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How to Seduce a Straight Guy in 8 Easy Steps

Updated on December 29, 2014

Lots of Straight Men Have Gay Fantasies

Seducing a straight guy is easier than you might think. Men are sexual beings, after all. With a little encouragement and the right circumstances, most men would experiment with the same sex. In fact, many men have, but as most gay men know, it's something they would never admit to.

The truth of the matter is, many straight guys do have gay fantasies, but that's all they remain, just fantasies. They would never have the courage to realize those fantasies on their own, and that's why YOU must play your part and help them!


You Can Do It! Getting a Straight Guy to Bat for Your Team

1) Take Charge: If you're a guy trying to seduce a man who identifies as heterosexual, it's important to know that no matter how open-minded the straight guy is, nothing will ever come of it unless YOU are in the driving seat.

2) Don't Push: Never be pushy, touchy-feely, or downright aggressive in your approach. Straight men have no concept of how the mind of a gay guy works. Be careful to skirt the subject matter, drop hints but never be direct about your wants.

3) Start with Camaraderie: If you're in a public place, such as a pub, and you see a straight man that you like, make a statement to them that you know will get a positive response. For example, when buying your drink, make a side comment like "If I wait any longer, I think I'll die of thirst." Say something that they will agree with and then introduce yourself.

4) Approach Him in Private: If you have made a recent friend who's straight and you think that you might have a chance, try to get him on his own. Men usually tend to be more responsive and open with their feelings when they're not part of the pack.


5) Stay Confident: To seduce a straight guy, you will need to boost your self-confidence. Practice on guys you aren't normally interested in. This way, there is no failure involved. What have you got to lose? Also don't forget the law of averages here—you have to succeed some of the time.

6) Be Vague about Your Own Orientation: When seducing a straight guy, the subject of sex will no doubt crop up. Men talk about sex all the time. If he doesn't bring it up, make sure YOU do. Always refer to your ex as your "ex-partner." What you're doing here is dropping hints. See if he does the same.

7) Bring up Sexuality. Scary, I know, but there are ways and means. Talk about your mate at work and his bizarre antics. Casually mention that this guy is gay, but that you don't have an issue with that kind of thing. Test his reaction. If it's positive, then you can explore the subject even more. Mention statistics and how you heard that many people are actually bisexual. Should he agree with you, then you have just seduced him! No straight man would ever agree with that statement unless they felt ready to experiment!

8) Take It Slow. No matter how confident you feel, never invite him back to yours on the first night. Swap telephone numbers/e-mail addresses and arrange to meet up. You don't want to scare him off.


To Conclude

The most important rules when seducing a straight guy (or anyone, in fact!) are: approach with confidence, respect boundaries, and never be afraid of rejection. Rejection is absolutely necessary if you are to ever have any success at seduction.

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      Ricky 3 weeks ago

      After my divorce, a lot of straight married men came on to me because I was sane, safe, respectable, etc. Later, I realized I was/am bi.

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      Gareth Holt 2 months ago

      Seduced my boss who is straight. We regularly sleep together now and we both enjoy it. Why not?

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      Martin 3 months ago

      I used to seduce a guy before. Yes, I got him but he's asking for money hahhaha however he's sweet and talkative like he knows what I want.

      Just to provide his vipe. He's fine with that, he told me, I can do whatever I want.

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      Jack 4 months ago

      I am 17 in High School.....And I like this guy,we are friends for almost 2 and a Half years.........We had sleepovers at his house and mine and we sleep on one bed....

      I like him ALOT..........

      He is Straight and a Christian....And we talk about gay's and about penis and about boys and other weird stuff..........

      But I am scared to try to suduce him because I am scared of what the people may think and his parents........

      I dont know what to do or to handle it......

      I realy love him but I'm Scared

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      mike 4 months ago

      I find these tip Interesting but my problem is finding one who is; however, I would really love to try and have sex with one or two.

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      danny teel 5 months ago

      great site. great info, works like a charm. not all the time but more often than not.

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      Carl 6 months ago

      Well hi there @Pedro.

      Your kinda situation is more of a 50-50 probability. Either way could lead to either circumstances.

      It could just be that he is playing hard to get or that he is trying to keep a distance so that those in his circles don't get suspicious.

      What i have realized mostly is that, sexuality isn't one way as they say it to be (one that even you yourself have attested to). Humans are mostly fluid, but since we are always into following the ladder, we tend to cling more to the one which has got most people on.

      (Just hope you get what i mean)

      That being said, everyone has got two extremes of themselves. Whichever way you go is your choice. So those who are saying "Oh am straight" are just chosing and convincing themselves so.

      Your being drank blurred the lines between the conscious and subconscious leading the both of you to do what you have subconsciously been dyeing to do.

      So he might be gay...aaand he might not.? Either way, you cannot tell without probing.

      To cut things short, what you do now would have to be your choice. Be prepared for whatever the outcome is and think it through before you act.

      Go over the possible events that could happen; whether it'll go as expected or it'd take the unexpected turn.

      Are you ready to put what you have to the test?

      If so, then all I can say is good luck. Hope he is just being the hard to get type.

      Hope this helps too :)

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      Brittany Martin 6 months ago from United States

      This comes off as extremely predatory...

