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The Pros and Cons of a First Date at the Movies
You are excited for your first date. He or she suggests going to the movie theatre to watch the latest action film. Going out to watch a move is a popular activity for a date, whether for teens or adults. There are both pros and cons for heading to the movie theatre on the first date.
One advantage of heading to the movie theatre is that a set activity is planned for the date. The location and time have already been decided for the two people.
The possibility of first date indecisiveness is therefore eliminated. There is no chance for the line "Whatever you want to do is fine" to enter the scene. Or at least not until after the movie ends.
Watching a movie also provides opportunities to read the other person's body language. Notice how the companion reacts to certain moments in the plotline of the movie. Is he or she emotional when a central character is hurt or faces a difficulty at the movie's climax?
Does one's date laugh at the humorous moments in the movie? Finding the same points within the film funny may be a good indicator of a similar sense of humour. If laughter is an important part of a relationship for both people on the date, this similarity is a good sign.
If the movie does have comical moments, one will also have the opportunity to hear the other person laugh. One may see how the date acts when he or she is relaxed.
Sitting beside one another also affords the opportunity for physical contact between the two people. For instance, sharing a tub of popcorn can create the chance contact between each others' hands if both reach for the snack at the same time. In response to the touch they may look at each other and smile.
This contact is a form of flirting; perhaps the first opportunity for the newly dating pair. One may also reach over to hold the other person's hand. The darkness of the theatre provides the opportunity to discreetly make the move.
Disadvantages also enter into the equation when the first date takes place at the movie theatre. The movie may last an hour and a half, or even longer. While the movie is playing, there is likely little conversation between the pair.
Both people stare at the large screen significantly more than at one another. After all, they have paid to watch a movie.
The small number of spoken words likely consist of the odd whisper to pass a napkin or an "Oh no!" at the point when a central character is slapped in the face. Talk louder than a whisper and one risks being quieted by the older lady in the right-hand seat.
Lack Of Privacy
The movie theatre affords the pair very little privacy. The companions are surrounded by strangers with the number of viewers depending on the popularity of the film.
Any words spoken even in whispered tones may be overheard. Romantic words or gestures are significantly less likely to occur given the audience of strangers.
Scarce Direct Communication
Staring at the movie screen for over an hour means that the dating duo likely has little or no direct communication with one another. The two are not able to carry on a continuous conversation as a way to get to know one another. Given that a first date is a way to determine whether one feels favourable toward another person, the lack of communication poses a definite issue.
As well, one or both of the pair may find it difficult to concentrate on the movie. For instance,the date may be wearing perfume or cologne that affects the other person's concentration.
As well, the sheer fact that someone who one is romantically interested in pursuing is sitting directly to the side may affect one's attention span. One may miss parts of the movie.
The date may also be caught up in his or her mind about what is going to happen on the date after the movie ends. That person is not entirely living in the present moment.
There are pros and cons of going to a movie theatre for a first date.
While the pair may still have verbal and personal contact, the opportunities are significantly limited at the theatre. Perhaps heading for cups of coffee after the movie would provide further opportunity to learn more about the companion. Who knows, there may just be a second date to follow soon!