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My Wife Wants A Divorce - Now What?

Updated on September 12, 2014

Does Your Wife Want A Divorce?

So you've come to the conclusion -- my wife wants a divorce, and now you're sitting here wondering 'now what do I do'? Whether you suspect your wife wants a divorce, or she's told you herself, I want to show you exactly what you can do to help ease the tension -- and show you what you ABSOLUTELY need to avoid.

Signs Your Wife Wants A Divorce
Signs Your Wife Wants A Divorce

Signs Your Wife Wants A Divorce

One of the most confounding questions you'll find yourself asking when faced with a potential divorce is whether or not your wife really wants a divorce. We sometimes will say things out of anger or fear that we don't really mean, and later wish we would have never said what we did.

But where does that leave your marriage when you both act as if that last fight never happened?

Whether or not your wife has told you, or you suspect she is ready to call it quits. There's two things you should be looking for -- behavior changes and body language.

Ask yourself if you've noticed any of these red flags:

She takes her wedding ring off, or doesn't even wear it at all.

She doesn't talk to you, she talks at you with little or no eye contact.

She has little or no interesting in being intimate with you.

She keeps distance between you sleeping in bed at night.

She isn't receptive to affectionate gestures. (kissing, hugging, etc.)

She spends much more time than usual going out or staying out late.

If you've noticed these changes, and they're more persistent in terms of lasting for days or even weeks at a time, then divorce has almost certainly crossed your wife's mind at least once. I don't want you to let this worry you too much, though. It's a long process and an incredibly difficult decision to make that takes months if not years to finally come to.

One of the things that will help calm your nerves is the understanding that no matter what has been said, or how you've acted towards each other, she still loves you as much as you love her.

It can be very difficult to accept that understanding at first given that all the external signs contradict that idea entirely. But take a step back and look it from a different perspective:

When you proposed with those four words "Will you marry me?", what did she say?

At that moment in time, she knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life with you, for better and for worse.

And the reason you want to take a step back and look at it differently is because when you take a step back and look at all the problems as a whole, you'll begin to realize a pattern:

When our judgement becomes so clouded by our emotional impulse to take action right now to try to make things better, we end up taking the wrong actions making things worse. And we keep doing it over, and over, and over, and over. It's a vicious cycle.

So that leads us to the absolute FIRST thing you need to do if the wife wants a divorce:

Calm Your Heart And Mind

Lean back in your chair right now and take a long, deep breath in. Now breathe out. Understand that you still love each other, and that things have been difficult. Realize that what has happened is in the past, and tomorrow is another day to work towards what you BOTH really want -- a happy, loving marriage.

Wife Wants A Divorce
Wife Wants A Divorce

If Your Wife Wants A Divorce -- Don't Do This

It's really important to clear your head of all the emotions and confusion and to take a hard look at what it is that you've been doing that's creating tension. Your ego might be inclined to place the blame on your wife, thinking things such as 'why doesn't she do this?' or 'why does she act like that?'. And that's normal. Humans are prideful by nature. The issue with this kind of mindset is this:

All relationships work both ways. While one person may choose to ACT in a certain way, the other chooses to REACT in a certain way as well.

So while it's easy to blame the other for certain issues within the marriage, we need to start with looking objectively at ourselves. Why?

Changing the way you act, and react, is much more easy than trying to change the way your wife acts and reacts.

Here's some things that I'm sure you're probably doing, and it's hurting your marriage a LOT more than it's helping:

Text Messaging

Stop doing this. Seriously, just stop. This always leads to disaster. You find yourself trying to work things out or express your feelings over a text message, and then she doesn't reply, and then you become upset. Over what? Most of the time -- nothing. People need space sometimes. The best thing you can do is give it to them.

The Blame Game

Bet you've gotten sucked into this more than once. Tired of it yet? Blaming someone for ANYTHING will almost INSTANTLY put them on the defensive, and next thing you know, everything is spiraling out of control. And when your goal is to bring someone closer to you, it doesn't make a lot of sense. Approaching a conversation with a clear head is the easiest way to avoid the dreaded blame game.

