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Bless The Broken Road. Encouragement for the Broken Hearted.
Having been married more than once and being a hopeless optimist on most days, I have come to see even the positive in my past failed marriage. After the bitterness faded away and a shred of my self confidence was restored, I took the brave step to make an honest self analysis. Venturing out of the darkness and facing honestly what caused the irreparable breakdown of my relationship was a difficult process. It is never easy to stare one's own flaws and shortcomings square in the eyes. For most of us, that moment only comes after the initial pain of the break-up and while we ascend from the "valley of broken hearts". It's only when I could see the light at the end of the tunnel that I had the strength to look for the merit of my misfortune. What light you might ask could there possibly be? What could ever be the purpose of a failed relationship? It's the story of the Broken Road. Let me explain.
At our wedding, we thought it fitting to do our first dance to the song, "God Bless the Broken Road," by one of our favorite groups; the band Rascal Flatts. www.rascalflatts.com It has become "our song". It is the mantra of the man or woman scorned; the hope that lies in the ashes of broken trust, lost love, divorce and heartache. It's a song that offers purpose for the pain. It is the anthem for anyone who has been rejected or taken to a dark place by a loved one. For me, it's my passage from the dark valley of Splitsville into the light and promise of a new love. As you grab your ipod to down load the song and listen closely to the lyrics, I will say this much, if you are heartbroken and have lost over and over at the game of love, DON'T be discouraged, there is that special someone out there waiting, with arms outstretched, just for you. This one person will make every heartache, as crazy as it sounds, worth the while. The day that we finally look our soulmate in the eyes, that broken road we traveled to get to him or her, simply seems more beautiful and worthwhile. The song embodies quite a measure of hope for any person recovering from a bad break up or divorce. Not only is there the forecast for sunny skies and a new love but also the prospect of seeing those exes as merely stepping stones or potholes leading to a well paved future. Get it?
This beautiful, most stirring ballad, speaks of the journey of this broken road which leads to new love. How ironic that every challenge faced, every burden we bore, every lesson learned and every hurt experienced would perfectly pave the path for something better to come. Strangely and sometimes even hard to admit, we become better people through those hardships. "Every long lost dream, takes me to where you are. Others who broke my heart, they were like northern stars". What do those words mean to you? To me it clearly shows that we are better able to appreciate a new love based on our past negative experiences. Surely, the prize at the end of the road, offers consolation for the rigors of the journey ! Right?
It is only the hungry who can truly appreciate the value of a meal. One who has experienced homelessness, fully appreciates the warmth of a bed. In like manner, one who has been hurt or lost at the game of love, can see the great worth of a happy relationship; a good man or woman. If the guy you dated before was abusive, or your wife was a nag, wouldn't you better appreciate your new mate who wasn't? Surely, there are persons guilty of being attracted to the same destructive personalities, but those persons often need help beyond the scope of my hub. If you are sound of mind and learn from your bad choices, miscalculations and misjudgments, then you would be fully able to identify with the message of the song. We are not only strengthened by our trials but they no longer seem like trials but more like the stepping stones to something better. Every hurt, evey hurdle ought to be a learning and growing opportunity. When we adopt an optimistic attitude toward negative people and experiences, it most certainly gives us the impetus to bear the tough times knowing that there is that lesson to be learned and that light at the end of the tunnel.
As the song says, "It's all part of a grander plan that is coming through!"
Have you traveled the BROKEN ROAD?
© 2011 Michele McCallister