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Sex after wedding relationship
Too many Christians people out there adopted that “way of living”, no sex till wedding. But what happen if that Christian person falls in love with a non Christian person or a not so dedicated Christian? Sex is definitely going to become an issue on the couple’s life. The truth is: Sex is important on every couple’s relationship but if that person really loves you, sex definitely won’t be the reason for you to break up. Sex is important but it’s not everything on a relationship. If that person is really in love with you she will wait till you decide when it’s time for you to trust your body to that person. That person should be in love with you, not with your genitals. If the true love exists on that relationship, your partner is going to accept and respect your beliefs and your choice on maintaining your purity till the day of your wedding. If there’s a giant insistence from your partner to having sex with you without even care about your values and beliefs you truly need to stop and rethink that relationship.
Sex, nowadays, is seen as a completely banal thing, people literally are getting out of their houses at night to have sex on a filthy nightclub restroom with someone they just met, or have sex with someone they meet a week ago cause they think they're in love with that person, whatever, if you’re not part of that team and belongs to a completely opposite group, the virgins one, sometimes you’ll be mocked or discriminated, because keeping your purity till the day of your wedding nowadays are incredible unusual. People starts seeing you like a nun or a friar, someone who doesn’t know how to enjoy life because of God, someone who’s not happy, that boring God person, only because you choose to wait to have sex with the right person, only because you choosed to be different.
Sex is not bad
Sex is not bad, people know this and that includes you. Even the bible says it’s not bad when they say “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19. On the bible sex is not just for procreation, it’s also for joy. Couples are meant to enjoy sex with each other. Sex is a celebration of the relationship, a way to express love and pleasure in one another. According to the bible, sex keeps the marriage strong. But the bible refers directly to the wife and the husband, to the married couple only.
The fact is that everyone wants sex, the only difference between you and those people who want sex and have it the time they felt like is that you want it and are going to wait till the right moment for it. And it’s definitely going to feel good, you'll feel like a goal archieved, you'll be enjoying that special moment with that special person, you'll know you were strong enought to step up for yourself and don't knock down your beliefs and values because of others. It will feel way better than if you do it for pressure for people around you. If sex is practiced only cause of the pressured of friends (really? if they were really your friends they won’t pressure to do anything you don’t feel like), or even colleagues, media and others, it definitely won’t fell good like it would felt if you had waited for the right time, the time you wanted, with the person you wanted, in that case, your husband or wife. It would feel good and feel right.
Your body, your rules
I wrote this article, no to discriminate those who have sex and preach about the vow of chastity, I actually wrote it to say that people are able to do whatever they want with their bodies, and that includes you, you can do whatever you want with your body, and if what you want to do with your body is save it to only have sex after your wedding, it’s you choice, It’s not wrong, and there’s no reason for shaming, your body, your rules, no matter what people says about it.
If a truly devoted Christian has sex with someone it means that they trust a hundred per cent on that person and they already made up their mind about spending the rest of their life with that person, they are already married to that person. If you are in a relationship and are felling pressure to have sex with that person, don’t be sad if you decide to break up with your partner due to the lack of respect to your values and beliefs, hold on tight, clean up that tear on your check, you can handle it, because you know that God’s is preparing something better for you, way better, and it definitely won’t make you cry at the end.