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How to Seduce a Straight Guy in 8 Easy Steps

Updated on December 29, 2014

Lots of Straight Men Have Gay Fantasies

Seducing a straight guy is easier than you might think. Men are sexual beings, after all. With a little encouragement and the right circumstances, most men would experiment with the same sex. In fact, many men have, but as most gay men know, it's something they would never admit to.

The truth of the matter is, many straight guys do have gay fantasies, but that's all they remain, just fantasies. They would never have the courage to realize those fantasies on their own, and that's why YOU must play your part and help them!

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You Can Do It! Getting a Straight Guy to Bat for Your Team

1) Take Charge: If you're a guy trying to seduce a man who identifies as heterosexual, it's important to know that no matter how open-minded the straight guy is, nothing will ever come of it unless YOU are in the driving seat.

2) Don't Push: Never be pushy, touchy-feely, or downright aggressive in your approach. Straight men have no concept of how the mind of a gay guy works. Be careful to skirt the subject matter, drop hints but never be direct about your wants.

3) Start with Camaraderie: If you're in a public place, such as a pub, and you see a straight man that you like, make a statement to them that you know will get a positive response. For example, when buying your drink, make a side comment like "If I wait any longer, I think I'll die of thirst." Say something that they will agree with and then introduce yourself.

4) Approach Him in Private: If you have made a recent friend who's straight and you think that you might have a chance, try to get him on his own. Men usually tend to be more responsive and open with their feelings when they're not part of the pack.

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5) Stay Confident: To seduce a straight guy, you will need to boost your self-confidence. Practice on guys you aren't normally interested in. This way, there is no failure involved. What have you got to lose? Also don't forget the law of averages here—you have to succeed some of the time.

6) Be Vague about Your Own Orientation: When seducing a straight guy, the subject of sex will no doubt crop up. Men talk about sex all the time. If he doesn't bring it up, make sure YOU do. Always refer to your ex as your "ex-partner." What you're doing here is dropping hints. See if he does the same.

7) Bring up Sexuality. Scary, I know, but there are ways and means. Talk about your mate at work and his bizarre antics. Casually mention that this guy is gay, but that you don't have an issue with that kind of thing. Test his reaction. If it's positive, then you can explore the subject even more. Mention statistics and how you heard that many people are actually bisexual. Should he agree with you, then you have just seduced him! No straight man would ever agree with that statement unless they felt ready to experiment!

8) Take It Slow. No matter how confident you feel, never invite him back to yours on the first night. Swap telephone numbers/e-mail addresses and arrange to meet up. You don't want to scare him off.

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To Conclude

The most important rules when seducing a straight guy (or anyone, in fact!) are: approach with confidence, respect boundaries, and never be afraid of rejection. Rejection is absolutely necessary if you are to ever have any success at seduction.

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      Harry 

      3 weeks ago

      I’m a mature, and I like bears. We have many straight bears here, which I see on the road, and would like much to seduce. Well, I don’t dare. I feel sorry about them, they have tremendous butts, hairy chests, all of these. I use to call them burgers, and I say to myself “if I could eat that burger, or , so pitty this guy has his great ass only for the toilet. Someone tell him the male butt has a second usage too”. Also, I feel sorry for them. I know they have a miserable sexual life.

      I think the key is to get the bear (or the guy), in private, and for much time. You can discuss like two men, and then ask the question “what do you do in your sexual life”.

      After his answer, you can say “Women? Oh, so boring. My opinion is that women are just for making kids, and a family”. Look, I (and continue to slowly “convincing” him).

      An other key, is not to be pushy, because you can scare him. He would thing that you are hungry, or a great queer, asking from as many men as you can. You can tell “Look, you always had homo fantasies, it’s true. Just think about when you were in high school. Wouldn’t you want to jirk off with an other guy in the locker room, and cum together? Yes, it’s true”.

      Continuing, you can say “I know most of men just want to test this, but afraid to do so, I can teach you, I’m a great teacher on this”. You can also tell a story of your last LTR and how much you helped your mate. So, the guy would feel safe. You can say that you are an embraceable guy, very playful, and taking care of the other.

      These, are some points that may help you to succeed in the seduction.

      I wish, I could apply all these to myself, and seduce some straight bears. But as I said I was afraid of… or I couldn’t get them in private so I could “cook” the situation.

