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The letter that saved our marriage

Updated on May 13, 2015

An unexpected love letter

Five years ago, right after we moved, my husband and I weren't getting along too great. We were always arguing, bickering, and nit-picking. Basically we each did our best to be a pain in the butt.

After a while, it seemed like we weren't going to get past our differences, so we talked about splitting up. I can't even describe the pain I felt. It broke my heart to think about losing the man I believed was my soul mate, my one true love.

Apparently he felt the same way because he did something he'd never done before. He wrote me a love letter.

It wasn't written on fancy paper. It wasn't filled with lovely verses. It wasn't folded nicely inside an envelope. It wasn't anything like you would expect a love letter to be. But it was written from his heart. He put so much thought into every word, and all because he didn't want to lose his soul mate either.

Now here it is, 5 years later and I still have that love letter. I carry it with me wherever I go. Sometimes I'll take it out, carefully unfold it and reread every word. I've read it so often that it's getting brittle. So I decided to immortalize it here. Now even if the ink fades and the paper tears, I'll always have a way to remember the sweetest love letter I ever received.

My treasured love letter

My treasured love letter
My treasured love letter

I love you because...

when we wake up, we're both grouchy until we have our first cigarette.

Give him a chance. After all, it is his first love letter.

— Othercat

I love you because...

of the way you smile and blush every time I call you baby.

Ahhh. That's better.

— Othercat

I love you because...

you asked me to move in with you, and you asked me to date you, when I didn't have the courage to ask you either one.

Preparing for our handfasting ceremony February 5, 2008

Preparing for our handfasting ceremony February 5, 2008
Preparing for our handfasting ceremony February 5, 2008

I love you because...

of the way you think of everyone else no matter who it is or how long you've known them. You had never even met my niece and you still bought her a toy.

December 30, 2008

December 30, 2008
December 30, 2008

I love you because...

you're so organized. We moved in together almost as strangers and you still wanted to organize my clothes.

Actually, I just didn't want to live in a mess. lol.

— Othercat

I love you because...

you don't take no crap from anyone.

Our first Anniversary

Our first Anniversary
Our first Anniversary

I love you because...

you are an excellent mother.

Our Second Anniversary

Our Second Anniversary
Our Second Anniversary

I love you because...

of the way you love to cuddle to me when we're sleeping.

Still going strong!

August 2013
August 2013

I will never be able to tell you how much I love you, but I sure as heck can show you!

Love, Johnny

Cat N John

Cat N John
Cat N John

Have you ever received a love letter? Have you ever written one?

© 2011 Othercatt

How about you?

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    • gottaloveit2 profile image


      7 years ago

      My boyfriend, John, writes me letters all the time. We met on the internet and, every year as we approach our anniversary (going on 5 next week!). I read through the emails. I love him more today than ever. Excellent article.

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      Linda Jo Martin 

      7 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

      That's a sweet story! Great photos too! Yes, I've received love letters... I have one pinned to my wall. Precious!

    • jmchaconne profile image


      8 years ago

      What a beautiful treasure. Thank you for sharing that treasure with us. I'm going to feature it one one of my lenses

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      joycecity lm 

      8 years ago

      So sweet! I wish you good luck in your marriage!

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      8 years ago

      I've never received one, but I've written a few in my day. It keeps my wife happy.

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      daedrea lm 

      8 years ago

      Super sweet. I've never received a love letter before, but who knows, maybe one day. :)

    • TheBaseballCoach profile image


      8 years ago

      My father had alove letter from my mother that he always kept on the night stand by his bed.

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      Virginia Allain 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      How sweet. Sure wish we could express ourselves on paper when we're having communication problems. We've made it 20 years, so guess we've learned to roll with the ups and downs of marriage.

      Best of luck to the pair of you.

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      Heather Burns 

      8 years ago from Wexford, Ireland

      What an awesome love letter and lens!

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      Wendy Hughes 

      8 years ago from Charlotte

      I wouldn't call it a letter, more a note in a card, but treasured just the same! My husband is gone from us, but his cards and words are there for me to touch when I need comfort.



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      9 years ago

      I loved reading your lens. Great job!

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      Mary Beth Granger 

      9 years ago from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA

      Beautiful! Thanks for sharing..blessed.

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      Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 

      9 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      How precious a love letter like this need to have it laminated so it won't further deteriorate. The two of you are very fortunate to have met someone who brings this kind of love to the other one. More power to you and your family!

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      9 years ago

      A few yes nice ones too.

    • CreativeButterf1 profile image


      9 years ago

      That is sooo adorable! I'm so glad you're still with your husband and that you overcame your differences. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" <3

    • retta719 profile image


      9 years ago from United States

      thank you for sharing this with all of us! <3 *~*~*angel dust*~*~*

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      mellex lm 

      9 years ago from Australia

      Such a sweet and touching lens! Thanks for sharing :)

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      9 years ago

      This is so sweet! I love how you added your own funny comments too. I've never written one, but maybe someday I will! Love it.

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      Lisa Auch 

      9 years ago from Scotland

      Yeah sometimes they do need to remind themselves why they love us, not because they alawys have their clean washing, cooked meals, clean house! yeah we also need to know we are worth more to them too! lol...

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      Donnette Davis 

      9 years ago from South Africa

      This is probably one of THE most beautiful lenses I have ever read - once I got past the watery eyes. Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your lives with us.

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      9 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your love... very touching and inspiring!

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      9 years ago

      it's made me remember my loveletters to my husband who doesn't like to write me one..thanks and God bless your marriage.

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      mattseefood lm 

      9 years ago

      Personal and inspiring! Thank you for this :)

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      9 years ago

      This is beautiful!! Thank you so much for sharing!!! You are a lucky lady! :)

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      9 years ago

      Beautiful... because Love is... Blessed be and God bless. Thanks for sharing... Post it again for a Silver, Gold and a Platinum :)

    • Othercatt profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago

      @anonymous: That's exactly what I did. It's scanned to my computer plus I made 5 copies. lol.

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      9 years ago

      That's cute.

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      sorana lm 

      9 years ago

      Beautiful, absolutely beautiful.

    • bikerministry profile image


      9 years ago

      This is very encouraging for any age couple that is struggling in their marriage, thank you for being transparent.

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      9 years ago

      It really doesn't need to be poetic, and sometimes it is what we read between the lines that means more than the words themselves. I am glad that John did this. As to the original letter, I would frame it, but take photocopies of it first. That way you can unfold, refold, read, touch as often as you want and when the copy wears out, go grab a fresh one. This letter will be something to look back on when you both grow old together. Congratulations to both of you for finding that one special person that you couldn't imagine living life without.


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