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Khmer Wedding in Cambodia

Updated on January 10, 2018
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Mary lives in Cambodia, a few months each year, working on education projects.

Khmer Wedding: A Complex Festival of Rituals and Rites

Khmer weddings are marvelously complex 3-day festivals of rituals and rites with the bride and groom going through more outfits than a runway model. Unless the couple has saved for many years or have wealthy parents, it can front-end load married life with serious debt.

But as in other cultures, Khmer society has its own way of making these elaborate weddings possible. Khmer wedding places abound where the bride and groom can rent the costumes and most couples do this. The Khmer bride and the groom have one costume each custom made for themselves to keep as part of their wedding souvenirs. The rest are all rented unless of course you are part of the Cambodian elite.

Traditional Rites in Khmer Wedding

Preparing for the Popil Ceremony
Preparing for the Popil Ceremony | Source

Why All These Rites?

Yes, but why all these rites? These rites accompanying a Cambodian Khmer wedding have their origins in ancient Khmer tradition and are binding not only to the two individuals but their families and communities as well so there are serious expenses matching major commitment. The negotiations are conducted between families with grandmas prominently featured in the process. Unless the two families agree, the wedding cannot really take place.

The first Khmer wedding we attended in Cambodia was of this couple in the picture. It was held in the bride's house in the outskirts of the city. The village folks in their fine Khmer costumes were there giving toasts to the bride and groom. It was a big surprise to see the bride and groom changing costumes several times as they went through the many rituals of the wedding.

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This picture is of my friend's wedding. Although the groom has already lived in the United States for years and my friend is far from being conservative, they still followed traditional rituals in their wedding.

The Khmer Wedding Date - What is Most Auspicious

Cambodian Khmer Wedding
Cambodian Khmer Wedding | Source

Auspicious Time for Khmer Wedding

Choosing of the appropriate time to marry is quite an elaborate affair among Khmer in Cambodia. They consult fortune tellers, feng shui masters and Buddhist holy monks not only for the best date and time but even on how to prepare the bride's room, from the bed to the pillows and blankets. The Khmer believe that all these stand permanently in the way to happiness of the would be couple.

To ensure happiness of the couple, the Khmer fortune teller, based on the groom and bride's age, date of birth and the astrological elements, calculates the best date and time for the wedding. Based on the fortune teller's findings on numerology or astrology, offerings are made to further enhance the compatibility of the couple. Sometimes, the wedding has to be called off if the stars just can't be aligned.

In many cases, it is really the wisdom of the fortune teller that prevails. As the wisest of these fortune tellers said, when it is obvious that the bride and groom really love each other, the blessing is given immediately.

Khmer Wedding Date: Determined by Feng Shui Masters

Cambodian Khmer really ask for the Feng Shui Masters to help them ensure the happiness and prosperity of the couple. The masters look at what needs to change in the home especially the bride's room, to ensure a happy marriage.

If an auspicious date is important to you, get some tips from this book on how you can also rearrange your own house. Who knows.

Parents in a Khmer Wedding

Families with Priest at the Cambodia Khmer Wedding
Families with Priest at the Cambodia Khmer Wedding | Source

How Khmer Weddings are Arranged - Watch the Grandma Mafia

Tying the nuptial knots in Cambodia does not only involve the groom and the bride. In fact, many times, they are not hugely involved. Their parents, in particular, the mothers or maybe grandmothers, make all the necessary arrangements.

The families are major participants from the engagement to the wedding. And families can be huge. The tradition is for the groom's family to visit the bride's family and ask for her hand in marriage. Then, the formal engagement period starts. When this is done, the Monks and Grandmas conspire to choose an auspicious day for the wedding.

But before the parents meet about this wedding, they first find out about each other's family background, the character of the person, even the date of birth of the future bride and groom as astrology plays a part in the choice of marriage partners. The grandma mafias dig as far as can be dug and all is reported. When the parents are satisfied that this will be a good match, then, the future groom's parents approach a middle person to arrange the meeting with the future bride's parents. Again, much ritual huffing and puffing surrounds the approach. In this meeting, the negotiation is often on the dowry.

Family is Central to the Wedding

Khmer wedding Cambodia
Khmer wedding Cambodia | Source

Arrangement of Khmer Wedding

A colleague described how the marriage ramp up was a long, often maddening process. First, when he found his potential lifetime partner, he asked his parents to see the lady's parents. Sadly for him, when his parents came back, they told him that the girl's parents did not accept the proposal as they wanted more money than what his parents could afford.

