- Gender and Relationships
The Heart Sinks vs The Heart Soars
Positive and Negative
I really think I write about everyday life. I don't think I'm quite as odd as others say I am. Life is intrinsically, well, boring and dangerous at the same time. At any given moment the floor may open up. Of course, it almost never does; that's what makes it so boring.
Do you ever smile when you are bored? I will venture that you don't. It's impossible to be simultaneously positive and negative. If you are feeling up, you can't be down, and vice versa.
A woeful boredom is downer, a negative, it saps your spirit and makes your hearth sink. The counteract or prevent this boredom, one thing you can do is pepper your home and your life with things that make you smile. I call these the Hearth Soars. A Hearth Soar is anything that makes you feel good, that lifts your spirit or your mood. We are all different, so these will vary widely from person to person, personally, I am a huge fan of beautiful everyday items or techno-gadgets. For example, if I must do the washing up, it adds a touch of pleasure for me to use a cool designer washing-up brush. Or if I must mop the floor, I like to have a gizmo that makes that chore easier and a tad more fun. These are small little smile-provokers that liven up essential mundane activities.
The Japanese have a similar idea behind their love of ritual. Think of the beautiful geishas in those elegant tea rooms. They run an everyday act -pourring tea - into an exquisite performance. A joy.
Now i am not suggesting you adopt a kimono to go about your daily duties. But just be on the look-out for anything could add a touch of spice to everyday domesticity. Another favorite trick of mine is to decant things into attractive jars or bottles. In my house, a vast array of breakfast cereals are virtually a permanent fixture on the kitchen worktop. The array of gaudy open packets would drive me mad. So instead I transfer the contents to glass jars and arrange them, pick-and-mix style, on a shelf - like an old-fashioned sweet shop. In this way I have turned a potential bore (constantly putting away the packets) into something that makes me think fondly of my childhood.
Now I will concede that some of these methods aren't without effort. And you may be wondering if I can seriously be advocating ideas that involve more work. But in the battle against boredom, I believe they are worth the extra labour. If the crux of the problem is not the volume of the work, but its mind-numbing nature, then it's more important to reduce your angst than your workload. Plus it's my firm belief that anything that makes you feel good is worth doing anyway.
Also, don't feel that you need to spend money to achieve these spiritual lifts. They need not be expensive items. One of my favorite objects in my kitchen is peddle sculpture that my husband made. It makes me happy whenever I see it. Perhaps you have children who bring you 'masterpieces' pr objects d'art. Any item that brings you joy will work its magic if only you will keep them where you see them or use them.
That said, and at the risk of perpetuating a sexist stereotype, I will admit that I do also enjoy buying nice things. And I am unapologetic - what's the point of money (or life for that matter) if not to be enjoyed wherever possible. So, if and when you can, why not indulge yourself? Treat yourself to any little luxuries that warm your heart or recharge your soul.
Anything that is a Heart Soar for you will act as an antidote to boredom, so ensure you have a good collection of them within your home. They will raise your spirits and lift you above the tedium, like little rays of sunshine on otherwise cloudy days.