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Wedding Planning Step By Step
Be Organized, Sensible, Keep Your Cool, And Your Budget ...
Article By Sharon Stajda
This article will provide helpful step by step suggestions to help you plan the perfect wedding. Planning your wedding should not be stressful, but fun. It should be a joyous time that you and your future husband come together and plan a fabulous wedding. Planning a wedding does not have to be stressful. In fact planning your wedding should be fun, and pleasurable for you and your fiance. An experience that will leave you both with happy memories .
So, your love has purposed, asking you to spend the rest of your life with him. Your first reaction may have been overwhelming joy. I will lay odds that your second reaction was, I am going to be a bride, and it's time to plan my dream wedding. The day has finally come for you to plan your wedding. Perhaps you need a little help? Well I got your back, let me help you plan your perfect wedding. This article will provide you with step by step suggestions to help stay organized, and have fun planning your wedding. Keep in mind if you stay organized planning your wedding will be easy.
It's not just a childhood dream any more It's reality, and reality is not always as pleasurable as a daydream. You may have heard from married friends, and acquaintances how planning a wedding can actually reduce your girlhood dream into a living nightmare. Well, don't lose lose faith, I have a plan for you. I have done my homework, and have some helpful tips on how to plan a fabulous wedding, and avoid common mistakes that can lead to a stressful melt down. I have added step by step instructions on how to plan a perfect wedding, and cut out all the stress that can occur when planning such an event. I have mapped out a step by step plan that I think will keep your wedding plans organized, and non-stressful. Hey, planning your wedding should be fun !
Let's Get Started on the next step to planning your perfect wedding! Take a deep breath, this is going to be fun.
The First Step To Plan The Perfect Wedding - Let's Talk Budget
Step One Set A Realistic Budget For Your Wedding
The first important decision to be made should be. "What kind of wedding do we want, as a couple? What will be the theme of your wedding? Have you considered what your fiancé has in mind for his perfect wedding day? Plus, what's your budget, what can you really afford? Yes, reality can kick in when your budget does not support the wedding you both have dreamed of, and desire. You also may need to alter your dream wedding to incorporate "his" dream wedding.
Make a budget and try to stay as close to it as possible. If you go over on one item, try to see what you can negotiate on. Keep that budget with you. One suggestion is to keep everything in a 3 ring binder; when you need any information at all, it's in one spot. Start planning the sooner the better, this will allow you start looking for sales.
How Many Guests Can You Afford? - Your fiancee and you have to sit down and put your heads together, and come up with a sensible guest list.
Step Two Your Wedding Guest List
It may seem funny to you, that you start your wedding plans with the guest list, But, this is an important place to start. In the end it helps keep the budget down.
.After you've gotten a basic idea for how many guest you want, and you can afford, you then have to make the guest list. You'll be including family members, friends, relatives, work acquaintances, and many others. The problem is that you can't keep everyone on that list, even if you have an unlimited budget. Why should should you keep the number low? Of course, a lot of couples may protest, and say that the more that people come, the more gifts we'll receive, and while that's true, let's talk about what a wedding really is first.
A wedding is a celebration of a couple's marriage. And those that come to the wedding should be very happy to celebrate it, rather than just coming for the food and drink. You want people there that have made a difference in your life. You want to invite people whose names you know, and can repeat. This is not the time to invite everyone that you've ever met. Invite the important people, the people that will make your wedding day feel special.
After you have made your guest list, go over all of the guest, are there names you can omit? It's smart not to omit family members family, unless there is a real situation, such as a family feud of some sort. Figure out who you really care about being at your wedding, and those who you just know you have to invite. When it comes to friends consider how long has it been since you've actually talked with that friend? If its been a long time, you probably can cross them off the list. Know when it comes to co-workers, invite whomever you have a close relationship with. This means that you don't have to invite your boss, but it's always nice to do so, just out of courtesy.
Making your invitation list shouldn't feel like a burden. At the end of the day, you want to look at your guest list, and see all the people that you care about, and want to share your happy day with. Remember, it's your wedding, and your time, so don't let anyone else talk you into inviting people that you're not keen on inviting.
