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no rationality in love
Lovers are often blind to the reality in their environment
One can easily see what lovers are thinking based on their preoccupations. The lovers are involved in the reality that revolving around their own existences. They are in love with each other and they, basically see, only each other.
A great psychiatrist once told me that he believed that "Being deeply in Love could be likened unto being in a psychotic state." I had not perceived lovers as being insane. But when I contemplate what some lovers have done, "in the name of Love," I have to seriously consider what my psychiatrist friend taught me.
Consider Shakespeare's tragedy Romeo and Juliet (c. 1595 c.e.), and how these two young lovers behaved in a manner that was unexpected within the context of this story.
Upon the death of the young lovers, their feuding families became reconciled because of the pain of caused by the deep, and unexplainable Love that existed between this pair of lovers.
There are many, many stories of young couples whose love stories ended in tragedy. However, there are many more stories of love affairs that ended well.
I would like to influence young couples, who are experiencing loving relationships, to think of realities that go beyond their relationships. For example, if one lives in a society where "life and death issues" depend on their votes, at the polls, doing critical elections, at mid-term or at other times, then, they should go to the polls and vote.
I would like to say to young couples, that is, to young people who are deeply in love, "Please do not lose track of the "earth-shaking events" that are happening all around us. Your life and your action (especially in examples of voting as in the instance mentioned above) counts for more than your perception of you short lifetime. You must be able to see the big picture, lest your actions, or your inactions, cause grief, in the long run, or maybe even in the short run, for yourselves, your families, your friends and ultimately, grief for the totality of the global community of human beings. Your life is far more important that your immediate love-affair.
I feel like a bad-guy having to be the one to talk about this reality to all the wonderful young people that I love the same as I love my own family. I want young people to be happy, you know. I was once a young person, myself, you know.
However, having said what I said in the above paragraph, I still would like for young people to become more active in the realities of this Life. My father used to say, "The world is going to Hell in a hand-basket. Lest we do our part to make it better, we are all doomed." Sometimes, believe it or not, your part can be as simple as going to polls and voting. After all, you are an American citizen, and your citizenship rights were "bought and paid for, in Blood." In the blood of the generations who died for your freedom to live in this great country, of the United States of America. By the way, my grandfather, my father, and even I, myself, served this country in its Armed Services, to help secure our own freedom and the freedom of those who could not leave home to go off to war. "It's all Good!
Think about what I have written here. It okay to love somebody you care a lot about. I am not coming down, to hard, on lovers, I hope. I just want you to wake up, and start looking to the left and to the right, as you go. That's all.
And keep Love alive!