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Spend Time Alone and Enjoy the Company You Keep
Spending Quality Time with Me, Myself, and I
Imagine waking up early for an outing you have planned. You're excited to get the day started. You shower, have breakfast, and don't dilly dally too long online before heading out.
Strange as it may sound to some social butterflies out there, spending quality time with yourself can be some of the best time you'll ever spend. Here's my take on doing things alone and thoroughly enjoying it!
Photo Credit of a Woman Cycling Alone and Loving It: Peggy Hazelwood
Enjoying Your Own Company
Learn to Like Yourself
When I was younger I always felt different from other girls: I never wanted to get married or have kids or anything remotely related to all that. I just didn't think that was for me. I think one reason was that I didn't exactly have good role models in the couples or parenting departments so I never understood the appeal.
I enjoyed reading a lot and making crafts like candles or sewing. Spending time alone for hours on end held more appeal to me than spending time with others.
Then things happened, as they often do, in a person's life. Circumstances and situations come into our lives that change our plans. I didn't crawl into a hole and become a young hermit or anything. I dated, and I ended up marrying and having kids after all. I've never regretted having kids.
But along the way, I often felt on edge. Something wasn't right. But peer pressure is such a powerful thing. We are bombarded by friends, family, television, movies, the media about what we "should" be doing.
I say listen to yourself. What do you want? For me, I wanted more time alone.
Photo Credit of a Lone Giraffe at the Zoo: Peggy Hazelwood
Yes, I'm an Introvert - Nice to Meet You
In case you hadn't guessed, I'm an introvert. I really, really, really enjoy my time alone. I am energized by it. On the other hand, people wear me out. I can be around people but not for long periods of time without getting cranky and tired.
All that talking and the constant doing stuff that often is required at social gatherings literally drains me.
Even if you're reading this and shaking your head, thinking, "what's wrong with her?", I still recommend spending some alone time at least once a week. The benefits of some quality time with yourself can do ya good!
Photo Credit (not to be taken at face value, mind you!): Peggy Hazelwood
Grab a Camera and Get Out There - Alone
One of my favorite solitary activities is to go out in the world with my camera. I'm not a professional photographer, but I love my Canon Powershot point and shoot camera. I can take walks and capture little pieces of my day to enjoy later.
This is the camera I use. It works for me and my solitary (and social) picture taking.
Benefits of Spending Time Alone - You and Yours Will Benefit
Here's why I think spending time alone is so important:
- You'll get to know yourself in a way you can't when surrounded by other people.
- You will find out what you really like.
- You'll become more independent and less needy.
- You will be a stronger, more interesting person to be around.
- Your true self will slowly develop and you'll be you! The one and only original you were meant to be!
Find Out What You Like
Spending time alone helps you develop interests and allows you to find out what you truly enjoy.
This doesn't always happen when you take a class or attend a play or do something else with a friend.
You alone can experience what's going on in your own way with no outside influence.
Do You Enjoy Spending Time Alone?
Do You Enjoy Spending Time Alone?
Read More About the Power of Alone Time - It's Okay.
This book explains how shy, introverted people feel in a loud world.
Read about people through time, like Beatrix Potter and Beethoven, who achieved much from time spent alone.
Spending Time Alone
“Spend some time alone every day.”
~ The Dalia Lama
Ways to Spend More Time Alone
1. Institute a half-hour or hour of quiet time at home. Every one turns off cell phones, TVs, etc., and reads or writes or thinks. Alone.
2. Take a solitary walk each day.
3. Spend your lunch hour at work alone to think and rejuvenate.