      An other point, is that if you are a handsome twink, you can have success with straight bears, because they won’t afraid much of you (you are not an other bear).

      But watch, not to get in bad guys, or kinky guys. You have to do some psychology, if you have to deal with a good heart guy.

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      jed625 

      3 months ago

      I need to try it,I really want to hook up with some black studs i know.

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      Bill Desue 

      4 months ago

      Dats some bs.

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      Ceasar L.A. 1970s 

      4 months ago

      I looked and in all areas appeared to be straight , growing up in the club scene @ the age 15yrs old. i assumed most men i dated appeared to also looked straight too. I do believe we dealt with issues as teens the 70s, that has allowed this generation Roar. i met my love on June 12, 1982-thur, i believe at this point till he calls either one us home. fyi 37yr plus tax lic fees. we met and lived in the San Francisco bay area. it was very next they announced, a mysterious disease was making gay iil.God blessed our that very day. wow, a prayer for all the beautiful men lost.

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      ELi 

      5 months ago

      All I can say is: PATIENCE is the key.

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      ken 

      7 months ago

      Am from kenya,, i have tried but it has never worked.

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      Jules 

      7 months ago

      Carl, you’re the one

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      Mike 

      10 months ago

      Yes I have seduced several straight men. I'm friendly but not pushy or flamboyant. Straights like to bond with other men. Initially, I engage them as I would my best friend, I smile often, and offer any help. They love it and can't wait to see me again.

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      Ricky 

      12 months ago

      After my divorce, a lot of straight married men came on to me because I was sane, safe, respectable, etc. Later, I realized I was/am bi.

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      Martin 

      14 months ago

      I used to seduce a guy before. Yes, I got him but he's asking for money hahhaha however he's sweet and talkative like he knows what I want.

      Just to provide his vipe. He's fine with that, he told me, I can do whatever I want.

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      danny teel 

      16 months ago

      great site. great info, works like a charm. not all the time but more often than not.

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      Carl 

      17 months ago

      Well hi there @Pedro.

      Your kinda situation is more of a 50-50 probability. Either way could lead to either circumstances.

      It could just be that he is playing hard to get or that he is trying to keep a distance so that those in his circles don't get suspicious.

      What i have realized mostly is that, sexuality isn't one way as they say it to be (one that even you yourself have attested to). Humans are mostly fluid, but since we are always into following the ladder, we tend to cling more to the one which has got most people on.

      (Just hope you get what i mean)

      That being said, everyone has got two extremes of themselves. Whichever way you go is your choice. So those who are saying "Oh am straight" are just chosing and convincing themselves so.

      Your being drank blurred the lines between the conscious and subconscious leading the both of you to do what you have subconsciously been dyeing to do.

      So he might be gay...aaand he might not.? Either way, you cannot tell without probing.

      To cut things short, what you do now would have to be your choice. Be prepared for whatever the outcome is and think it through before you act.

      Go over the possible events that could happen; whether it'll go as expected or it'd take the unexpected turn.

      Are you ready to put what you have to the test?

      If so, then all I can say is good luck. Hope he is just being the hard to get type.

      Hope this helps too :)

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      Brittany Martin 

      17 months ago from United States

      This comes off as extremely predatory...

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      pedro 

      18 months ago

      I considered myself straight , but recently I met a guy in a night club and we get drunk and we went to the bathroom together after we made pee I hugged him and grab and squeeze his and gave him a bite on his neck and he slight kissed me but , unfortunately the maintenance guy interrupted entering in the bathroom and we stopped what we were about to do. I did hang out three times with him already but he acts difficult with me but he accept my invitations like i pay his drinks etc, etc. do you think he is gay . He keeps telling me the he likes girls and I keep telling him that i like girls too but I want to explore and experiment with a guy for the very first time. Please, I need your advise I usually call him weekly . I am not sure if i should continue hanging out with him or I should forget him. Please I need your advise

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      Carl 

      18 months ago

      Hi Bennet and Lukey1157. Really glad I was able to help. Wish you all the best :)

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      Russell 

      22 months ago

      I have tried so many times to get seduduced and have tried to seduce guys with no luck.

      I so want play but can't find guys to play.

      I am married 50y/old very fit and a fun guy.

      I mix with a lot of guys and want suck and be sucked.

      I am considered good looking.

      What can I do to be seduced or seduce?

