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Fathers are COURAGEOUS
I was just looking at the new DVDs that were out and one caught my eye, it is called COURAGEOUS. It is about 4 men that are fathers and husbands and strive to do better in their life. It was made by the people that made FireProof.
It was refreshing to even FIND a movie like that these days. Plus I really look for the rare movies that 'go- under-the-radar. Almost un-noticed but eventually loved.
Needing a Father
Reading about that movie gave me an idea for a hub.
I remember being a newly divorced mother in the year of 2000 mother with three sons. How I dealt with it, I don't know. They needed him, regardless of how crazy my life was, he was going to be part of theirs, even if he had issues about money, and did not support them financially, he was going to get them ever he wanted them, every Friday afternoon. I was a good mom, I think but I had some young men that were resenting me because I had left their daddy.
If were a Judge I would give 50/50 split down the middle, joint custody to all children 10 and up. Maybe I will offend people, but children need that father figure.
Fatherless Children are a Tragedy
Children without fathers are a tragedy. Women need to put hard feelings and bitterness and believe me I've been there, behind them and let the daddy help. But on the other hand, Men need to be there for there for their children, step up to the plate. Me and my sons hit a poverty level unbeknown to us ever. I did not have a job, a car, a place to live, when I remember how that kind of fear and how it takes ahold of your insides and doesn't let go. It's a cold stark terror!! But I stood my ground,dug in my heels and held on. I kept repeating This too shall pass. And it did. That was where the resentment from them came from. Being a housewife and a stay at home mom for 12 years doesn't give you skills for the outside world. I didn't even have a drivers license.
Even though it's all behind me, this might help mothers out there. This what happened to me. But if I had to do it all over, I would prepare better.
Please, young parents, be brave, cause their are 'little ears listening and eyes watching'. But the courageous ones take care of their children reguardless how they feel about their ex.