- Gender and Relationships
SO YOU WANT TO MARRY A FILIPINA
To find a perfect Filipina wife you must first understand the Philippine Culture and know what real Filipina women are like. If you have the typical American misperceptions of a Filipina, then you need to make sure you can deal with certain issues once the marriage is official.
Filipina women prefer western men to Filipino men.
Filipinas are just like any other woman when looking for a man, they want a stable lasting relationship. Considering the double standards in the Philippines and the fact that there is no legal divorce, Filipina women have a lot to contemplate when considering marrying a Filipino man. Western men are perceived as being more modern and loving than Filipinos so it is no surprise they are considered more desirable for a life companion.
Filipina women prefer older men.
Statistically, Western men who are looking for a foreign spouse are above the age of 35. What makes them desirable is that they are perceived by Filipinas as more mature, less promiscuous, and financially stable. Such men have a better than average income, a college education and most have been divorced once and are seeking a stable lasting life-long relationship.
Filipinas are submissive and sex addicts.
Now here is the inconsistency. Many western men want their future Filipina wife to be a virgin, and yet they are unwilling to accept the limitations that such virtue implies. They wish for a wife with no sexual history, yet hope that she has nothing else on her mind other than to please his sexual desire.
In reality many Filipinas have advanced degrees of education and professional lives. It could hardly be presumed that their only purpose in life is to fulfill some man's wildest dreams. What you do get when marrying a Filipina is woman dedicated to her family and striving to keep her marriage successful.
Can you handle being a part of a big family?
Family will always remain a great priority for Filipino women. When marrying a Filipina, you are not just a family consisting of a husband and wife, instead you become a part of her extended family. You must ask yourself if you can handle being a part of a big family and if you want children because you can be sure that any Filipina does.
Are you ready to accept your wife's family as your own?
You should be prepared to provide financial assistance to your new, extended family in the Philippines. When the need for medical attention, or things like schooling or food are needed for her relatives and if you are capable and refuse to help them, your lack of generosity would be inexplicable to your Filipina wife and though she may not say anything, she will neither respect you or understand your unwillingness to help.
Are You Religious?
There are three primary religions in the Philippines: 83% Roman Catholic, 9% Protestant and 5% Muslim. It is common amongst Filipino society to raise the family in the church, so be prepared for some soul-searching on this matter since she is probably more devoted to her religion than you are to yours. Your perspective Filipina bride would most likely dream of a church wedding, and some families even forbid their daughters to get married without one.
These are just some basic guides you should know before deciding whether a Filipina wife is right for you. If you can handle these issues, and there are many more than just these few, I think you have made a great decision by choosing a Filipina for your life companion and I can only wish you luck in finding the perfect Filipina bride!