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Screaming and swearing at your wife will destroy the marriage for husband and wife
Screaming and swearing
When couples resort to screaming, yelling and swearing at each other the respect and the foundation of the marriage will deteriorate. A spouse under no circumstance has the right to treat the other person in that manner. The end result of this type of communication is that the person who is being screamed at will eventually become numb to their spouse and all of the love, affection and respect that they once had for them will vanish. When two people who care about one another disrespect each other in this way than neither persons point will be taken to heart and there will be no resolution to the problem.
Being a bully
Screaming and swearing is a part of being a bully and trying to dominate and control the other person in the marriage. The person doing the screaming may think that they have gotten the other person to change or agree with them but the truth of the matter is, is that they just bullied their spouse. No one likes to be screamed at or called names; the person who uses this type of communication usually has low self esteem and a lack of proper communication skills, as well as acting immature.
Stop taking the abuse
If your spouse treats you in this manner then you must put a stop to it, this is unacceptable behavior and must not be tolerated.
The screaming typically is associated with being a man but this is not always the case, as women can bully their husbands as well.
How does a person change their circumstance? The answer is to walk away from the bully leaving them to yell at themselves, do not engage a bully. You have to stand up for yourself and not allow this to happen. Many times a spouse will justify their behavior and say that they can’t control the screaming or they have a short temper, or other excuses that they can think of. The truth is that most people can control their temper, but they choose not to because you have allowed them to get away with the bad behavior.
One way to prove this scenario that they do indeed have control is: Ask yourself these questions, do they fly off the handle at work? Do they act this way around friends? Do they act this way in public? Have you seen them control their temper? If you answered yes to any of these questions then the spouse that is bullying you can control their temper they are just chosing not to around you.
If your spouse truly can’t control their temper then, you need to leave and stay with someone safe, that is a person who has allowed themselves to be out of control and may become violent. This is more prevalent in a spouse that gets angered after drinking or is taking drugs. Most people are able to control themselves if expected to.
The majority of bulling from a spouse though can be controlled and if you want the name calling and yelling to stop then you must do something dramatic to let them know that you are serious and you have had enough. Living in a marriage with a spouse that yells at you and calls you names is not normal and can be very damaging to yourself esteem and to raising children in that type of environment. Tell your spouse calmly and directly that you will leave the next time that they behave in this manner and put an end to it now, but make sure that you do leave!