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How can a wife recover from the trauma of her husband's infidelity?

Updated on October 16, 2008

By my opinion, the infidelity is not the biggest problem in their marriage, never is. They should work together to concentrate on improvement of mutual communication, understanding each other and setting up their next life goals. They should start to focus on love which bonds them together.

What a majority of women cannot understand is, that is for the men more difficult to stay faithful in the marriage. Very often for men is the infidelity just a little game for getting more attention from someone new and more interesting, or deep hormonal urge written down in their genes, to have more sexual partners (women also sometimes behave on the same way).

Staying sexually faithful and in monogamous relationship is question of personal choice. And this choice gives the pleasure and feeling of contentment to both partners, if relationship is basically full of love and improvements.It is important that every partner has enough freedom in that relationship. If this is not a case, if somebody is not content with oneself and relationship as such, trying to find another partner seems like good way out from the prison, permanently or just temporary.

I have right to possess and claim ownership on only one body: and that is mine one. Nobody is my property. I do not own anybody, nobody owns me. With such attitude, I do not believe in possibility of infidelity. Being faithful in relationship is question of my choice, which is based on love and wisdom, not on pressure. In the area of freedom is easy to be and stay faithful.

I would suggest that your couple starts to concentrate on all good things that they gained in their marriage, on love and respect, and whatever they achieved together through the years, not to keep focus on the husband´s "mistake", if possible. If they want to move focus towards positivity in their relationship, they will be able to take step forward successfully and with deep mutual gratitude.

I wish you a lot of luck and success...with all my heart.


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    • Tatjana-Mihaela profile imageAUTHOR


      10 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

      Thank you for your comment, dear Cleanclover. When I was your age, compassion was not so popular as it is nowadays. The two of us are blessed, cause we live in our paradise, connected with all people who meditate and create love.... But, this is special blessing. A lot of people still live in personal hell , we must never forget that, when someone feels like in prison, does not feel any joy inside oneself at all. Bliss we feel is reward...for our opening the right doors, for many years of meditation, for mindcontrol, for our faith and effort. We just should not forgett that some people walk more difficult paths.We have many reasons to be grateful for. Light, Love and energy to you, and to the whole humanity.

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      10 years ago from Piece of land!

      Yes I agree with you Tatjana, men tend to be more infedil and I know because I am one. But it's our awareness which makes us act the way we act. If we are more aware of our actions and think and focus true bliss and joy inside us then we wont go after the outer things. The outer things keep on changing but the inner joy, peace and centeredness is always constant. I am 24 years old single and I am aware 24 hours a day and I try to feel good all the time and what i want manifests. It really does depend on what we want. Once we experience the joy inside we would never never go for outer cheap things. We will have compassion which is the byproduct and Would never hurt anybody let alone our closed ones.


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