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      pedro 6 months ago

      I considered myself straight , but recently I met a guy in a night club and we get drunk and we went to the bathroom together after we made pee I hugged him and grab and squeeze his and gave him a bite on his neck and he slight kissed me but , unfortunately the maintenance guy interrupted entering in the bathroom and we stopped what we were about to do. I did hang out three times with him already but he acts difficult with me but he accept my invitations like i pay his drinks etc, etc. do you think he is gay . He keeps telling me the he likes girls and I keep telling him that i like girls too but I want to explore and experiment with a guy for the very first time. Please, I need your advise I usually call him weekly . I am not sure if i should continue hanging out with him or I should forget him. Please I need your advise

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      Carl 7 months ago

      Hi Bennet and Lukey1157. Really glad I was able to help. Wish you all the best :)

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      Hipnoticman 7 months ago

      Hello... I am... a Seducer of straight men and eighth out of 10 that I had have done the deed. To tell you the truth the key to seducing a straight man is longevity yes it takes time you must make that man comfortable in the friendship AKA relationship you must take it slow... TRUST ME ... when I say it's all worth it I've read everything on this page everyone's comments some are right some are way off as a matter fact I'm seducing one right now this one has been playing out for one year now. last night when I saw him it was shocking to me that I finally broke down his wall because he told me to touch his chest he had been working out and his butt he was a little bit intoxicated it's not shocking to me because he likes to drink but as the night progressed he wanted something from me and I took it upon myself to finally say something and I did and in return he started to jack off I couldn't believe it and at that moment The Roommate comes in he puts it away I made my exit with blue balls BUT the Wall came down.

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      bisexual boy 7 months ago

      As a bi boy, the 2 important things for me to know

      1. How to seduced a straight guy

      2. How to seduced a lesbian

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      Amy 8 months ago

      I dont no why but men don't arouse me . I love the softness of a woman her lips her skin .every thing about them drives me insane. You men do nothing for me your bodies are blah. No man can make a woman feel as another woman can.I as lesbian believe this. But it's not true for a straight girl. Even bi girls some have told me sex with guys was better others women were better .As for you gay men. I can't tell you how many bi men told me sex with women was more pleasurable even oral. So gay men get over your selves. Not all most are not total prudes.

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      Russell 11 months ago

      I have tried so many times to get seduduced and have tried to seduce guys with no luck.

      I so want play but can't find guys to play.

      I am married 50y/old very fit and a fun guy.

      I mix with a lot of guys and want suck and be sucked.

      I am considered good looking.

      What can I do to be seduced or seduce?

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      Jamo 11 months ago

      I always get someone on the dating website but I wish I could seduce a guy in for real without going on a website, but I don't think I can't do that in a country that will lock u up for 14 years, a country like mine.

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      AN 11 months ago

      I wish a sexy guy would seduce me!

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      Kyle 12 months ago

      The poll indicates more have not even tried, than those who did or who failed at doing so.....Just try ;)

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      Jfer Sabe 13 months ago

      Sorry if my eng is not that good, its not my main language, im naturally Colombian.

      I need an advice: There is a super good looking guy, he's 19 and i'm 17.

      He is straight, and he knows i'm gay, we usually play gay jokes, even if we dont talk that often/ we're not that close and that stuff but we end it up with he saying that he's straight, and me saying that he's not my type... Anyways: He invited me to go 2 his spring house/vacations house, idk how to say that in english, sorry.. btw: to be with him, like you know go 2 the river, play some music, drink some liquor, but like i said, we're not that close, so ¿why me? he and me, alone... we went to a party months ago and i was like drunk and i tried to kiss him, i mean that definitely sounds like he wants something else right? I NEED TIPS, OR ADVICES, I DESPERATELY WANNA GET LAID ( BY HIM ) i have seen his boner before, i touched it accidentally 'cause it's so big, it looked like a plastic bottle then i tought it was and i just grab it, i felt BAD jaja anyways i really want him, any advice about clothing, corporal expression, topics, WITCHCRAFT CHEMISTRY ANYTHING! Jokes jokes, but, really, any advice?

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      Daishaun Barnes 13 months ago from Springfield

      There is someone I would like to get to know at my school, problem is...I'm terrified that something might go wrong! I don't want to freak him out because I've made terrible mistakes with a lot of people. I'm willing to try but I don't know if it'll work.

      Okay, so a lot of people don't know that I'm attracted to chubby guys and he's one of them. He's not that big but he's chunky. I'll admit that I'll adore chubby guys. We don't know each other but he seems like a pretty chill dude. Well I mean we've never talk. He does look like a senior though, he might be but still. He's right next to my locker & he has B Lunch with me. He sits with a group of people that's near to my area where I eat with a group of people I hang out with. I do know that he has a girlfriend because she sits right next to him everyday. I don't feel jealous but sometimes I do wish he was my boyfriend but getting into a relationship with a straight guy won't rely on that realm. It doesn't work out like that. It's impossible for me to be in a relationship with him but it is possible that I can try to seduce him. Flirting with a straight guy is something that everyone should never do. I don't want to make things weird where I'm just like trying to figure out ways where I can have a straight guy to have sex with me. I'm not in love with every man that's in this world. Sometimes I can't help myself by looking at him. Again i'm only attracted to chubby guys and he has a chunky body which is something I want. When I do think about him, all I can ever think about is laying him down and maybe rubbing his body. I read in one of the article about seducing straight guys that says all men likes blow-jobs so I would like to offer him a blow-job. That is if I got to get to know him. But what if he thinks that I'm nothing but a lame. I don't want him to think that because I have better experiences with communication and socializing with society but I do make mistakes when it comes to meeting new people. Not going to lie about that and sometimes I do meet the wrong people. I've never tried seducing a straight guy. My questions are will he accept it if I did gave him a blow-job?

