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What Makes a Husband Leave His Wife

Updated on January 17, 2014

The Reasons Husbands Leave Their Wives

Again, I did not mean this to be a hub. I was just answering a question; however, I got little bit too wordy in my answer. So here it goes! It all depends upon the circumstances. Marriage is not always until death do us part. Many times during a marriage, couples grow into different directions. The husband grows in his career and interests while the wife, especially if she is a housewife with children, prefers to stay the same. Many women, once they become wives, believe in sublimating their identities, hopes, and dreams on their husbands.

Many wives assert that their main duty is to stay home and have the husband be the sole support. They strong contend that they should not go in the jungle to work but have an easy life staying at home, doing what they want when they want. I believe strongly, almost religiously, that marriage is a 50/50 affair between a husband and a wife. I strongly contend that wives should continue working after marriage, remain independent, and have their own interests. I maintain that husbands respect wives who have independent careers and viable jobs because there is more equality in a marriage when a wife works outside the home than if she elects to remain home. Men wants partners in a marriage. When a wife works outside the home and have an independent and viable career, this proves to her husband that she is an adult and equal partner, not a little girl who should be supported.

The only people I believe who should be financially supported in a marriage are the children from that marriage. A grown woman should not expect to be supported by anyone. She should also contribute monetarily and financially to the household. Furthermore, husbands find independent, self-supporting wives to be sexy because they are their own persons who can demand sparring rights and equal time. Husbands appreciate their wives having outside interests. Many husbands cheat on and leave their wives because those wives do not have any interests outside of their husbands, homes, and children. Many husbands return home from work exhausted and wish to have an adult conversation with their wives. However, the wives insisted on only talking about their children, what their children did, and their own narrow interests. Many wives forget that they are also sexual, viable women.

Don't let a woman become a mother. That adds another variable to the equation. When many wives become mothers, sex flies outside the window. They put their children first, often neglecting their husbands. Once they become mothers, these wives lose all interest in sex. They stop being sexual beings and become mothers to the exclusion of everything else. These women often let their appearance go, becoming matronly. When men do not have sex at home,they usually seek it somewhere else and go to greener pastures.

Many times, through no fault of the wife, many older men leave their wives for younger pasture. Many successful men tire of the wife they have been married to for many years. They want someone young and fresher.because they want to present a newer, sleeker image to world.


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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you for stopping by and adding to the discussion.

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      afman 3 years ago

      I have to admit that the first is not putting God first, and I will reserved that since there are people who do not believe in God, but I am in a situation where I actually left, and I say it is more of what I felt I couldn't do as a man. When we as men feel that we are not capable or not allowed to be what we are made for, it makes it much easier for us to leave, there is the saying that women need love, and men need appreciation, and it has to do more with just words, but there has to be a level of trust and assurance that both sides have to know that they are getting that in their marriage. I don't claim to be the perfect husband nor will I ever be, but just as a woman needs to feel they are worth something, the man feels the same, and when that is compromise then there are going to be problems. Just to sum up it men loves your wives and make them feel special, and women appreciate your man and let them know that their blood sweat and tears mean the world.

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      goldie14 3 years ago

      I laughed at the nonsense you wrote. I am better qualified than my husband and for many years earned a lot more than him in my profession. I have been both a career professional and a stay at home and I would challenge you to try out the so called easy life of being a stay at home mother (which you assume). I would rather be in the office any day. The problem is that people like you want their wives to work AND take over all the responsibility for the household, children and all that entails while you come home after 'your' hard day at work not considering the fact your spouse also has had a hard day at work but has to start the second shift of cooking, child rearing, cleaning up etc. Equality is a fine thing but it must work both ways, equality of work and earning but also equality in running the household. Research shows that women ordinarily bear at least 80-90% of the latter, so please before you start spouting about the former also consider the latter.

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      kguy 3 years ago

      You are delirious! I agree it takes two ppl to keep a house. While one is the bread winner the other can hold the home together. You'll end up riding your wife to an early old haggard life like a thoroughbred horse working at a farm.

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      monica 3 years ago

      I just wanted to express my gratitude and appreciation to prophet salifu on bringing my husband back to me,I was married for 9 years to my husband and all of a sudden, he started seeing another lady at work.he started hailing at me and he was abusive.. and he stop careing for me, but I still loved him with all my heart .the situation made me unsettle and not to focus at work .so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster? i did not listen to her . i kept on hoping that my husband will come back home . after a month it got out of hand and my husband came back home to break the news to me that he want a divorce that he is getting married to the other lady .Hmmm it was so shocking to me ,i felt sad and depressed ,so i contacted my friend again and decieded to try to use spiritual means reluctantly..although I didn't believe in all those things? I never thought in a million years that i will get my husband back to me a again. but I was proved wrong.after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it that we are back together. Prophet salifu remained consistent and kind throughout and made the process unbelievable I am deeply satisfied and thankful .if in doubt you should email him at or

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      rosa 4 years ago

      we can tell this article was written by man!!!!!!

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      Lynn 4 years ago

      And you are delusional. Laughed all the way through it!

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      Lynn 4 years ago

      A man who can't support his wife and children is not a man.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you so much. I shall keep writing.

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      Julie Grimes 6 years ago from Columbia, MO USA

      Great hub. I liked it so much that I sent out a tweet! I am so excited about being your fan and reading more of your hubs. Great hubs.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To EuroCafeAuLait: Of course, it can work both ways. When people marry, it is not an excuse to be comfortable and stagnant. One must progress each and every day. Nothing is more pathetic that a spouse who chooses to remain the same. No one technically remains the same. Either a person grows or die.

      In my opinion, when two people marry or have a long term committed relationship, if the spouse elect not to grow and/or progress in the relationship or wishes the other spouse to remain dormant, it is best to leave that relationship. Remember, relationships are not forver and sometimes it is best to part in order to grow.

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      Anastasia Kingsley 6 years ago from Croatia, Europe

      It can work to the opposite extreme, too. I know a couple where the wife was a mouse, but through Internet, blogs, etc., she has advanced a lot and he has stayed in a rut. Nice Hub - appreciate your manly viewpoint.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 7 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To prettydarkhorse: This is one of the reasons I love writing in hubpages. I love to write and to help people with their questions. Thank you so much.

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      thanks for answering the question. I am happy reading your incites about the topic.