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Something about Friendship
Friendship Is Special
How do you describe friendship? It’s not easy, is it? They say the Eskimos have a hundred words for snow. I am sure we have quite a variety of words in English, or Chinese, for friendship, too, but we are usually stuck with just a few, like good friends, trusted friends, best friends, or intimate friends, etc.
Friends are special people. They don’t have to be the same, and a few similarities or a little bit of common interest are good enough to make a couple of fast friends. They are not worried about being judged. They feel good when they meet. They argue, they fight, but in the end, they are there for each other when it counts.
It sounds a lot like family, and it’s justifiably so – don’t you often have the feeling of family when you are amongst your good friends? On the other hand, it’s sad but true: in many cases, you can’t even consider some of your family members your friends! That’s probably why some people talk to their friends about things that they would otherwise keep secret from their own families. And that’s definitely why a true friendship will last a lifetime – consider this: less than half of American marriages can last that long!
I recently came across some interesting writing about friendship on the Internet (www.friendship.com.au) that I would like to share with you:
The Beauties of Friendship by Samuel Francis Wooland.
- The first person who comes in when the whole world has gone out.
A bank or credit on which we can draw supplies of confidence, counsel, sympathy, help and love.
One who combines for you alike the pleasures and benefits of society and solitude.
A jewel whose luster the strong acids of poverty and misfortune cannot dim.
One who multiplies joys, divides grieves, and whose honesty is inviolable.
One who loves the truth and you, and will tell the truth in spite of you.
The triple alliance of the three great powers, Love, Sympathy, and Help.
A watch which beats true for all time, and never "runs down."
A permanent fortification when one's affairs are in a state of siege.
One who to himself is true, and therefore must be so to you.
A balancing pole to him who walks across the tight rope of life.
The link in life's long chain that bears the greatest strain.
A harbor of refuge from the stormy waves of adversity.
One who considers my need before my deserving.
The jewel that shines brightest in the darkness.
A stimulant to the nobler side of our nature.
A star of hope in the clouds of adversity.
A diamond in the ring of acquaintance.
A volume of sympathy bond in cloth.
Friendship-one soul in two bodies.
An insurance against misanthropy.
One truer to me than I am myself.
One who understands our silence.
A link of gold in the chain of life.
The essence of pure devotion.
The sunshine of calamity.
A second right hand.
Friendship is beautiful, and I can’t say it any better. That “One more friend means one more way”, as the Chinese people would tell you, couldn’t be more true. Now, let’s all go make some friends.