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How to Cope with being Single as a Christian Man or Woman

Updated on February 14, 2015
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Ms. Vincent is an M.B.A graduate, Business Consultant and health, wellness & natural healing enthusiast, who reads a lot on those subjects.

Black Women - Church Women - Single Women - Conversing
Black Women - Church Women - Single Women - Conversing

So Why Aren’t You Married Yet (Single Man or Single Woman)?

For many women, being single can feel like a curse. Especially if you are a woman who is past 40 years and you are constantly 'attacked' with the question of "When are you getting married?"

Many people are either insensitive or quite oblivious to the fact that there are two (2) kinds of single men/women:

1st Type of Single Women/Men: Women/Men who CHOOSE to be single. There are men/women who don't want to be Priests or Religious Sisters (Nuns) but just want to be free of the responsibility of having to care for a husband/wife and children.

There is nothing wrong with these women/men. They just prefer their peace of mind and people should respect that. Not every woman/man wants to get married or sees it as part of her/his life's accomplishments.

2nd Type of Single Women/Men: Women/men who would like to get married but have not found an appropriate spouse. Then there are women/men who would very much like to find their life partner, get married and have children but who have not managed to find the right life partner as yet.

Again! There is nothing wrong with these women/men. Reaching a certain age does not guarantee that you will find your life partner nor does it require you to 'force fit' yourself into a marriage because 'the biological clock is ticking' as most people say.

People need to respect that also, since hurried marriages often end in divorce.

Stuff Christian Singles Hear - Comedy Video - If you're single and have a good sense of humor, then have a laugh. I did!

"Chicken Soup" for Single Men & Single Women

As a single woman who desires to have a family (husband and children), I know that it can be quite difficult to watch as you see your nieces, nephews, godchildren, classmates' children and colleagues' children grow up right before your very eyes and still not have your own dream of family realized.

If you are a single Christian woman/man waiting for the blessing of a spouse and family, I want you to trust in God's Divine Providence!

Despite the passing time and your feelings of sadness, sometimes, it is important that you remember that God provides all of your needs and will hear and answer your prayer and grant the deepest desire of your heart in the best possible way and in His perfect timing.

Remember, God's timing is not our timing, but from experience and in retrospect, we can always see that however God works things out He always works them out for our good.

So if as you read this article, you are a single woman/man who desires to have a family of her/his own or you know of some single man/woman who is still waiting to be blessed with a spouse, I urge you to be encouraged and not lose heart as you continue reading and/or share this article to lift someone's spirits.

Chicken Soup for the Single's Soul
Chicken Soup for the Single's Soul

Whether you’re a single man or woman, you’re not alone. There are many people like you out there. Find inspiration and strength from their stories whether being single is your choice or not.

 
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Find Your Happiness: 101 Inspirational Stories about Finding Your Purpose, Passion, and Joy (Chicken Soup for the Soul (Quality Paper))
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Find Your Happiness: 101 Inspirational Stories about Finding Your Purpose, Passion, and Joy (Chicken Soup for the Soul (Quality Paper))

If you are single by choice, then don’t let insensitive persons steal your joy. You were put on this earth for a purpose. So find out what your purpose and passion is and pursue it!

 

LEAST-liked Quality in a Potential Soulmate?

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Promises From God for Single Women
Promises From God for Single Women

This book covers all the emotions single women experience while waiting on their life partners and includes topics such as Relationships, Betrayal, Forgiveness, Loneliness, Sex, Healing, Hopelessness, Purpose, Abundance.

It provides reminders of bible promises, advice in key life areas and involves you by making you promise certain things to yourself and God as you go on your Christian journey. If you need encouragement, as we all do from time to time, this is the "weapon of choice" along with your Bible of course!

 

Singles Talk About Singleness -- Full Circle Ladies - 1/2

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How do you keep active while waiting on Mr. Right?

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Singles Talk About Singleness -- Full Circle Ladies - 2/2

The best line ever:

"Patience is a virtue, we're told, but it's hard to be patient when loneliness grabs hold of your heart and it seems like it won't let go."