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      Jamo 

      22 months ago

      I always get someone on the dating website but I wish I could seduce a guy in for real without going on a website, but I don't think I can't do that in a country that will lock u up for 14 years, a country like mine.

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      AN 

      22 months ago

      I wish a sexy guy would seduce me!

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      Kyle 

      23 months ago

      The poll indicates more have not even tried, than those who did or who failed at doing so.....Just try ;)

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      YYH 221 

      2 years ago

      Same!!! I sit next to my best friend crush in school. I've tried dropping hints here and there but I don't think he got them. He keeps flirting with me but his friends tell me he is straight.

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      Bruu 

      2 years ago

      Arggh, I have a crush on my best friend and he is always flirting with me but it seems like a joke. My friends think he is Bi I really don't know

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      Jeans 

      2 years ago

      What is the easiest way to separate a guy from his "pack"?

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      Panda 

      2 years ago

      I have this friend that I've had a crush on,and I was wondering if the steps would work cause today I asked if he was gay and he just playfully pushed me away, if these steps don't work can some recommend something My Kik is deme50

      p.s. looking for love

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      Swami 

      2 years ago

      I liked this article very much

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      YYZ 2112 

      2 years ago

      Mine was bittersweet.. For over a year I befriended my straight crush and we always joked around about doing each other. One night after lots of drinking, he asked if I would spit or swallow - I drunkenly admitted that I would swallow for him but no one else, and he said that turned him on. Sure enough, we slept together twice, but when I tried the third time he said he didn't feel right because he was straight and he blamed it on the alcohol (even though he told me it was the best sex he ever had) We never hung out again. I really miss him - not just cuz he was super hot, but he really was a good friend.

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      Albert 

      2 years ago

      I'm bi, but I love this guy emotionally, not sexually, ever since we became friends, I started to have gay feelings for him, cause this is the first time I ever had emotional feelings for a male. idk if he is straight or gay. But he is Catholic and I'm scared his parents will disapproved if this will work out (after I use your steps).Please kindly answer this

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      Bobby 

      2 years ago from Buffalo, NY

      I'm straight but I have a fantasy of being with a man. Not just sexually. Like going away for a weekend together and being in public holding hands, kissing, etc. I guess it's more than a fantasy. I would actually do it with the right guy.

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      mjd 

      2 years ago

      I have a straight friend,and he keep on touching me like he likes me , but I don't knw that he's interested in me, am scared that if I start to make a move he'll tell everyone that am gay

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      Homer the Great 

      2 years ago

      I am a straight bloke who wants to be chatted to by a gay bloke who might flirt with me..I do not register any signs or subtle references thus... aaarrgghh! Help..

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      gaysince90 

      2 years ago

      im gay, a girl tried the same with me, it was about to work, but im so gay...

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      Bryce 

      2 years ago

      Bryce Dan I'm ready

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      Haris 

      2 years ago

      I actually have a straight friend and i had done all of the things i wanted to do with him.

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      jay 

      2 years ago

      Hi ave read yur ideas and am impressed lookin forward to more

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      Bennet 

      2 years ago

      Carl, thank you sooooooo very much. I have a boyfriend! He said it's cool with having me touch him at night and he even said that he loves me! Aaaaahhh! But, we both still identify as straight. B-)

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      Lukey1157 

      2 years ago

      Hi carl thanks i will invite him round soon but i need to know what to say can you help me

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      michael 

      2 years ago

      I keep trying these steps but the only guys I'm seducing r the wrong ones :(

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      Lukey1157 

      2 years ago

      Hi carl thanks can you help me what i should say to him at the sleepover cause i hope to ask him

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      Bennet 

      2 years ago

      Carl, in your previous message (before the response to Lukey1157), were you referring to me?

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      Carl 

      2 years ago

      Hi some teenager, but what is it that you really want with him: relationship or a hit and run romance? To be frank, there are many of us who dream of such an event happening, and, as they say, Opportunity comes but once. So i'll say if you are considering for a relationship, then, you better start taking steps to ensuring that before you lose even this. (Since he identifies as straight)

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      Swaggy 

      2 years ago

      I am bi, and i have a friend who i want to have fun with, i am planning on asking him to a sleepover then having fun but i need help on the exact words of what to say can someone help me p.s he is straight??