He was disappointed so he went to see the lady and asked her again. He talked to the lady's grandmother who finally gave her yes. But when the lady's mother returned, she again put a stop to the wedding.

Meanwhile, through the matchmaker, another family invited our friend as they wanted him for their daughter. They served him a good lunch and our colleague emphasized that they gave him Tiger beer, a prized commodity in Cambodia at that time as it was imported from Singapore. But our friend insisted to this new approach that he was still in negotiation with the other family and he wanted to keep his word. The first family finally relented and agreed to the marriage (a bird in the hand...etc.) Our colleague has now three children and has learned a great deal about negotiations!

Another colleague, a very good international consultant, told us during a meeting that he finally found the girl he was interested to marry. He saw her once in a gathering but did not approach her. Instead, he started asking people about her and when he found out she was from his village as well, he asked his father to approach the family. The father of the girl asked to first meet our colleague so he could assess him. Our recent update was the proposal was not accepted and our colleague was really hurt. He didn't know why.

In the past, even the community was involved. From what they knew of the two, the community determined whether they were compatible or not.

This practice is changing now, of course, but in many families, this is still the norm. We just attended an engagement ceremony with all these traditional rites, even though, the bride and groom are graduates of Western universities and occasionally looked somewhat bemused by the process.

At the Core of Cambodian Khmer Wedding - The Three Jewels of Buddhism

Cambodian Khmer consider 3 to be an especially auspicious number because of its association with the "three jewels" of Buddhism: the Buddha, the Sangha (brotherhood of monks), and the Dhamma (the Buddha's teachings). Thus, the 3-day wedding celebration. But, nowadays, many in the urban areas have shortened the ceremony to just 1 day and a half for all the ceremonies that have to be performed. The intrusion of cities and factories and time clocks is having its predictable effect. But in the rural areas, the Khmer still stick to the three days.

Just the engagement alone already requires a full day of celebration from early morning to late at night. I attended one recently and I had to prepare two dresses, one for the morning ceremonies and another for the evening party. But who wants to miss the fun?

Groom's Family in Procession to the Khmer Bride's House

The March of the Grrom to the Bride's House
The March of the Grrom to the Bride's House | Source

Cambodian Khmer Traditional Wedding Rites

The rites that comprise the wedding ceremony also have their roots in the Khmer ancient traditions.

In the past, there were two venues for the ceremony, the groom's house referred to as the Vivahamongkul and the bride's, Avahamongkul. Village life ground to a halt for these events so weddings had to be held in the quiet season for agriculture.

It seems that in the past, Khmer wedding can only be held in 31-day months (May, July, October, December, January, and March) and these cannot be held on their birthdays, religious days, lunar or solar eclipse and Khmer New Year.

Weddings are also not held during the rainy season. In the past, it must have been difficult to organize one.

Traditional Cambodian Khmer Wedding Songs - For each rite in the Cambodian Khmer wedding

Each of the rituals in traditional Cambodian Khmer wedding has its own traditional song and music accompaniment as you can hear in the following videos.

Offering fruits and sweets to the Cambodian bride's family

Bringing of Gifts in Cambodian Wedding
Bringing of Gifts in Cambodian Wedding | Source

Groom's Family Bear Gifts for the Bride's Family

The Khmer groom's family and community of relations and friends descends early in a well orchestrated procession to the bride's house bearing meats, fruits, pastries, drinks and desserts of every variety. Depending on their wealth, these trays can really become expensive.This is accompanied by chanting and banging of pots and pans. We had been in some of these processions and felt proud about being part of a big family.

Acceptance of the Gifts by the Khmer Bride's Family

With his three best men, his family and clan, the groom waits at the entrance of the bride's house where two banana trees laden with fruits have been placed as pillars.

Wedding Gifts from the Khmer Groom's Family - Trays of fruits and sweets

Khmer Wedding Gifts
Khmer Wedding Gifts | Source

Cambodia Khmer Wedding Gifts

Once these gifts are displayed, the master of ceremonies, a singer cum jester describes the gifts and asks the bride's family if they are satisfied or they want more. This always causes laughter as the bride's family always nod their heads in approval of the suggestions of the groom's...ahhhh cheapness.

This is followed by breakfast of traditional rice porridge (Bor Bor), fruits and sweets with the master of ceremony keeping the guests entertained with folk songs. .

As guests look on, the bride and groom feed each other. Only after the bride and groom have finished their breakfast will the guests start eating. The real fun is all the children peering through the curtains to catch the action. The giggles are as loud as the singing. Quality Assurance is managed by the Grandmas, of course.

