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Relationship Break Ups When Is It Really Over
How Can It Go From This
One More Time
Probably about the third or fourth time you’ve said “Let's try it one more time”, but for some reason believe that you’ve finally had enough (well maybe) Sorry, but that’s just reality and the way it is. Let me start off by saying that if you’re the sensitive, cry at the drop of a hat type person you’re going to want to either grab a box of Kleenex or go look somewhere else for someone that will tell you what you want to hear. I don’t play games or beat around the bush. So those that are ready to hear some blatant facts keep reading, otherwise be gone, it’s OK I swear.
To This So Quickly
Let's Get A Couple Things Straight From the Get Go
First off let me get my one pet peeve out of the way from the get go. If you are in an abusive relationship, I don’t care if it’s emotional or physical you need to go take a good look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what you did to deserve this. The answer should be NOTHING because NO ONE and I mean NO ONE EVER, I don’t care what you think you’ve done, NO ONE deserves to be abused, EVER! So go ahead I’m not kidding, go look at yourself right now and ask yourself what it is that you‘ve done that you should be subjected to such demeaning BS, sorry but that‘s just what it is. If you’ve come up with something that you feel makes you guilty enough to subject yourself to this sort of punishment, (because believe me we all have spiders in our closets) you’re dead wrong. Stop beating yourself up over the past, and allow yourself to experience the future without the garbage you’ve accumulated in the past. Allow your self to be the judge and jury and let the sentencing and judgment be over, time served, be done! You can experience the days to come as a bright new beginning or continue to wallow in pity and continue to be a victim. It is just that simple and a matter of choice, NO mind boggling elaborate decisions, just a simple choice. Moving on.
Second if you are a cheater or your significant other is cheating and you or she/he is not willing to stop throwing it in one another’s face or stop accusing them every time they are 5 minutes late just go ahead and call it a day. Relationships are based on a matter of trust and that’s it in a nutshell. It doesn’t make a bit of difference if it’s a best friend, a boss, a spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, whoever it is, it’s all about trust. Go ahead, catch your best friend stealing $40 out of your purse or wallet and then tell me they’re still your best friend. OK, your initial reaction to that should have been, “They would never do that, she/he is my best friend.” That’s why they’re your best friend because you trust them enough not to do that, and if you don’t know in your heart that you can let your relationship get back to that level, then for crying out loud let them go. Don’t torture them or yourselves with the accusing, throwing it up in their face every time something isn’t just the way you want it, and let them and yourself move on. If you believe deep down that you can honestly get back to that point, then by all means give it a shot. But remember one thing, you’ve got to be willing to give it your all and let them forgive themselves Because if they are half of the person you fell in love with in the beginning of your relationship, they are suffering enough guilt and torture all by themselves.
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It Comes Down To This
It really all boils down to one thing. If you can sit down and talk without the screaming and the yelling, or the tv blaring in the background. If you can look at each other dead square in the eyes WITHOUT LOOKING AWAY and say that you are ready and willing to do whatever it takes (without ridiculous conditions) to start really enjoying each other again then do it! If you hesitate, stop, decide you need to think about it some more, are contingent upon some stupid ridiculous conditions, then you’ve already made the choice. I’m not saying you might not need a little counseling (mediator as I call them) to overcome certain obstacles just be willing to put forth the amount of time and effort to do just that. If not, how about allowing both of you the joy and pleasure of the wonderful life you’ve been given and move on.
Just One More Thing
One more thing. If you decide to call it quits, then for heavens sakes let them go. Don’t start with the stupid, made up excuses to call just because your bored or heard they have actually moved on and are seeing someone else. LET THEM AND YOURSELF GO.
Remember this, if you jump from the fire into the frying pan your burns are probably gonna be a lot deeper the next time around. Give yourself some space and time to figure out who you are and what you want out of life before trying to find someone to make a commitment to someone you yourself haven’t figured out yet.
So that’s it in a nutshell. Best of wishes (notice I didn’t say luck because relationships aren’t about luck) in whatever you choose to do and make it an incredible day.
If you would like some information on relationship break ups and how you never saw it coming, just click on the highlighted text. That’s only of course if you have enough Kleenex, sorry just “telling it like it is”