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What Women Don't Like About Men

Updated on September 3, 2013
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Acknowledgement


The survey would not have been possible without your help.

Shuva Singh Thakuri in Kathmandu, Nepal

Jeebesh Rayamajhi in Kathmandu, Nepal

Ava Shahi Thapa in Kathmandu, Nepal

Rita Subba in Kansas, USA

Safa Fathmath in Maldives

Smilio Aguinaldo, in Manila, Philippines

Ananda Chao in Bangkok, Thailand

And all the women who participated in the survey


One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman – Simone de Beauvoir (1908-1986) French writer and feminist.

I will appear idiosyncratic if I say I’m a feminist, but I believe one is not born a woman but is made a woman by regularly repeating the rituals such as decorating body and learning household skills, which are actually associated with feminine identity. A woman is taught gender roles from the very earliest age and reinforced perpetually. And this gender role is more defined in Asian and African cultures than in European and American societies. Women are still described as objects of beauty to be appreciated and appropriated by masculine gauge.


What Women Do Not Like About Men: A Survey

To know what women don’t like about men, I conducted a survey. Just about 100 women answered my questions. They came from different countries and cultures, and they were highly educated or just High School students. The women who participated in the survey came from different "races" and "religions." The women who participated in the survey were 18-61 years of age.

I was amazed with the answers. Some of the responses were mundane such as I don’t like my boyfriend becoming jealous when I talk to other guys; or, thought provoking such as women should look pretty, I hate this rigid masculine notion.

I have tried to sum up what women do not like about men, in ten points.

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“No common ground for dislike”


Rita Subba (32)

Graduate Teaching Assistant at Wichita State University; Wichita, Kansas

Now that you asked, this is such a hard question. When somebody asked me what life was, I told him I had not lived enough yet to answer that. So can I pass this question stating that I probably haven't been with enough men?

What I dislike about men are sometimes the same things that I dislike about women. So I am thinking hard here. What I exactly dislike about men? I know what I dislike about my dad, my brother, my every male relatives and friends or old flames. I can't find a common ground of my dislike based on their gender.

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Ten things women do not like about men


1. Men give importance to a woman's body than her mind. They think women don’t have intelligence, so they have to look beautiful. Men objectify women.


2. Men are chauvinists. They think they are superiors. They never practice equality. They take women for granted. Why can’t they even come home on time? "This makes women feel neglected and ignored."


3. Men think they know things better than women. When women want to discuss, men try to solve problems. They always don the role of helper. Men think they are always right.


4. Men are pretenders. They always pretend what they are not. They always want to impress women. They think they know everything.


5. Men seem to act overtly macho. All the time they try to look strong and act as protectors. They are over possessive and never want to let go their tough-guy image.


6. Men never give importance to what a woman really wants, all they want from women is submission. Men expect women to sacrifice lots of things for the sake of family, but they never give up anything.


7. Men think they are the head in the family, the society, the country, and most importantly the world. They believe they can get away with everything.


8. Men are not sincere when it comes to maintaining relationship. They cheat "on" their girlfriends and their wives. They don’t understand women’s feelings.


9. Men are unpredictable. They hurt women but a while "later" they try to become "angels" and wipe their tears. But why "do" they act insensitive in the first place.


10. Men interpret women’s love, care and support as pestering. Whenever women show concern for their men, they say they want space. But the truth is they can’t handle commitment.

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My Mother’s Answer


Before forwarding the question to anyone, I asked my mother: what you don’t like about men.

“There are many,” she said.

“Give me few,” I insisted. She pondered for few seconds and shared her dislikes. I could see my father and me in her answer.

Let me add an anecdote here. When I said age of the responder is mandatory, one of my friends, who participated in the survey, mused, "Oh, I hate the age part but go ahead, let me be a man and not be shy about how old I am."

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What are the things women in Nepal don’t like about men?


Rukmini Sharma (27)

School teacher

I don’t like men:

  • Who smoke in bathroom and throw cigarette butt in the toilet.
  • Who throw a wet towel on the bed after taking shower.


Shradha Gurung (31)

Entrepreneur

I don’t like:

  • Workaholic husbands not being able to give time to family.
  • Men with lack of sensitivity towards women's emotional needs.
  • Men who lack patience while shopping.
  • Men not acknowledging the realities of life.


Anjana Rana Singh (37)

Homemaker

I don’t like:

  • Men having the habit of lying, and who are dishonest.
  • Men who have the laid back attitude.


