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signs a woman attracted

Updated on November 30, 2013

Signs a Woman Attracted

How Women Show Interest In a Man.

To learn to flirt with woman you must start off very simply - flirting with women already attracted to you. You must learn the signs that a woman attracted displays. As part of the process of learning the signs of a woman attracted to you or at least interested in meeting you, you have to watch women, their facial expressions and what they do with their body when they see someone interesting. (The absolutely, the best, the most delightful part of learning women's body language.)

Your job for the next month is go where men and women are and watch them. Learn the signs of a woman attracted to you,

Watch the flirting going on and try to interpret it using the information that follows in this lens. Remember you don't have to have all these signs sent to you before you respond. Women use these signs just in case you missed a few or are just too ignorant to pick up on all of them - most men fall in this category.

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Most men are just like this poor guy - they just don't pick up on the signals she is broadcasting.

Really pay attention to the video and then Click Here for more information.

Subtle Signs

I know - most signs that women send out are a bit more subtle than the video, but you get the idea. In a crowded room, bar, club or wherever she will most likely use body language.

A lot of the initial contact conversation from a woman is subtle body language so let's explore the more subtle signs.

The I'm Interested Gaze
The I'm Interested Gaze

Showing Interest With The Eyes

The first sign that a woman is interested in you

The Eyebrow Flash, Then The Gaze

Usually a woman will show interest with her eyes first. She will look at you, catch you eye and flash her eyebrows by quickly raising and then lowering them in a flash.

She is interested and hopes you indicate interest back. You can do an eyebrow flash back at her or just return her 4 second gaze with a smile.

The 4 Second Gaze

Eye contact may be the most used of all flirting signal by women to show interest. A women will look over the male population in the area until someone looks attractive to her, then she gives her interest a 3 to 4 second stare when he looks her way. She may then drop her eyes but maintain eye contact for 2-3 seconds to see if you are looking at her.

The answer is to look her in the eyes for 3-4 seconds. If she starts playing with her hair or jewelry, starts adjusting her clothing or appear nervous - she is signalling you to approach.

Showing interest also includes the scan, she scans you from head to foot because she likes what she sees.

The eyebrow flash and the gaze means "I'm interested." You have a green light to approach.

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Some of these signs are so subtle most men miss them.

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Does she mean what she is saying or just the opposite. Body language seldom lies, this book has the illustrations so you know what to look for.

Body Language: Secrets of Body Language - Female Body Language. Learn to Tell if She's Interested or Not!
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Pointing With Her Whole Body
Pointing With Her Whole Body

A Good Sign of Flirting is Pointing

The Second Sign a Woman Interested

If you really watch woman you will notice that they point a LOT! But you have to notice what they point with.

Women point with their fingers, hands, shoulders, arms, breasts, legs, knees, feet, toes, naval and face. When a woman is interested in you she will point at you. You must pay attention to her to see if she points at you.

We unconsciously point at what we want - but - not always directly. Sometimes when flirting we raise our shoulder - point it at you and gaze at you over the shoulder. (The "come hither" look.)

The raised shoulder not only raises our breast, but resembles a breast, what better way of getting your attention.

Shoulder orientation is the second most obvious sign of interest. This gesture is the most common used next to eye contact as an indicator of interest.

Her upper body will be facing you, which allows both shoulders and breasts to not only point at you but allows her to appear open to approach.

She is giving you permission to approach. Another green light - don't wait MOVE!

Woman Flinging Hair For Attention
Woman Flinging Hair For Attention

Tossing or Playing With Her Hair

Attention Getting Signs of Woman Attracted

Women's hair is one of our most sensual features and we use it to get your attention. If the gaze doesn't work she may point at you and toss her hair when she thinks you are looking her way. Even woman with short hair do this as it still attracts attention.

If she likes what she sees when you return the 4 second stare she will probably toss her head, run her fingers through her hair or push some hair behind her ear. She may adjust her clothing or play with her purse and keep checking on you.

This is a grooming gesture that women do to make themselves look better, this is also a self soothing activity if you make her excited by approaching her.

This means "Talk to me."

Come Hither Look.
Come Hither Look.

Woman Indicating She Is Approachable

The Fourth Sign a Woman Attracted

Another Sign of a Women Signalling Interest in You.

When a woman is signalling you to approach she may very well move her elbows backward enhancing her chest, giving herself a non-surgical breast lift, and move her hands apart thereby opening her shoulders in invitation.

Or she may cross her chest with one hand and lift her breasts to catch your interest.

She may sit with her hands resting on her knees and have the fingers pointing at you.

She will either position her body straight at you or look over the shoulder with a "come-hither" look much like the image to the right..

This means"Approach Me!!"

If you see one of these smoldering "come-hither" looks you better get hither NOW!.

Woman pointing with knee
Woman pointing with knee

Body Language of a Woman Very Interested

Ultimate Sign of Woman Attracted

As I said above she will position herself directily at you. She may also cross her legs with one knee pointing at you. She may lean toward you or reveal a bit more leg to you. She can also tilt her head, caresses her neck or thigh. If she starts rubbing her lower leg with the palm of her hand - get over there now!

Now that you have been exposed to it, you can see why women's body language is so complex. If I am giving you a long look, slinging my hair, giving an eyebrow flash and smiling - what am I saying?

Get over here NOW and talk to me!

Last Thoughts

As I said before you don't have to get all these signs before you approach her. If you see two or more signs - respond!! You do have to pay attention, these signs won't last all night and if you don't flirt back believe me some other guy will be happy to.

The sooner you respond to her signals the more she will feel that you are a confident, "Get It" kind of guy!

Now you will get rejected at times. Remember you are learning, if you don't fail, how do you correct mistakes and get better at flirting? Remember there are thousands of women out there that would be very happy to have your company - it is your job to find them.

To Quote Nike - Just Do It!

Good Luck!


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      DelmoLoDuca 4 years ago

      It's a ritual ...a seduction ritual. Thanks for the tips from a woman's perspective Mandi. Where were you when I needed you? :) For the guys I have a similar website to bolster their self confidence and educate on such things as you have.

      Nice work.


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      anonymous 5 years ago

      many many thanks