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Single Girl Checklist, Are you Ready for Marriage

Updated on April 18, 2012
Someone once told me, "the right man is waiting on you." The right one is waiting on you too. Are you ready?
Someone once told me, "the right man is waiting on you." The right one is waiting on you too. Are you ready? | Source

© 2012 Katina Davenport

The institution of marriage may be seen as an antiquated system on its way to ruin for 60% of Americans; however, there are men and women that still desire to be married. Those that want to be married don’t just want a marriage, they want a great marriage. Making a great marriage last takes a lot of work. There are those that can withstand the storms of life-sickness, infidelity, and joblessness. On the other hand, some may find the work of marriage a bit too unbearable.

From a woman’s perspective, I know the ugly feelings of being a good wife in a bad marriage; and I know what it feels like to be a good wife in a great marriage. Experience is the greatest teacher. I have learned the importance of due diligence. Looking at situations, people, and business ventures a little more closely has helped me make smarter choices.

If you are a single woman, not dating; but desire to be married ask yourself these questions to know if you are ready.

Am I marriage material?

What is marriage material? The answer to this question goes beyond domestication. That has its place and purpose. A well-rounded wife knows a little about something in many areas. She has management and organizational skills that enables her to manage a home, business, and relationship.

A woman that is marriage material has her emotions intact. She doesn’t lose her temper or use her emotions to manipulate her husband. It is better to have emotional stability before considering venturing out on a quest to find marriage.

Do I know a good man when I see him?

Integrity, honesty, and trustworthiness are characteristics of a quality mate usually found towards the bottom of the “what I want in a husband list.” It is the impossible list of traits that most men don’t live up to. For example, some women have extremely high income requirements, dress requirements, and even specific height requirement. While high standards is a great thing, the important part to remember is that a good man will have a good job and a good heart.

Am I willing to become one?

How can two people become one? The answer is simple, agreement. You will have to be willing to be in agreement on major decisions with your spouse. When there is disagreement within the marriage there will be discord. Becoming one with your husband will require practice and patience. It will take time to know your husband. It doesn’t happen overnight.

Can I get my feelings hurt and still love him?

Your knight in shining armor will say or do something that will hurt your feelings. Most of the time he will not intentionally try to hurt you. He might unintentionally call you fat. He may say something in the wrong tone of voice during a heated argument. When your feelings are hurt you will still have to muster up the courage to continue to be the loving wife that he needs.

Will I be able to handle the responsibility of being a wife?

Being a wife is a 24 hour job with no breaks or vacations. The real work begins the day after the honeymoon is over. Real life is full of the same things you experienced while single multiplied by two. You will find your laundry loads doubled, more dishes to do, and more meals to cook. If you work outside the home your husband will expect those things to be done regardless of any other obligations. Expect to be tired all the time. Add small children to the mix and you will be running on empty.

Why do I want to be married?

What is the real reason for wanting to be married? Be honest with yourself. Are you looking for love, companionship, or financial security? Your answer could determine what kind of man you will be attracted to and the kind of marriage you will have. For example, after my divorce and after I waited for a while, I found myself wanting to be married again. I wanted to give and receive the love that wasn’t present in my first marriage. I wanted to share my life with someone. I wanted to experience a real family. I ended up marrying the most loving and affectionate man that I ever met. From him and his family I gained lessons about the bond of unconditional love that are found in good families. I have been able to share my life experiences with him. He learns from me and vice versa.

Can I forgive?

Having a forgiving heart is important in marriage. There is always something to forgive your husband for. Whether it’s for lying about going to the ballgame or spending too much money; you have to be willing to forgive.

Can I submit to my husband?

There are so many ways of looking at this word. Usually, submission is a very ugly word to women. They think of being enslaved, doing menial tasks from a hard taskmaster. Submissive women are stigmatized as weak, but it takes a strong woman to be humble. This word has been used against women to strong-arm them into obedience. Submission is simply being one that is willing to be in agreement. Both the husband and the wife should be humble enough to be in agreement with one another; otherwise, there will be two prideful people arguing all the time.

Can I be faithful?

If you find yourself ogling over men all the time, have a problem with flirting, and being enticed by men then you may not be ready for marriage. Being married means you will be with one person for the rest of your life.

If you can answer these questions positively, with assurity then marriage may be in your future.


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      Katina Davenport 6 years ago

      My husband makes me laugh all the time. He has a band; and when he is performance mode he becomes a comedian in between songs.

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      Nancy Yager 6 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Very insightful points. I have been married 20 years and cannot even imagine being single again. I have only one bit of advice, marry someone who makes you laugh every day.

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      Ashu 6 years ago

      Most Girls are not ready for marriage before 21 years of age. Girls need to settle down in life and has to choose a good partner for a secure life in future.

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      Katina Davenport 6 years ago

      Me "three." I should have known this the first time around. I am happily married as well for the second time.

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      Lisa Kroulik 6 years ago from Minnesota

      Me too, Karen. Live and learn.

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      Karen Hellier 6 years ago from Georgia

      I am happily married, for the second time. I really liked this hub and perhaps if I had read it before my first marriage, I would not have married my ex, and found my current husband earlier. Good job! Voted up.


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