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How to use Pick up Lines the Best on Girls
Traditionally pickup lines are "witty" one liners that are supposed to impress the opposite sex!
but times have changed and approaching the opposite sex armed with a game plan is a lot more effective.
Your possibly thinking game plan, what game? what exactly is this mad man referring to?
Well if you happen to search the internet for the phrase "pick up line" or even "chat up line" you are going to discover a variety of web sites providing numerous lines which are either amusing or foolish and some in-between that simply don't actually make sense, all of them possess something in common though they basically don't work.
I challenge you to try them and see what happens!
Within this hub I am about to provide you with the information I wish I had been offered five years ago, I will inform you how you can pick up girls using lines that work.
Should you follow my information and advice picking up girls becomes very simple and the information will even increase your self-confidence effecting the other parts of your own everyday life (in an exceedingly great way).
I should also stress this really is extremely addictive and difficult to quit however the advantages significantly outweigh the disadvantages.
Below I have detailed a selection of pick-up-lines that fall under the "never works" classification
Pick-up-lines that don't work "EVER"
- Apart from being beautiful, what do you do for work
- There is a new burger at McDonalds it's named after you, the Mcsexy
- You must be exhausted, because you've been running through my mind all day
- I want to rearrange the alphabet, I'd put U and I together
- Here's $10. Drink until I am really good looking, then come and dance with me
- What does it feel like to be the most sexy girl in this room
- When God designed you, he was showing off
- How was Heaven when you left it
- I lost my phone number. Can I have yours
- Do you like helping the homeless? Take me home with you
- Have you planned our wedding yet
- You must be a boxer. One look at you, and I'm knocked out for the count
- Just call me milk, I'll do your body good
- Wanna play find the snake in the garage
- Want to try an Australian kiss? It is just like a French kiss, but down under
You have probably been told some of these lines in the past or similar lines, you need to forget these as they have never worked for anyone and will never work for anyone.
Have You Ever Used a Pick Up Line Like The Ones Above
9 Step Guide
Below is not only the best pick-up-lines ever invented but also a step by step guide to picking up women or girls.
1. Watch the Neil Strauss video, my entire strategy is based around Neil's teachings
2. The Rules (very important)
3. The pick-up-lines, these are not ordinary pick-up-lines
4. How to get an unfair advantage
5. How to test the lines in chat rooms
6. The line worked what next?
7. Touch example video
8. Keep going example video
9. Final stages
Every game has rules and the rules of this game are for your own good, I've broken these rules many times myself and I am sure you will to, but every time you break the rules now knowing what they are you will eventually understand why they are in place.
1. Never buy a girl a drink
This is my number one rule never buy them a drink, never pay for them to go into a club never ever pay for anything, why?
If someone likes you money is not important and will never be a factor in your relationship.
Power and control, it may seem trivial $5 for a drink, whatever, but girls don't like soft men it's in their DNA, if you buy her a drink she is now in control as you are invested into the situation she has not invested anything!
What If she asks for a drink? It's happened to me a few times, best thing to do is turn it into a fun drinking game where both of you pay for the drinks.
Say: you buy me your favorite drink and I'll buy you mine.
If she doesn't want to do that and is persistent, change the subject or just flat out say no.
2. Don't get drunk
Getting drunk is fun but it's not attractive you can drink don't get me wrong but you need to concentrate on what you are doing the more sober you are the better your focus will be.
At first this was the rule I would break most often because I like having fun and drinking to me is fun. I would always convince myself I needed a drink to speak with girls but it's best to put a limit on what you consume so you can concentrate on the job in hand.
It is also quite an eye opener being sober in a nightclub and the things that go on throughout the night.
3. Memorize your lines
I haven't told you any lines as yet but I will, you do need to remember them I worked with 3 to 5 in a night, no more as some of them can be a bit long.
4. Only work alone
I have to admit there is an exception to this rule and it's the wingman (a friend who knows the rules and is able to assist during the night with the out come of you both picking up girls).
You don't have to work alone if you feel this works best for you do it but for me working alone always 100% of the time produced better results, there are six or seven good reasons that I could explain but the most important one is the overall achievement when you look back on the night it instills a belief in yourself that will also start to effect the rest of your life not just the confidence of now being able to speak to girls.