Aakanchhya Sherchan (19)

Student

I don’t like:

  • Male chauvinistic attitude.
  • Men who get carried away easily from the subject of conversation.
  • Men who lack commitment in relationship.


Menka Shahi (33)

Dentist

I don’t like men:

  • With ego problems, superiority complex and dishonesty.
  • Who smokes, drinks and parties like there's no tomorrow.

Women speak about the things they do not like about men



Julianna Evans (39)

RN/Freelance Writer; In A Relationship

What I don't like about men is: Their chauvinistic ways and there are times where they always like to be in control. It's nice when they are a gentleman; but I can't stand when they are insecure with themselves and make accusations about a woman when they are the ones that can't handle a commitment.


Phelcky Lilly (18)

Student in a boarding school; single; from Aarhus, Denmark

One of my biggest dislikes is the way many men (not all) tend to judge a woman’s body all the time. For me it's exhausting listening to comments about my fine ass. I have many male friends, but I feel that they don't really take me seriously. I am more than a body, I do actually have a brain.


Kelly Hamlin Ward (37)

Freelance writer and stay at home mom; from Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA

I don't like it when my husband tries to solve a problem or issue that I just want to discuss. I like to express my feelings about a topic or situation. During those times I really just want to hear myself talk so I can make sense of the situation. What I don't like is when my husband sees the issue as a dilemma and starts trying to solve the "problem" before I've even considered it to be problematic.


Laura Sims

Retired Nurse; Married; from Ontario, Canada

This is a difficult question as it would depend on the man, that fact that some men feel they are more logical then women and this makes them superior in their own minds.


Suzana Hameed (21)

Accountant; in a relationship; from Maldives

What I don't like about men is their insensitivity. They don't care about your feelings.


Lisa Furugen (52)

Business Owner; in a relationship; from California, USA

I don't like a man who thinks he is above anyone else and treats them as such. This is a true sign of insecurity and weakness to me. (However, this doesn't apply to all men)


Anamika Jain (42)

Ghost Blogger/ Freelance Writer; Separated; From Mumbai, India

I dislike any man who cannot stand on his own or take responsibility of his words and deeds. I highly value sense of humor, good personal hygiene, intelligence, good manners, honesty and loyalty in a man. I like men with whom I can feel safe and protected. I like my man to treat me as an equal and with respect. I would not tolerate any man who is abusive or overly controlling.



Naznine Khan (24)

Bookshop owner; single; from Manila, Philippines

I don’t like men who love to hang out with hot girls, but want to marry a simple girl.


Susan Holland (46)

High School teacher; married with two children; from Ozark, Missouri, USA

I do not like men who feel they have to show off or act like they are someone who they are not. If they go overboard trying to impress women or others, it seems they are trying too hard and are not confident in themselves. I do not like it when a man feels like he always has to "one up" others. For instance, when someone tells a story and he has a story that is "even better," or someone is describing how to do something and he "knows" a "better way."


Jasmin Chao (61)

Travel agent; married; from Bangkok, Thailand

Men don’t remember anniversaries or birthdays, but they always remember the football match. This is what I don’t like about men.


Jamie Brock (37)

Housewife and married; from Wichita Falls, Texas, USA

I don't like the way some men seem to act overly "macho" or tough. Being a man doesn't mean that you can't have a sensitive side and act accordingly.


Aminath Areesha (36)

Housewife, married with two kids; from Maldives
I don't like men when they keep on lying to me, while they know that I'm aware that they are lying.


Cyndi Calhoun (33)

Freelance writer and digital artist; married; from Colorado, USA

I don't like men who sit in front of the TV watching sports and yelling and shouting at the TV. My husband doesn't do that, so I had to think about it.


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Conclusion: What women do not like about men


If you are a woman, you may think something is missing here; you may even say the thing I don’t like about men is not listed here. Or, if you are a man, you might be thinking, this is not true, we do care about women. Let’s not generalize things. The battle of sexes will go wild when we only talk about the differences.

I want to conclude the survey with Ruchi Agrawal’s view. She is a 31-years-old married woman, an engineer by profession, from Singapore. “Men are good and I don't have any special dislike. Life is meant to be positive and I see positive sides where ever I go. I don’t expect anything from men and life is simple and enjoyable,” she says.

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      sheilamarie78 2 years ago

      I like how you've used comments by women across the globe. It's amazing how many say the same things.