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      YYH 221 13 months ago

      Same!!! I sit next to my best friend crush in school. I've tried dropping hints here and there but I don't think he got them. He keeps flirting with me but his friends tell me he is straight.

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      Bruu 14 months ago

      Arggh, I have a crush on my best friend and he is always flirting with me but it seems like a joke. My friends think he is Bi I really don't know

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      Jeans 14 months ago

      What is the easiest way to separate a guy from his "pack"?

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      Panda 15 months ago

      I have this friend that I've had a crush on,and I was wondering if the steps would work cause today I asked if he was gay and he just playfully pushed me away, if these steps don't work can some recommend something My Kik is deme50

      p.s. looking for love

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      Naz 15 months ago

      OMG! I can relate to this so much. Im 14 but in love with this straight guy at my church Chris. He is so cute! But 1st problem he is straight, I've already confessed my love for him in a text but he was super surprised and totally oblivious. Before I did so I had been dropping hints. But my bestie is a girl named Nai, and she used to like him too but claims she's over him but I'm trying to set them up. 2nd problem is he is the pastor's son, 3rd problem this b**** Kiki likes him everyone knows it. 4th problem my parents are SUPER Christians, and think a demon is inside of me. Nai said she was sure he was gay and that I still had a chance with him, but Ive fantasied about him all the time and we have so much in common, he's super sexy and way out of my league but every time I think I'm over him I come crawling back. Even when I do jack off I cum a lot because of him, and I write fanfics because of him (not published, working on it). I need serious help. The rumors about me are spreading like wildfire and Kiki is out to get me and Nai for being friends. I don't know what to do and I'm at the point where I wanna suck him at like a sleepover or a lock in. I just can't work up the courage. Someone help, without him I'm going insane!!!!

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      Daishaun Barnes 15 months ago from Springfield

      Guys! I need help on this one.

      I am gay and I'm 15. I would like to experience or seduce a straight guy but I am too scared of what could happen.

      There are tons of teens my age and teens that are older that I found extremely attracted to and they are straight.

      I just don't know where to start because normally no one doesn't talk to me and I've been going through a lot of depression for the longest time and I've been wanting to try it out without having any frustration.

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      Swami 15 months ago

      I liked this article very much

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      YYZ 2112 15 months ago

      You should add "giving massages" to the list. I usually start with a compliment like "damn, I wish I had shoulders like yours" then rub shoulder/neck massage until he rolls his head around and starts moaning. If a man lets you rub on his body for more than a couple seconds, he wants you to. You'll know immediately if he pulls away, just stop - then you can just apologize and act straight. After swimming is the best. (because your almost naked and always have lotion!) When he's laying face down on a towel or lawn chair I give a back rub then work on back of legs up to his butt. When you get that far, most guys take off their trunks at that point. He will turn around on his back with a raging hard on that he's dying to have massaged by hand or mouth!!

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      YYZ 2112 15 months ago

      Mine was bittersweet.. For over a year I befriended my straight crush and we always joked around about doing each other. One night after lots of drinking, he asked if I would spit or swallow - I drunkenly admitted that I would swallow for him but no one else, and he said that turned him on. Sure enough, we slept together twice, but when I tried the third time he said he didn't feel right because he was straight and he blamed it on the alcohol (even though he told me it was the best sex he ever had) We never hung out again. I really miss him - not just cuz he was super hot, but he really was a good friend.

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      Reggie 16 months ago

      I'm gay but I'm my friend is straight but he doesn't know im gay.we share the same room..his not agaist gays

      We joke sometime that i love to suck or want to sleep in your bed he only laugh..i like him alot..i afraid that if i start doing something i might lose a friend or he will keep a distance with me.what shkuld i do..i feel like he likes guys also

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      Albert 16 months ago

      I'm bi, but I love this guy emotionally, not sexually, ever since we became friends, I started to have gay feelings for him, cause this is the first time I ever had emotional feelings for a male. idk if he is straight or gay. But he is Catholic and I'm scared his parents will disapproved if this will work out (after I use your steps).Please kindly answer this

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      Bobby 16 months ago from Buffalo, NY

      I'm straight but I have a fantasy of being with a man. Not just sexually. Like going away for a weekend together and being in public holding hands, kissing, etc. I guess it's more than a fantasy. I would actually do it with the right guy.

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      mjd 16 months ago

      I have a straight friend,and he keep on touching me like he likes me , but I don't knw that he's interested in me, am scared that if I start to make a move he'll tell everyone that am gay

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      Homer the Great 17 months ago

      I am a straight bloke who wants to be chatted to by a gay bloke who might flirt with me..I do not register any signs or subtle references thus... aaarrgghh! Help..

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      gaysince90 17 months ago

      im gay, a girl tried the same with me, it was about to work, but im so gay...

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      Bryce 17 months ago

      Bryce Dan I'm ready

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      Haris 17 months ago

      I actually have a straight friend and i had done all of the things i wanted to do with him.

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      jay 17 months ago

      Hi ave read yur ideas and am impressed lookin forward to more

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      Bennet 18 months ago

      Carl, thank you sooooooo very much. I have a boyfriend! He said it's cool with having me touch him at night and he even said that he loves me! Aaaaahhh! But, we both still identify as straight. B-)

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      Lukey1157 18 months ago

      Hi carl thanks i will invite him round soon but i need to know what to say can you help me

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      michael 18 months ago

      I keep trying these steps but the only guys I'm seducing r the wrong ones :(

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      Lukey1157 18 months ago

      Hi carl thanks can you help me what i should say to him at the sleepover cause i hope to ask him

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      Bennet 18 months ago

      Carl, in your previous message (before the response to Lukey1157), were you referring to me?

