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Top 5 Questions About Women Answered
I did a quick poll on a popular forum and I asked the question, “Guys – what are your biggest questions about women?” Needless to say, there were some pretty rude questions and remarks, but some guys had some pretty honest questions that I think many other guys have as well.
I thought I would take the time to answer the top five questions, because they seem to appear everywhere I look, not just on this poll.
Ready, set, GO!
1. Why Do Girls Fall For The Guys That Will Hurt Them Instead of Love Them?
Oh, this is so ironic, isn’t it? This is one of those questions about women that even women ask!
Why do the jerks always end up attracting a woman while the good guy ends up being the friend?
The truth is that women are attracted to certain things in men including:
- Confidence in themselves
- Physical energy
- Good sense of humor
- Passion for life
- Compassion and understanding
- Good communication skills
- A sense of direction in life
All of these things can be part of any man, but the jerks tend to be able to display more of them in the beginning than the good guys do.
Jerks tend to have confidence about themselves and their women-getting ways. They know that they can attract women, and that confidence is sexy to women. The good guy tends to have less confidence in himself, and that is not sexy. Therefore, the physical attraction is lost because the low self-confidence is so unappealing.
I can’t say this enough: confidence is sexy! It doesn’t matter what you look like or where you come from, if you have true self-confidence in your ability to attract, impress, and get women, then you will be able to win over women.
Jerks also know how to play a woman in the beginning and make her believe that they are compassionate and understanding. This makes them the perfect package (with a few inconsistencies that women tend to overlook.) They know how to communicate in a way that women respond to, and good guys tend to lack this ability.
The good news is that if you are a good guy, then you have some of the traits that jerks will never truly have! They can only pretend to be compassionate and passionate about life.
All you need to do is get the confidence that women crave and the ability to communicate in an effective manner. You can do that by learning what women want and how women think - the more you know, the more your confidence with women will grow.
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2. How Can You Tell if You Are Being Flirted With?
Mixed signals suck. A woman may seem to flirt with you, so you approach her and realize she has no interest in you at all! Wasn’t she just flirting with you? How the heck can you tell?
I find that all women flirt a little differently. Some, sadly, play games because they have been taught that they shouldn’t outright show their interest in a guy or they will be labeled as ‘easy’. Seriously, you can understand that right? Girls are told their whole lives that if they date too much, sleep with guys, or just dress provocatively, that they are easy. That stuff weighs hardcore on a woman’s mind.
There are some gestures though that almost all women do to show interest in a guy. In fact, I don’t think I have ever seen a woman NOT flirt in these ways.
For instance, a woman will groom herself when interested in a man. This means fixing her hair, smoothing out her shirt, or putting some makeup on quickly. If a woman starts grooming herself in front of you then she may be interested.
Also, women have little gestures that they do. They may tilt their head to look more feminine, lick or bite their lips to draw attention to them, smile knowingly at you, flip their hair over their shoulder, give you a look over their shoulder…these are all little gestures that women do subconsciously when they like a guy.
And don’t forget the giggle. Women will giggle when they are nervous, and if they giggle a lot around you, then chances are they are nervous around you.
They will also giggle to let you know that they think you are funny, which is a way to show interest in you. They want you to know that they like your sense of humor.
Giggling is also a feminine gesture which helps to bring out their feminine side in front of you – you don’t know many men that giggle, do you?
3. Is Every Question a Woman Asks a Trick Question?
This is one of the more unique questions about women that I have seen, but I'm sure that many guys are thinking it. I really like this one!
Women do test their men, but not to be rude or tricky; instead, women just want to hear if their men are going to respond with the ‘right’ answer. The answer that makes them feel as though their man understands them and what they want, need, or desire.
I’m not saying it is right! I’m just saying that many women WILL do this. Even women who are not much into playing games (like me) will do this.
For instance, just the other day I asked my husband, “What do you want for supper tonight?” with the intention of getting the answer, “You had said you wanted gnocchi, so let’s have that!” I wanted to know that he had listened to me earlier when I excitedly told him what I was craving for supper, as silly as it sounds, and so yes – this was my desire for him to listen to me wrapped up into a question. And yes – it could be considered a trick.
However, I was VERY happy when he said exactly what I was expecting and I realized that he did listen to me earlier. He validated my feelings and needs by responding the way he did, and I think that is what all women want from their men - validation that they listen, care, and understand them.
That said, not every question a woman asks is a trick question. But I can't deny that many questions are asked to see what response a man will give.
4. Why Are Women So Rude?
When it comes to questions about women, I thought this one was very interesting, and it made me think for a few seconds about how women relate to the world.
My best friend always asks this question, and my best friend is a woman. She often says that she can’t get along with other women because they are so mean and vindictive.
I’m not usually rude, and I know many other women who are not rude (like my best friend), but I could be if I wanted to! I have that innate cattiness (I can’t use the real word I want to use on here) that can come out if I am challenged.
When it comes to women being rude, there are a few answers.
Jealousy – Women can be jealous of you, your friends, or your life and instantly take up a rude and condescending tone to make herself feel better. As in, “I’m not jealous of you because you suck.” However, inside they feel bitter towards the target of their rudeness.
Unresolved Issues – A woman who has a lot of emotional baggage may instantly become defensive and rude in certain situations. For instance, if her last boyfriend told her that she was beautiful just before he slapped her, then she may instantly get angry after a compliment is said to her. That example may be a little extreme, but if she is bitter towards the world, men, women, or life – then that will manifest in rudeness.
Insecurity and low-self confidence – It is interesting that low-self confidence would manifest itself in rudeness, but it does. Instead of making herself look weak, a woman will be rude and try to come across as harsh, in control, and dominant.
Unhappiness – I always use my neighbor as an example when it comes to unhappiness. She is lonely and goes nowhere all day, and she is the rudest person I have ever met! She is loud, accusing, demanding, and – just not nice. She is also very unhappy. She never smiles, her kids don’t come to visit her often (once every two months or so) and she doesn’t have much to live for (in her eyes.) So yes, unhappiness can definitely cause a woman to become bitter and rude.
Relational aggression - When a woman is rude to a man or woman, it is because she wants to hurt him or her in some way. Women bond emotionally. It is how they connect with both females and males alike. So it is natural that when they want to hurt someone they would attack that person emotionally. Being rude is a way to do this. She can deny a man or woman that connection and, therefore, feel as though she is sending a message of how she feels.
5. What Do Women Want?
This is one of those questions about women that will never die. It has been answered in movies, books, TV shows, and even by women themselves, and yet it is still asked over and over again by men.
As far as attraction goes, women want a man who has high self-confidence, a bright future, a good sense of humor, and the ability to make her feel good about herself. Why would she want a guy who mopes around and makes her feel bad about herself?
Note: Even though there are a lot of women in these types of relationship, the relationship typically does not start out like that. A man wins her over by displaying traits that women want and the changes to the jerk after he wins her affection.
As far as a partner in life goes, women want what men want. A loving, stable, passionate, and honest relationship. They also want a man who will go beyond the typical comical husband (clueless and non-romantic), so don't watch TV to get an idea of what women want. Those actresses wouldn't put up with half of the crap they do with their TV-husband as they would with their real husband.
A woman also wants a man who will communicate with her. She needs to communicate in order to feel happy and connected, and if you deny her REAL communication, then will by denying her some basic needs.
In the end, a woman wants what men want...what all humans want - to be happy, loved, and validated.