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My Relationship Issues

Updated on July 31, 2016

I have been in a lot of relationships. But i fell in love my best partner whose name i will not like to mention about 5 years back. We were together for about 5 years. Spent good time together. A little bit misunderstandings and eventually we got apart recently. I wanted to share some of the things which made our relationship suffer a lot. I hope you will try to adhere to the tips. And believe me it will help any one in establishing good trust, confidence and a better relationship.

You partner is not just a partner

Make one thing sure that your partner is not just a partner. He is determined to share his whole life with you, so do not think of him/her as a partner only. Make sure that you both share your feelings, experiences and secrets as a friend. First you have to make sure that you are good friends as well as partners and soul mates. And a friend sweeter than honey and higher than the mountains of Himalayas.

Appreciation

Being in a relationship is more than just two human beings spending life together. You have to compensate, appreciate and support your partner. You have to support him/her in every phase of the life. In every good and bad. Compliment each other every now and then.

Let bygones be bygones

Yes, just forget what both of you have had in the past. Do not let the past ruin your future. Just concentrate on the future to ensure that both of you have a healthy relationship in future.

Give your time to each other

Do not get consumed in making money or with outer things. Give proper time to who you love. Spend time together and make time for yourselves. Time spent between you and your love would be the time worth anything to you in the longer everything will come and go but this time will never come again .

Give control to each other

Relationship is a mutual understanding mostly, so make sure you give a little bit control of your lives to yourselves and share the control. If your girlfriend wants to take charge or control of something or some issue, let her. And same in the case of a boyfriend.

Common goals in life

Always try to find some common aims or goals in your lives. You are living together doing everything together. This is the bond which will never be broken. Start syncing your every day lifestyle. Share thoughts, share common goals and targets in your life.You will not only succeed in achieving your goals but also in your love life.

Anger related issues

And mostly boys start getting angry at little things. I recently read an article shared by my friend on tip fuss, and believe me i do not know the author but he/she has opened the heart out and enlisted some of the best tips for boys on how to strengthen the relationship. And its worth a read.

In the end i would wish all of you a very happy social and love life,

Stay blessed.

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      Alizah Ch. 13 months ago

      One of the best advices i've ever and i tell you what, you have just spoken your heart out. I hope you find your best soul mate.

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      dashingscorpio 14 months ago

      I was curious as to how old you and your ex was.

      You said: "And mostly (boys) start getting angry at little things..."

      The curse of most young people is they have unrealistic expectations about relationships. Very few people meet their "soul-mate" at ages 15, 17, or even during their early 20s. They lack the experience and wisdom to know love.

      The reality is most people during that phase of life haven't figured out who (they) are let alone what they want and need in a mate for life! They allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices. That's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!

      Your traits for an ideal mate changes as you mature.

      Secondly our youth is time for learning and evolving as we craft our individual philosophy about life separate and apart from our parents instilled in us. Our own individual experiences help to shape us.

      Truth be told when it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way to success). Very few people hit a homerun their first, second, or third time up at bat. If this weren't true we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!

      In the U.S. the average person loses their virginity at age 17. The average age of a first time married woman is 27 and for men it's 29. Simply put by the time these people get married they will have 10+ years of sexual experience. Odds are most people aren't going to marry the first person they had sex with even if they felt they were in love at the time.

      There are three basic reasons why relationships fail.

      1. You chose the wrong mate. (Incompatible/committed "deal breaker")

      2. Someone changed or you no longer want the same things.

      3. Allowed romance/passion to die and became "platonic friends".

      We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".

      Communication is the GPS for relationships and lets you which one it is.

      There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does not want what you want.

      The goal is to choose someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another. Compatibility trumps compromise!

      If either person has to "change" to make a relationship "work" this may be a clue that they're with the "wrong person". Most people want to be loved and accepted for who (they) are. Very few people are walking around with one hand raised in the air screaming:

      "I'm looking for someone to change me!"

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on. The choice is up to us!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde