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Not All Men Stare At Women
I'm a man who has never stared at women.
I think the reality comes into play when most guys are just selfish horn dogs looking to get whatever play they can get - I've seen it - and it's disgusting. I've never been into this sort of ignorant and selfish behavior. I treat people like they are people, not items at my disposal.
Then again, I can't lay all the blame on the guys either, women can be as bad or worse, and since the days of chivalry are beyond them, in a way they promote their own degradation, most even in full support of it, stating it's how to live "in a man's world."
Well that's just B.S.
Men- Stop being egomaniacs and hell-bent on being some all-powerful entity who thinks they can do as they please without repercussions. You're just as mortal as the next guy.
Have a little faith and stop worrying about being downed in front of your fellows - if they down you for showing you have a heart, they aren't your friends. Meanwhile, be yourself and, yes, love yourself, and if you can't approach a woman with honest intent and treat them as both a human being and a lady, then don't approach them - if you get turned away from them, fine, if you're a gentleman it's their loss, if you're not then you don't deserve them anyway - then again, not every female is there to take a shot at and you should already have acknowledged that factor - it's horribly demeaning, hence this question I'm answering.
Women- Stop with the lame sheep-following routine - for yourself. Gain some self love and motivate yourself to be better than that. You don't have to "dress to impress" anyone - stop with the support for the skank outfits of a few strings covering your bodies and put some damn clothes on. Stop with the plastic surgeries to gain recognition while suffering both your body and your dignity. Try eating right and being healthy, too, not striving for that ultra-slim, overrated bull-honky - love who you are and find someone who will treat you with decency and respect - you deserve it.
But don't be so hasty to ultimately reject any guy who comes near you - remember the best ones ARE respecting your space already and they are the ones who do admire you for who you are - that's why it's so hard for them to approach you - sometimes they need a little push of confidence in an otherwise shameful world of controversy at every turn. I'm not saying to let your guard down, but give a guy, and yourself, a chance to open up and see if there's potential.
To Both - Let it be agreed on that either of you might not agree with the other after some time - it may not be meant to be - and you should both be realistic and honest to each other throughout any intimate engagement. Don't take your significant other for granted - ever.
NO - It's not okay to stare. Not alone, and especially not when you're with someone. Respect one another or just stay away. For you immature types - there's porn, have at it if sleaze city is your homage. If you ever want to grow up and enjoy being in love with someone, you know where you need to start drawing the line for your immaturity in yourself, for yourself.
- Christopher Dapo