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sissy men and the women who love them
am i a pervert miss?
of course you are, dear. but what's wrong with that? the last time i checked, not a single soul was ever really hurt [at least not physically] by wearing a frilly gown or a tutu or some beautiful silky knickers. you are not a freak. you're just expressing desires and passions differently. some women will love it, some will HATE it and others will want to borrow your outfits! hopefully you can have the first and last and stay clear of the middle. poor things. no, you're not bad for wanting to dress feminine. you're also not BAD for wanting to have your wife or girlfriend accept you for everything you are. in fact, if you don't have that, i suggest finding it before your time is up. we should ALL be found guilty of being ourselves at heaven's gate. the other sins are still in question at this time. being truly, uniquely YOU is nothing to shame one's self over. it's for your mistress to shame you, if that's your choice. [it's my personal favorite, but that's really neither here, nor there.] i want you to know you're gorgeous.
will i ever find her?
absolutely you will. as soon as you are READY to find her. i promise you, the woman for you is out there. she is willing and ready to let you service her as maid, as friend... and giggle like one of the girls. she will make sure you shop with her and you can rest assured she has bitch potential, Goddess potential and great best friend potential. it all depends on how open you are to receiving these gifts. just like any relationship, you have to be willing to dive in and get hurt. that can be the sissy's biggest issue. for one thing, sissies need the UTMOST trust. they need safety. trusting early on, in fact, too early on in a relationship can lead to a lifetime of bad decisions. i think this is why many men stay out of the whole fetish completely. some men, well, they love the risk. the fact is, every single feminised male will be different and unique in some way. i am learning that what my previous sissy wanted, my current lover has nothing to do with. there is no suckling, for one thing. while i miss it slightly, it's just not his thing. but his panties. his corset and my flogging hand gets a lot of use. you have to be ready and open to love. this is a time of reconciling your manhood with your girlishness. those frills and frocks are waiting on you. and the woman who will love them? she is ready too. she's dominant and possibly controlling [such as i am] but i'll bet her heart is pure gold. she will ADORE being spoiled, and not expect it. she knows what is best for you, she will lead and let you melt in her lap. my favorite task as a Domme [and yes, we have them too!] is allowing my pet to rest his head on my breast or in my lap and petting him. this gives him the feeling of complete servitude and submission. it's a very feminine act. women cry on one another all the time. [or most of us with close girlfriends do] and it's nice! why wouldn't a boy desire that? i say, if a woman cannot let you cry and pout in her lap, move on. she's not the one for a sissy.
what should i do right now?
well, besides stop touching yourself you naughty, naughty sissy boy, you SHOULD start believing in your emotions as valuable. sure, work is hard. you've had your nose to the grindstone for years, now, have you not? no breaks. no tasks to come home to. just a sort of frown on your face as you leave the office. [another night alone, or WORSE, another night hiding who you probably were meant to be deep down.] you cannot imagine the fun and thrill of finding yourself able to explore who you need to be. i think you should let it out. go enjoy a pink cocktail! [even if you have to make it yourself.] put in an umbrella. CELEBRATE your sissy side and put on those satin panties and have a couple of tugs and then go to sleep. but seriously... why not talk to someone about it? find a friend you can trust. go to a therapist. or even write or comment here. you are not alone. the world is cruel and even though *I*, too, am cruel at times, i love to see the vulnerable, crying sissy side of men. a man who is trying to control me does nothing for me. in fact, i am so spoiled i just want to kick them for trying to treat me like ANYTHING other than a Goddess. well, obviously, that's not going to happen every time i am out. so even miss m pouts. :P be a good boy. write yourself a letter. start a little journal and PASSWORD PASSWORD PASSWORD if you must. write about how satin makes you feel. how the vulnerable side juxtaposes to your strong powerful executive side. learn to explore both, and balance the good and bad of both. finally, love yourself enough to take care of you. go back to the gym. fit into that little nightie you have wanted for years. patiently reach out to women who *do* accept sissy boys and even other sissy boys. be playful. go to the cosmetics section [in another town if need be] and buy gifts for "your girlfriend." be your own girlfriend! or take your wife out and buy her something beautiful. watch her eyes light up. stop being a selfish sissy and learn to contribute to beautiful women. share secrets. but above ALL else, love yourself. let yourself be loved and celebrated. find a woman who will adore you because of your sissy fetish... not despite it.