Loving relationship - Loving Couple - Anniversary gift giving
Loving relationship - Loving Couple - Anniversary gift giving
Love and Responsibility
Love and Responsibility

In this book, Pope John Paul II examines the contrast between the personalistic and the utilitarian views of marriage and of sexual relations. “The former views marriage as an interpersonal relationship, in which the well-being and self-realization of each partner are of overriding importance to the other.

It is only within this framework that the full purpose of marriage can be realized. The alternative, utilitarian view, according to which a sexual partner is an object for use, holds no possibility of fulfillment and happiness.”

 
Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body
Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body

If all men and women read this book and understand Pope John Paul II's “magnificent vision of the human person” as intended by God, then men and women will have better and more uplifting, respectful love relationships.

 

Your FAVOURITE Book in the Bible

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Style, Sex, and Substance: 10 Catholic Women Consider the Things that Really Matter
Style, Sex, and Substance: 10 Catholic Women Consider the Things that Really Matter

10 Catholic women share their “refreshingly open and humorous perspective to growing in faith and improving their relationship with Christ” by telling “real stories, real struggles, and best of all, real faith and trust that God will bring out the best in all circumstances -- whether in the family room, the bedroom, or at work.”

 
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Divorce and Recovery: 101 Stories about Surviving and Thriving after Divorce
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Divorce and Recovery: 101 Stories about Surviving and Thriving after Divorce

Whether you tried marriage and it did not work out for you or it ended even if you didn’t want it to, you can still be happy as a single person once again. The world has not ended and over time your hurt will heal. Find inspiration in these pages as you take all the time you need to heal and find your way again.

 

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Chicken Soup for the Soul Love Stories: Stories of First Dates, Soul Mates, and Everlasting Love
Chicken Soup for the Soul Love Stories: Stories of First Dates, Soul Mates, and Everlasting Love

Countless people have found and kept their soul mates. Receive inspiration and encouragement from their stories. You will find your soul mate too!

 

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Do you do Praise & Worship? Are you Single by Choice? Are you Single and Waiting for a Spouse? What's your single experience?

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @andreea22: I am extremely happy, andreea22, that this lens was a blessing to you. Thank you for publicly sharing this with us here, Have a blessed weekend, week ahead and may God bless you with all of the confidence you need.

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      andreea22 3 years ago

      Your lens came as a blessing to me! It gave me confidence and made me feel a lot better. Thank you!

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @JoanieMRuppel54: Please accept my sympathy, jsr54, on the passing of your spouse. Yes. That is another kind of singleness that is sometimes difficult to deal with. I will pray also that God will help and lead you. Have a blessed wek.

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      Joanie Ruppel 3 years ago from Keller, Texas

      I am single now as a widow and as much as I would love to find a mate again, I am just asking God to lead me where He wants me. It's very hard but I know it's the right path.

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @sabaz: Thanks for visiting and sharing your views on being single, sabaz. Have a blessed week.

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      sabaz 3 years ago

      i am not single ,and i never want to be.i am agree that being a single is a cruse.life means to share to take responsibilities.If you don't have someone to cook for ,take care for, then what are you doing on earth??Its my "thinking",but i do honor those are single by choice :)

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @knit1tat2: God never makes broken promises, knit1tat2. So your new ministry and special help mate are on the way. Rachael, Sarah and Elizabeth must have all felt just like you that 'it' is not going to happen but as you already know, God's timing is not our timing but it is the best timing. Thanks for visiting and your lovely personal sharing.

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      knit1tat2 4 years ago

      I'm too single and waiting, with many promises of a new ministry and special help mate too. I can hardly wait! But yup, it's like knowing Christmas is only a year away! Nice lens, I enjoyed it!

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @takkhisa: Thanks for visiting and commenting takkhis. Happy Easter!