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      charlene dickens 3 years ago

      Things I don't like about men over 50. Pride in drinking, gambling and other addictions. Comments about being able to buy women at vacation spots. Comments that your manager should give you to him for off price appliances and for employing a relative. Bad mouthing you to your manager. Constant sexual comments. Hobbies that are all male oriented-refurbishing a 30 year motorcycle. Immaturity-comments about stunts he has committed like shaving his head bald on a bet. Constant sexual comments. This guy needs 10 years of remodelling

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      DREAM ON 3 years ago

      Your questions make men think are their things we can change. Different views are good to keep an open mind.If more men and women work together towards a common goal less problems and more success.

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      kerlund74 3 years ago from Sweden

      I think this is interesting to read but I like Ruchi Agrawal’s point of view the most. Of course there are things we like/dislike in our husbands/colleagues, some men are mean and hurt their women, but there also are a lot of good men;) I think your research for this is really great and I enjoyed reading your hub!

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      sujaya venkatesh 3 years ago

      a good share vin

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      The views of Anamika Jain, Susan Holland and Ruchi Aggarwal are such that overwhelm me and I love these views. Nonetheless, other views are also equally important and must be given a thorough thought by us men. Your survey is very interesting and an eye opener. Having said it, it is my view whether man or woman, both are to be treated as human first. However, their different peculiar traits and features are equally important and there is all glory in their being man or woman. Either man or woman cannot be supposed to act like robots and there'll always be frailties along with nicer traits. So an ideal couple is that who revels in both and lives a cheerful and happy life. Vinay, you have written a very interesting and thought provoking hub. I liked it too much. :-)

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      Sam 4 years ago

      I refuse to buy into the bull crap of equality outside of civic laws...there is nothing equal about men and women ...as far as physical and psychological...with that said...when somebody starts complaining about patriarchal society, i say that it is inherent in humans just like most mamals...It is the drive of humanity, women can't and aren't equipped to lead men because men will revolt and challenge....if a woman hold any symoblic "social" authoritative status, it is only through the permission of men and their enforcement of this politically correct social construct....let's not forget that we are animals so, the laws of jungle holds all the time....just create disorder and you will see what we all know suconconsciouly about

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      Don Fairchild 4 years ago from Belgrade, ME

      Wow, I just hate it when ALL you women stereotype us men! ;-) get-it.

      All men and women have good and bad personalities, neither side is perfect or all bad.

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      The Real Answer 4 years ago

      Many women nowadays are so Damn Picky when it comes to Relationships, and they are certainly the ones that have Issues.

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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      Vinaya, excellent hub about the expectations of women. Men too have their expectations and it is only when both see the viewpoint of the other can a beautiful and meaning relationship evolve.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Arijit

      Prasad

      Thanks for reading and sharing your experience and opinion.

      Cheers

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      arijitm2000 4 years ago from Mid-west, Texas, Jersey, Florida, Mumbai, Hyderabad, & Pune

      I love the "Thai" pictures, missing Thailand, lived there as a student many years ago...but more importantly I love your hub & the perspective you've laid out..I did learn a few things, thanks Vinaya Ghimire...

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      Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD 4 years ago from Tumkur

      It seems you are lucky for, you have not come across women who raise quarrels on husband's home people, do not like to live with mother-in-law, and sister in laws.,want to live separately,little while after their marriage, file cases against husband's home people telling they are harrassing her even though it is not true etc..etc..Perhaps women will not agree with this.

      There are many instances in India where husbands have committed suicide as they had no way to escape.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Debby,

      In this hub I have tried to present women's dislikes about men. The actual question I asked to the participants was what you don't like about men. (I did not ask what women hate about men). Some of the readers and commentators have misunderstood this hub as hatred. Hate and dislike are two different things.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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      Debby Bruck 4 years ago

      Good Day Vinaya ~ Your article popped up in my stream today, so I had a reread and went through some of the comments. Each time a person revisits a page, new ideas and perspectives emerge.

      Suddenly, I realized that based on the question and topic, we would receive all the negative answers. We would highlight the particular unwanted traits and characteristics that make relationships sour. One commenter, Tom, said after reading the responses, he would remain celibate. I think by realizing the other half of the story, the best and ideal traits have not been addressed, leaves this bitter taste and an unbalanced view of men.

      In fact, if women harbored any of the unwanted behaviors as recorded in the statements above, we would not be happy or satisfied, either. Thus, remaining faithful, viewing mind/body in a positive light, appreciating one another, giving thanks and sometimes sacrificing in order to provide for the needs of another, acknowledging that partners contribute their best skills and qualities in order to complement each other's weaknesses or even to hone them, and maintaining open communication will bring forth the best in the relationship. Blessings, Debby

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      dine213@hotmail.fr 4 years ago

      the woman wants perfect man, and the man wants perfect woman but the truth that they created imperfect for complete each others.

      this is my modest upinion :)

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      wendy 4 years ago

      i love you

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Ingenira

      Caramel

      Mary

      Suhail

      Shampa

      Yssubramanyam

      Thank you guys for sharing your thoughts on the topic.

