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Promise Ring Meaning - What Does It Mean To You?
What Does A Promise Ring Mean And Why It's Important?
What is the promise ring meaning? As strange as it might sound, the tradition of giving promise rings is still relatively unknown for many people. In fact while the idea of giving promise rings is as ancient as mankind itself, the tradition has only resurfaced around the 1990s in our society.
A dear friend of mine taught me everything I know about promise rings.
So here are a few questions I will try to answer related to promise rings with this article:
* What is the promise ring meaning?
* Does it symbolizes anything?
* is it different from an engagement right?
* Which is the best finger for the promise ring?
* What type of rings do you give for this occasion and how do you go about doing it the right way?
* What is the history of the promise ring and why do we have this tradition in the first place?
I hope this article will help you learn more about the meaning of the promise ring and help you make up your mind about finally taking the leap of faith and committing to your loved one for real :-)
This elegant solitaire ring showcases a single round diamond, held securely in a prong setting between graceful bypass bars of 14 karat gold.
The near colorless diamond has a lovely sparkle and shine and a weight of 1/10 carat. This classic style makes a beautiful promise ring. You can choose between white or yellow gold.
14k White Gold Diamond Promise Ring
I've seen this very ring on my friend's finger and this is what made me learn about promise ring meaning in the first place. The ring was given to her by her (at the time) boyfriend before being deployed to Iraq.
With this ring he sealed his love for her and promised that he would be back - and that he would marry her.
And he did return, upon which he married her and gave her a proper wedding ring. This is when she switched the ring to her right hand, and she was the one who taught me what I know about promise rings and wedding rings and the difference between them.
I found this story so romantic, that I wanted to learn more about promise rings, their meaning and the history behind them. It's fascinating!
Meaning Of A Promise Ring
Generally speaking the promise ring meaning is that of taking the first serious step in commitment between two people. While in most cases this relates to love and relationship, it can be any other sort of commitment as well.
Maybe the most important aspect of giving and receiving a promise ring is that both people know what exactly has been promised and it is accepted as such. If you give a promise ring to your girlfriend, make sure that she fully understands the meaning of what she is getting - and what she is getting into.
Here are are just some of the meanings of a promise ring. It truly doesn't have to be all about the first steps towards a marriage.
- I will return (from war, college, etc)
- I will be always faithful to you
- I will be your best friend
- I will always be there for you
- I will follow a particular religion
As long as the promise is between two people, the ring can be given and accepted as a symbol of the promise made. However indeed, the most common occasion for a promise ring is as a pre-engagement ring.
Regardless of the promise ring meanings, however, you have to explain the reason why you give the ring. Never expect that the other person will know exactly your intentions. You have to spell them out clearly.
(Image courtesy of sxc.hu)
Web Resources On The Meaning Of A Promise Ring
Have you heard of a promise ring before?
Can I Give A Promise Ring To A Man?
A definitely yes! You can give a promise ring to a man. For example if the commitment is towards a relationship, the ring can be easily worn as a pre-engagement ring, which is perfectly ok.
The only difference is that the man's ring will be a bit larger.
For example this ring is a beautiful that you can give to your soon to be fiancé. It is a strongly 'male' type of ring that nobody will find too macho ever. The ring is made of titanium, it is surprisingly light to wear and is 8mm in width. Perfect for giving it to a man as a promise ring that indeed promises something. promise ring for a man
On Which Finger Do I Wear The Promise Ring?
Usually the promise ring is worn on the left ring finger (the third finger on the hand) especially when it is a romantic relationship. Then once the engagement (or wedding) ring has been received, the promise ring is transferred to the right hand ring finger.
For a friendship commitment, the ring should be worn on the right hand, because the finger on the left hand is mostly associated with an engagement ring or a wedding ring as in committing to a relationship.
You can see from the image that the woman is wearing her promise ring on her left hand, third finger. It is an elegant ring that doesn't distract too much from itself, and it looks gorgeous on any finger. The ring shown here is the Three-Stone Diamond Promise Ring in Sterling Silver (listed below), and it costs just a bit over $50, which is a great price for a ring that will be topped later by an engagement and a wedding ring.
How To Give A Promise Ring
What Materials Can I Use For Giving A Promise Ring?
Early traditions required the promise rings to be made of gold, while later silver was also included in the popular materials. Nowadays, however, promise rings can be made of any affordable material - even of hard, durable plastic if you choose.
Most people take them off once they get engaged, so the promise rings can be as cheap as $5 or less. It is up to you how far you will go with the ring you will give to your loved one as a first promise.
Popular materials i've seen promise rings made of are:
- stainless steel
- hard plastic
When choosing your promise ring material, there are a few considerations to take into account, however.
Depending on the skin, the material might be irritable, might discolor the skin or be totally uncomfortable. For example rings made of nickel and steel have this tendency, and rings made of copper might turn the area on the finger green.
In addition cheaper materials might not last as long as gold or silver.
Some promise rings can be plain, but most of them have some decoration on them (they are more decorated than a wedding band, but a bit smaller than an engagement ring).
Finally, don't forget, these rings are worn all the time, so when you're among people, they can see what's on your finger. You do want to show what's on your finger (or that of your loved one) with pride, rather than with shame.
Historical Promise Ring Meaning
The history of the promise ring dates back to thousands of years, going to the ancient civilization. One of the earliest mentions of something similar to promise rings is the betrothal ring. The betrohal was quite a serious business. The betrohal was officially announced with a contract following it.
It was part of this entire ceremony that the young man would give his soon to be bride a betrothal ring, which practically sealed the deal. The ring symbolized his promise to marry her. There was no way out of a contract once one has been made.
Eventually though around the 18th century the custom of giving a promise ring was replaced by giving engagement rings. Only recently, in the 1990s this ancient tradition has been once again made popular, especially in the Christian religion.
So based on this, a promise ring is the first to be given or exchanged by the couple, and this usually means that the wedding will take place sometimes within a year. At some point the engagement ring is also given, and finally the wedding ring is the third one that seals the marriage.
There is an awesome book that goes quite into detail on promise rings and the whole wedding tradition which is called A Bride's Book of Wedding Traditions. It's worth reading for learning more about this interesting tradition that goes so far back in history.
Now that you know more about promise rings, will you give one to your love?
Promise Rings For Couples
When it comes to giving promise rings, similar to an engagement, it is much better and much more rewarding to give matching rings to each other. Afterall a couple is made of 2 people, and the link between the two will be that much stronger with a beautiful matching ring.
Then once more serious steps are taken in the relationship, the promise rings can be replaced by engagement rings, and then by wedding rings.
I've actually seen a couple who had all 3 rings on their fingers, they would never take them off. Talk about everlasting love!
How To Solve The Puzzle Of The Turkish Promise Ring
What Is A Turkish Promise Ring
A Turkish promise ring is something really cool. You HAVE to watch the video below to understand it better. First time I've seen it, I was in awe and I practically had my jaw on the floor.
Basically a Turkish promise ring is also called a Turkish puzzle ring simply because you have a set of 4 or 6 bands that you have to interlock in the right way to create the final ring. I love puzzles and this ring really caught my interest!
How did such an intricate ring come to be? One of the myths (or maybe it was true?) around the Turkish puzzle promise ring is that the ring is usually given by the father of the bride to the groom in the morning before the ceremony, while the bride gets herself all dressed up. Usually the groom has a long wait ahead of him, and the stomach is all knotted up in anguish (and anticipation). So this ring keeps the groom occupied until the bride is ready to take the step to the altar.
© 2011 Marika