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      Carl 18 months ago

      Hi Lukey1157, the fact that he was looking at your penis doesn't necessarily mean that he wants it. Trust me, I have been in boarding school and the boys most at times pretty much do that; maybe checking to see who has the larger one but to be sure if he is really into it, then you should rather observe him for a while before you conclude on doing this. Try checking if you are the only one whose penis he's always looking at. Good luck.

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      Lukey1157 18 months ago

      Hi i am bi and i have a friend who is straight. Sometime i joke around by saying me and him are gonna go to bed together and shag and he says yes but as a joke. Although when we were in a cafe we went to the toilet and we were peeing in the urinals i did catch him looking at my penis. I am gonna ask him to come for a sleepover, and i want us to do dirty things like have sex and things but i dont know how to ask him can someone give me there email or skype and then we can chat about what i say to him please help.

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      Carl 18 months ago

      Hi some teenager, but what is it that you really want with him: relationship or a hit and run romance? To be frank, there are many of us who dream of such an event happening, and, as they say, Opportunity comes but once. So i'll say if you are considering for a relationship, then, you better start taking steps to ensuring that before you lose even this. (Since he identifies as straight)

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      Swaggy 18 months ago

      I am bi, and i have a friend who i want to have fun with, i am planning on asking him to a sleepover then having fun but i need help on the exact words of what to say can someone help me p.s he is straight??

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      flawless 18 months ago

      I like this dude at work and I been with straight men before, but he make me nerves

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      mystic falls 19 months ago

      Hi.. im bi 26 i have had a friend he's married and i seduce him almost every night i want to make love with him but he never want it. I tried to be aggresive like to touch his body his chest he alow me but he doesnt want me to touch his penis. I ask him to make love and suck his penis but i failed. Help me i love him so much.

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      Bennet 19 months ago

      I love my bestie sooooooooo much. He is a very active person, always in a group of guys or flirting with girls. On the surface, one would think that he's purely straight. But, I know more. We stay in a dorm, and he's in my room. We are very closely related and other people teasingly call us a married couple. He takes it as a joke. Well, I surely don't. To be honest with you, very few guys in my area are gay. That makes it harder. I know that I'm his bestie too, but, when we chat and I try to slowly talk him into being gay. Well, he just leaves the topic and makes a good diversion. OMG, he's really hot. I'm thinking of him right now.

      Well, I think I have a good stepping stone because I've slept with him on the same hostel bed a few times. Recently, he's been doing stuff like throwing his leg over me at night when no one's watching or keeping his hand on my butt. At such times, I get really hard that I think I'm gonna cum. LOL. I really love him but he goes back to his normal straight life the next morning. I must win him. I'd love a permanent relationship. Please, I need help. Contact me:

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      Blue Eyed 20 months ago

      Attracting a straight guy for a gay guy can be little challenging.But once he`s able to do this,it can be very rewarding! Straight guys are delicious! Believe me,if a guy is very beautiful than a straight guy can`t resist him.I`ve seen it.All you need is little confidence and a charming smile.

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      ElI 20 months ago

      I don't know what if I mess this up for us I've trusted him since second grade I look up to him as a brother and I might mess this up where he'll not be my frien EVER

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      Sister Twisted 20 months ago

      Or you could respect their right to identify as straight and stop sexuially harassing them. Imagine the same article replacing "straight man/gay man" with "lesbian/straight man"? This is bullshit and offensive. Grow up.

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      Me 20 months ago

      I have a 'friend' who I told 'I love you'. He gave me thirty minutes of 'all the reasons it won't work, including he's straight'...followed by...'you're right about one thing, I 'do' love you'... We've been together ever since...

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      Kevin son . 20 months ago

      Yeah i know thats why i always try to stop my desire on him. I know its a big big mistake to do that but believe me everytime i see him i want to suck . And i dont know how to control things like this

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      Brian 20 months ago from Northern Michigan

      Kevin Son. If this person is your dad, that would be considered a big no no. I would leave him alone, he may be drunk when you approach him, but if he is sober enough to know what you are doing, you might really piss him off, and he may never forgive you. Or worse.

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      Kevin Son 20 months ago

      I am a gay/Bi And everytime i saw my dad drunk i want him to play with me . I am touching his body while he is drunk and sleep and i am afraid to make move on him he is my real daddy but why i feel this i reallt want him can you help me what to do?

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      Some Teenager 20 months ago

      It's been a while. Anyway, so last week… something happened. My friend Stella was throwing a party. It wasn't a typical high school rager. Nothing too much, just a pretty big group of friends. So both my crush and I were invited. And basically I didn't have to make any moves. So basically we were in a hallway together, and he pushed me against a wall and started making out with me. I liked it, but it was just so random that I hesitated and said 'wyd…' . Then we sat down on a pretty nice couch (shoutout to Stella's furniture

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      jamadeus 22 months ago

      to be honest with ya; some teenager, you should just continue the playfulness. next time you guys gather or you two are alone, try kissing him. if he doesn't hesitate and kisses back, then keep it going. your desire of a make out session should happen. be warned, this could be dangerous. but seeing as though he already kissed you willingly and has told you he wanted to kiss you, you should be fine. hell, maybe you can even get a little bit more action if you're up for it ;). respond once you've done this! thanks.

