ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Unity Wedding Ceremony Ideas

Updated on February 9, 2018
linfcor profile image

Online wedding planner for over 10 years. My goal has been to show everyone the best way to plan their wedding without breaking the bank !

Memorable Additions To Your Wedding Ceremony

Unity ceremonies have been a significant part of wedding ceremonies for centuries. That part of your wedding ceremony celebrates the joining of two families into a new one. There are so many options when it comes to unity ceremonies. You can incorporate almost anyone in your family to be part in this tradition. Mothers of the bride and groom often have taken part by lighting the two side candles in the traditional candle unity ceremony. Children of the bride and groom are often used , especially where there is a second marriage. You can take any unity ceremony and customize it for your own use.

There are more than one way to celebrate the unity of a couple at their wedding ceremony. The first thing that comes to mind is a unity candle ceremony. But sometimes there are places where candles are noit permitted. So celebrating, your upcoming nuptuals, here are a few ideas for you to consider. Adding one of these ceremonies to yoour wedding will make a memorable event for you, as a couple and for those you love.

Remember, any tradition can be a memorable part of your wedding, no matter what where it started, if it's meaningful to you !

Here We Stand-Unity Candle Song

Unity Candle Ceremony

The most common unity ceremony is the candle ceremony. Two tapers or candles represent the bride and groom. One larger pillar candle represents their new life together. Both the bride and groom light the larger pillar together signifying the joining of their two lives as one. They each blow out the others taper to signify the end of their single lives.The candles are usually set into a special candelabra. The candles can be kept and lighted on each wedding anniversary

You can purchase a special unity candle set. That will include a pillar candle holder with connecting taper holders. They often come as separate pieces. This is nice since you can use them as home decor later on.

You can also use a pillar candle holder and a set of candlesticks that may be family heirlooms. These will also have special significance and can double as your " something borrowed ".

Make sure to be safe with candles for your unity ceremony. Check with your church or wedding venue ahead of time to make sure that they allow candles. If you are having an outdoor ceremony, you may want to use sets with glass to shield the flame from blowing.

Simple Wording For Unity Candle Ceremony

BRIDE and GROOM, the two separate candles symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends, in other words, your lives before today.

Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now being joined together as one.

Please pick up the lighted candles and together light the center candle.

Water Unity Ceremony

Another option is to join together in a water unity ceremony. This is a great alternative where candles are prohibited. In this ceremony, two containers filled with colored water are used. There is one larger container in the center. The two containers represent the bride and the groom, They pour the two containers into one one to represent the end of their separate lives and the joining of their lives together The two separate colors join together to form an entirely new color. The two colors can never be separated again.

You can use three vases for this ceremony. They come as a matching set that you can purchase. You can also find two thin vases and one larger and wider vase for the center. You will want to have the water in place before the ceremony.

Sand Unity Ceremony

If you don't want to risk spoiling your clothes with colored water, another alternative is the sand ceremony. Two containers are filled with colored sand. There is a larger container. The two colored sand vials represent the bride and the groom. The larger vessel is their two lives together, Alternatley, the bride and groom fill the larger vessel with their sand. The sands mix together and those grains cannot be separated.. Different colored sand to fit your theme is readily available in craft stores and on the internet. This is a good option for anyone having an outdoor ceremony or in a location that does not permit the use of candles.

This was the ceremony that I chose and we still have our sand vessels displayed on a bookcase. Since we had a beach wedding, this ceremony was just right for out theme. I found three glass containers with tops and glued shells on them. It was perfect and meaningful since we had gathered the shells together.

Sand Ceremony Tip

If you are having a sand ceremony outdoors, make sure that your containers are heavy enough that they will not tip over

Sand Ceremony Sets

These sets match your theme to make a statement for your ceremony. They can be saved and displayed later in your new home. They are a delightful reminder of your wedding day. Unity sand ceremony sets come with one main vessel and two vessels that the bride and groom pour into the main vessel. You may have to purchase bags of sand to use. The sand comes in different colors and are easily purchased at your local craft store

Unity Cross

The unity cross is like a bride and groom fitting their lives together as one.The out part represents the man, the inner part represents the woman. They fit their pieces together as one to make the cross. The Groom places the outer Cross in the beautiful wood base as the Pastor explains how God created man- Bold, Strong, the Defender of the Family yet how he is empty and incomplete without the woman. The Bride then places the more delicate cross inside of the Grooms cross as the Pastor explains how God created Woman- Delicate, multi-faceted, taking care of all of the little things that completes the man, and the -Two become One. The Bride and Groom then use the 3 golden pegs to lock the union(cross) together in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit as the pastor exclaims that: What God has brought together let no man take apart. Then the Unity Cross is taken home and displayed as a Daily Reminder of your Wedding Day and the Covenant that you both have made."The officient places three pegs into the cross locking the pieces together forever. This cross can then be displayed in the new home.

Flower or Rose Unity Ceremony

The tradition behind this ceremony is that the flower or rose is the first gift that the bride and groom give to each other.

There are a couple of different versions to this unity ceremony. You can have each mother carry a small bouquet. From that bouquet, the bride and the groom can pick one flower that they carry as they start their ceremony. Those flowers are placed in a small vase to signify their unity.

In the other version the bride and groom exchange flowers as the first gift of their new life. This is a great idea for garden or outdoor weddings

Mexican Wedding Rosary - Another Unique Unity Idea

A like ceremony is a Mexican Laso or Mexican Rosary unity ceremony. This is a tradition in Mexico, the Phillipines and in Spain.