5. Clothing and presentation
Always look your best:
- Buy the best clothing you can afford, always opt for unusual!
- A new cologne that is currently advertised on TV or is new to the market.
- Girls love shoes, it one of the first things she will notice and judge you on your choice.
- Most importantly stay with in your fashion age group.
Don't overdo it you just need to be presentable.
Don't cheapskate out on the above it will only make your task harder
I just said don't over do it however there is a theory called "peacocking" google it, to be honest it never really worked for me I always felt out of place, I found it better to be ahead of the trend when it came to clothing this made me stand out more often than wearing something flash or bling.
6. Always wear Interesting items and objects
Another aspect of peacocking that worked well for me was accessories, and by this I mean low cost bracelets, necklaces and a cool watch.
These items are what I call "talking points" for example the girl notices your watch and she says she likes it you can make up a "interesting story" relating to where you purchased it from e.g. I got it when I was in (somewhere abroad/trendy) and we had just finished snowboarding etc.
More on this later these are just the rules.
7. Get your sets right
Sets are how many people or girls are in a group so 2 girls are a 2 set, 3 girls are a 3 set etc
You need to find your comfort zone when it comes to sets mine was always 2 sets or 3 sets, I found approaching these sets easy and stimulating by the initial opening line and then bouncing chit chat from one girl to another but any more than 3 in a group I found it difficult to keep everyone's attention.
8. 5, 4 ,3 ,2 1...go
My final rule is don't hesitate once you have found the girl or set give yourself 5 seconds max to start the approach, the hardest part is memorizing the pickup line but this will become the easy part once you have said the lines five or six times.
Don't keep looking at the girls/set trying to build up the courage to go and talk to them this will only make you nervous and over think things.
As soon as you see the girl/set, think about the line you are going to use then walk over, make eye contact, half smile and start with the line, if you think about this for more than 5 seconds distract yourself by going to the bar/toilet/whatever just recompose and try again.
The 5 second rule is effective and takes you straight into the action, I fully understand it's nerve racking trying this, I was once in your shoes.
Now for the important part the pick up lines out of all the lines I have tried over the years these are by far the best and most effective, these are completely different to all the lines you have ever been told and it is a 50/50 fine balance between the line its' self and how you deliver the line ...let me explain each one in full.
All of these pickup lines work best in a bar/pub or club, you need to memorize the ones you wish to use on that particular night.
During this dialogue I am going to say TOUCH, this is important, a touch is when you are speaking to the girl, simply touch her on her shoulder or arm (nowhere else) just once gently, the effect of this will psychologically make her feel at ease with you.
1. The fight
This line works best when you find yourself unexpectedly next to a girl or a 2, 3 set, for example if you are at the bar waiting to be served and the girls come stand next to you.
Don't introduce yourself just say:
You: Did you see that fight outside?
Girl: no, what fight?
You: It was unbelievable, there where two girls fighting outside the nightclub
Girl: no way? - really? - then what happened?
You: It was just before I came into the club, there where two girls screaming at each other at first then one of them pushed the other girl and it turned into a fight, as I got closer they where both on the floor hitting one another.
Pause and wait for response
Girl: wow that's crazy - how long ago did that happen? - then what happened?
Respond as required and continue with
You: The strange thing is these two girls where fighting over a man called Rodney, TOUCH
can you believe it two girls fighting over one guy and his name was Rodney!!!
The girl/girls at this point should be enjoying your story and hopefully laughing
2. Two puppies
This works best on a 2 set, if you try it on a larger group of girls they get lost off and you end up over explaining the story.
This works best if you approach the 2 set sitting down
You: Hi, me and my friend where having a discussion and I wondered if you could resolve an issue for us?
Girls: ok - what is it - what are you talking about
At this point sit down if possible
You: My friend has just bought two new puppies, you know the ones (refer to a cute puppy on TV) describe the puppy's and how cute they are
You: The problem is my friend is a big fan of the 80's he loves the fashion, music and movies he is completely obsessed with the 80's movies ...haha TOUCH
He seems to think it's a good idea to name the puppies Duran Duran
Wait for the response
Girls: That's stupid they would have the same name - etc etc
At this point agree with everything they are saying and follow up with
You: It's crazy naming the dog's Duran Duran, can you think of a better 1980s name for the puppy's the only name I could come up with is salt and pepper, you know like the 80's pop group.
