Submissive Women - A Redefined Concept
1. Submissive – one definition: ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive.
2. Feminine Power – Naturally Prosperous provides three categories for defining feminine power
Step #1 – Feminine InquiryThe very first step in living in our Feminine Power is to understand what it truly means to be a woman. So many of us are struggling to figure out what it means to be a woman. Yes, we know that we have these hormones that dictate our lives and that we are more connected to the natural rhythms of the Earth.
Step #2 – Own your Womanhood
Step #3 – Explore Your Feminine Nature
3. Supportive Woman – Askmen provides a great article detailing the traits of a supportive woman.http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_60/89_dating_tips.html
Six qualities of a supportive woman:
a)she is fiercely loyal
b)she challenges you to progress
c)she inspires and motivates you
d)she grounds you, humbles you
e)she sacrifices for you without interference or request
f)she loves and cares for you
"Behind every great man is a great woman." - Anonymous
While everyone has their opinion regarding the idea of submissive behavior, the phrase brings so much disagreement amongst the sexes. Perhaps the idea of feminine power or the qualities of a supportive woman is a pill easier to swallow by the masses.
Growing up I was familiar with the b.b. when it comes to endless sermons about women being submissive while at church. (b.b. =biblical beat-down) Mostly this was used when women asked questions about processes or a course of action from the leadership(men). This was a successful tactic, misapplied, to any situation of controversy addressed by the leadership of the church. Engrained in the minds of most, we can recall book chapter and verse constantly recited from the pull-pit:
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
I always found it entertaining that often religious leaders fail to set the scene of this compliance request that follows verse 22. You know the part that includes how husbands are to love/care for their wives.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her;
28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;
29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,
Who could forget, 1 Corinthians 11:11 NIV:Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman.
Aside from the spiritual realm, we are living in a new age and day. Women are achieving greater financial strides and embarking in high leadership roles. So in this day and age where does the submissive ideal fit with our new society? This is not the society or generation that was raised on The Good Wife's Guide published in 1955. If you can't recall some of the highlights please allow me:http://www.robinsweb.com/humor/good_wife.html
- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
- Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
- Your goal: To try and make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
- Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
- Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
There are some women who manage to balance feminine power, strength, and wear the title of supportive wife. Perhaps if the association with the idea of submission means remaining quiet, passive, and without strength rather than celebrating the power of femininity; I wonder how the sexes would respond to such a concept? Many times ladies are not taught that you are not to display supportive qualities with a man who does not love, care, protect, or provide/contribute to you. A leader of the household should never be a bully, uncaring, selfish, self-absorbed person unconcerned with the needs of their partner. Many times this is not mentioned when it comes to being part of a team nor the responsibilities of a mate in a relationship.
If you ever people watch at a restaurant you will observe surprising interaction. Women who claim to be submissive in nature but walk up to the hostess and tell them where they will be seated on their date, answer questions for their dates, determine how long they will stay, question everything they order and sometimes pick up the tab over a man's objection. No hugs at the end of the date, never realizing they were more of a man than their date.
My questions when it comes to the concept of women being submissive:
What are your thoughts on women being submissive?
What are the qualities and traits of a submissive woman?
Do you have a more modern definition of submissive?
Do you think we should do away with the word and burn the concept?