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      flawless 

      2 years ago

      I like this dude at work and I been with straight men before, but he make me nerves

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      Blue Eyed 

      2 years ago

      Attracting a straight guy for a gay guy can be little challenging.But once he`s able to do this,it can be very rewarding! Straight guys are delicious! Believe me,if a guy is very beautiful than a straight guy can`t resist him.I`ve seen it.All you need is little confidence and a charming smile.

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      ElI 

      2 years ago

      I don't know what if I mess this up for us I've trusted him since second grade I look up to him as a brother and I might mess this up where he'll not be my frien EVER

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      Me 

      2 years ago

      I have a 'friend' who I told 'I love you'. He gave me thirty minutes of 'all the reasons it won't work, including he's straight'...followed by...'you're right about one thing, I 'do' love you'... We've been together ever since...

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      Brian 

      2 years ago from Northern Michigan

      Kevin Son. If this person is your dad, that would be considered a big no no. I would leave him alone, he may be drunk when you approach him, but if he is sober enough to know what you are doing, you might really piss him off, and he may never forgive you. Or worse.

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      Some Teenager 

      2 years ago

      It's been a while. Anyway, so last week… something happened. My friend Stella was throwing a party. It wasn't a typical high school rager. Nothing too much, just a pretty big group of friends. So both my crush and I were invited. And basically I didn't have to make any moves. So basically we were in a hallway together, and he pushed me against a wall and started making out with me. I liked it, but it was just so random that I hesitated and said 'wyd…' . Then we sat down on a pretty nice couch (shoutout to Stella's furniture

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      jamadeus 

      2 years ago

      to be honest with ya; some teenager, you should just continue the playfulness. next time you guys gather or you two are alone, try kissing him. if he doesn't hesitate and kisses back, then keep it going. your desire of a make out session should happen. be warned, this could be dangerous. but seeing as though he already kissed you willingly and has told you he wanted to kiss you, you should be fine. hell, maybe you can even get a little bit more action if you're up for it ;). respond once you've done this! thanks.

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      superkan 

      2 years ago

      Well, there was this friend of mine who i had a crush on in junior high. Actually i would say that it was his fault that the crush developed because i quiet remember that about two weeks or more after i was transfered there, he became close to me telling me that if i had been a girl, he sure would have made a move on me. He always liked to treat me like a girl, always kind and making moves on me and also playing make-out games in class with me(that was the only place we could possibly see each other). So after we graduated, i finally got the courage to message him on facebook about my feelings for him and his replies were of a total freak out. He was so insisting that i was gay while i tried convincing him that i was a bi. So in the end, i sadly told him that all was a joke and since then he hasn't chat regularly with me. I so got him totally wrong.

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      Scott 

      2 years ago

      I noticed another article on this page entitled "How to pick up straight men at the Gym." Interestingly, yet another article on this page is titled "Why do straight men feel awkward around gay men?" I have no clue.

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      valkyrie 

      3 years ago

      am sry dude , no hard feelings

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      valkyrie 

      3 years ago

      jonnycomelately, will u just shut up & stop interfereing & giving unnecessory advice to other people? mind u'r own business & this kind of behavior is totally repulsive!

      goodbye, wishing u luck!

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      Kelli 

      3 years ago

      This really does sound predatory. Does anyone here see that this could be used to denigrate the gay community? The person is straight. What part of straight do you not get? It sounds like rape steps.

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      Anonymous 

      3 years ago

      I need this guy Anthony to like me I think he is straight but he is exactly like me I like football but wouldn't prefer it and I've been dreaming about him over and over non stop I just want him to fuck me or at least kiss me can I get some straight guy to let me know how to grab him and get him with me but he's like way out of my league I'm short and he is like a whole foot taller than me and he is SO hot like every time he looks at me I cum a lil but he doesn't seem in to me but I just want one night with him can some one help me

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      kyo 

      3 years ago

      hahaha, funny. me, i did try to seduce a man. sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesnt work. what i did to a man that i like is ask him any questions. talk to to him and invite him into swimming.

      afterall, they invited me to go to some bar and have some drinks. then i got drunk then he takes advantages of me. he is like saying something in my ear to the fact that i dont understands his words. next thing i knew, he's kissing me already in my neck and ear and that brought me into wildness.

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      This might sound old-fashioned but I say this to all of you.

      Stop playing around with sex at your very young stage of life. Get on with learning to live amongst your mates and friends without viewing them according to whether they are hot or not.

      You have young life, young brains, lots of energy. You want and need lots of fun.