      Cheers

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      yssubramanyam 4 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      very informative. good hub

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      Shampa Sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Voted up and interesting!

      It is truly an interesting read. Though I also have some disliking, the best is the conclusion. Likes and dislikes are endless but we cannot deny the fact that men and women are the two essential beings of the life on earth. Thus, it's better to find out the positives and confront the negatives in a very tactful manner. Thanks for a nice article. Sharing and pinning!

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      Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 4 years ago from Mississauga, ON

      Interesting and informative. My two bits:

      1. Sample size is too small for such a diversity of women participating in the survey.

      2. If you ask young men about women, they will most probably say almost the same thing, first and foremost, that they look for "tall and handsome" young men :-)

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      My biggest observation with men is: they will look you straight into your eyes when you are talking to him as though he hears every word. Later, he will swear you never told him that....he doesn't remember anything you said! Men don't listen!

      Great Hub. Voted UP and shared.

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      Jo-Anna Gooden 4 years ago from New Hampshire

      Wow you stepped right into my world with this article. I think their only mission is to drive us nuts.

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      Ingenira 4 years ago

      Very interesting. A well-researched and written article. Voted up !

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      LK,

      Even though people say egalitarian society is just a myth, I believe in equality of men and women in every sector. All my life I have tried to treat women with respect, even though I grew up in patriarchal society.

      I'm glad that you liked my hub. Thanks for your comment.

      Cheers.

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      LKMore01 4 years ago

      Vinaya,

      This is such an excellent HUB. What I loved most was how you captured the thoughts and opinions of women from different cultures and social backgrounds. I love and adore men but have never married. This was my favorite quote:

      I want to conclude the survey with Ruchi Agrawal’s view. She is a 31-years-old married woman, an engineer by profession, from Singapore. “Men are good and I don't have any special dislike. Life is meant to be positive and I see positive sides where ever I go. I don’t expect anything from men and life is simple and enjoyable,” she says.

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      monas1418 4 years ago

      No, I forgot Superfly47 all we do is run our mouths and alot of what you all do, is dictate, some of you all are tyrant dictators.. Sad state of affairs is'nt it??

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      David McKenzie 4 years ago from Canada

      Men might subconsciously be thinking "If I solve my girlfriend's problem, I won't have to listen to anymore of this."

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Hello Mona,

      I'm glad that you liked my work. I think I understand women better now. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

      Cheers

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      monas1418 4 years ago

      You knocked it out of the ball park on this on, there is sooo many blogs about women and how everything that goes bad in a marriage or relationship is our fault, from being TOO INDEPENDENT, TOO HEADSTRONG and everything else that adults are suppose to be doing, men don't have a problem expressing how they find fault in us.. as soon as we express our dissatifaction this is eveil.. This is goes to show you how women really out live men, one my problems with men.. why come they don't go to the doctor? and get checked for things that's really killing them, this swag and macho type of behavior proving thier men.. now speaking of behavior that gets old..they know how to dictate not communicate, they don't really have a clue, on being a man and also being emotionally available to the woman they claim to love.. Excellent Hub!!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      @mayodmv, during my research I talked to many women. What surprised me was women divided by culture and countries have more or less same opinion about men. I think I know women better now.

      @Rayne, thanks for coming back. Cheers

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      Rayne123 4 years ago

      Those are very inspiring words Mayodmy, to know that others are helping others is always motivating.

      You are right, sometimes we can give advise to others/friends/family as I do all the time, however trying to instill that into our own lives can be difficult at times.

      Good luck

      Laurie

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      Jose Matalo 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thanks to this hub! Now I have a very good idea how to treat a woman right. Sometimes we are not aware of out natural tendencies as a men. Through this hub, I know now what to adjust to make my girlfriend love me more. :)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Marlene,

      Thanks for reading closely and sharing your point of view. It is interesting to note that why men act the way they do.

      Cheers

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      These are very good points especially #8 and #10, but here's my take on why men in general see a woman's love and care as pestering and the only explanation to this is that they are simply not interested in the woman because as a woman, I tend to attract clingy men and when I am not interested in them, I push them away or become very annoyed. As far as men not wanting commitment, this is just a cop-out excuse because when it comes down to it, a man does want to be in a relationship if he finds the right woman. In the modern world of dating, men only want a relationship if it it's going to benefit them. Thanks Vinaya for sharing an awesome hub!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      @Rayne, thanks for coming back.