Saying What You Don't Mean

In the heat of the moment, when you're feeling many different emotions at once, it's easy to get carried away. This, above all else, has to stop. And you'll notice things will become a lot less tense very quickly. You wouldn't let anyone else say some of the things you have to your wife, would you? This is your wife. The one you want to spend the rest of your life with. There shouldn't be any exceptions. A calm mind will be your best friend.

If you've done any of these things, don't beat yourself up over it. We want to be looking towards the future, not dwelling on the past. Tomorrow will come and with it comes another day to improve oneself. This is something that we want to work through one day at a time.

The best thing you can do for yourself from here on is to do everything you can so you don't keep making the same mistakes over and over. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, and when you show your wife that you care and things are actually going to change, the chances of forgiving and moving on improve greatly.

Keep Calm -- It's Not Over Yet (Just Do This)

You've probably been asking yourself what it is exactly that you need to do to keep your wife around, and it's that question in itself which is actually your problem.

Let me elaborate:

We, as men, try to control everything around us as best we can. It is in our nature. However, the more we tighten our grip, the more things will slip through our fingers. The issue here is that, as I mentioned, we can only control ourselves. When it comes to relationships, the more we try to control the other, the more they will push away.

There's a time and a place for certain actions, and there's also a time and a place when you simply have to just roll with the punches.

This is why the option I'm about to share with you has never seriously occurred to you. Your judgement has been clouded this entire time by overwhelming emotion, and when men feel threatened, it's just a natural inclination to fight back. Logic and rationality goes right out the door.

If nothing else is working for you right now, this is your best bet:


Take Some Time Apart

This may not make much sense when you first think about it. You want to keep your wife around, not send her off, right?

By taking some time apart from each other, you're actually removing the force that is pushing her away in the first place.

Remember, there's a time and a place for everything.

Now, this isn't the only thing you do, this is just the first step. It's a long road to repairing your marriage and getting back to where you both are madly in love with each other and couldn't imagine your lives without each other.

Now this seemingly insane idea is out there, I want to share with you where it came from.

It's from a book call The Magic Of Making Up by T.W. Jackson.

If you're struggling to keep your marriage together, then you NEED to read this book. It doesn't matter where you are in your relationship or how hopeless it may seem, it walks you through everything you need to do (and not do) -- some of which I've already shared with you.

It breaks the course down over seven chapters:

1) Understanding Why Your Relationship Ended - And Why It's Not Over Yet

2) Don't Panic - Your Key to Winning Back Their Love (Getting Your Head On Straight)

3) Removing the Splinter in Your Relationship

4) Re-Igniting the Spark of Passion and Desire

5) Dates and Lovers - How Other People Can Actually Bring You Back Together

6) Easing Back Into Your Relationship to Solidify Your Love

7) Maintaining the Fun and Love Without Dredging Up Old Wounds and Arguments

If You're Having These Problems Because Of The State Of Your Marriage:

Feeling depressed, hopeless, and like it's over

Losing focus at work, school, or any other part of your life

No motivation to go out and have fun

Losing sleep night after night

Constantly wondering what went wrong

Then you can't afford to pass on this book. Even though you've faced challenges in the past, you've worked through them, and your love for each other helped you endure the difficult times. This time is no different. Your love for each other will always help you endure.

The Magic of Making Up (Video)

Click the link below to watch this video from T.W. Jackson explaining more about The Magic of Making Up and how it could help save your marriage.

www.themagicofmakingup.net

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      Short sighted 6 months ago

      My wife of almost 2 years told me that I scared her and she wanted a divorce. I'm not a doctor, but her mother has hunnington's disease, and she is starting to show paranoia and bipolar behavior. We do argue. I have yelled during three of these arguements, which she reminded me of during the divorce talks. I've had her on my insurance for a year now and she won't even go into see a general practitioner. I left, sold our great dane, and she changed the locks on me. I hope she does well on her own, but I fear she will go down her mother's path and isolate herself by lashing out at her family. I won't be there to help as I swore that I would in our marriage vows. Men are supposed to steer the relationship around the icebergs. I didn't look far enough ahead to fight the battle when it was winnable.