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      Some Teenager 22 months ago

      I'm just a bi teenager (my preference is guys) who has a crush on a really cute guy, who identifies as straight. He's only in one of my electives. One of my female acquaintances has a crush on him. They talk very frequently and I'm pretty sure he likes her back. Everytime I'm actually in class, he looks at me. When I look back; catching him staring, he winks and gives me a really cute smile. I don't even crave sex at this point… a simple make out session would suffice. But today in class, we were getting ready to leave, and he came behind me and hugged me from the back. He's very playful and I love it. He held me in the air for a second and put me down. I turned around and there he was. Standing at about 8 inches taller than I am. He looked down and smiled. He simply breathed and grabbed me by my waist. I'm pretty sure he signaled for me to put my arms around his neck. So I did! He just hugged me. He treats me the same way he would treat a girl… maybe due to my very very very apparent femininity. I blushed so much, bit my lip, and simply walked away. I was hoping for something more, but I'm pretty satisfied. I really like him, and personally, I care not for my acquaintance's feelings for him. I'm pretty sure our crush is conflicted with the both of us. This isn't the first time something like this sparked up between my crush and I. We were playing truth or dare with a small gathering of friends, and apparently him and I were extremely playful with eachother (according to my best friend) I even stole his hoodie, and he didn't care. But basically, he was dared by the entire group to peck my lips. He conveniently told me days before that he would like to kiss my lips. So he did kiss me, it lasted like 3 seconds and honestly it was the best. He identifies as straight, but I think it's safe to assume that he's not. Or maybe he thinks me feminine enough to be classified as a girl? I don't know.

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      Tony 23 months ago

      I had 2 very good Frieds and they are brothers l One of them has been my best friend for over a year now. The thing is that I have a crush on both of them lol yeah but more into my best fiend. We drink, we go to each other houses. We used to work together and we would do everything together. He's married with 3 kids. We talk about sex buy I'm Too afraid that if I say something about wanting to have sex with him I will loss his friendship. With his bother we also talk about sex and we had talked about getting a girl to have a 3 sum but the last time I talked to him about he wasn't sure about it. I really want to do the 3 some. And also I would die to have my best friend cock lol I'm just all confused.. HELP LOL

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      Peter PAN 23 months ago

      Ok so i have this bestfren wait 1st dont judge how i speak i like to say things differently cuz i like the way it looks and sounds but ok i have this bestfren and we have been bestfrens for about 5 months but everyone at my school knows i am pan but him and we talk everyday on everything he sits next to me everywhere he skips classes with me but i recently told him i liked him while he was walking me home like a ususal day everyone knew i liked him but him but i told him about 3 months ago so i guess not so recently but he said he wasnt gay or bi or pan or any of that but he said it was ok and we could still be frens i was happy we were still frens but i was sad that he wasnt at least bi but he knows i like him and always will, even when i hate him and even when i stop loving him i somehow find myself back in love with him but he uses my love to help him like if he is bout to be beat up by some kids he would use my love to save him and stuff like that but we still do everything together but the other day my other fren dared me to kiss him so i have to do it 2morrow but im scared if he would hit me or kiss me back but i dont know till i do it but i need help with the fighting thing does he really like me or is he just using my love for him and same with gian i think it was, the more im away from him the urges become worse and i dream about him even more and when i c**, lots and lots come out each time i do it and think about him. But yeah if u can help txt me on kik:sleep..tight or txt me on my other kik:jack_skelton

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      superkan 2 years ago

      Well, there was this friend of mine who i had a crush on in junior high. Actually i would say that it was his fault that the crush developed because i quiet remember that about two weeks or more after i was transfered there, he became close to me telling me that if i had been a girl, he sure would have made a move on me. He always liked to treat me like a girl, always kind and making moves on me and also playing make-out games in class with me(that was the only place we could possibly see each other). So after we graduated, i finally got the courage to message him on facebook about my feelings for him and his replies were of a total freak out. He was so insisting that i was gay while i tried convincing him that i was a bi. So in the end, i sadly told him that all was a joke and since then he hasn't chat regularly with me. I so got him totally wrong.

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      Scott 2 years ago

      I noticed another article on this page entitled "How to pick up straight men at the Gym." Interestingly, yet another article on this page is titled "Why do straight men feel awkward around gay men?" I have no clue.

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      valkyrie 2 years ago

      am sry dude , no hard feelings

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      valkyrie 2 years ago

      jonnycomelately, will u just shut up & stop interfereing & giving unnecessory advice to other people? mind u'r own business & this kind of behavior is totally repulsive!

      goodbye, wishing u luck!

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      anonimatovato 2 years ago

      Kelli, I totally agree. As a gay man, why would I want to risk a beat down from a so-called 'straight' man?, when I can have any available gay man, like seriously! If you're so into the 'masculine' men, there are those 'straight-acting' types.

      This article is garbage and I don't think this is what the gay movement fought so hard for to get a 'piece of 'straight' ass'!

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      Kelli 2 years ago

      This really does sound predatory. Does anyone here see that this could be used to denigrate the gay community? The person is straight. What part of straight do you not get? It sounds like rape steps.