To the bride's family, enough or not?

Presentation of the Gifts
Presentation of the Gifts | Source

Table for Gifts

The fully laden trays are neatly arranged inside the bride's house or on a decorated table outside in a wedding tent.

Table for the Cambodian Khmer Wedding Gifts - Uniquely Cambodian

Receiving the Gifts
Receiving the Gifts | Source

Rite of Acceptance in the Cambodian Khmer Wedding - The Khmer Bride's Family Welcomes the Groom's Family

The Khmer bride's family accepts the gifts from the groom's family and the wedding master of ceremonies cum jester asks the bride's parents if they are satisfied with the gifts to which the answer is always no to the laughter of everyone present. All good fun. You can see this in the following video.

Welcoming the Groom's Family in the Cambodian Khmer Wedding

To the chimes of a gong, the bride's family greets the visitors with the traditional Cambodian greeting Sampeah. Then, an older lady carefully chosen from those who are successful in life and blessed in marriage leads the bride out to welcome the groom. The bride and groom helpers, 3 for each, must come from families with both parents happy with each other. The Khmer believe that these blessings will then be passed on to the bride and groom.

Once the acceptance is made, the Cambodian wedding rites start with the master of ceremonies telling the story of the meeting of the bride and groom and the challenges encountered by the groom's family in their journey to the bride's house. This can be good fun as the challenges are often made up now that wars and rivers and dragons don't get in the way. Each rite in the Khmer wedding is accompanied by a Khmer traditional song.

Khmer traditional greeting ritual

The Bride Greeting the Groom
The Bride Greeting the Groom | Source

The ritual for honoring parents in the traditional Khmer wedding

The groom's family bring in their gifts and the priests present these to the bride's parents. Meanwhile the bride has gone to her room and stays there until she is called back.

After the groom's family have presented the gifts of fruits, cakes, vegetables, household items, meat, drinks, sweets and a new set of clothes for the bride and groom, the bride is brought back and together with the groom kneel down in front of the beautifully decorated altar to pay respects to their parents and offer prayers.

Honoring Parents in the Cambodian Khmer Wedding

Groom's Family bringing Gifts
Groom's Family bringing Gifts | Source

Khmer Bride and Groom Place Garlands on Each Other

The groom and bride then place garlands on each other after which they walk into the house carrying a silver bowl with flowers from the areca nut tree and other offerings. As they pass, young girls throw jasmine flowers along their path.

Another carefully celebrated ritual in the Khmer wedding

Putting of Garland in Khmer Wedding
Putting of Garland in Khmer Wedding | Source

First Day in the Khmer Wedding

The first day is set aside for the bride and groom to ask for blessings from the monks. This is a more private ceremony with only the couple and their families and the village elders present. The bride and the groom and also the family members with them wear the traditional white worn to go to the temple. The blessing takes place in the bride's house.

After the monks blessing, some families do a Buk Leak ceremony where they hide the red dye and the groom has to search for it.

Monks' Blessing in the Traditional Cambodian Khmer Wedding

Blessing of the bride and groom
Blessing of the bride and groom | Source

Presentation of the Dowry

After the Neay Pream He Kaun Kamlas or the Arrival of the Groom ritual, the presentation of the dowry or the Chambak Roy follows. The song that accompanies this rite tells of the dialogue between the matchmakers, the parents, relatives and friends of the bride.The dowry is currently more in the form of jewelry or money but in the past, it took the form of land such as rice fields, buffaloes and cows.

Other Rites in the Cambodian Khmer Wedding - Presentation of the dowry

Wedding Rituals at a Khmer Wedding
Wedding Rituals at a Khmer Wedding | Source

Master of Ceremonies in the Cambodian Khmer Wedding - A singer-cum-jester

The master of ceremonies in the Khmer wedding, the singer-cum-jester, and his lady partner directs the wedding event through songs. When they arrive, they say they are from heaven and that they heard the music and the hum of celebration so they decided to come and check this out.

They have other songs to present their role and mostly they are funny but very well suited to the occasion. At the reception. they continue to entertain the guests crooning and dancing in a traditional slow rhythmic tune accompanied by a band hired for the occasion.

Chewing of the Betel Nut - Symbolizes the Agreement Between the Two Khmer Families

Then, the Pak Paeuk Pisa Sla (Inviting the Elders to Chew Betel Nut) follows. This symbolizes the agreement between the two families as they chew betel nut together.