      @Buchi, thanks for sharing your opinion. I appreciate your view.

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      Buchi Francis 4 years ago

      the reason men displays this attitude you discussed about is that it started from origin from Adam so is not new but not all men are like that

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      Rayne123 4 years ago

      Oh great way to put it, as right you are

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Rayan,

      When we are young, our heart guides us, and when we are old our mind dominates us. In our young age, we are lovers, and in our old age, we are philosophers.

      Thanks for coming back to share your thoughts.

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      Rayne123 4 years ago

      Oh it is a great experiment, it shows the difference in ages when it comes to love/relationships. I think it is great you used many different types and ages.

      When we are older we realize that our looks does not define our personalities.

      However physical attraction is our chemistry at first glance then we get to know the person we define their looks by that.

      When were young we decide based on looks and we/young ones will go out with that person based on that alone. However it changes in time.

      It is nice to see the differences, especially as we get older and read what young people say and maybe chuckle when in reality we use to be like that.

      thank you for another great hub

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      @Rayan, you are right about the young participant. However, to make this study comprehensive I chose women from different age group, experience, education, culture and country. Thanks for leaving an insightful comment.

      @Tom, the views expressed here are entirely of the participants, and it may not reflect general opinion of womankind. Furthermore, this hub is about dislikes, and not hate. Hate and dislike are tw0 different emotions. I'm amazed by your undying love for your wife.

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      Tom 4 years ago

      Nine years after losing my soulmate I've been considering finding another. I don't know how to approach the question, as it's been so long.

      Reading the above responses makes me feel ill. Men are not all what you make them out to be.

      I had a beautiful wife and I'm not unattractive.

      I shall remain celibate.

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      Rayne123 4 years ago

      wow this one has a lot of comments.

      I notice that the answer from a 24 year old as opposed to an older woman differ tremendously. The 24 year old that said, something to the point, that men want to hang around with hot girls but marry a simple girl, gives away her age without stating it.

      I think as we get older we learn more and know what we want and dont want from experience for sure. I know exactly what I dont want now and have for quite some time. However sometimes it is not the age but rather what you have been through that helps one decide on the do's and dont's

      I believe at the young age of 24 that that is the way they think. I do believe guys like to hang with hot girls and visa versa actually. Sometimes it is their main goal at that age.

      She has not been through anything else so for her that is what she dislikes right now. She may even be going through that right now.

      When your young a girl/guy seems to get jealous when they don't call at a certain time, that is a big thing to some. If a guy says he is going to call at a certain time and calls 15 minutes later they tend to freak.

      I think as you get older this is not a quality that you care too much about. I know I don't.

      I do not think at any age anyone likes to be treated with disrespect or rudeness ,it is not right. However they dont like it but they will do it to others, that is the part of any relationship I will and dont tolerate.

      I think we are all equals in Gods eyes and hurting someone is hurting God. However when a guy/girl is rude or treats with disrespect, chances are they are lonely and miserable.

      there is an old saying "misery loves company" and in that case it is always time to move on.

      thanks again for a great hub

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      Mike D 4 years ago

      I will stick with being an MGHOW.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Debby, nature and nurture debate has been going since hundreds of years. I like how thinkers put forward equally approving points on both sides. I believe nurture and nature both mold human personality.

      Thanks for sharing your view.

      Regards

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      Debby Bruck 4 years ago

      Dear Vinaya - I'm so proud of your work effort, thorough investigation, desire to learn and hear out the opinions of women to share on Hubpages. Of course, your companion color images do the piece justice with the professional quality.

      The beginning seems to tell me you believe in "nurture" over "nature." But, I believe nature, innate personality and inherited tendencies bring a lot to play into the development of each person.

      However, the desire to learn and become a better human being will determine the way a person relates to others and behaves in the world.

      If a man "truly" wants to please his other half and partner, he will listen intently, have compassion, understand her needs and follow through with action. Blessings, Debby

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      My resource persons were my friends on hubpages and social media. I respect everyone's opinion, including yours.

      Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      lilylipgloss 4 years ago

      All I can ask is what kind of woman did you ask for their views, man haters by sound to me.

      I mean really, one example, the guy comes home later than the 5.52pm he normally comes home, and we woman think he does not care, I mean really!!!!

      What’s wrong with loving a guy for who he is, as we expect guys to love us for?