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      Jenny 17 months ago

      I am Jenny Ox born from Texas USA, I want to use this medium to testify of how I got back my ex boyfriend. After 3 years in relationship with my boyfriend he suddenly told me that he was tired of the relationship and broke up with me, I was emotionally devastated because I really did love him, I tried all I could to get him back but all proved abortive until I saw a post on the internet on how a spell caster Dr. Ojuku helps people restore back their broken relationship/marriage at first I doubted this but decided to give it a try, when I contacted this spell caster via email he helped me cast a re-union spell and within 24hours my boyfriend came back to me apologizing and today we are happily together again. Contact this great spell caster on your marriage and relationship problems via email...drojukuspellhome@gmail.com

      Good luck.

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      MONICA 17 months ago

      After being in relationship with him for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drajascospellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:drajascospellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM

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      angiegreene22 18 months ago

      Before coming across the advice on http://www.KeepYourMarriage.info my marriage was in serious danger of heading towards divorce. Now we are in a better place than we ever were before! I feel very lucky and blessed that we were able to turn our marriage around like this. My husband used to spend as much time as he could away from home. Now we are so in love and its funny now he had to go away for the week we have been talking on the phone every day. We can't wait to see each other again! If you want to stop your divorce, you totally can!! Don't give up on love!

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      angiegreene22 18 months ago

      Before coming across the advice on http://www.KeepYourMarriage.info my marriage was in serious danger of heading towards divorce. Now we are in a better place than we ever were before! I feel very lucky and blessed that we were able to turn our marriage around like this. My husband used to spend as much time as he could away from home. Now we are so in love and its funny now he had to go away for the week we have been talking on the phone every day. We can't wait to see each other again! If you want to stop your divorce, you totally can!! Don't give up on love!

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      John howey 18 months ago

      My wife wants a divorce and I do not and she sign and I will not I beg I told her a change again and I sat there crying she move everything of mind to other room

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      Selina 21 months ago

      Am very happy to tell every one to hear my testimony. Am a nurse,this is a story of my love life.I have been married for 4years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another woman take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 4months until i met a post where this man Dr OLOKUM have helped someone and i decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me i just send my picture to him and that of my husband and after 48hours as he have told me, i saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my husband and he have come to me and the kids and that is why i am happy to make every one of you in similar to met with this man and have your lover back to your self.You can contact him with this email address {LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM} Thank you Dr OLOKUM LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

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      jane 2 years ago

      My Name is JANE.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single…when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday…My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to ayokospellcaster@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he’ will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck:ayokospellcaster@gmail.com .ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:ayokospellcaster@gmail.com

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      blessing 2 years ago

      My Name is Mrs. peter blessing, I was married to my husband for 10 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2011 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when i called him, he don’t longer pick up my calls and he nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But i told her that if it has to do with things that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. but the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number. When i contacted him, i was so surprise when he said that if i have the faith that i will get my husband back in the nest three [3] day, and off which it was really so. but i was so shock that i did not pay any thing to DR PETER but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price i have to pay. This man DR PETER is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail My Name is Mrs. peter blassing, I was married to my husband for 10 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2011 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when i called him, he don’t longer pick up my calls and he nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But i told her that if it has to do with things that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. but the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number. When i contacted him, i was so surprise when he said that if i have the faith that i will get my husband back in the nest three [3] day, and off which it was really so. but i was so shock that i did not pay any thing to DR PETER but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price i have to pay. This man DR PETER is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail address: ayokospellcaster@gmail.com

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      SUSAN 2 years ago

      I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But when i met a friend that introduced me to drehiaghe the great messenger to the oracle of dr ehiaghe healing home,I narrated my problem to dr ehiaghe about how my ex Husband left me and my two kids and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,24 hours later,My Ex Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in a very big company here in USA were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact dr ehiaghe on his personal email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: ehiaghespellhome@gmail.com and your problem will be solve.