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      Takkhis 4 years ago

      Beautiful photos. I like the 3rd one very much, well it is really good to give or deliver something to others :)

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      Vikki 4 years ago from US

      I 'LOVE" TD Jakes...so inspiring. Always learn something new from him; gain a new perspective. Happy Valentine's Day. #blessed

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @CoolFool83: Thanks godfather25 for your visit and endorsement of my lens as a man, Have a blessed week.

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      CoolFool83 4 years ago

      This is a very thoughtful lense. I really loved it a lot. Well done.

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @artsybookmom: You're welcome artsybookmom! Thanks for visiting and sharing your praise and worship experience.

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      artsybookmom 4 years ago

      I love to praise and worship. It's a great way to wait on the Lord. Thanks for blessing my lens.

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @shawnhi77 lm: Thank you so much shawnhi77 for your words of encourage to all single women. I appreciate your contribution especially since you are a man. Have a blessed weekend.

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      shawnhi77 lm 4 years ago

      Wonderful lens and very well done...and I am not even a Single Woman. I just want to say to all the women that are waiting that the right man is out there. Lose the zeros and wait for God's hero for your life.

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @anonymous: Thanks for the visit SereneSea and your lovely compliment. Have a blessed week.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Very much required and on time for Single Women.

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      @favored: Thanks favored1 for visiting and sharing about your praise and worship experience. Have a blessed Sunday and week ahead!

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      Fay Favored 4 years ago from USA

      Yes I do, and find it is the help I often need for each situation.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @kiratalley: Thanks for the visit and affirmation kiratalley.

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      kiratalley 5 years ago

      Praise and Worship is so beneficial for your soul! Great lens, thanks!

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @coolmon2009 lm: Thanks coolmon2009 for visiting and sharing and the compliment on my lens.

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      Tony Bonura 5 years ago from Tickfaw, Louisiana

      Do you have anything about God's promises for single men? I have stopped looking years ago, but you never know what might happen with God!TonyB

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      coolmon2009 lm 5 years ago

      I attended the Potters House a few times; most of the time I attend a church closer to my home, nice lens

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @tonybonura: Looks like the men feel forgotten TonyB. I'll put together something and get back to you. I didn't realize single men cared about that kind of information. Thanks for visiting and asking. You are not the first male to ask the same question.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @wecomparebooks: My apologies wecomparebooks! I'll get right to work on something just for the men. Didn't mean to discriminate. :) Enjoy your weekend.

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      wecomparebooks 5 years ago

      What about single men? I'm a single guy, what do you have for me?

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @LaraineRoses: Thanks for the visit and compliment Laraine.

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      Laraine Sims 5 years ago from Lake Country, B.C.

      Beautiul!

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      CleaningGreenBu 5 years ago

      Nice lens!

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @RedShoesGirl: Thanks for visiting, sharing anc complimenting my lens TheGirlWithTheRedShoes.

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      RedShoesGirl 5 years ago

      Loneliness can be hard to take, but staying with the wrong person is worse in my opinion. I really love this lens. :)

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @BLemley: Thanks BLemley for visiting and sharing. Have a blessed week.

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      Beverly Lemley 5 years ago from Raleigh, NC

      Loneliness is a terrible persuader! Trying to avoid loneliness will surely make you sidetrack! Better to stay in the Word and stay true to a course you know is healthy and right. It's better to be respected than loved (quote from Chris Christie at Rep. National Convention) You can grow into love if you are respected. Words well worth remembering!

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @TolovajWordsmith: Thanks for visiting and sharing Tolovaj, as a man, even though this lens focuses on women. You are quite right that men struggle with similar issues.

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      Tolovaj Publishing House 5 years ago from Ljubljana

      Interesting thoughts on important subject. I think we all, men and women, single, in relationships... experience loneliness sooner or later. It is good to know how to deal with it.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @captainj88: Nice to hear from you leahjsongs. Thanks for sharing your testimony on praise and worship and your single life. I am happy you found these resources useful.