This rite came from the mythical story, Som Sla Kanseng. This is the story of two men who enjoyed feeding their buffaloes together that they wanted so much to become relatives. So, because one had a son and the other, a daughter they decided that they can be related by marriage. To hold each other to their words, they took their betel nuts carefully wrapped in their kroma (scarf) and shared these to chew with each other. This is still more or less what families here do. They choose practically whom their children will marry.

An important Cambodian wedding ritual in the past

Blessing from the Community for the Khmer Bride and Groom
Blessing from the Community for the Khmer Bride and Groom | Source

Bongvil PoPil Rite in Cambodian Khmer Wedding - The Seven Rotations Ceremony

On the second day, before the sun rises, the groom in traditional attire goes to the spirit house and facing east prays for blessing and asks for good time for the ceremony. Once the sun rises, this is taken as the coming of the good time for the ceremony. The priest hits the gong three times to signal the good time for the ceremony to start. This signals the bride to pray three times in her room to get the blessing and happiness in the future. Then, the priest brings the groom inside the bride's house accompanied by a traditional Khmer band playing the song, Sdech Yeng which translates to "the coming of the King".

The groom then stands at the entrance and the priest asks if he can bring the groom inside. All the bride's relatives have to say, it is alright for the groom to come in. The groom then stands on a small stone at the entrance of the house to symbolize his patience and readiness to forgive. In the past, the priest calls the bride's lady assistant to bring water in a tal (a traditional Khmer water container) and wash the groom's feet and gives him the betel in a handkerchief. Then, she ushers the groom to sit down while the bride goes back to her room. At present, the bride does this ritual of washing the groom's feet. The Khmer believe that this ritual will ensure that they become steadfast in their marriage in spite of problems.

Then the groom takes the betel to the parents and bows three times followed by offering Kasla flowers to the bride's parents and relatives accompanied by the song, Pha Theay, calling the bride out to sit with the groom and the parents and relatives. Then, the gong is hit again and the musician shouts out, Chey Hong Sur Hong and Sok Hong (success and happiness in everything) and the others follow. Then, the bride comes out and sits beside the groom.

At this point, the priest invites persons who have good background and marriage to sit around the bride and groom. Once they are seated, he asks the parents of the bride and groom to light the first candles and give these to the bride and groom. Then, the priest blesses them three times and then passes on the candles to the left 19 times. After the seventh time, the lighted candles are blown off and placing the betel leaves on top, the smoke is guided towards the bride and groom who breathe the smoke in as blessing for a future of deep love for each other.

The PoPil (Formerly Popi meaning 2 blessing) ceremony comes with two blessing, one from the god Eyso and the goddess, Okma Pheak Vatey, for the couple to have many healthy children. This is still strongly practiced because the Cambodian king, Jayasurya was a student of Eyso and he promoted this practice all throughout the kingdom.

The ceremony continues with the singing of Mouan Rongneav (chicken crow) or Phat Jeay or Lomneang. The musician then takes the sword out with the shouts of Chey Hong Sur Hong and Sok Hong and then sings, Daov Euy Daovdek (Sword). The holding of the sword at the Khmer wedding came from this mythical story of a high ranking knight in the Peareansey Palace who deposited a bar of gold as a dowry for the lovely daughter of a villager and with it his promise to return in three months to marry her. Three years after, he failed to come so the villager married his daughter to a neighbor. On the night of the wedding, the Knight appeared and killed the groom so since then to dismiss all bad things, the sword is worn at the wedding.

Cambodian Khmer Bride and Groom Asking for Blessing - Blessing from Ancestor Spirits

Asking for Blessing from Ancestor Spirit in a Khmer Wedding
Asking for Blessing from Ancestor Spirit in a Khmer Wedding | Source

Blessing from the Community

In the past, weddings are community affairs. People come and bring their produce. But during the ceremony, they give advice to the couple given what they know of them. They advise them on how they can make their strengths and weaknesses work in harmony so their marriage becomes lasting. The community takes weddings very seriously as they take responsibility when the marriage does not work.

Today, the ceremonies have relegated this community responsibility mostly to giving money in an envelope. The ancient wedding rites have been replaced by global trends and somehow commerce has taken its core. Many though still follow the basic tenets of their culture.