After The Guest List Is Complete. It's Time To Choose Where To Hold The Nuptials?
You've Secured A Venue For The Nuptials. Time To Secure A Venue To Host The Reception
Step Three Where To Hold The Wedding Ceremony - The Nuptials
So will it be a small or large church wedding? Perhaps a garden wedding. You get the picture. After you have made up your minds on what kind of wedding you want. It's time to choose the actual space (church, hall, garden) you want to hold the nuptials? After you have made up your mind, and have your heart set on a perfect spot -- book it! Don't hesitate, and let that perfect spot be taken by another couple on the day you need it. By hesitating you may lose your dream location.
Step Four Secure The Wedding Reception Venue
Having a reception? Same goes as choosing the important wedding location. Scout out your places of interest, choose the perfect reception hall, and again book it..
Your Reception Venue Is Secured, Time To Hire The Perfect Caterer
Step Five Hiring A Caterer For Your Wedding
You have the date, the clergy, the nuptial site, the reception hall. You now need to book a competent caterer. who will be in charge of creating, and serving the menu of your dreams.A good place to start your search for the ideal caterer is by talking to everyone you know about their experiences with local catering companies. Such as friends, family, wedding gown shops, or the people at the reception hall you booked. Most reception halls will have a list of caterers that they can recommend. You should also take advantage of the many catering companies you might find on the Internet. Take any and all referrals and cross-check them , and any others you may have come across yourself with the Better Business Bureau. By doing this you can make sure that everything seems legit ,and that the companies in question are in good standing. Have a favorite local restaurants? Check to see if they cater? After you have narrowed down your search to the top caterers of interest, make appointments to meet with each in person. This will provide you with the opportunity to sample their food, and talk booking date, and budget with the caterer. Tip: You might also want to know whether the caterer will be working any other weddings on that day you have scheduled their service to provide the meal for your wedding? The more work a caterer takes on , could mean less time dedicated to you and your services. Make sure the caterer has ample employees to make sure all the food is prepared with care.
The most important issues that you need to discuss with a caterer has to do with the style of the reception you want to have, and your budget. Talking with your potential caterer about the options, pricing, and other issues that might be of concern is the best way to avoid over spending, and other communication problems that could arise. Cocktails and Hors d'oeuvre can be simple, and inexpensive regardless of the formality of it.
*Tea's and dessert receptions less expensive, and can be very elegant.
*Lunches and brunches will cost significantly less than full blown dinners.
*Family style meals will cost less than formally served meals.
*Buffets may or may not be less expensive than a sit-down meal.
*Buffet styles include an informal self-serve style buffet or stations, and a formal served buffet.
Color Combinations For Your Reception Decor - The Latest Wedding Color Combinations for Every Season ...
Step Six - Time To Choose Your Dream Wedding Dress
This is most likely the day you have been waiting for, the day you shop for your dream wedding dress. I have one very helpful tip that you might want to consider before you shop for that special dress. Consider what style will best suit your figure type. The videos just below have some wonderful suggestions on how to find the style of gowned that will suit your figure.
The Wedding Dress - It's Time To "Say Yes To The Dress"
Choosing A Wedding Gown That Suits Ones Figure Type.
Brides That Have A Small Wedding Gown Budget. Consider Looking At Some Preowned Wedding Gowns
Are You Be Choosing A Vintage Wedding Gown?
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If you can't afford the expensive dress of your dreams, think of a few other options;
1.Let your "bridal Consultant know upfront that you're on a budget. Tell her what you can afford to spend on a wedding dress.
2. Let your consultant know you are open to trying on last years styles.
Be open to try on many different styles, dresses that fit your budget.
3. Consider purchasing a gently worn pre owned wedding gown. Remember most wedding gowns are worn for such a short time. You may just find the dress of your dreams, at a price you can afford. A price that would be way under what the original bride paid for the dress.