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Hello Marlene,

      I believe in equal opportunity, let people say what ever they want.

      Thanks for stopping by

      Happy holidays!

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      I agree with your points. I'm laughing at some of the comments here. Happy Holidays Vinaya.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Kohuether,

      You have a point in your argument. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

      Regards

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      Katherine Olga Tsoukalas 4 years ago from New Hampshire

      How about we just celebrate the differences between men and women and leave it at that, as a celebration? If you are matched with the right person, you will compliment them. I think that sometimes women read too much into the way men are. The list wasn't entirely wrong, but I don't feel like it was entirely right either because it fails to simply accept that some of these traits (such as the problem solving aspect of their personality) can be seen as gifts rather than problems.

      I need to react about point 7 - something that popped in my head. Do you guys remember the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding where the mother explained that the man may be the head, but the woman is the neck - without the neck the head won't stand! ;)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      @TToombso, thanks for reading and appreciating my work.

      @ishwarya, I'm very grateful to all women who answered my questions. Thanks for your comment.

      @Mike, I also like Rita's response. Thought expressed in the first paragraph is also my belief.

      @jesson, thanks for stopping by and leaving positive message.

      Cheers

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      jessonMaroon 4 years ago

      hey! nice hub.

      I think this is a nice survey.

      Voted this up intersting.

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      Mike Robbers 4 years ago from London

      Qute interesting survey Vinaya , I enjoyed all the statements but Rita Subba's answer was my favorite, really thought provoking ..

      I completely agree also with what you say in the first paragraph ,, One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman ..

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      You undertook the Herculean task and came up with a wonderful hub filled with thought-provoking answers. I agree with all the answers listed here as well as Ruchira's positive answer in the end. From my life experiences, what I don't like about men is that they expect women to be absolutely perfect in every way. Hats off to you!

      Thanks for SHARING. Awesome & Interesting. Voted up & shared both on HubPages & Facebook

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Vinaya, I think you nailed it and you have made some very good points. Nicely done.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi coffeegginmyrice,

      thanks for sharing your views. I appreciate your brief but very valuable comment.

      Cheers

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hi Vinaya! I enjoyed this topic. Why, it is always interesting for both men and women to know. One main thing I do not like about something that a man does is when he asks: "Why are you not talking to me? Did I do something wrong?" Questions I don't like answering because...well, hell ya, a man knows what he'd done wrong; oh yes he does, but pretends he doesn't know. So I say, "Think! Not from one side of your brain!"

      p.s. I love all the photos! Nice work, Vinaya!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi vibesites,

      I also believe it is wrong to generalize men and women on the basis of findings like this. Thanks for your comment.

      Cheers

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      vibesites 5 years ago from United States

      Needless to say, I agree! Hehehehe.

      Thanks for publishing this hub, Vinaya. I don't mean all men, it depends on a guy, but I hope this serves as an eye opener for them. :)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi stillwater, I hope you enjoyed this article. Thanks for stopping by.

      Cheers

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      stillwaters707 5 years ago from Texas

      Thank you for writing and publishing this hub. There are so many articles out there about what men do not like about women. It's about time to tip the scale.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      @SilverGenes, I'm also fascinated by similar types of answer from the women who come from different backgrounds. Thanks for your comment.

      @Janine, when it comes to making an opinion, women who speak different languages and belong to different cultures,come up with very similar answers. Thanks for reading and commenting.

      @Rfordin, thanks for sharing your opinion. Cheers

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      Rfordin 5 years ago from Florida

      Very interesting article...perhaps this is why I now have a female partner. Thanks for sharing.

      ~Becky

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      Wonderful article Vinaya. You really did a great job with summing up the 10 most common complaints of women with men and also loved all the interviews. Kelly Hamlin Ward said a mouthful and happen to feel pretty much the same way as her on this one and was truly shaking me head yes reading her comment. Have of course voted and shared all over too!!

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      SilverGenes 5 years ago

      Wow! There is a lot of thought and work behind this hub and the subject is 'touchy' to say the least. It is fascinating that it doesn't matter where in the world women live, there are common denominators throughout. I couldn't help but notice the issue of feeling neglected as a person, if not as a woman. Well done!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Deborah, all my life I have been surrounded by women: mother,aunts,sisters and friends. I carried this research to understand women better. Thanks for your comment.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      wow what a wonderful hub.. there is so much here.. so many feelings of young and old .. You were wise to write this.. there is so much that has made me very unhappy with men., but I am sure the men can say the same about women.. but then there is so much I love about men.. the right man I should say.

      many blessings to you

      debbie

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hello Michelle, I could not come up with more agreeable concluding points than the ones mentioned here. Thanks for your comment.

