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Unity Wedding Ceremony Ideas

Updated on May 1, 2015
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Online wedding planner for over 10 years. My goal has been to show everyone the best way to plan their wedding without breaking the bank !

Memorable Additions To Your Wedding Ceremony

Unity ceremonies have been a significant part of wedding ceremonies for centuries. That part of your wedding ceremony celebrates the joining of two families into a new one. There are so many options when it comes to unity ceremonies. You can incorporate almost anyone in your family to be part in this tradition. Mothers of the bride and groom often have taken part by lighting the two side candles in the traditional candle unity ceremony. Children of the bride and groom are often used , especially where there is a second marriage. You can take any unity ceremony and customize it for your own use.

There are more than one way to celebrate the unity of a couple at their wedding ceremony. The first thing that comes to mind is a unity candle ceremony. But sometimes there are places where candles are noit permitted. So celebrating, your upcoming nuptuals, here are a few ideas for you to consider. Adding one of these ceremonies to yoour wedding will make a memorable event for you, as a couple and for those you love.

Remember, any tradition can be a memorable part of your wedding, no matter what where it started, if it's meaningful to you !

Unity Candle Ceremony

The most common unity ceremony is the candle ceremony. Two tapers or candles represent the bride and groom. One larger pillar candle represents their new life together. Both the bride and groom light the larger pillar together signifying the joining of their two lives as one. They each blow out the others taper to signify the end of their single lives.The candles are usually set into a special candelabra. The candles can be kept and lighted on each wedding anniversary

Here We Stand-Unity Candle Song

Water Unity Ceremony

Another option is to join together in a water unity ceremony. This is a great alternative where candles are prohibited. In this ceremony, two containers filled with colored water are used. There is one larger container in the center. The two containers represent the bride and the groom, They pour the two containers into one one to represent the end of their separate lives and the joining of their lives together The two separate colors join together to form an entirely new color. The two colors can never be seperated again.

Sand Unity Ceremony

If you don't want to risk spoiling your clothes with colored water, another alternative is the sand ceremony. Two containers are filled with colored sand. There is a larger container. The two colored sand vials represent the bride and the groom. The larger vessel is their two lives together, Alternatly, the bride and groom fill the larger vessel with their sand. The sands mix together and those grains cannot be separated.. Different colored sand to fit your theme is readily available in craft stores and on the internet. This is a good option for anyone having an outdoor ceremony or in a location that does not permit the use of candles

Sand Ceremony Sets

These sets match your theme to make a statement for your ceremony. They can be saved and displayed later in your new home. They are a delightful reminder of your wedding day. Unity sand ceremony sets come with one main vessel and two vessels that the bride and groom pour into the main vessel. You may have to purchase bags of sand to use. The sand comes in different colors and are easily purchased at your local craft store

Unity Cross

The unity cross is like a bride and groom fitting their lives together as one.The out part represents the man, the inner part represents the woman. They fit their pieces together as one to make the cross. The Groom places the outer Cross in the beautiful wood base as the Pastor explains how God created man- Bold, Strong, the Defender of the Family yet how he is empty and incomplete without the woman. The Bride then places the more delicate cross inside of the Grooms cross as the Pastor explains how God created Woman- Delicate, multi-faceted, taking care of all of the little things that completes the man, and the -Two become One. The Bride and Groom then use the 3 golden pegs to lock the union(cross) together in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit as the pastor exclaims that: What God has brought together let no man take apart. Then the Unity Cross is taken home and displayed as a Daily Reminder of your Wedding Day and the Covenant that you both have made."The officient places three pegs into the cross locking the pieces together forever. This cross can then be displayed in the new home.

Flower Unity Ceremony

There are a couple of different versions to this unity ceremony. You can have each mother cary a small bouquet. From that bouquet, the bride and the groom can paick one flower that they carry as they start their ceremony. Those flowers are placed in a small vase to signify their unity. In the other version the bride and groom exchange flowers as the first gift of their new life. This is a great idea for garden or outdoor weddings

Mexican Wedding Rosary - Another Unique Unity Idea

A like ceremeony is a Mexican Laso or Mexican Rosary unity ceremony. A laso is placed over the shoulders of the Bridal couple after the exchange of vows. This is done by someone very special to the couple.The couple will wear the lasso for the rest of the ceremony. Placing the loop over the bride and groom is a symbol of their love, binding them together in the duties of marriage.