4. Consider borrow a wedding gown.
Ebay Has Thousands Of Beautiful Gently Used Wedding Gowns You Might Want To Consider
Take the time to check out the thousands of beautiful Famous designer wedding gowns on ebay. Just add the name of the designer and the words wedding gown. You may be pleasantly surprised to find hundreds of wedding gowns made by the designers that you hope to wear on your wedding day. However, thought you could never afford. Well, you may be very happy to hear, you can afford a gently used designer gown.
Your Dress Has Been Ordered Time To Choose Your Wedding Flowers
Step seven - Time To Choose Your Wedding Flowers
First always consider your budget, and what flowers will be in season or easy for the florist to provide on your wedding date? Blooms that are out of season or hard to obtain may be costly. This is just a tip to keep in mind. If your budget is small, but you just have to have an expensive bloom, ask the florist to use less of the expensive flower, but do add it to your arraignment.
Tip For The Budget Minded Bride:
When choosing Flowers here are a few tips that might save money, yet give you the what you desire in your wedding bouquet, and table decorations.
If it's real flowers you want, think about having just one or two flowers tied with a ribbon for you and your attendants. Also use your throw away bouquet for the bridal table center piece at the reception. Otherwise make your own flowers. Go online or find a book, or ask someone to help you. Have a get together for those that have offered to help. Make it fun. Ask the groom's mother to help if she can. She may enjoy it. Use balloons to decorate as well.
Tips On Picking Out Just The Right Wedding Bouquet
Choosing wedding flowers reflects the color and theme of the whole event. Choose wedding flowers with tips from two event coordinators in this free video on wedding planning.
Wedding Trivia - Where Did The Tradition Of Throwing The Wedding Bouquet Come From Anyway?
The Tradition Of Tossing The Wedding Bouquet
Throwing the wedding bouquet dates back many centuries, this tradition originated in England. Guests used to grab at the bride's clothing, and flowers. Just hoping to share in the bride's joy. It would seem they thought a memento of sorts from the bride's dress or flowers would help to pass the joy on among the guests.
This wedding tradition lead up to the bride trying to protect her clothing, as well as escape the mad rush of people. It came to be that the bride would toss her bouquet of flowers into the crowd to appease them.
Luckily the tradition of the bouquet is a little more civilized today, and perhaps more fun than it was back then.
The Wedding Cake - Make Sure Your Fiancé Helps Choose The Cake. The fiance's should have his favorite flavor included in the wedding cake. It's only fair.
Step Eight Choosing Your Wedding Cake
First choose a flavor of cake. Bride can't agree with the Groom? Alternate flavors. As a rule this is a better way to go anyway. It gives your guest a bit of a selection on what they might prefer. Choosing the cake can be fun, the baker will always have loads of photo's and sample cakes for you to choose from. Cakes can range in price from inexpensive to very expensive. So, before meeting with your baker, consider what type of design you would like your cake to be, and come up with an amount you feel comfortable spending on the cake. Let the baker know of these decisions up front. This tends to make the process a lot easier on all concerned.
A little wedding cake trivia
Wedding Cake Trivia
Wedding cakes in the early 1900s began to be made of white cake, and white frosting. As a rule they were a one large layer cake, that would be decorated with real flowers. This was a big change from the typical wedding cakes of the 1800s, which were made of currant and nuts. Somewhat like our Christmas fruit cake of today, with a sugar glaze added.
In the 1900s a groom's cake was also included in the wedding feast. The groom's cake was of the dark fruity nature, it was meant to last. You see the groom's cake was to be cut and wrapped, and single girls were to take it home to tuck under their pillow, for perhaps sweet dreams.
Step Nine It's Finally Time To Set Up Your Gift Registry
Step nine - Setting Up Your Wedding Gift Registry
Believe it or not, you have just made the biggest decisions. The rest should be are easy, and fun. You may think this next task should be later in the program? But its not, and I will tell you why. Setting up your registry should be fun, and not become a rushed task as wedding planning proceeds. Plus it is a curiosity to guests that will be looking for that perfect gift to please the bride and groom. On another note, people today tend to love to buy ahead. In some respect it's just more convenient to get the gift buying out of the way. When setting up your registry give plenty of gift options. Also select items in a wide range of prices. This makes it easy on a guest that truly wants to splurge on a gift, while keeping in mind those that may not be able to splurge on a gift. but truly wants to buy an item that you will enjoy.