The girls at this point should be finding your story amusing and coming up with names for the puppy's
3. The most beautiful woman I have ever seen
This sounds really stupid but every time I did this pick up line it worked
Positioning is everything, you need to know the room where you can disappear out of sight for a short period of time, depending on the room the placement of the girl is everything.
You: Hi, I was hoping you could give me a little advice?
Girl: ok what do you need to know?
You: Quickly introduce yourself My name is........., you may think I am a little crazy but in this bar right now I've noticed a girl and she seems very nice in fact I would have to say she is best looking girl I have ever seen in my life but I don't really know how to start a conversation with her as I am quite shy around girls I am attracted to.
At this point the girl will be looking around the room to try to spot this mystery woman
You: I thought before I go over and make a fool of myself I would ask you what do you think I should say to her so she will have a conversation with me.
Girl: you should just say hi my name is ........ - or whatever she says memorize it
You: Thank you for your help it really means a lot to me I hope you have a fun night with your friends.
Now at this point you need to walk away and disappear out of her sight, she will be watching you intrigued to know what this beautiful woman looks like, you now need to return back to the same girl but from a different direction.
You: simply say what she told you to say e.g. hi my name is .........
She will be flattered and she can't argue with your approach as
1. It's genius and 2. she told you what to say :-)
All three lines are tried and tested by myself, you can learn more of these lines with Neil Strauss The Rules of The Game Book cheapest price on amazon
Now you know the rules and the lines it's time to understand the chemistry.
As humans we have 5 basic senses they are touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste in reality we have many more including balance, pain and thirst for example; but I only want to talk about one and when it comes to attracting girls/women the only sense that matters is smell.
Many people will debate with me that it's all about how you look (sight) or maybe you have a better chance with the opposite sex if you have a nice accent (hearing), I can prove both of these are not true and I will at some point create a hub page demonstrating but right now I want to explain the importance of smell. Women are attracted to men by sent, it's a fact that has been researched and tested a number of times by a range of professional people and organisations.
Below are some examples
I could list more but if you would like to research this further simple google the subject.
This chemistry is extremely important when trying to pick up in a bar or club because you are in close contact with the girls as you are initially saying your line and eventually continuing the conversation.
Your sent is now playing an important part of your attraction, it is influencing her decision in a natural way all based on testosterone, the stronger your levels the more attractive she will become to you.
So how do you improve your chances or increase testosterone levels?
Cologne or aftershave gives a nice smell (for a short period) but it won't help you, what you need is chemistry.
Pheromones used to be as ineffective as the expensive colognes you can buy off the shelf but there is a much better understanding of the natural chemistry mainly due to the research conducted on testosterone (see above articles).
I have conducted my own tests and found the HAX Pheromone Range to work without fail they even make different pheromones for day and night depending on your requirements.
Using Pheromones To Pick Up Girls
It's a simple process all you need to do is take the pheromone with you when you go out and apply with two quick sprays to your shoulders.
Each application lasts 2 hours so during the night you will probably need to apply twice.
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How to Test the PickUp Lines in Chat Rooms
Now you know the chat up lines, the rules and why chemistry is important it would be helpful to get a little practice talking to women before you jump in all guns blazing.
This hub is about three year old it's now 2014 as I write this update and I've had a stack of messages asking all sorts of questions I didn't expect but by far the most popular question is - How can I practice these pick-up lines?
The lines above are designed to work in real life situations however you can adapt the two puppies and fight routine to test in a chat room, chat rooms are also an excellent way to practice talking to girls as you will need to learn how to do this after you said the line.
Starting a conversation or just being involved in a conversation with a girl in a chat room is the perfect place to master this section it shouldn't take long just give it a go for a few hours and if possible try moving onto video chat rooms this will improve your game even further.
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Ok so you have completed the hardest part "making contact" and she/they liked your line now what do I do?
Well to be honest for me this was never an issue I have the ability to talk about things quite naturally but I can imagine this my be an issue for some and this is what I would suggest.