A laso or floral rope is placed over the shoulders of the Bridal couple after the exchange of vows. This is done by someone very special to the couple.The couple will wear the lasso for the rest of the ceremony. Placing the loop over the bride and groom is a symbol of their love, binding them together in the duties of marriage.

The person who placed the laso will then remove it once the ceremony is finished and present it to the bride.

The Wine Or Cup Ceremony

Prior to the ceremony, a parent of the bride and groom pours a little wine into two glasses. From the separate glasses, the bride and groom each pour wine or a non alcoholic beverage, into one unity cup. They then take turns drinking from that cup. If you purchase a cup for this ceremony, it could be passed down generations for a special tradition

"A Toast to Life"

The years of your lives are as a cup of wine poured out for you to drink. The grapes when they are pressed, give forth their good juices for the wine. Under the wine press of time, our lives give forth their labor, and honor and love.

This cup contains within it the sweet wine of happiness and hope. This same cup, at times, holds the bitter wine of sorrow and despair.

One who drinks deeply of life invites the full range of experience into his or her being.

This cup is symbolic of the pledges you have made to one another to share together the fullness of life.

As you drink from this cup, you acknowledge that your lives have become one vessel into which all your sorrows and joys, all your hopes and fears will be poured, and from which you will receive mutual sustenance.

Many days you will sit at the same table and eat and drink together.

Drink now, and may the cup of your lives be sweet and full to overflowing.

Celebrant passes goblet to Groom. He sips from it and then passes it to Bride who does likewise.

Cord Of Three or God's Knot

This is a unique unity ceremony that is good where a bride and groom want something different to mark their joining. There are three cords that are attached to a golden ring. The groom holds the ring, while the bride braids the cords.Included with each Cord of Three Strands from God's Knot, there is a gold thread and rubber band to bind the ends of the strands together once you have braided the cord. You may find it easier to use the rubber band during the ceremony, and the gold thread to match the look of the cord later when you have time.

The wedding officient can read the following:

Today, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.

The gold strand represents God and His love.

The purple strand represents the groom and his life.

The white strand represents the bride and her life.

The officiant would read the following:

In braiding these three strands together, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two lives together. It is a unity with God as well. They have chosen to allow God to be at the center of their marriage, woven into every aspect of it.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 reads, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

Today, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have been woven together by God as ONE in marriage!

The Hand Ceremony

In the hand ceremony, the bride takes the groom's hands in hers, palms up. The officiant invites her to view his hands as a gift, and says: "These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future, as together you laugh and cry, and together you share your innermost secrets and dreams."

The groom then takes the bride's hands, palm side up. The officiant says, "They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness, as she promises her love and commitment to you all the days of her life."

Hand Fasting Ceremony

This is an old Celtic ceremony. It is also popular in Scottish culture.

It is generally either before or after the wedding vows are exchanged. Though traditionally it is done after the wedding ceremony to symbolize a couples pledge to bind their lives together

The bride and groom hold opposite hands (so their arms make a figure eight—representing eternity). Then, their hands are tied together with ribbon or a cord to symbolize a union. You could even use heirloom fabric to make it even more meaningful. Almost anything that has meaning for you can be used for this unity ceremony

The Tree Planting Ceremony

Another Unique Option

Eco friendly couples are doing something unique for their unity ceremony. They have a tree partially planted in a container. They add soil from two containers to finish. This ceremony bonds them through the seasons, ths storms of marriage,and at the same time, grows stronger every year.One idea to help your guests remember this special ceremony would be to give each guest a tree sapling to plant at their home in honor of your wedding.

The wedding officient would read the following

"May your relationship and your love for each other be like this oak you have planted. May it grow tall and strong. May it stand tall during whatever storms may enter your life, and may it come through unscathed. Like the oak, your marriage must be resilient. It must weather the challenges of life and the passage of time. And you must nurture one another as you will nurture this tree. A little nourishment is needed every day so you can each grown and reach your fullest potential—just like this tree."

Explore more tree unity ceremony ideas

Tree Unity Ceremony Tip

Tip: To keep it quick (and clean!), the tree should be almost completely planted prior to the ceremony, with soil reserved in two small containers. During the ceremony, the bride and groom should place soil from the two containers on top of the planting, representing two individuals coming together as one.

Bread Ceremony

In this ceremony, a loaf of bread is placed in a basket. The bride and groom each take a piece of the loaf and eat it.Sometimes the bread is passed to family and friends. It signifies their future as a family together

Truce Bell

In this ceremony a bell is rung on the wedding day, the happiest and best day of the couples lives. The bell is them placed in a prominent place in the home. If the couple starts to argue, one of them rings the bell to recall the happiness of their wedding hopefully ending the disagreement

Garland Or Lei Ceremony

Indian and Hawaian Tradition

The bride and groom exchange garlands or leis.his is a common part of Indian weddings, where the ceremony is called varmala or jaimala, and represents a proposal by the bride and acceptance by the groom. It also represents their new unity, blessed by nature. Leis represent the love and respect you have for the person you are giving it to, and the unity of the new family.

It is usually done in the beginning of the ceremony. The symbolism is similar to that of the wedding ring. The unbroken circle of the lei symbolizes eternal love.

If you are having an island destination or a beach wedding, this is a perfect addition to your ceremony.

You can make your own leis by stringing flowers together.

© 2012 Linda F Correa

We'd Love To Hear From You

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • linfcor profile imageAUTHOR

      Linda F Correa 

      5 years ago from Spring Hill Florida

      @anonymous: Hope the wedding will be one filled with blessings and love

    • profile image


      5 years ago

      Thank you so much for sharing these ideas, i have been so blessed bu them and will share them with my son and son to be bride.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)