ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

The secret of the success of true lovers: they won't tell you

Updated on March 16, 2017

Change is the only thing that is constant. Therefore, change may be the reason why great lovers may fall apart. If truly change is inevitable, then there must be a secret that is behind the success of those lovers who made it till the end.

In one of my published book, I wrote a story and a poem on such lovers. Their secret was that their love for each other change in time because as time changed their love grew stronger but there are other secrets which I have witness and if you ask any successful lovers or marriages that lasted for a lifetime, they may tell you their secret, though most of them do not even know their secrets and how they made it till the end.

Love is a symbiosis, and its success depends, largely, on those involved. A love between incompatible partners should not exist because such love will so easily fade away and be forgotten as if it was never made to exist. That is a waste of love and it makes love to weep. We know that though love may hurt at times but it should not kill the one who loves.

Though perfect symbiosis is important for the success of a relationship, there is also the need for a partner to carry on when the other is weak because some factors can lead to weakness in a relationship. Such situation may require the need for the weak partner to articulate the factor or for the strong partner to be able to perceive the situation, even without explanation.

Some lovers are so fond of each other that they understand each other’s feelings, even without spoken words and they know how to help each other to overcome difficult times. This means that understanding is important in every relationship. There are lovers that I, at times, witnessed them shout at each other as if they are quarrelling but in truth, it was always a quarrel. Then suddenly the whole scene would change to a joke.

The girl, after much shouting and complaining, would say “don’t let me get angry with you.”

The guy would reply, “You can get angry if you will pay me after your annoyance or else you better don’t.”

“How do you expect me to pay you when am angry with you?” She would ask in astonishment.

“Then it’s useless for you to get angry because I would gain nothing from it and likewise you won’t gain anything instead we may lose something dear to us.”

They would laugh, and that would mark the end of the argument. They always succeed to change their differences to something for funny and laughter.

There are other lovers I have witnessed. These lovers are always happy as if they had no problem. I remember one day the girl said to the guy, “I feel cheated by you.” “Why?” asked the guy. “Because I didn’t get to know you much earlier, you approached me late.” “Oh! Am sorry but that was when I found you. Maybe next life I would win you from your mother’s womb.”

The point is that love has a cornucopia of delights, and it takes a perfect match, trust, patience, and understanding to enjoy love to its fullest.

Anger, lack of trust, and misunderstanding among others are a bane of lovers and they have made love to weep. I often tell people that every relationship has a beginning because we did not come into the world with friends. We meet people and some of them became our friends. Some of them can be our friends for a lifetime while some may leave us along the path. To those who hold our hands for a lifetime we can say, “It seems we have been friends even before we met.” Just think of your best friend and you can now remember how the relationship started or how you first met.

Successful lovers have secrets that sustain them but they may not tell others because they may not know it.

Try and discover the secret of your success in every relationship and improve on it. You can also discover why your love life is a failure, and work on it.

All true lovers have a secret that helps them pass the test of time because of time, they know, is dangerous. Lastly, if it fails then it never loved because God is love and God will never fail.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)