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      Anonymous 2 years ago

      I need this guy Anthony to like me I think he is straight but he is exactly like me I like football but wouldn't prefer it and I've been dreaming about him over and over non stop I just want him to fuck me or at least kiss me can I get some straight guy to let me know how to grab him and get him with me but he's like way out of my league I'm short and he is like a whole foot taller than me and he is SO hot like every time he looks at me I cum a lil but he doesn't seem in to me but I just want one night with him can some one help me

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      kyo 2 years ago

      hahaha, funny. me, i did try to seduce a man. sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesnt work. what i did to a man that i like is ask him any questions. talk to to him and invite him into swimming.

      afterall, they invited me to go to some bar and have some drinks. then i got drunk then he takes advantages of me. he is like saying something in my ear to the fact that i dont understands his words. next thing i knew, he's kissing me already in my neck and ear and that brought me into wildness.

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      rob frost 2 years ago

      I was seduced by my gay acquaintance. He was always really forward at the bar, annoyingly so, but he gave the best shoulder rubs. After the shoulder rub we would have a smoke and talk, found out we were both musicians and had some stuff in common, so I figures he was harmless enough, I went to a party with him once and it was chill nothing weird, just solidified a comfortable bond, then after that he'd invite me over to drink and watch porn, I love drinkin but not watching porn with gay guys so I kindly declined. But he got in my head, I gave it some real thought over a few weeks and then I was drunk at home really horny and couldn't get a girl over so I invited him over for drinks and head, he was there in 3 minutes we drank and talked and finally he pulled out my cock and started sucking it. It was really hard I had to give him directions to suck it easier. He whipped out his cock and started jerking it, I took it out of his hands and jerked him as he was sucking me, before I came, I pushed him back and sucked on his cock it was almost too big for my mouth, couple of minutes and he wanted to continue sucking me off, he swallowed my load it was one of the best bjs I've ever had. I hadn't had a guys cock in my mouth or guys mouth on my cock since grade school. I missed it. I now have a fantasy of a guy in my ass and I guy I my mouth like I'm some kinda spit roast. Dont tell my wife.

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      Joe 2 years ago

      Ive always wanted tovexperiment with my. Best friend , evan though we are both straight , i had no idea he felt the same way but once when we went camping he started touching my penis , so i just smiled then i dtarted doing it back as ivdidnt want him being left out , then he started rubbing it harder and harder till i was hard thes un did my jeans , and started tossing me off , after i took his jeans of but i wanted tovmake him feel good so i tossd hum of a little bit then started giving him a blow lob , i was hoping he was going to do it back and he did , it felt amazing , i felt like i had to do something so i asked him if he wanted another blowjob but he interupted me by bending me over , i felt awkward at first like it was going to hurt but it felt amazing socafter i did it back he loved it and now we are together and he is tuching my penis now :)

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      This might sound old-fashioned but I say this to all of you.

      Stop playing around with sex at your very young stage of life. Get on with learning to live amongst your mates and friends without viewing them according to whether they are hot or not.

      You have young life, young brains, lots of energy. You want and need lots of fun.

      Learn the basics of life, how to mix with and respect other people.

      Learn to look after your self.

      Learn to cook your self a good healthy and nourishing meal.

      Learn to write and speak well in your native language so you can express yourself well and communicate your desires and feelings.

      Learn basic arithmetic so you can defend your pocket against those who want to cheat you.

      All these things you need to learn before you are 18 years old.

      After that you will find a lot more joy in having a beautiful friendship and really sharing love with the girl or guy that you gel with.

      This is not saying you are bad for thinking as you do now. Just saying there is much more for you to experience in your life if you want it.

      But if you DO want it you will need some good sense and control of yourself. No one else can do that for you.

      From an old man that cares.

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      Ryan 2 years ago

      And all this time i thought being gay wasnt a choice

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      Vian 2 years ago

      Hey,i'm a teen and i'm kinda hot and popular.i've always done girls and never was interested in boys. Then this new boy who just transfered into my school and class. I do lyk him and i've tried dropping hints but he always tries to ignored them and i can see clearly that he is pretending and thats its hurting him. I'm so sure he is 100% gay, but i'm just confused. He loves hugging me and holding my hands but i'm nt sure what he wants. Pls help me? What do i do????

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      Spiffycool 2 years ago

      I have a straight friend. That is what he said, he is twin and his twin brother is gay. He know that I am BI. One night we where together and I ask him if it is ok if I just cuddle with him. He said no, and will keep his now. We talked about sex before and we are still the same as before. But I still want to try it again but in a different way. Any idea beside the options above?

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      Ejjj 2 years ago

      Let me see

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Anonymous, you are correct to differential between love and lust....but I don't feel we need to denigrate "Lust." It is just one part of our natural biological makeup, one of the factors that may lead to pairing.

      However, to give Lust freedom to control and direct our lives is not a helpful or happy thing. It can lead to all manner of disappointments.

      Better to hold a few good principles in you life that give you sound advice and deter you from making a fool of yourself.

      One principle that you might be happy to hold for your life: it takes two persons to give full consent for anything sexual and intimate. If either partner feels against it, for what ever reason, it just is not worth the energy and bother to force a sexual relationship without the other person's full consent and agreement. You might easily end up hating yourself and the other person.

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      Anonymous 2 years ago

      Pieter, you're not in love, you're in lust. Besides, there are a lot of things that could be causing your friend to act the way he is. Regardless, it's not your problem. Stop wasting your time with someone who's not going to reciprocate your feelings, and go find someone who will.

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      Pieter 2 years ago

      My friend is straight. we had 5 awesome play dates. then he changed completely. 5 months later same thing. he admitted he was bi. told me he loved me. then he stopped being my close best friend but just a friend (more like acquaintance), got aggravated for no reason, keeping his distance, making excuses and not showing any form of caring for me in any way. when we drive some where he will say something like, "I wish you had breasts or I love you bro. I am open with him lately and following these rules. he will still get me to do anything to please him as long as sex is not involved. but his body language shows something else. am I stupid to love him or is there someone with advice on handling this.