The Exchange of Rings - Between the Cambodian Khmer bride and groom

Exchange of Rings in Khmer Wedding
Exchange of Rings in Khmer Wedding

Tying of the Red Thread at the Cambodian Khmer Wedding

After the Popil ceremony, the priest ties the thread around the hands of the groom and bride and gives them blessing and advice. Then, the parents do the same thing. As the bride and groom's wrists are tied, this song, Bay Khon Chang Dai is sung: "We tie three strings to each wrist of our children. We wish for true happiness and success to this couple, who will always be together like wet grass seeds. We tie your left wrist to make you remember your parents. We tie your right wrist to make you carry on the family lineage and traditions." Then both parents come to tie again followed by close relatives who give rings or chains in addition to the usual words of advice and wishes of happiness, prosperity, good health, success, and love. The praises are acknowledged and witnessed by the loud sound of the gongs and joyful cheer.

Then, the groom and the bride stand up and the groom holds the bride's scarf with one hand and the sword on the other. The bride holds a container with rice and both walk inside the room. Then the song, Prek Thong Neangneak (King Prince and Princess of the Dragon). Then the gong is hit to signal the end of this part of the wedding.

Wedding Rings in a Cambodian Khmer Wedding - Beautifully Presented

The Rings at Khmer Wedding
The Rings at Khmer Wedding

Hair Cutting Ceremony Ritual

Breakfast is followed by the hair-cutting ceremony, a traditional rite handed down from the old days not only to make merry at the wedding but to symbolize the new life the couple are getting into. In the past, the hair-cutting was for real. The master of ceremonies and his partner pretend they are angels who heard the singing from heaven and they came to partake of the celebration. They bring a bottle of perfume and a jeung bin (tray) with a pair of scissors.

Nowadays, a mock hair cut is staged. The bride and groom are seated on decorated chairs. The master of ceremony then teases them adding to the delight of those present. Carrying a tray with scissors, a comb and a bottle of hair spray, the first person given the honor to cut their hair pretends to clip the bridegroom. Then, she retrieves a gold ring from the hair which had earlier been placed there by the monk. She does the same to the bride after which the hair spray is used. Other elders repeat this same ritual. Retrieving the gold ring signifies the couple's prosperity in life.

Cambodian Khmer Wedding Invitation

The Money Collectors at a Khmer Wedding
The Money Collectors at a Khmer Wedding | Source

Wedding Envelopes Properly Accounted for

In this picture, you see the table with heart boxes at the back of the reception room. This is where the invitation envelopes which you fill with money go. Members of the family assigned open the envelopes and list in the book the names of the guests and how much each of them gave. This book will be kept for generations and it gets consulted when invitations for weddings come. Whatever the family who invited them gave in their own family's wedding, the same amount will be placed in the envelope.

A friend planning his wedding wanted to put a dragon in gold, a symbol of power and this horrified the others as it should have a symbol of love.

The letters are usually in gold and inside is the map of the place where the reception will be held.

The envelope with your name is where you are to put your money for the bride and groom. The amount usually depends on the status of the one getting married signified by his job, position in the office, status of the family and closeness of the relationship. Some add more when the food served is good so they wait until they have finished eating before putting their envelopes in the carefully embellished box. But make sure your name gets into the record. When your own children marry, this record will be reviewed for appropriate contribution.

Cambodian Khmer Wedding Cake - Looks yummy

Wedding Cake at Khmer Wedding
Wedding Cake at Khmer Wedding | Source

Wedding Gifts for Cambodian Khmer wedding? - Wedding favors are practiced, too

The practice, though, is for close relatives to give chains or rings to the bride and groom. The guests regularly put money inside an envelope and beautifully wrapped boxes are provided in the wedding venue to place these envelopes in. Depending on a number of factors, the amount varies. If the parents of the bride or groom have given $100 for your own child's wedding, then, it is sort of expected that you have to reciprocate in exactly the same amount. The minimum amount is usually $10 and guests usually increase this amount a tiny bit when the food served is better so keep those envelopes first until after you have eaten. There is a group assigned to collect these envelopes and every contribution is listed so in the future, the amount will be reciprocated.

Cambodian Khmer Wedding Reception - Wedding Places for Khmer Wedding

Khmer Wedding Reception Cambodia
Khmer Wedding Reception Cambodia | Source

Khmer Wedding Feast

A feast follows and more songs and dances for everyone's entertainment. Just before the reception, the couple and their entourage go to nearby parks or the palace grounds often turned out in western wedding gown and tuxedo to have pictures taken. A classic media event.

It must be noted that many families have already shortened this event to a day and a half compressing the rites. However, lately, as more Khmer want to show what the family has achieved, the three days seem to be observed again.

