are opinions. So why should someone else’s opinion control someone else’s life that disagrees with them. I wouldn’t deny a Marvel fanboy to read the latest X-men. I wouldn’t make my friends put BBQ sauce on their burger.. It is this reason that I choose not to practice religion, I understand and respect people that are religious, but not when they’re opinion shapes someone else’s life.

Here is the link for this website…

I encourage you to read through the whole article, and see what I am talking about here. Share this with your friends and talk about how screwed up it is.


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