      Learn the basics of life, how to mix with and respect other people.

      Learn to look after your self.

      Learn to cook your self a good healthy and nourishing meal.

      Learn to write and speak well in your native language so you can express yourself well and communicate your desires and feelings.

      Learn basic arithmetic so you can defend your pocket against those who want to cheat you.

      All these things you need to learn before you are 18 years old.

      After that you will find a lot more joy in having a beautiful friendship and really sharing love with the girl or guy that you gel with.

      This is not saying you are bad for thinking as you do now. Just saying there is much more for you to experience in your life if you want it.

      But if you DO want it you will need some good sense and control of yourself. No one else can do that for you.

      From an old man that cares.

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      Ryan 

      3 years ago

      And all this time i thought being gay wasnt a choice

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      Spiffycool 

      3 years ago

      I have a straight friend. That is what he said, he is twin and his twin brother is gay. He know that I am BI. One night we where together and I ask him if it is ok if I just cuddle with him. He said no, and will keep his now. We talked about sex before and we are still the same as before. But I still want to try it again but in a different way. Any idea beside the options above?

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      Ejjj 

      3 years ago

      Let me see

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      Anonymous, you are correct to differential between love and lust....but I don't feel we need to denigrate "Lust." It is just one part of our natural biological makeup, one of the factors that may lead to pairing.

      However, to give Lust freedom to control and direct our lives is not a helpful or happy thing. It can lead to all manner of disappointments.

      Better to hold a few good principles in you life that give you sound advice and deter you from making a fool of yourself.

      One principle that you might be happy to hold for your life: it takes two persons to give full consent for anything sexual and intimate. If either partner feels against it, for what ever reason, it just is not worth the energy and bother to force a sexual relationship without the other person's full consent and agreement. You might easily end up hating yourself and the other person.

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      Anonymous 

      3 years ago

      Pieter, you're not in love, you're in lust. Besides, there are a lot of things that could be causing your friend to act the way he is. Regardless, it's not your problem. Stop wasting your time with someone who's not going to reciprocate your feelings, and go find someone who will.

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      Pieter 

      3 years ago

      My friend is straight. we had 5 awesome play dates. then he changed completely. 5 months later same thing. he admitted he was bi. told me he loved me. then he stopped being my close best friend but just a friend (more like acquaintance), got aggravated for no reason, keeping his distance, making excuses and not showing any form of caring for me in any way. when we drive some where he will say something like, "I wish you had breasts or I love you bro. I am open with him lately and following these rules. he will still get me to do anything to please him as long as sex is not involved. but his body language shows something else. am I stupid to love him or is there someone with advice on handling this.

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      Anonymous 

      3 years ago

      As a straight, I’ve had many gay friends in the past, and the reason I don’t anymore is because of the blatant hypocrisy of the gay community. The community as a whole plays being gay off as a biological thing that no one can choose, and yet, gays in general try to continually play with the idea that being gay or straight is really a sliding scale, or guess what, a choice. Which contradicts your entire premise about being born gay.

      Worse, you want others to respect your lifestyle; however, you constantly disrespect others. That is, you don’t or won’t respect the fact that open-minded people who are willing to be tolerant and/or be your friends don’t want to be converted. Nevertheless, you constantly go after straights rather than only picking up people in your community with excuses such as our community’s too small. As if it would be acceptable for a straight guy to try and convert a goldstar lesbian.

      The most disgusting part, articles like this and the rest of them on the Internet unashamedly espouse the idea of ignoring your friends’ right to choose and simply raping them instead. I.e. just get him alone and drunk enough to where he’s about to pass out and viola; you can take advantage of him. Or spike his drink and viola. Or hug him until he gets used to you touching him, get him alone, talk about sex, maybe show him some straight porn, make sure to drink A LOT, and when he’s drunk, horny, and about to pass out, pounce on him.

      Needless to say, by any legal definition, you all are committing predatory sex crimes and should look at what you’re doing. Still, it seems like this is spun to be a positive in the gay community. Because, after all, you’re simply giving him your gift. Men are always looking for sex, so it’s okay, or he’s so deeply in the closet, you’re only helping him see what he really is. (Like that’s your decision to decide what’s best for another person. But hey, however you can rationalize your predilections.) It’s freaking disgusting that you want others to be respectful of your lifestyle choices, but you can’t and won’t do the same for others.

