- Gender and Relationships
The Man Who Melted My Heart
Finally Found My SoulMate
Can a 49 year old widow on a search for the right man find him? Well, I can tell you from experience it does happen. Cause It happened to me.I looked everywhere, and I mean everywhere, but just when I said enough was enough, he appeared out of nowhere to take my heart and completly melt it.
Somewhere out there someone's saying a prayer
That we'll find one another in that big somewhere out there
And even though I know how very far apart we are
It helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star
And when the night wind starts to sing a lonesome lullaby
It helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky
Lyrics From Somewhere Out There written by James Horner, Barry Mann, Cynthia Weil
A Widows Journey
Walking Alone Down A New Road
When you are widowed after over 20 years of marriage and your kids have gone to create the new chapters of your life, you find yourself on a journey that you never expected to take, especially so soon. It just doesn't seem right to you that the world goes on spinning while you are on the side trying to figure out who to get back on.So you grieve till you are done and then one day you say to yourself enough is enough, it's time to get back to living my life or at least try. Most of your friends are still married, and you really are not part of thier "group" any more, so you try to find single things to do.And Maybe after a period of time, you start seeing the sun peeking through the clouds of your soul
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with but a single step." Confucious
You Start With Taking On New Hobbies
An Important Part Of The Journey For Me
You begin finding new things to occupy your time, because after all, anything is better sitting home and being lonely. For me, I began taking ballroom dance classes and found a whole new world I never new existed. Well before Dancing With The Stars and So You Think You Can Dance, I was a competitive ballroom dancer. It taught me that I could accomplish what I set out to do ! Oh learned new confidence in myself, a sense that I could be the person-that sexy latin dancer that was waiting to come out. And I did win a few compettions along the way. But those people who taught me and encouraged me gave me the gift of being myself. They helped me create the person who was heading to the next step of the journey.The More you learn, the more you grow !
Joining Singles Groups
The Next Step
LIke most of us who have been single adults, at some point you join a singles group or two. Why, because in the beginning you are looking for someone, anyone to save you from being alone. Well, what you find out in most cases, at least it was for me, there are more women in these groups then there were men. So you drop that thought and enjoy meeting new people and doing things together. For me these groups were a life savor since I was not at that time a very social person. My marriage had not been a social lone per se, so these groups helped me come out of my shell.
Then There Were The Dating Websites
Looking For Love And Finding It
If you hgave been single and in your fifties or later, then you know what the dating scene is about. Especially if your friends are in relationships or married, then you have to get out there. And more often then not, you eventually find the dating websites.So forst you join the free ones and you find out that more often than not, somewhere you have to pay something to get somewhere. Call ot your dues, if you will. I was on several, and although I did meet a lot of nice guys it was never right. So, I decided for myself that I had a great life. I had good friends, a good job, a home of own and for a while, I would take a rest from it all. So I had signed off on all of them and was just when I was about to quit Match, a little box popped up and asked if I would like to go to coffee...well, I decided one more coffee date couldn't hurt and so a new chapter of my life was ready to begin
The First Date
A New Beginning
It all started at Panera Bread. Like most first dates I have to say, I was a nervous wreck. It's just my thing. I headed out and finally was there and we were saying hello. Next thing I knew we we sitting at a table with a cup of coffee and I was relaxing. We were chatting and it felt like we had been friends for years. An hour and a half went by in a heartbeat and I knew that I wanted to spend more time with this guy. When we left, I gave him a hug and left hoping for the best....and I know he had melted a little part of my heart
I love you, not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you."
- Roy Croft
The First Dance
Where I Melted Into His Arms
After two coffee dates, we both felt a little something special, but somehow, I was hesitant to get too interested. I think I was afraid that it was too good to be true. We agreed to meet at a local dance that a local Jazz Society was giving. Some friends of mine had wanted to go, so that was the plan. Finally he was there and my heart skipped a beat or two. He took my hand and asked me to dance. I can't even to this day, tell you what the song was, because I was totally lost in his arms.We danced and I felt so protected and cared for. I never wanted that song to end. By the time we were ready to leave, I didn't want to leave him at all. He had melted another part of my heart.
The Gift From His Heart
The Surprize That Melted My Heart
I got home from work and took my shoes off and grabbed a drink. I had end of day hair and no makeup on. Typical for me at about 4:30pm. I grabbed some iced tea, my favorite late pm drink and checked my messages. He had called me and left a message that he was on the way over to my house. This was a little startling since I had this rule about my dates not coming over until I knew them better. I called his house and started calling him on it. After a minute or so, the voice on the other end annouced that he was his son and yes, his Dad was on the way over. After apologizing, I turned around to find him in my driveway. There I was hardly a vision of beauty. But there he was asking if he could come in for a minute. We sat on my porch and talked. He left me a simple gift- a CD that he had made for me. He asked me to listen to it and call him later. Before I knew it, he had left and I was alone with my thoughts and my CD. Later when I listened to the music and the words he had selected for me, I cried. My heart had totally melted for him and I knew I was falling in love.
When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out. - By Elizabeth Bowen (1899-1973)
I Gave Him My Heart
It Had Already Melted
I was in love and there was no denying it. I finally told him what he allready knew and was waiting for me to admit. We got engaged after he spoke to my 85 year old Dad and my son. Now in my 60's it seemed almost impossible that this kind of gift could come to me. the entire journey, all that I had experienced was meant so that I could enjoy this time of my life and It is so very good. On May 7th, 2011 I gave him my my melted heart and my love when we were married with our families and friends as our witnesses
I have hoped that all my friends, present and those I have not met, find the joy and love that I have found. Thanks for raeding about my journey. May your journey be filled with few obstacles, litlle pain and lots of love
What I Learned On The Journey
- Life is a wonderful journey ripe with opportunity at every turn...you just have to keep an open heart and mind to see it
- Joy and happiness come from within-no one can make you happy -you have to be happy to find that someone
- Finding love has nothing to do about how you look-the person who loves you will love you for who you are
- Your dreams are the treasures of your life-hold them till life unlocks them