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How To Attract A Woman When You Aren't The Hottest Guy Around

Updated on July 13, 2013

Most men believe that the best way to attract a woman is by looking like a Greek god. While this may be true for some women, the average woman takes a bit more than that to become attracted. If you are an average looking guy and you want to know How to attract a woman, you have come to the right place.

Show them that you have a firm grip on your manhood. This does not mean to act like a beast and start beating on your chest. The idea is to show them that you are independent and strong, which will leave no doubt in their minds about your manhood. The best thing to do would be to work on your self-image and the way you represent that to others.

Never second guess yourself in front of a woman. Any female out there can tell you that they love a man that is full of confidence. If he is as cool as a cucumber at all times, that will not give them any room to look around for another man to be attracted to. Give off a vibe that says that you are stable, mature and secure. Women will love seeing this side of you, which means they will be back for more.

Show off your sensitive side. This does not mean that you should let her know that you cried the last time you watched a sappy romance movie. That would defeat the purpose of showing off your manhood. The idea is to let her know that while you are a man, there are things in life that actually matter to you besides playing beer pong and watching sports on TV. Showing concern when she related a sad story is a great way to do this.

Never show her that you are holding on to any anger and emotions from the past. This includes any ex-girlfriends that may have put you through the emotional wringer. Mature men know how to use negative life experiences to build a more positive self. Showing her that you are able to overcome all of the things you have been through without being angry and bitter will definitely impress her.

An article about learning How to attract a woman will never be complete without talking about humility. If you walk around throwing your money around and bragging about all of the things you have accomplished, this is a sure-fire way to turn off at least half of the female population. While it is great to let her know that you are successful, there is a thin line between informing her and shamelessly bragging. It is best to casually mention accomplishments instead of basing entire conversations around them.

Never try attracting a woman by using trickery and manipulation. Even if you get her, she will run for the hills once she realizes that she was part of one of your schemes. Women do not like feeling like door prizes, so make sure that you are sincere and honest when you are trying to attract them. Using lies and deceit to get your way will only make you look desperate, which is far from being attractive.

When you are having conversations with her, make it a point to actually listen. Many men sit there and pretend to listen while silently worrying about how to get her into bed. This is not very attractive at all, and she will not want to see you again if it seems like you are not being very attentive. Many women want to feel like they matter to you, and listening here and there and mumbling incoherent responses every few minutes is not the way to do that. Listen closely, ask questions and share information that shows her you can relate.

You may have started reading this with the impression that you were going to find out some magic way to get women to like you. If you really want to know How to attract a woman of quality, the best thing to do would be to follow the advice here. Even if you are not the greatest looking guy around, these tips will help you look more attractive to ladies.


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      Judy 3 years ago

      I agree with what is said here too about listening. Women, we like that connection of processing our thoughts by talking about what is on our mind and that is how to really woo us.

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      Yves 4 years ago

      Voting up. I am truly impressed with these nuggets of wisdom. One thing you added which I had not thought of is: humility. You are spot on in saying that humility is one of the most important attributes a man can have. I hope lots of guys read this hub - it would be worth their while. I appreciate that you have wisely brought up the traits of masculinity and sensitivity, which are the two major traits that make women flock to a man. Great job!

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      Firoz 4 years ago from India

      Great hub to Attract A Woman. Voted up.