      You wonder why straight people have a fear of gay men, but with articles like this, it’s no wonder straight men are suspicious of you, especially with the way you try to shame others into accepting you rather than being upfront about what you want. That is, you don’t have the balls to say I’m interested in you. Instead, you try to groom and take advantage of people. Plus, if someone says, I’m not gay or interested. The retort is, geez, not all gay men are attracted to you. Just because we’re gay doesn’t mean we’re trying to check you out. Yet, by the very nature of being gay, it means you’re attracted to men and want to see them naked. The hypocrisy and deviance of the community are truly nauseating.

      And before you give me this shite about it not being all gays, you’re ALL on a board about trying to get with your straight friends with tons of comments. So, it may not be all gays but enough to make what I’m saying true.

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      Kelly 

      3 years ago

      Why do gay men think they can seduce a straight guy but freak out if a woman tries to seduce them .maybe your afraid you might like it. No because your gay gay gay .like I'm straight straight straight it's all I think about women 24 /7 just find a gay man who you care about and be happy

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      Alex 

      3 years ago

      Yes, i agree. How do seduce this guy whos tough loves women but still a virgin. Like he tough. Dumb lol, adventourus, and etc

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      xyoey123, I fully understand where you are coming from, and warm to that emotion. I know those feelings so, so well!

      It's all good man. You sound like you have your head and your heart in the right place.

      If that truth you speak of is coming from your heart, then you will know the right moment to tell him all of this.... if it really is right to.

      I would say, "if I were you...." but that would be sermonising you, and inappropriate.

      So, sum up for yourself all that you feel, all that you think he needs from you, then maybe --- ask him. Ask him if he's got any feelings that are confusing him. Does he feel totally hetero? Does he like a bit of fun with a guy? How does he feel about you? You are going to have to work it out using your best instincts. I know what you are probably feeling; will these questions send him packing, and cause the friendship between you to break? From what you have said, I doubt it -- but hell! It's hard one!

      Again.... wishing you well.

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      xyoey123 

      3 years ago

      You're right about lust!

      I lust for him all the time. I want to feel his gorgeous body but I have never touched him.

      Although my desire is physical, I think I love him emotionally too!

      But we have a different kind of bond

      I am much older to be his friend

      He respects me and asks me for advice and I love to help him out

      Which is why I am so conflicted- It would break our bond

      But I really want him- Should I tell him the truth?

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      PS: this is only my opinion of course, a bit old fashioned you might think, and you are free to throw it out if you please. But sometimes I need to speak my truth.

      Wishing you well.

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      @ xyoey123 What you are feeling is Lust. Lust usually has no concern for the welfare of the other person. It is selfish, period.

      You sort out your own desires.... they are your total responsibility.

      If you are really responsible, you will first and foremost consider what is best for that young man. You might question him on what are his real and immediate needs in life. You could ask him about his hopes, his ambitions, how things are going for him. Seek to help in that way, and put your own lust aside at least until you have served his needs before your own.

      I am not saying "don't desire." Desire is a normal and natural emotion for most humans, as it is for all the other animal species of this world.

      But as humans, we are gifted with brains with which to understand and to modify our basic instincts. Considering the needs of others before our own is what makes our society "civilised."

      Stand up and be a man who can be respected.

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      xyoey123 

      3 years ago

      I am 49 yrs old Bi/Gay man. I know this really sexy good looking muscular young guy who is 22. I meet him at the gym regularly & he is straight. He likes to talk to me about regular stuff , sometimes his school problems. I give him advice. I really want to have sex with him. I think he knows I'm gay.Should I make a move? I am conflicted, he is so cute and innocent!

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      FRANCO KIM 

      3 years ago

      SUCCEDED

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      FRANCO KIM 

      3 years ago

      SUCCEDED

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      Jerker 

      3 years ago

      I'm so felt so scared when i try that!Im straight but curious.

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      TJ 

      3 years ago

      Funny!!! I'm straight (I'm really just human), and I don't know how to hook up with another man. Feel awkward. Just a guy that wants try something I haven't experience. Call it whatever you like. I hate labels. I'm attracted to things that catch my eye... Straight or gay. Why not share a good time... Seduce me!!!

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      jack67 

      3 years ago

      Okay thank you I suppose the worst that could happen is that he doesn't want to do it!