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      monica 2 years ago

      After being in relationship with him for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drehijelespellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL

      ADDRESS IS:drehijelespellspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM

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      nicole 2 years ago

      I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But when i met a friend that introduced me to ladiri the great messenger to the oracle of dr ladiri healing home,I narrated my problem to dr ladiri about how my ex Husband left me and my two kids and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,48 hours later,My Ex Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in a very big company here in USA were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact dr ladiri on his personal email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: drladiri42@gmail.com and your problem will be solve.

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      Rebecca George 2 years ago

      I and my boyfriend have been dating for four year now and just last three months he told me, he no longer have feeling for me. He did not just say it like that he made it seem like it was his fault. He was like he has been thinking about his life and he feels like he doesn't know himself anymore and that he doesn't want to hurt me in the processes. I mean we all know those line i have used them and we all have the next words are always "I think we should take a break" which mean i want out of this relationship. I wish he told me all those things before he asked me to marry him i would totally move on with my life but now, it turn out that we were already engaged and for six months at that. I felt bonded to him my whole heart beats and skips just for him for the record his name is Sean. I tried all i could to get by knowing or having the thought in my heart that we could still fix us only to realize he broke up with me to actually date a girl i he meant. It was like he got tired of me or something. I basically never turned any of his request down what ever it was. Sean was literally the first guy i had sex with the every first day i meant them. Usually i make them wait for 40 day but with Sean everything felt right. Anytime i was with him i felt this pain in my heart it was like its bleeding but it was bleeding love. It was so magically that i can't just explain it. So living without him knowing he left me for another girl was torture. I tried to talking to him in every way i could to make him see i love him but it was impossible. He made me feel like trash like am good for nothing and he called me fat and ugly. That really broke me down i could not believe it that of every person i have ever dated the one i love the most called me fat and ugly. My friends asked me to stop fooling myself trying to make him love me again but i was too in love i mean the heart wants what it wants right? and the more i tried the more he hated me. I was tagged by his new girlfriend and himself a sociopath. I was losing it and i fell into depression. Heaven know i was gonna kill myself because i really had nothing to leave for and he didn't even care if i lived or died. I know this sound crazy but it was just what happened. Though we dating again with the help of a great and reliable witchdoctor Metodo Acamu, it still hurts a lot that i had to pass through all those pain. All my friend thought i was crazy because even when they tried to help me i pushed them all away so basically i was all alone in my world of pain i had already given up on life i mean i thought to myself if can't have Sean, i was not going to live to watch him be happy with someone else. As foolish and crazy as this my sound , it was what i almost did. I was going to kill him and kill myself after wards. I don't know, some how, maybe the universe wasn't totally again me i came across the name witch doctor Metodo Acamu and his email address on the Internet there were a lot of comments on how real, nice and how much he has helped a lot of people fix there relationship , money issues, jobs and lottery ticket i thought contacting him was the last thing i should try before pushing on with my plan to take the life of the man i love. Believe me i was so lucky to have contacted him. He told me if i had killed Sean i would have tried in so many ways to kill myself to join him but it won't have worked. I don't know how true that is but i know that i was asked to get some materials for the witch doctor to make a spell that will reunite me and my fiancé. I sent him the money for the materials only because i could not get them anyway. He helped me a lot he sent a package for me with ups of which i paid for to get to me from an international. He told me to say what i want when burning the content of package with something that has the smell of incense and that in seven days Sean will be mine again and believe me please that was just what happened. It was so spiritual and out of earth that i could not understand how but i knew it worked for me and it is totally safe like Metodo Acamu told me. I know this all sound crazy but its so true and real life so. You can only know when those who need Metodo Acamu help get it. Contact him her metodoacamufortressx@ yah oo. com and please use this email in the regular format