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      Michelle Liew 5 years ago from Singapore

      I agree with all ten points. All truths! Thanks for the write, Vinaya! I share as well.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Marlene, thanks for your comment.

      PS: th/Ashutosh, thanks for stopping by.I appreciate your comment.

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      There's a lot of truth in this article. good job v!

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      ashutoshbharaty 5 years ago

      Read all those wonderful comments. It was a manthan that is a churning, on emotional and intellectual plane. One however wishes that it could be so simple that everthing women hated in men could be listed and then we men could tackle it one by one if it applied to us to become better men and human beings. Unfortunately most of these traits are part of our conditioning and upbringing to which women have contributed heavily. The male dominated or patriarchal society is driven very much by strong women behind the scenes. While the progressive segment of the society in India has swung to an extreme where everbody is aware of the rights of the girls / women and are so sensitised towards this that it has proves counter productive to creating a just and fais society for all to live and cherish. While the feminist or emanicipation movement from the turn of the centurty in which some male reformist also contributed has made us consciouas of the plight of women and girls, we are not yet conscious of the condition of the men & boys , who are are conditioned not to cry, weep or complain as it is unmanly. The girl child was type cast into secondary role and deprived of all the privileges that a boy would recieve and was groomed to become only good housewife. Similarly birth of boy in traditional dfamily celeberated but thereafter the boy is under tremendous pressure to perform and acquire status for himself and his family. Acquiring and retaining Status for men is what virginity is for women in male dominated patriarchal society driven by women.

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      Ashutoshbharati 5 years ago

      From india read all those wonderful comments was a manthan that is churning on emotional and intellectual plane. However I wish it was all so very easy and simple as to club everthing under one capton " what women hate in men" and then tackle each of t one by one to become better man and human being.The society even in India has swung to an extreme where it is necessary to emanicipate men. Right from outset it was a bad idea to assume that only one part of the societ that is women were being repressed or oprressed by being type caste into arole that they were expected to play. Typically speaking While the girls were expected to play the docile , secondary sister, wife etc role in the family & siocial setting the birth of boy was celeberated and too much was expected with very little grooming from this "Hero". Consequently the boys were throughout uner tremendous pressure to perform academically, proffessionaly, and every other stage in life. Acquiring status and retaing it is as important to boys ?men as Virginity towomen is it not ? The why single out women or girls when we grant the benefit or prvilege of EMANICIPATION?

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      th 5 years ago

      The dislikes listed here appear to be the same qualities that attract women to men in the first place, no?!?

      Any guy who's ever picked up a half decent woman knows what I'm talking about.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Epi, thanks for stopping by to leave a wonderful comment. You envy your witticism.

      I'm listening to Led Zeppelin since few days.

      7 PM,Kathmandu

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      I didn't think women 'liked' 'anything' about men (lol) ......but I am not a man so what do I know - but I do know one thing for sure - Vinaya's hub subjects always rock my world big time and 'he' is truly a hug legend in my humble book for his kindness, his sensitivity and his amazing mind and writing talent - not to mention all of those great interviews - 1:49pm and listening to Donovan, Gene Harris (jazz piano) and some reggae ......

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Thelma, thanks for being here. Most of the time our opinions are based on our emotions and experience. Thank you very much for commenting.

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      Thelma Alberts 5 years ago from Germany

      Wow! It took a long way to come here to comment. A very interesting survey and a great read for me. I came across of these types of men you mentioned above because they are the husbands of my friends. My friends used to tell me about their deslikes towards their husbands. I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      @austinhealy, the points I have summarized do not reflect my opinion, and perhaps do not reflect womankind's perception. My intention was to present women's opinion divided by culture, country, religion,race and such more, about how they perceive men. As a man I also try to judge women by looking at their contour, but then women also judge men by their physique.

      @DDE, thanks for reading and commenting.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I totally agree with the points mentioned but most of these points are aimed at traditional men

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      Bernard J. Toulgoat 5 years ago from Treasure Coast, Florida

      As a man not trying to kid myself, the only trait of character I could relate to is that I can be judgemental when it comes to looking at a woman's body. Sorry ! Attraction is there or it's not, and it can't be forced. If the results of your poll, and I certainly do not question it, are a reflection of the reality all over the world, we men are quickly becoming an endangered species : who needs them ? I have observed every thing women don't like about men on occasion. But not always in the same person. And certainly not all the time. I am aware some guys give us a bad name, but nobody is perfect, and in most cases, women have the final word when it comes to getting involved with their partner. I enjoyed reading your quite interesting hub, even if I have a little trouble dealing with its harsh conclusions. I know, I'll get over it :)

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Nicole, thanks for complimenting my work. I will see what can be done to improve this hub. Thanks for the suggestion.