The Wine Or Cup Ceremony

Prior to the ceremony, a parent of the bride and groom pours a little wine into two glasses. From the separate glasses, the bride and groom each pour wine or a non alcoholic beverage, into one unity cup. They then take turns drinking from that cup. If you purchase a cup for this ceremony, it could be passed down generations for a special tradition

"A Toast to Life"

The years of your lives are as a cup of wine poured out for you to drink. The grapes when they are pressed, give forth their good juices for the wine. Under the wine press of time, our lives give forth their labor, and honor and love.

This cup contains within it the sweet wine of happiness and hope. This same cup, at times, holds the bitter wine of sorrow and despair.

One who drinks deeply of life invites the full range of experience into his or her being.

This cup is symbolic of the pledges you have made to one another to share together the fullness of life.

As you drink from this cup, you acknowledge that your lives have become one vessel into which all your sorrows and joys, all your hopes and fears will be poured, and from which you will receive mutual sustenance.

Many days you will sit at the same table and eat and drink together.

Drink now, and may the cup of your lives be sweet and full to overflowing.

Celebrant passes goblet to Groom. He sips from it and then passes it to Bride who does likewise.

Cord Of Three Unity Ceremony

This is a unique unity ceremony that is good where a bride and groom want something different to mark their joining. There are three cords that are attached to a golden ring. The groom holds the ring, while the bride braids the cords.Included with each Cord of Three Strands from God's Knot, there is a gold thread and rubber band to bind the ends of the strands together once you have braided the cord. You may find it easier to use the rubber band during the ceremony, and the gold thread to match the look of the cord later when you have time.

The wedding officient can read the following:

Today, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.

The gold strand represents God and His love.

The purple strand represents the groom and his life.

The white strand represents the bride and her life.

In braiding these three strands together, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two lives together. It is a unity with God as well. They have chosen to allow God to be at the center of their marriage, woven into every aspect of it.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 reads, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

Today, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have been woven together by God as ONE in marriage!

he wedding officient can read the following:

The Hand Ceremony

In the hand ceremony, the bride takes the groom's hands in hers, palms up. The officiant invites her to view his hands as a gift, and says: "These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future, as together you laugh and cry, and together you share your innermost secrets and dreams."

The groom then takes the bride's hands, palm side up. The officiant says, "They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness, as she promises her love and commitment to you all the days of her life."

Photo Courtesy of A Wedding Wish
Photo Courtesy of A Wedding Wish

The Tree Planting Ceremony

Another Unique Option

Eco friendly couples are doing something unique for their unity ceremony. They have a tree partially planted in a container. They add soil from two containers to finish. This ceremony bonds them through the seasons, ths storms of marriage,and at the same time, grows stronger every year.One idea to help your guests remember this special ceremony would be to give each guest a tree sapling to plant at their home in honor of your wedding.

Bread Ceremony

In this ceremony, a loaf of bread is placed in a basket. The bride and groom each take a piece of the loaf and eat it.Sometimes the bread is passed to family and friends. It signifies their future as a family together

Garland Or Lei Ceremony

Indian and Hawaian Tradition

The bride and groom exchange garlands or leis.his is a common part of Indian weddings, where the ceremony is called varmala or jaimala, and represents a proposal by the bride and acceptance by the groom. It also represents their new unity, blessed by nature. Leis represent the love and respect you have for the person you are giving it to, and the unity of the new family.

© 2012 Linda F Correa

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      Linda F Correa 4 years ago from Spring Hill Florida

      @anonymous: Hope the wedding will be one filled with blessings and love

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for sharing these ideas, i have been so blessed bu them and will share them with my son and son to be bride.