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      monica 2 years ago

      After being in relationship with him for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drehijelespellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL

      ADDRESS IS:drehijelespellspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM

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      Brook 2 years ago

      My wife of three years abruptly decided to divorce me. We both had previous marriages and I felt like we were secure in our new life. The week or two leading up to her decision was full of accusations at me and manic behavior...all out of the blue. She had five kids from her first husband and the step kids and I really bonded. But now I will no longer be attached to them (legally) nor help raise them anymore. That is the hardest part in all of this.

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      3J_guy 3 years ago

      @anonymous: Ok your situation sounds very common. If the new romance is already/currently married what makes you think that at some point down the line you will not be in the same situation as your new romance's current wife? Talk to your husband let him know how you really feel be honest with yourself and him. I think the benefits will be much more worthwhile and fruitful. Good luck to you

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      tonyleather 3 years ago

      When my wives - two of them previously! - wanted divorces, I just did not argue the toss, because I knew I was on a hiding to nothing! When the fire has gone out, you are best advised to start another one elsewhere, if you want to retain some sense of civilised behaviour and sanity!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: I just don't understand why women have to be like this. We men always working our ass off for money to keep up everything and they just stay home and relax. And what do we men get back? When women have so much time at home, they go online and get to know other men. Then other man makes them laugh or whatever and our woman wants a divorce and complain that we don't care about them? I feel betrayed, lost, out of control and keep calm.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: It all depends on what you lied about, why does she want a divorce. I need to know the source of the problem. What was ur lies about?

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Liz,

      He thinks he is doing the right things by providing and taking care of the kids. When he's in front if the tv and the kids are asleep remember to win a man heart thru his stomach. His favorite drink too. We men want approval and praise

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I lied to my wife when we get marred and she find out and ask me if I have nothing more to tell her and I say no but I had more and she find out ones more we work it out we had ups and down for 4yr we bin together for 6yr now she is in Canada and I am in jamaica we were good when she just go up but I keep on asking if she have a next man and now she say she had it she wants a divorce I love my wife and I don't want to lose her help me

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My wife I've been together since we were 15 years old and we went off to college together now she is telling me she wants a divorce we been married for 2 years and have a beautiful baby boy together. I feel so lost without her and him. I grew up without a father figure in my life and I want to give my child a family environment. My wife has used so many excuses from our past and just say things like I can't be married anymore. I've know we been through a lot but how can she walk away from me after all I've done for her. When she was pregnant I took care of my responsibilities and man up I'm only 23 but I know she is the woman I want to be with forever should I give up or keep fighting our lease is up next month and were separating and idk what to do

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Brilliant thanks

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      ConvenientCalendar 4 years ago

      Keeping calm is the best thing you can do! Great lens!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      We have been married for just 7 months after a courtship of 1.5 years and now my wife wants to end this relationship. There have been several ups and downs during our relationship and I always felt we would be companion for life. Her acts were very difficult to understand from the very beginning since at times I would feel that she can't live without me and at times it was opposite. She was against a lot of things and she used to express them but she would never understand or appreciate that I as trying to work out things for the better. She wanted a life which perhaps she did not get but she never realised that its more important to adjust and accommodate than to crib and react. She would even be violent. Most importantly her behaviour pattern is very unpredictable. For instance, last Sunday from morning till lunch everything seemed just normal and in complete harmony when all of a sudden she called me to say something. She started complaining about her present being and suddenly started hitting me and very soon became almost uncontrollable when I had to raise my hands for the first time to stop all that. I felt guilty and even more when she said that she is already dead and nothing worse can happen. She wanted to leave.While I know I still love her and she loves me too, but I have realised that love alone can't keep this relation alive. Our expectations are different, our understandings are different and we have drifted apart. At one instance I feel we should end this all up but whenever I feel it will all end, I feel like clinging on to it. I have even felt like ending my life. I am in distress and don't know what lies next.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My wife of 3 years told me she wanted a divorce last week because she wasn't in love with me anymore. It's been really hard for me to accept this and on top of that I attempted suicide the week before. We attempted a break, but with no prevail as it only lasted a day. One of her friends said she has been for a while attempting to reach out to other males and I know she has feelings for a guy who we couple swapped with. Well she has feelings for him and is always texting him. I don't know what to do so I'm moving out and hoping time apart may amend us.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      my wife wanted to leave me a few weeks ago,because she said she found some one else,but at the moment she says she has realised that she can't live without me and has since cancelled her decision,but i still have doubts that she still wants to continue with her lover,how do i get over this doubt? and how do I ensure she is not seeing this guy?