Avoid talking about yourself you want her to talk to you about her life, the longer she is talking the better you are doing.
Have a few back up conversation starters, if you use 5 and she is still just giving you one word reply's simply say hey I am going to have to see where my friends have gone, we are going to this club later if you are staying out, nice to meet you.
Why do this? it seems there is an issue it could be anything, there are ways to try and fix it but in my experience I don't waste time I just move on to another set.
Be funny/entertaining/interesting and build rapport this is a very complicated issue I could talk about it for hours but I will break it down to basics.
For more information on how to do this do a search on google for the above and read as much as possible.
Funny - girls love funny guys you don't need to be a comedian telling jokes every 2 minutes it just needs to be included in the conversation, making her smile will make her feel good and relaxed.
Entertaining - Girls like a show, that's why the pick up lines above work because it's interesting and entertaining, you have to capture there imagination and then get them to interact with the story.
Interesting - No one wants to listen to what you did at work yesterday or the price of milk at the supermarket, girls like gossip, heart warming story's and weird scenario's if you live a boring life maybe it's time to make some changes, go on holiday somewhere no one else in your country ever goes and when you come back you will have more than enough story's to keep you talking for hours.
Building rapport - connecting with someone is what this is all about, the pick-up-lines just give you a reason to start, it's all about building rapport with the girl/girls, this is the part I would research the most it will be worth the effort.
As I said in some of the pickup-lines the touch is a very important part of the pickup line and you should continue this when engaging in the conversation.
With me I used to apply the touch once during the pick up line then up to five times during the conversation.
Keep going, keep going, keep going
Imagine from the very beginning you are having one repetitive conversation with everyone in the bar/club, so you start with a 2 set of girls it may work it may not with this set but quickly move on to a new set and keep you conversation going
All girls have different personality's but they all want and like similar things, e.g. shoes, holidays, handbags, friends but most of all they love one word "FUN" If you think of the word FUN it applies to everything in a girls life no matter what she is doing a girl will always want and need to have FUN and will go out of her way to ensure a fun aspect is in her week one way or another.
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Below is an example video of guys picking up girls in a bar or club environment, you may or may not have seen the show but the reason why I chose this video clip is to demonstrate my above comments about the "touch" and this video is the perfect example of how the touch works.
Watch the video clip and even watch the entire show/series you will learn some decent information however in my opinion the men they use in the show are not the best examples of the average guy on the street; don't let this put you off! anyone and I mean anyone can pick up girls no matter what you look like.
Touch example video
This video is a good example of an expert at work he has a few flaws in my opinion e.g. talks to much and doesn't listen enough but he is a pro and is now at a level where he dominates the situation and his confidence is more than sky high.
Why this video? the main reason why I think this video can be helpful is because of the way he keeps going and doesn't give himself time to think about anything negative.
He also apply's the "touch" and is entertaining to all the girls he speaks to so credit where credit is due Sasha does a very good job and a lot can be learned from watching his videos.
Keep Going Don't Stop Video
Ok so you have used the pickup lines or line, talked for a short time and she seems very keen!!! If you find yourself in this position it’s time to act on it.
You need to be alone if possible, find a place to go sit down simply say
“Lets go sit down so we can talk more”
Take her hand and say “lets go sit down over here for a few minutes”
“That drink looks heavy lets sit down for a minute”
Whatever you decide to say DON’T ask if she wants to sit down you need to be in control and be authoritative; every girl likes a guy to take control.
Once alone here is my advice
Talk as before for 1 or 2 minutes maximum and in this time frame as soon as you get the chance make eye contact and move in for the kiss, just the kiss no other contact.
Pull away first and say to her very softly “Let me show you how I like to be kissed”
Tell her to close her eyes; now go back in for the second kiss (very slowly) and touch her hair and caress her face (slowly) with your hand and make this kiss last longer.
Take as long as you like with this one she is already all yours.
After the kiss say “wow that was perfect”
At this point you have choices, I always made the next move based on time
1.If it’s early in the night I would make an excuse that I have to go somewhere but don't go until you have her number so you can call her later in the week. (Unless she is the girl of your dreams then no point in looking for something else)
2.If it’s late in the night I would defiantly spend the rest of the night with her trying to take her home or back to hers.
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