- Gender and Relationships
Sharing that first cup of coffee each day.
Flowers for Eternity
Relationships are always changing; keeping your spouse happy should at least be on your radar when it comes to a daily routine. It's not about sex, sex is good but there are other things to consider. Friendship, communication and healthy touch are part of being a couple. Many people forget these along the way somehow. I struggled for years thinking I had to buy my wife nice things, get her flowers for every occasion; buy her jewelry and the latest gadgets for birthday and anniversaries.
She liked these things but the flowers would wilt, the gadgets would get outdated and be put in a drawer somewhere and they would only come every few months.
So I set out on a quest to see what I could do on a daily basis that would make a difference in our relationship. It all started over a simple cup of coffee.
Romance in the morning - by the light of the shower
For years when my wife jumped out of bed and headed to the shower in the morning, I would let the dogs out, get the paper and make coffee.
My wife always liked a cup of coffee in the morning, with a little cream and sugar but always felt rushed and didn't have time to enjoy it before leaving for work.
One day as I poured my first cup, I decided I would make hers and instead of waiting for her to come down from her morning make-up routine, I would take it too her. She seemed surprised. She even kissed me and said Thank you. I knew I was on to something.
It became a daily routine during the work week. The best part is when I entered with coffee it opened the door for other things. We would converse about what we were going to do that day, sometimes we exchange a hug or a kiss, sometimes just a smile but as I set the coffee on the sink top and turned to leave we were a couple joined in that moment. This is good way to start the morning.
Cream and sugar - Sweeten the romance
Is a simple cup of coffee in the morning enough to keep the home fires burning or do you need flowers and jewelry?
So how do you get better than a cup of coffee in the morning. How about date night. Intentional dating is fun especially when it is planned. Do it together or with friends but do it. We try to go out on Friday night. It allows us to blow off steam from the week, catch up with each other and enjoy ourselfs without kids. Each spouse should take a turn in planning but even if it is not planned do it anyway. It doesn't matter what you do. Don't be so creative you get stressed out about it. A simple meal at home, even a walk in the park is better than nothing at all. You will find you look forward to this time more and more and can't wait for the next date. Romance is easy if you will let it be.
Lasting Love - Daily devotion
It not always as simpe as a cup of coffee, or date night. Things will change and some things just get in the way. Being intentional about your relationship no matter what the obstacles is the objective here. Look for ways to keep the romance alive, communication open and healthy touch within reach.
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