- Gender and Relationships
Whispering and Sensual Talk
The rules of the game
No touching was allowed; he knew he could only talk to me. He chose to whisper in my ear, caress me with his warm breath. His challenge was to bed me…
I am a teaser and I am not ashamed of it neither do I hide it from anyone. If you check my facebook profile you will see there that I openly admit to loving teasing and denying. I am a playful girl who enjoys the hunt as much as the trophy. I like to play games, I like to learn new ways to amuse myself and last weekend I just experienced the power that a good talk, a whisper and an “air caress” can have on me.
I have always had a soft spot for beautiful male voices. I knew that I could be turned on just by hearing a voice with a seductive and sensual tone whispering something in my ear.
Last Saturday while enjoying myself at a birthday party I met someone who managed to turn me on just by talking to me. It was the first time I met him but we agreed to play a game that we thought amusing. He had made it clear that he wanted to bed me that night and I had made it clear that it was not going to happen. Still we agreed to play a “tell me” game. He was going to convince me how much he could please me if I accepted his proposal. His only ammunition would be his words and he was not allowed to touch me in the process. I was just going to listen to him and give him the chance to convince me how good he could be to me.
What would you do to me? Was my question. He looked at me wondering what my game was. “Come on, tell me, get me exited without touching me” I teased him. He looked at me with a crooked smile, guessing my game. For a second it crossed his mind to leave, but he stayed. He brought himself closer to my ear and started to slowly describe all the things he would do that night if I accepted his proposition. He was direct without being vulgar. He had the right words to make my legs go soft and my skin hot and humid. When he finished he looked at me satisfied, knowing the effect of his words. I could see the effect that imagining how to please me had on him. Trying to compose myself I looked at him in the eyes and asked him for more. He smiled and gave me more. Every time he whispered to me, the world around me came to a halt. I was enjoying his stories so much I could almost feel all the movements and all the things that he was promising to do with me if I only let him.
We spent a big part of the night like that, his voice growing darker, his breathing faster and his breath hotly caressing my ear. He kept to his word and never touched me, just whispered to me, teasing me. Eventually he noticed the effect his words were having on me and he changed the game. Instead of me allowing him to do all the things he was promising to do to me, he changed camps, knowing I was hot as hell and decided to not give me any more until I begged for it. He would not touch me unless I begged him to do so. He took me to a more discreet corner of the room where the lights were dimmer and asked me to close my eyes and turn around against a bookshelf. With his head he pushed my hair aside and continued whispering in my ear. He still didn’t touch me, knowing I was desperate to feel his touch but he was playing the game, waiting for me to beg him to do it...
Talking about sex, if done correctly, dissolves fears and inhibitions, enhances intimacy, fuels desire, and creates trust between partners.
In this steamy collection of 50 exercises and illustrative stories, a popular sex therapist and an erotica writer show readers the right ways to master loving intimate talk, banish sexual inhibitions, jump start a sex life with hot talk and paly, and talk dirty all the way through the act.
Why whispering turns you on?
- Whispering can help in the game of seduction because when someone whisper to you, the quality of their voice changes. Instead of just words you hear an audible turbulence which alternates between whispers and voicelessness.
- When someone whispers to you, automatically they have to get closer to you adding intimacy to the moment.
- To hear someone whispering to you the person has to be very close to your ears which are a very erogenous zone. When the person gets very close, not only you hear the whisper, but also you feel the person breathing softly in your ear which can be very pleasurable.
- When someone whispers to you, you are obliged to focus your attention on what the person is saying, ignoring other conversations or noise in the room.
Why sensual stories and erotic talk are so powerful?
Sensual stories and erotic talk are powerful because for most people they are considered taboo. An erotic story is something you would read alone in your bedroom, not something you would ordinarily tell someone in a party.
The forbidden always has an arousing side. Listening to someone whispering sensual stories to you in a public place automatically has a turn on effect because you know it is taboo. Of course it is important to judge the level of erotic language that you can use with a person. Men and women have different levels of language preferences; cultural background and age are other good pointers to the type of erotic language that you can use. If in doubt be receptive to any feedback you get.