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      Anonymous 2 years ago

      As a straight, I’ve had many gay friends in the past, and the reason I don’t anymore is because of the blatant hypocrisy of the gay community. The community as a whole plays being gay off as a biological thing that no one can choose, and yet, gays in general try to continually play with the idea that being gay or straight is really a sliding scale, or guess what, a choice. Which contradicts your entire premise about being born gay.

      Worse, you want others to respect your lifestyle; however, you constantly disrespect others. That is, you don’t or won’t respect the fact that open-minded people who are willing to be tolerant and/or be your friends don’t want to be converted. Nevertheless, you constantly go after straights rather than only picking up people in your community with excuses such as our community’s too small. As if it would be acceptable for a straight guy to try and convert a goldstar lesbian.

      The most disgusting part, articles like this and the rest of them on the Internet unashamedly espouse the idea of ignoring your friends’ right to choose and simply raping them instead. I.e. just get him alone and drunk enough to where he’s about to pass out and viola; you can take advantage of him. Or spike his drink and viola. Or hug him until he gets used to you touching him, get him alone, talk about sex, maybe show him some straight porn, make sure to drink A LOT, and when he’s drunk, horny, and about to pass out, pounce on him.

      Needless to say, by any legal definition, you all are committing predatory sex crimes and should look at what you’re doing. Still, it seems like this is spun to be a positive in the gay community. Because, after all, you’re simply giving him your gift. Men are always looking for sex, so it’s okay, or he’s so deeply in the closet, you’re only helping him see what he really is. (Like that’s your decision to decide what’s best for another person. But hey, however you can rationalize your predilections.) It’s freaking disgusting that you want others to be respectful of your lifestyle choices, but you can’t and won’t do the same for others.

      You wonder why straight people have a fear of gay men, but with articles like this, it’s no wonder straight men are suspicious of you, especially with the way you try to shame others into accepting you rather than being upfront about what you want. That is, you don’t have the balls to say I’m interested in you. Instead, you try to groom and take advantage of people. Plus, if someone says, I’m not gay or interested. The retort is, geez, not all gay men are attracted to you. Just because we’re gay doesn’t mean we’re trying to check you out. Yet, by the very nature of being gay, it means you’re attracted to men and want to see them naked. The hypocrisy and deviance of the community are truly nauseating.

      And before you give me this shite about it not being all gays, you’re ALL on a board about trying to get with your straight friends with tons of comments. So, it may not be all gays but enough to make what I’m saying true.

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      him 2 years ago

      hi guys ..... i'm 16 and i like this guy he is super cute. he would be 23 he lives across the street there would be hardly 30 m dis. btw r houses . he watches me all day he look at me all day he can't stay without looking for me but we have never talked . once bcoz of some circumstances we were so close , close enough that if any of us would have moved we would have kissed but i dont know wht struck my mind and i pushed him away but even after that he was looking at me eith so much love. he can:t stand any other male of his age touch me coz once my tutor just put his hand on my waist je got so angry and as fast as i came back my home he had a dispute with him i don't know the reason and his younger brother also watches me he is 20 or 21 maybe and once when i went there home he was alone and he kissed me on my neck and was trying to take my clothes off but all of a sudden there bell rang and i came back i don't what's going on there mind but i know what's on my mind . i want to have sex with the elder one . pls suggest me smthng .

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      Kelly 2 years ago

      Why do gay men think they can seduce a straight guy but freak out if a woman tries to seduce them .maybe your afraid you might like it. No because your gay gay gay .like I'm straight straight straight it's all I think about women 24 /7 just find a gay man who you care about and be happy

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      Alex 2 years ago

      Yes, i agree. How do seduce this guy whos tough loves women but still a virgin. Like he tough. Dumb lol, adventourus, and etc

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      alex 2 years ago

      i am 14 bi.i likes this guy.he has sexy body.i used to always looked him,and he day,after school assemble,i am heading to my class,and i then i bump him,he doesn't say anything but just walk away,can anyone tell me what's going on?i am really confused

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      xyoey123, I fully understand where you are coming from, and warm to that emotion. I know those feelings so, so well!

      It's all good man. You sound like you have your head and your heart in the right place.

      If that truth you speak of is coming from your heart, then you will know the right moment to tell him all of this.... if it really is right to.

      I would say, "if I were you...." but that would be sermonising you, and inappropriate.

      So, sum up for yourself all that you feel, all that you think he needs from you, then maybe --- ask him. Ask him if he's got any feelings that are confusing him. Does he feel totally hetero? Does he like a bit of fun with a guy? How does he feel about you? You are going to have to work it out using your best instincts. I know what you are probably feeling; will these questions send him packing, and cause the friendship between you to break? From what you have said, I doubt it -- but hell! It's hard one!

      Again.... wishing you well.

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      xyoey123 2 years ago

      You're right about lust!

      I lust for him all the time. I want to feel his gorgeous body but I have never touched him.

      Although my desire is physical, I think I love him emotionally too!

      But we have a different kind of bond

      I am much older to be his friend

      He respects me and asks me for advice and I love to help him out

      Which is why I am so conflicted- It would break our bond

      But I really want him- Should I tell him the truth?

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      PS: this is only my opinion of course, a bit old fashioned you might think, and you are free to throw it out if you please. But sometimes I need to speak my truth.