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      Leah J. Hileman 5 years ago from East Berlin, PA, USA

      Great lens, great resources. Yes, I definitely Praise & Worship my Lord, Jesus Christ, the real Bridegroom. I enjoy being single, and get great satisfaction out of my ministry, hobbies, and interests.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @Stacy Birch: It is indeed quite difficult Stacy. Thanks for visiting and sharing.

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      Stacy Birch 5 years ago

      It's hard being a single woman of a certain age which is why Persuasion by Jane Austen is my favorite book. Good lens.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @VickiLeesBookshelf: Thanks for visiting, sharing and complimenting my lens.

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      VickiLeesBookshelf 5 years ago

      Being positive is everything-- along with a healthy dose of humor.. :-)Really nice lens!Vicki

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @anonymous: Thanks for visiting and sharing TeamSTM.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Prayer is Communication with God and it Must Flow Freely besides, how we reat God is how we will treat our Soulmate or twinflame! ;) :D

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @squidoopets: Excellent squidoopets! Thanks for visiting and commenting.

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      Darcie French 5 years ago from Abbotsford, BC

      Every day I try to live my life like a prayer :)

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @getmoreinfo: I agree with you getmoreinfo, he is wonderful! After you hear about his earlier hardships in life then you can understand why he can relate in such a personal and powerful way to the situations people face in their lives. Thanks for visiting and sharing.

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      getmoreinfo 5 years ago

      I have watched T.D. Jakes on television and what I like about his talks is that he always helps people to be positive in the way they look at the situations they are going through in life, and I think that is refreshing.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @eccles1: Thanks eccles1 for visiting and sharing. I know exactly where you are coming from. We seem to think God needs help but it is we who just need to wait and trust God and his timing. Have a blessed week and take a look at my lens Unanswered prayers:Waiting on God. You will be blessed by what Joyce Meyers and TD Jakes both have to say.

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      eccles1 5 years ago

      I love the picture those are some pretty dresses !! its been awhile since I have worn a pretty dress ! But as far as being single I think women that are waiting for Mr.Right to happen we sometimes make things happen with the wrong ones!What would Bishop T. D. Jakes advice be ? I found him years ago late night on TV when I was hurting there were a few of them that I watched and listened and sometimes they do help !!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Wait upon the Lord, can't go wrong with that no mater what. :)

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @Mandy Stradley: I hope you are right Mandy :) Thanks for visiting and commenting on my lens. have a blessed weekend.

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      Mandy Stradley 5 years ago

      Sometimes Mr. Right comes along when you are least expecting it!

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @JoshK47: Thanks Josh for visiting and commenting on my lens.

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      JoshK47 5 years ago

      Interesting read - thanks for sharing.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @sociopath-free: Thanks SocialpathFree for visiting and commenting on my lens Promises From God for Single Women. I think you are one of the lucky ones like St. Paul who are not seeking life partners :) So although I agree with you that we each possess within ourselves all it needs to make it in life, there are other mortals like myself, who desire a life partner and family because for us it more than just making it in life. If everyone thought like you and St. Paul, people would be extinct because no one would be forming families. :)

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      sociopath-free 5 years ago

      I'm single and not looking. Each of us has 100 percent of what we need to make it in this life.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @WriterJanis2: You can say that again, WriterJanis! Thanks for visiting and commenting on my lens.

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      WriterJanis2 5 years ago

      When you're single, it seems to take forever for Mr. Right to come along.

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @ClassyGals: Thank you for your compliments ClassyGals and your BLESSINGS of this lens!!!

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      Cynthia Davis 5 years ago from Pittsburgh

      I love your style! Beautifully created lens, love all the polls and the intro picture is so attractive. Angel Blessings**

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      Heidi Vincent 5 years ago from GRENADA

      @OliviaDaughter LM: Such a lovely compliment from you OliviaDaughter. Thank you.

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      OliviaDaughter LM 5 years ago

      Wonderful article, I am grateful you wrote on the subject. God is worthy of ALL the praise. I work on a daily basis to draw closer to the Lord. Keep bringing articles like these. Thanks