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I'm lost. I'm trying to save my marriage. I'm hurting, ill do the work to make our lives work, I've prayed and prayed. It's been months, help me I'm dying inside . I love my 3 children and just don't know what to do.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I been with my wife for 12 years to i found out she has been cheating for all those 12 years i all realiy knew it but just thought she mit change but found out is doining cocain all those years. I am 64 years old she is 38 i found out just about ever man she come in contact if she would have sex with them when she got the chance. Three weeks ago she stayed out all night when she came home that morning and i can not tell you how many times i found out she was in the day time any way i run her off that day so she took off and left her with me he is 15 he is like my on son he was 3 when we married to cut this sort i sent him to her in fla. Well two days ago she calls me and said that never did love me that she was only with me but for my money all the 12 years and hurt me so bad. I you are going to say i am a fool for staying so long after i knew what she was doing. I want some to tell me i still love her after all she has done to me and i gave her every thing i still hurt for her to be with her but i just can't ever take no matter what i hope you people will pray for me i just love so much and after all she has done to me and don't no why may be i am a fool.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Almost exactly the same situation here...only I am the stay-at-home mum who told my husband last week I think our marriage is over. He is away 4 days a week and when he is home, he is very practical (a do-er) - but we do not laugh much, our sex life is non-existent and the evenings we spend most of the time separately. I recently met someone else, a very fun, kind, loving man who I can talk to, laugh with and be intimate with. This man is married but says he wants to build a life with me. Now here is the truth: I still love my husband, respect him, think he is a good father to his children (when he is there of course). But I feel that I have given him plenty of warning signals in the past about me not being happy with his extreme working hours, lack of intimacy and sex..I am not unrealistic and have no idea if this other guy will be what I so miss in my husband. That is why I want time and space for myself, time away from our marriage and be on my own..to find out what the best way forward is. Trust me, this is not the first time where I have considered divorce but I always put the children first and chose to ignore my feelings. Now I am no longer 100% sure if this is right.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My wife and I have been married for 12 years and a month ago she says she doesn't love me and that she wants a divorce. She said she resents me because I work 50-60 hours a week and that I don't spend enough time with her or our kids and that work is all I care about. I've tried to do my best to spend as much time with her and the girls but my schedule switches up every single week and am basically always on call. She's a stay at home mom and I have to work overtime every single week so we can be well-off. I'm starting to think that there's a different reason or maybe she isn't serious and just needs a break from the routine. I just have no idea what I need to do now. She hasn't filed for divorce since then and she's still affectionate occasionally, still wants to be intimate and sleep close next to me. I'm getting all these different signals and I think she may just be going through a rough time, but I don't want to assume that and be wrong. I'm having such a difficult time trying to decipher what's going on with her and it's keeping me up at night.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My wife of 6 years told me last night she wants a divorce and left to go stay with her family. It feels like it came out of nowhere because I can't even begin to think of a reason why she wanted to leave. We've never had any major problems, and we've been fairly secure financially. Does she just not love me anymore? I love her so much and I don't want to get divorced. I haven't tried to talk to her since last night. I'm trying to give her space because I just don't know what is going through her head and it's driving me crazy!