      Cheers

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      Nicole S Hanson 5 years ago from Minnesota

      Very interesting hub! I would love to see a hub-poll included here for women here to answer the same questions!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Ebower, there are men who don't treat women equal, but I understand men cannot be generalized. I understand what you mean.

      Thanks for reading and commenting.

      Regards

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      Erin Bower 5 years ago from Georgia

      This is very thorough and interesting. Fortunately, I know some men that don't treat women as this described. I guess it depends on the individual man. I voted this up and interesting!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Deepika, thanks for sharing your view.

      Cheers

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      Deepika Mehra 5 years ago from New Delhi

      nice...well i personally don't like those who shows unnecessary attitude...

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      @Chuck, thanks for coming back. Tyson was a great boxer,perhaps he will be a wonderful man.

      @jeolmoz2, thanks for your comment.

      @Nell, men and women are incomplete without each other. Thanks for your comment.

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      I think the answers were very universal, so many of them I sat here nodding my head too! lol! saying that, men do have some great qualities too though, great hub vinaya, nell

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      Julio E Olmo Sr 5 years ago from Florida, USA

      Still learning...biggest issue for (us) men is admitting the true even if it gets us in trouble!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi acaetnna,

      I agree with your point of view. Thanks for appreciating my work.

      Cheers

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      acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

      This is a totally fascinating hub. I agree that a man's first impression of a woman is about her looks, but women are very complicated and deep down inside her he will find the beautiful and lovely person that she is.

      Voting up of course and pressing the relevant buttons too.

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      Chuck Bluestein 5 years ago from Morristown, AZ, USA

      Mike Tyson now talks about his life on Broadway. He is so sorry about what he did that he says that his life was a failure. He made over $30 million from boxing but claimed bacnkruptcy and is now broke. He loves his present wife and kids.

      He was one of the greatest boxers ever. In his first 38 matches, he won all of them and got all the boxing titles.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Hi Chuck Bluestein,

      I believe a man's first impression about a woman is entirely based on her looks. However, in the long run what matters is her inner quality. I understand what Lily means, and what you are trying to convey.

      Maybe Tyson feels sorry for everything he has done in the past.

      Thanks for reading and leaving in depth comment.

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      Chuck Bluestein 5 years ago from Morristown, AZ, USA

      In this herbal MLM business a couple was making a great deal of money in it. They said that to find other great distributors look for powerful women and gentle men. They found that the more evolved people had gotten away from their learned behavior from people around them.

      If men want to do better with women, they should learn more about them. In fact with what Lily was talking about, that is the first thing that men learn not to do with women. It is like the rest of what they are saying is implied. You look so hot (or have a nice ass) that I want to 'do' you right now!

      Lily is attractive looking but so are millions of other women but what makes Lily exceptional is that she is a brilliant young writer. Now saying that to Lily also has an implication. It implies that she would be a wonderful woman to spend the rest of your lfe with.

      As far as men evolving, here is a good example. Iron Mike Tyson was a great fighter. He was violent and beat his wife up and went to prison. He was taking medications. He was disqualified in a boxing match since he bit his opponent's ear twice. Now he is a vegan and has become much more calm and gentle. He has evolved.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      As a man I have observed many successful men objectify women because they tend to think every thing is under their reach and they have resources at their disposal. Thanks for your in depth comment.

      Cheers

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      Lovelovemeloveme 5 years ago from Cindee's Land

      Thanks for the hub! I enjoyed this very much.

      is it just me or that I find successful men. Like bigger businessmen or in general men who have succeeded in their professional life have a specific view on women and love that differs from men who have not yet achieved success in their personal career life. In my experience, the men that are more successful, view women more objectively. Like we are more an object to be owned, more easily replaced, and actively put less effort into getting to know the female as an individual.

      And it makes sense because since they are so successful, they are in high demand in the single market feel so they put less effort into getting to know one person because if all fails, they can easily jump ship to someone new. And because in the career affairs, they look towards perfection and most of the time, luxury, they also translate this mindset onto their personal life. Treating love as a business transaction.

      Is this just me?

      Great hub btw.

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      Jasmin 5 years ago

      I agree with all the points you have short listed here. Your survey is wonderful.

      Vinaya, have a great day.