      Wishing you well.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      @ xyoey123 What you are feeling is Lust. Lust usually has no concern for the welfare of the other person. It is selfish, period.

      You sort out your own desires.... they are your total responsibility.

      If you are really responsible, you will first and foremost consider what is best for that young man. You might question him on what are his real and immediate needs in life. You could ask him about his hopes, his ambitions, how things are going for him. Seek to help in that way, and put your own lust aside at least until you have served his needs before your own.

      I am not saying "don't desire." Desire is a normal and natural emotion for most humans, as it is for all the other animal species of this world.

      But as humans, we are gifted with brains with which to understand and to modify our basic instincts. Considering the needs of others before our own is what makes our society "civilised."

      Stand up and be a man who can be respected.

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      xyoey123 2 years ago

      I am 49 yrs old Bi/Gay man. I know this really sexy good looking muscular young guy who is 22. I meet him at the gym regularly & he is straight. He likes to talk to me about regular stuff , sometimes his school problems. I give him advice. I really want to have sex with him. I think he knows I'm gay.Should I make a move? I am conflicted, he is so cute and innocent!

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      Jerker 2 years ago

      I'm so felt so scared when i try that!Im straight but curious.

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      TJ 2 years ago

      Funny!!! I'm straight (I'm really just human), and I don't know how to hook up with another man. Feel awkward. Just a guy that wants try something I haven't experience. Call it whatever you like. I hate labels. I'm attracted to things that catch my eye... Straight or gay. Why not share a good time... Seduce me!!!

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      jack67 2 years ago

      Okay thank you I suppose the worst that could happen is that he doesn't want to do it!

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      nickf 2 years ago

      Hi Jack,

      The only way you will know is if you take it another step forward.He might be a virgin.That would be good.Some guys come over as all 'rugged' but in an instant you know whether they are a taker or giver.

      As to you being 'scared',what can he do? Punch you? 'Out' you? Maybe fuck you? It's all O.K..It doesn't matter,you are you.

      I just found out a guy I had an enormous crush on and I thought was as straight as the day is long,has a boyfriend.


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      jack 2 years ago

      I'm 15 years old and I class myself as straight but I am very curious so I think inside I'm bi. I have a close friend and were always messing around with each other but I don't know if its a bromance or more like he always kisses my hand as a joke and he kissed our other mate on the neck once. He's very open like the other day he showed me his shaved pubes but we were In a group of people and I was like let me scratch them for you cause he was complaining they were itchy and he let me scratch them ( over his jeans as a joke) and the other day he said he think me might be bisexual in a group of people and I was like really? And he was like no I'm only joking , whenever we see each other we hug and sometimes he'd like rub his head against mine but again I don't know if its just bromance, I really want to make out with him if I got him alone but I'm scared if he'll do it or not. Can anyone help on my situation do you think he's bi?

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      "How to seduce a straight guy?"

      "Why, Hulloooo Sweedy!" (Said seductively, you know what I mean, lol!)

      But seriously. Kevin, you say you are not gay, or bi... right? That is absolutely fine. I don't question you on that or judge you for it. I am not qualified or entitled to do so. I don't think anyone else is either. YOU, with all your faculties about you, all your inbuilt sense of what is right for you and him, are in control and able to make full judgment of yourself and your actions.

      A few questions you can ask your self:

      Am I imposing my self on this other guy against his wishes?

      Is he trying to impose him self upon me, against MY wishes?

      Is everything we are doing together enjoyable? Or do either of us feel dirty, or bad, or guilty about anything we do?

      Is it inherently "bad" to have fun and enjoy ourselves?

      Is anyone else getting hurt by what we are doing? Is it necessary for us to lie to others about what we are doing? What effect, if any, is our lying to others having upon their lives?

      If there is any feeling of guilt, does this in itself have a negative impact upon our lives in relation to others?

      You see, regardless of the sexual activity or any fun that ANYONE gets up to, whether it be hetero-, homo-, bi-, trans-, cross-dressing, needs to be addressed in regard to how it affects others.

      If the "other" party or parties who might be drawn into the deceit are oblivious to what is going on then they have no control over it. Then every responsibility falls on your shoulders.

      It all, in my estimation, falls down upon your own responsibilities and choices. If you give away the judgment for some one else to make, then you can't shoulder the judgment and you must suffer the consequences.

      If you take all the responsibility upon yourself and act accordingly, then you will grow in stature as an adult.

      Just my personal understanding of your situation...... wishing you well.

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      Kevin 2 years ago

      Yeah I know you gay guys how it works but not like this article so much.

      I'm 19 in male college dorms. Broke up with ex GF in Jan after year of sex each day with her so am always horny. I find out being naked some even overheard in bathroom jackin by roommate is gay! He waited until he knew I was totally horny to tell me he wanted to do BJ on me. I thought was joke so said do it then he was coming to me grabbed me in my jeans. I knew then he was gay.

      I ended up letting him pull it out then doing that. It did feel good better than jackin so been letting him do that this semester but is only thing that goes on. I know he jacks when he does that or after but I let him do it cause it feels good but I then feel guilty sometimes cause is like what bi sexual might do but am not bi so am total straight.

      Gay guys wait until ur horny not getting sex then they use that time to wear you down so not sure about this other stuff it says here cause he didn't take time or a process. He just wanted to BJ when I was horny so he does that now. I know he gets what he wants but I get off so I get what I need for now.

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      Aaron 2 years ago

      Oh yes these are all straight men yeah

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      PB 2 years ago

      I'm straight but if a guy tried this with me he'd have me in bed in no time.