Wedding Registry Tips - Be Organized, And Know What Gifts You Hope To Receive...
Choosing The Wedding Invitations
Step Ten Time To Choose The Wedding Invitations
If formal, keep the choice of invitation formal. If your wedding is more casual, keep the invitation casual. Do you want to have guest respect formal attire? Add this wish to your invitation. There are a wide variety of invitations on the market, so it won't be hard to pick the perfect one for your wedding.
This is also a good time to compile the guest list. Future in-laws should be requested to submit persons, along with address to those persons that they would like to be considered to be invited to the wedding. It is smart to supply in-laws with a specific number of guests that you will feel comfortable to accommodate with invitations. By supplying a given number, it should avert the possibility of a very uncomfortable problem that could occur, if the in-laws list is to long... Its smart to be up front, and avert this problem.
When To Send Invitations - Keeping To Wedding Etiquette
Start to address your wedding invitations three months before the wedding. Ideally etiquette states, wedding invitations should be sent 8 weeks prior to the wedding. This courtesy allowing guests several weeks to make travel arrangements if need be, also to arrange time off from work if necessary, before sending them back to you.
Keep in mind you will need to get them back in advance so you can start labeling place cards, make final head count for the caterer, etc. Ask for an RSVP date 4 weeks before your wedding. If you keep to this schedule all will run smoothly.
Fun Wedding Invitation Trivia
Weddings invitations in the 1860s were printed on bands of white ribbon, and then mounted on white parchment paper, and then folded and sealed. They were then delivered by hand by family servants.
"Here Comes The Bride"
Step Eleven Time To Decide On The Music You Will Walk Down The music for that walk isle to?
When was "Here Comes The Bride" written? Who wrote it?
Weddings in the 1850s were often a very solemn affair. The over-piety of earlier years still held for most church ceremonies. But here and there, organ music before or after the marriage vows was being per mitted, and soon became customary. At first, the organist was left to select as he pleased from Bach and the other classicists. Gradually, however, two favorites appeared, The Bridal Chorus from Wagner's Lohengrin and the Wedding March which Mendelssohn wrote for Midsummers Night's Dream. Everyone knows the opening strains of Wagner's "Here Comes the Bride", also the gay Mendelssohn music which accompanies the wedding party as they march away from the altar. Thus was set the wedding's traditional musical entrance and exit, which has existed now for over 100 years.
It Would Be Smart To Pick Up Emily Post's Book On Wedding Etiquette
So much goes into planning the perfect wedding. You need a great book to help with all the wedding etiquette questions that will come up. "The Knot Complete Guide To Wedding In The Real World" is a wonderful book to have on hand while planning your wedding. This book offers a great guide to answer most of your wedding off the wall questions while you are in the process of planning your special day.
The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner offers an area in the book where the bride and groom can record wedding ideas, create budget guidelines, check items off their to-do list, generate the guest list, store contact information for their wedding vendors, and get tips and advice on the best way to plan their big day. Plus there are chapters on choosing the right reception site, picking the right photographer, planning the menu, and so much more. You will find a chapter on "Questions to Ask" checklists, and the "Knot Knowledge" tips, which include money saving ideas. This great book also has a gift log, a budget tracker, and a wedding-day phone contacts sheet.
Each chapter also includes her down-to-earth answers to commonly asked wedding etiquette questions, such as whether it's appropriate for a close relative to host the wedding shower or if the wedding couple should pay for guest's travel expenses. The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner may just be the next best thing to hiring a wedding planner.
I recommend purchasing this book from Amazon. I have it listed right below for your conveniences. Remember, Amazon sells new and used. So if you want to save a bit of cash, check out the used copies that are available .