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      nickf 

      3 years ago

      Hi Jack,

      The only way you will know is if you take it another step forward.He might be a virgin.That would be good.Some guys come over as all 'rugged' but in an instant you know whether they are a taker or giver.

      As to you being 'scared',what can he do? Punch you? 'Out' you? Maybe fuck you? It's all O.K..It doesn't matter,you are you.

      I just found out a guy I had an enormous crush on and I thought was as straight as the day is long,has a boyfriend.

      God

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      "How to seduce a straight guy?"

      "Why, Hulloooo Sweedy!" (Said seductively, you know what I mean, lol!)

      But seriously. Kevin, you say you are not gay, or bi... right? That is absolutely fine. I don't question you on that or judge you for it. I am not qualified or entitled to do so. I don't think anyone else is either. YOU, with all your faculties about you, all your inbuilt sense of what is right for you and him, are in control and able to make full judgment of yourself and your actions.

      A few questions you can ask your self:

      Am I imposing my self on this other guy against his wishes?

      Is he trying to impose him self upon me, against MY wishes?

      Is everything we are doing together enjoyable? Or do either of us feel dirty, or bad, or guilty about anything we do?

      Is it inherently "bad" to have fun and enjoy ourselves?

      Is anyone else getting hurt by what we are doing? Is it necessary for us to lie to others about what we are doing? What effect, if any, is our lying to others having upon their lives?

      If there is any feeling of guilt, does this in itself have a negative impact upon our lives in relation to others?

      You see, regardless of the sexual activity or any fun that ANYONE gets up to, whether it be hetero-, homo-, bi-, trans-, cross-dressing, whatever.....it needs to be addressed in regard to how it affects others.

      If the "other" party or parties who might be drawn into the deceit are oblivious to what is going on then they have no control over it. Then every responsibility falls on your shoulders.

      It all, in my estimation, falls down upon your own responsibilities and choices. If you give away the judgment for some one else to make, then you can't shoulder the judgment and you must suffer the consequences.

      If you take all the responsibility upon yourself and act accordingly, then you will grow in stature as an adult.

      Just my personal understanding of your situation...... wishing you well.

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      Aaron 

      3 years ago

      Oh yes these are all straight men yeah

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      PB 

      3 years ago

      I'm straight but if a guy tried this with me he'd have me in bed in no time.

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      thatguyjames96@mail.com 

      3 years ago

      Hello guys its me James again haha looking to meet guys who are in the same boat as me and would like to hook up if you know what i mean ;)

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      james 

      3 years ago

      Is this a south african page?

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      whythehate58@gmail.com 

      3 years ago

      guys iam straight but would like to hook up just once with another straight guy. Email me if anyone is interested

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      james 

      3 years ago

      Hello guys i like two of my best friends and i get hints but iam to scared to follow through plz some one email me and help me

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      Hi Viruss. Have you had good experiences that are worth remembering and that left you feeling great? With both guys and gals? Which do you prefer?

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      Viruss 

      3 years ago

      Hello. I'm bi 20 from Ph.

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      Gian 

      3 years ago

      Im sorry if I've written too much info.. I was just too confused of what is happening with me and my friend.. thanks for your opinion..

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      Gian, what you are writing here is just not appropriate for public discussion here.

      There are ways of discussion this subject while keeping it reasonable and acceptable.

      This is only my opinion, others might differ of course.

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      Gian 

      3 years ago

      Hi.. its me again... it happened 3 times again after my last post on this thread.. I think he wants to suck me too.. cause while I was sucking him he played with my c*ck too.. and we were not drunk during that time... I also think that he wants me to f*ck him... cause I tried to prod my hard d*ck on his back and he did not stop me.. I want to talk to him about what he really wants... but whenever I try he just ignores me..

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      Alan 

      3 years ago from Tasmania

      Wow, this has been such a hugely successful Hub. Well done, jamadeus!

      I am in a similar situation, since I see so many awesome straight guys around. Usually afraid to open the subject with them, but just occasionally I score something like a full body massage with them. They like my touch, too!

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      Mark 

      3 years ago

      I have a straight guy friend and we're actually close. He sometimes comes to my house to drink or smoke up. I really thought of having sex with him out of curiosity. He's a triathlete and I think he's hot. I just don't have the courage to ask him before but when I read this article, I think it's a push this time. The problem is I think he's starting to fall for me. We hang out a lot more than he goes out with his girlfriend. 7 days a week we would usually be together. I think I like him but I can't imagine falling for him too without more positive signs that he likes me too.

