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no rationality in love

Updated on December 19, 2014

Lovers are often blind to the reality in their environment

One can easily see what lovers are thinking based on their preoccupations. The lovers are involved in the reality that revolving around their own existences. They are in love with each other and they, basically see, only each other.

A great psychiatrist once told me that he believed that "Being deeply in Love could be likened unto being in a psychotic state." I had not perceived lovers as being insane. But when I contemplate what some lovers have done, "in the name of Love," I have to seriously consider what my psychiatrist friend taught me.

Consider Shakespeare's tragedy Romeo and Juliet (c. 1595 c.e.), and how these two young lovers behaved in a manner that was unexpected within the context of this story.

Upon the death of the young lovers, their feuding families became reconciled because of the pain of caused by the deep, and unexplainable Love that existed between this pair of lovers.

There are many, many stories of young couples whose love stories ended in tragedy. However, there are many more stories of love affairs that ended well.

I would like to influence young couples, who are experiencing loving relationships, to think of realities that go beyond their relationships. For example, if one lives in a society where "life and death issues" depend on their votes, at the polls, doing critical elections, at mid-term or at other times, then, they should go to the polls and vote.

I would like to say to young couples, that is, to young people who are deeply in love, "Please do not lose track of the "earth-shaking events" that are happening all around us. Your life and your action (especially in examples of voting as in the instance mentioned above) counts for more than your perception of you short lifetime. You must be able to see the big picture, lest your actions, or your inactions, cause grief, in the long run, or maybe even in the short run, for yourselves, your families, your friends and ultimately, grief for the totality of the global community of human beings. Your life is far more important that your immediate love-affair.

I feel like a bad-guy having to be the one to talk about this reality to all the wonderful young people that I love the same as I love my own family. I want young people to be happy, you know. I was once a young person, myself, you know.

However, having said what I said in the above paragraph, I still would like for young people to become more active in the realities of this Life. My father used to say, "The world is going to Hell in a hand-basket. Lest we do our part to make it better, we are all doomed." Sometimes, believe it or not, your part can be as simple as going to polls and voting. After all, you are an American citizen, and your citizenship rights were "bought and paid for, in Blood." In the blood of the generations who died for your freedom to live in this great country, of the United States of America. By the way, my grandfather, my father, and even I, myself, served this country in its Armed Services, to help secure our own freedom and the freedom of those who could not leave home to go off to war. "It's all Good!

Think about what I have written here. It okay to love somebody you care a lot about. I am not coming down, to hard, on lovers, I hope. I just want you to wake up, and start looking to the left and to the right, as you go. That's all.


And keep Love alive!


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      Dr haddox 3 years ago

      I appreciate all the thoughtful comments.

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      Lynda Pringle 3 years ago from Austin, Texas

      Thoughtful blog. When I was in my early 20s and in the grips of young love, I was apolitical. I was concerned with my love, school and career. I became more politically involved and interested in foreign policy as I approached my late 20s, early 30s, when my life became more settled. This does not mean I took no interest in current affairs in my early 20s. I read the newspapers, listened to news, followed local and national elections closely and voted accordingly. However, because of my own personal concerns, it did not matter to me who ran the country, what was going on in the Middle East as I was self-centered as a youth. Of course, as a 50 year old, I am now much more active politically, especially when it comes to the national security of our nation. The stability of our nation becomes more and more important as we age and we realize that the decisions made by DC and state legislators often have a personal impact on people's lives, especially as they age.

      However, younger people also need to become more involved in current events. National security issues can affect anyone at any age. The people they elect into office could affect their retirement benefits down the line or force them to pay more taxes or affect their healthcare as is the current situation. We all have an obligation to be aware of world events no matter our age.

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      Dr Freddie Haddox 3 years ago from a Franklin, Tennessee native, who travels globally.

      Dear Bob,

      I greatly appreciate your thoughtful and helpful comment on my hub. You have given our readers a very useful insight into what is really useful to know about the psychology and physiology that is happening in young people's lives. Understanding these things are very important.

      Thank you.


      Dr. Haddox

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      Robert E Smith 3 years ago from Rochester, New York

      I think that the hormonal rush of love/attraction can act to overwhelm rational. That attraction only lasts a while and then the hormonal effect wears off. I had read that even in the strongest chemical bond between lovers that have married or lived together, the attraction wears off in 2 to 3 years. Then the reality of who each individual is strikes home. By this time many have made life-changing decisions that cannot be undone. This is a good thought-provoking article. Voting is only one aspect of the rational thinking that must be maintained even during the hottest time of physical attraction. I voted up and interesting. Bob.

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      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      It's probably unrealistic to expect young people to behave like mature seasoned adults who have gathered heartache and wisdom over the years. A large part of being young is "exploring" and "discovering" who one is and what it is they want out of life. It's the "me phase".

      It's also the time to take risks in pursuing one's dreams

      Falling love the first time whether it is during your teens or early 20s is all consuming. Hormones are raging and you can't imagine never being without this person. However when it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. If this were not the case we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts! Naturally you can't convince the youth this is true.

      Another thing about falling in love while being a "full-time student" is the absence of having a job with a demanding boss, rent/mortgage and utilities to pay, or children to look after. Your mind is basically focused on school and the object of your affection. You're in a cocoon of love. Nothing else matters.

      Once we leave school and enter into the work world along with assuming other responsibilities we'll never have life as simple and pure as the time we were in love during our youth. This is one of the main reasons why many people look back fondly on their "first love". They had no stresses! :)

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      Dr Freddie Haddox 3 years ago from a Franklin, Tennessee native, who travels globally.

      Think about it.