The Seven Worst Gifts for Men to Give Women
Women are happy to receive gifts. It shows thoughtfulness, time, and effort on your part and gives us a sense of feeling loved and appreciated. Of course each of us have our own taste, but there are a few offerings that tend to fall short of our expectations. (Not that we have expectations...Ok, so we do. But you already knew that!)
So you find yourself in need of a gift for a woman but don't know where to begin. Since many women are expert shoppers and tend to buy items that they highly covet, it makes it all the harder to find something meaningful and appropriate. Some women may disagree with this list, but I think the majority will concur. Just keep these tips in mind the next time you're thinking about buying her that rainbow-painted unicorn figurine.
•1. Small Appliances.
Or large ones for that matter. If we need (or even just want) a new blender, vacuum, or quesadilla maker, we'll buy it for ourselves. Appliances just send the wrong message. For me, it congers up images of the 1950's housewife who wishes to please her man by keeping the house clean and has dinner waiting on the table when he walks through the door. Like I said, we'll buy it ourselves.
There's just too much that can go wrong with this one. Unless you are absolutely positive of your lady's size and style, I'd steer clear of purchasing clothing as a gift. There are some exceptions, such as nice lingerie, but again, be sure you know the proper size. No matter how good your intentions may be, you could end up insulting her if the garment is too big. On the flip side, if the clothing is too small, she can't wear it. (And that never made anyone feel good about themselves.) Even if it does fit properly, she may not care for the style or print and might feel obligated to wear it around you anyway, since it was a gift. As you see, the whole situation could end up quite awkward.
2 ½. Perfume.
This is an amendment to #2, due to the fact that perfume can be a lovely gift. Just remember that the same rules apply to perfume as clothing. You don't want her to feel obligated to wear a stinky fragrance just because you like it. Giving perfume can be a romantic gesture, if you know what she likes.
•3. Stuffed Animals.
I know a percentage of women will disagree with me on this one, but come on ladies! We're not in junior high school anymore. There's a time in a young woman's life where a stuffed animal is an appropriate gift, and it happens to not be when you are a grown up.
I'd like a shopping spree with someone else's money just as much as the next girl, but this is just an insult. It shows that you put absolutely no effort into the gift besides a walk to the nearest ATM machine. If you must do this, opt for a gift card to her favorite store instead of cold, hard cash. Although still impersonal, at least you had to set foot into a store she likes.
5. A Cookbook
Unless your significant other is an aspiring chef or just loves to cook and create new dishes frequently, a cookbook is a gift that could be taken the wrong way. She may think that you don't like her cooking or simply see it as more work. She may feel obligated to make a recipe out of the book for you. Let's face it; most women have too many cookbooks sitting in their kitchens already. They're fun to browse through at first, but quickly loose their appeal, only to be stuck on a shelf to collect dust.
•6. Cheesy Novelties.
If you thought it would be cute or funny to give your wife or girlfriend a t shirt that says "I'm a Princess," then think again. If your gift is celebrating her birthday, then by all means, forego the black accessories adorned with her age. Also feel free to pass up figurines, dolls, most collectables, mystical candle holders or incense burners, and the occasional coffee mug. Enough said.
•7. Flowers That Cost an Arm and a Leg.
This one is a hard one to pass up. Most women adore flowers and choosing to send her favorites do not go unnoticed or unappreciated. However, there comes a time when it becomes silly to spend $75 to $100 on a vase full of flowers that will no longer be with you in a week. Now, if you're independently wealthy, disregard this one, but most of us would rather have something to show for that money a little longer than the flowers would last.
Well, there they are. Feel free to print this and refer back to it as you wish. You may be left wondering what exactly you can give a woman. Rest assured there are many other wonderful, thoughtful gifts out there that any woman would be proud to show off to her friends. Just keep these no-no's in mind as you shop, and I guarantee you will reap the benefits of a well-thought out gift.