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      michael 

      3 years ago

      I had a friend of mine which is now my boyfriend was completely hot and cute.

      one day, while we were walking along the side walk with john(cousin,also gay), john saw

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      Gay Christian 

      3 years ago

      I'm a Christian and gay. No apparent horns have grown and the vicar isn't going into cardiac arrest at my touch so it can't be that bad. Keep it in church Gay Is A Lie but actually, keep it to yourself you homophobic pig, God is the only judge, not two-bit little bible bashers. Willy-Wonka, do whatever you think will work, if you've got the feeling that you need to tell him, get him on his own and make sure you're both fully comfortable before you tell him because he may be a little bit freaked out if you sit down and you instantly tell him you "lust his crotch" or something lol. If you can't tell him, hint at him and say "I'm going to have to keep my distance from you for a while, I'm a little bit confused at the moment." If you want to still bother with him and talking to him on Facebook, ask him if there's a problem between the pair of you and that way you can tell if your fiend did actually say something

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      gay is a lie 

      3 years ago

      I was going to use these steps but now after when I saw this comment from gay is a lie but now I am stping bieng gay I am never going there again the lord will punish you for this I will stop now In the name of jesus in the holy fathers name may. You all stop bieng gay it ia adultry and the bible saya do not commite adultry with other men and you shall be punished

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      Willy-Wonka 

      3 years ago

      I have this friend at school. He transferred about 3 years ago and on his first day I started to talk to him a little bit and we became friend. I now class him as a best friend but I don't know whether he does. Before, he said he'd share a place with me when we're older and stuff and when we're in the same classes he talks and sit by me and gets disappointed if I don't see a seat by him and sit somewhere else. He always looks me in the eyes and jokes around with me but then my interfering friend got involved and told him that a guy liked him and because he doesn't know her well, he just replied saying he liked girls but I really think that something else is going on but he's too nervous to say anything because his friends are a macho bunch of dicks. When she told him a guy liked him, he guessed me straight away but she said it wasn't and then since then, he barely answers me on Facebook and although I try to tease-flirt, he doesn't answer or even look at my messages.. Should I act clueless and ask if there's anything wrong between us when we're alone together or if he's sick of me etc.? It's really hard because I love him and know how well we go together because we like all the same things but he just doesn't seem to realise it and it breaks my heart because I know how well we could be together. I help him with everything I can to try and get him on my side but he just thanks me and doesn't try to do anything else. If he would answer me, I would ask him to go to the park or something on a nice day and just tell him that I think I like him but I think that'll ruin any chances I have of being a friend with him. I've like him and gotten over him 3 times and everytime I fall back in love with him, it's stronger and the urges get worse and the come-downs are terrible from it. Should I tell him? How can I get him? Someone with a little more experience please help!

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      Oliver 

      3 years ago

      As him gian

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      Gian 

      3 years ago

      again its me.. i just got confused if he is also gay or not.. we talked earlier and out of the topic he asked me if I know how to make love potions.. I said "no.. why?" then he just said "uhm nothing" then he changed the topic...

      is he thinking that i'm using love potions on him.. does that mean he is feeling something for me too.. he is acting strange lately.. I'm just too afraid to ask him about it..

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      Gian 

      3 years ago

      It happened again today... but this time we're just tipsy.. and we both know what we are doing... and after we do it we now act like nothing happened between us... I love him but I know that our relationship can only be "friends" or maybe it's considered as "friends with benefits"

      I just realized it's more fun doing it when ur not that drunk haha..

      He taste and smell so good..

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      scot 

      3 years ago

      Oh come on , this is to funny

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      Cj 

      3 years ago

      I'm too afraid to try this , I don't even want sex I just want a hug or something.

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      dylan 

      3 years ago

      i like this hot boy at school that doesn't have any of my classes but he knows me and i a afraid to make my move on him. what should i do?

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      Vinz 

      3 years ago

      I'm 18 last year of high school. I have to do something! I like this guy we never spoke before and every time he passes by I just can't stop stare at me. And now he started to noticing me every time. I think he knows I like him. And today I sent an request on fb to him and I'm wating:( I should've said hi to him at school but I'm so nervous. I like him:( I will give up if he won't accept fb. If he did, then I will try to be his frnd and will try these!!'

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