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the Unique Love of a Father

Updated on January 17, 2012

Fathers are COURAGEOUS

I was just looking at the new DVDs that were out and one caught my eye, it is called COURAGEOUS. It is about 4 men that are fathers and husbands and strive to do better in their life. It was made by the people that made FireProof.

It was refreshing to even FIND a movie like that these days. Plus I really look for the rare movies that 'go- under-the-radar. Almost un-noticed but eventually loved.


Needing a Father

Reading about that movie gave me an idea for a hub.
I remember being a newly divorced mother in the year of 2000 mother with three sons. How I dealt with it, I don't know. They needed him, regardless of how crazy my life was, he was going to be part of theirs, even if he had issues about money, and did not support them financially, he was going to get them ever he wanted them, every Friday afternoon. I was a good mom, I think but I had some young men that were resenting me because I had left their daddy.

If were a Judge I would give 50/50 split down the middle, joint custody to all children 10 and up. Maybe I will offend people, but children need that father figure.

Fatherless Children are a Tragedy

Children without fathers are a tragedy. Women need to put hard feelings and bitterness and believe me I've been there, behind them and let the daddy help. But on the other hand, Men need to be there for there for their children, step up to the plate. Me and my sons hit a poverty level unbeknown to us ever. I did not have a job, a car, a place to live, when I remember how that kind of fear and how it takes ahold of your insides and doesn't let go. It's a cold stark terror!! But I stood my ground,dug in my heels and held on. I kept repeating This too shall pass. And it did. That was where the resentment from them came from. Being a housewife and a stay at home mom for 12 years doesn't give you skills for the outside world. I didn't even have a drivers license.

Even though it's all behind me, this might help mothers out there. This what happened to me. But if I had to do it all over, I would prepare better.


Please, young parents, be brave, cause their are 'little ears listening and eyes watching'. But the courageous ones take care of their children reguardless how they feel about their ex.

Until you have a son of your own... you will never know the joy, the love beyond feeling that resonates in the heart of a father as he looks upon his son. You will never know the sense of honor that makes a man want to be more than he is and to pass something good and hopeful into the hands of his son.....

Kent Nerburn


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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks, old albion, you are correct, all children need both parents. I'm glad you read my hub and commenting.

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      Graham Lee 5 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Dee42. A heartfelt hub Thank you. You are right in every respect. Unfortunately thing do not always work out the way we hoped. It also works the other way round, fathers need their sons as well.


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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks,Anjili, I am glad you liked it.

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      Anjili 5 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

      Daddy has a significant role to play. His absence at home is noted by all. Nice informative hub. Voted up

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Oh, thank you, Richawriter, I'm glad you liked it. I try to speak from the heart. And Congrats on being a daddy, I have a feeling you will be great father. Many happy years to you & your family. ??

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      Richard J ONeill 5 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

      Great hub and perfectly timed Dee42 because I'm about to become a father! This week!

      Due to my own negative experiences with the lack of a father, I am determined more than ever to be an exceptional person and father for my son and wife.

      It was nice to find a hub like this, just when I needed it.

      Thanks for this Dee42!

      Peace :)

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thank you!!

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      NightFlower 5 years ago

      Like you, I love finding movies that I can get something out of er most of the time...sometimes I just want something fun anyway,it is important to have a father within a family unit...harder with out it. I've seen the advertisements on the gmc channel for this movie and it sounds deep. Nice hub Dee

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Oh thank you Hear Me.

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      Hear Me 5 years ago from Somewhere in Florida

      This is a wonderful piece. I grew up in single parent household with two daughters and one son. It wasn't easy but there were role models for my brother and eventually my mother remarried and 29 years later my step father has been a positive force in the lives of our entire family. While I agree with your view that a father is important. is a son's life being a daughter, I also needed a father. Not from a "Daddy's Girl" perspective but from an advise perspective. I find that my step father tries to help me see things from 360 degrees before I make my final decision. I hope that all fathers strive to do the same for their sons and daughters.