These days, there are wedding places hosting these celebrations convenient for families, so both ceremonies have been merged. Now, they have all the rites in one day. However, the rules are still followed as written in the book of Oknha Mahamontrey Nhek Nov, Khmer Wedding Rules. Okhna Nov wrote that the rites are arranged according to the rules drawn up by King Preay Chey Chesda Thebdey who interestingly related these rites to mythical stories.

Listening to the stories of the younger generation makes one know that this tradition will live on for some time and the Grandmas are perched like warrior Phoenixes just waiting to pounce on any breach.

A Cambodian wedding feast

Each time we are at a Khmer wedding reception, it always amazes us at how pragmatic it is. Khmer families have to attend during the peak wedding season several receptions in one evening. They split to the various occasions but sometimes this is not possible. Many last night came from the office straight to the reception. To make it easy for many families, as guests arrive they are ushered to a table and once this table is filled up, service starts.

There is no head table as the parents and the bride and groom are there at the door receiving guests, having pictures taken or saying goodbye to those who came early. In the reception hall, service continues and when the table is done, signalled by the soup at the end, the guests leave and new guests claim the table. No one other than the families of the bride and groom lingers. We left our place at 5 and were home by 7:20 pm. We thoroughly enjoyed it. By the way, in this video, you can see the grandmas at work.

Cambodian Khmer Wedding Ceremony

A Victory for the Khmer Culture

The colourful Cambodian wedding ceremony is a well of tradition and remains an exhausting experience. But for most Cambodians, such nuptials represent more than a nod to the traditions of the past.

Each marriage here in Cambodia is a victory for their culture, a promise to their families and a commitment to the future.

© 2010 Mary Norton

What did you like most about Khmer wedding? - Aren't weddings great celebrations?

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      Mary Norton 3 months ago from Ontario, Canada

      It is a bit complicated and many have already simplified it. Still there are bits of it that they will never give up.

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      Tolovaj Publishing House 3 months ago from Ljubljana

      One of my friends married in Cambodia this summer, but I wasn't there. I believe his wedding was far from being traditional, yet it would be very interesting to see him following the rituals ... I personally find especially intriguing the fact about the roles of the ladies - they are probably the remains of an old matriarchal society.

      Thanks for the entertaining and educational reading!

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      sheilamarie78 3 years ago

      Traditions hold so many deep meanings that the modern approach lacks. However, what would a poor family do in face of these traditions?

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      Richard 3 years ago from Hampshire - England

      Wow I had no idea so much effort and preparation went into these weddings, and I really loved learning more about the traditions - especially the two families becoming one - I thought the chewing of the nut was amazing and the food trays looked divine! Excellent lens :)

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      Ram Ramakrishnan 3 years ago

      A traditional Khmer wedding is almost like its Indian counterpart. It must be so because the two cultures share a common heritage. Your lenses are always so detailed and well-presented. It is a pleasure viewing them.

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      Marie 4 years ago

      What a beautiful and colorful way to have a wedding. I loved the gifts of fruit and sweets that is a lovely idea. A Khmer wedding looks like the best type of wedding to me.

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      Mary Norton 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Nithya Venkat: They do and they are all hand made.

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      Mary Norton 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Heidi Vincent: So many Khmer still do this even when they are in other countries.

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      Heidi Vincent 4 years ago from GRENADA

      I think that traditions are important. It was good of your friends to have a traditional wedding despite his having lived in the uS for a number of years.

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      Nithya Venkat aka Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

      Enjoyed reading about Khmer wedding. I loved the Khmer jewelry, they look beautiful. Great lens.

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      Ellen Gregory 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      The costumes and colors of the decorations are absolutely beautiful.

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      Delia 4 years ago

      The keeping of a tradition...and what amazing colors! Looks like a wedding I'd like to attend...

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      TedWritesStuff 4 years ago

      A beautiful country. I saw a few celebrations during my travels in Sth East Asia. So extravagant!

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      Erin Mellor 4 years ago from Europe

      I've been to a wedding in Laos, it was beautiful. It looks like a lot of the traditions are shared.

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      Elyn MacInnis 4 years ago from Shanghai, China

      You have a real gem here - every detail is so well explained. I love the way everyone is included in weddings in Asia - it is a whole-community affair. Nice!

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      Sara2901 4 years ago

      Awesome. Similar tradition to Indian culture - Good to know

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      jayavi 4 years ago

      You have present this Khmer Wedding lens in nice way. Thanks for the information about that culture. some are similar to our systems too.

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      Margaret Schindel 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      This is such an exquisite, fascinating and informative lens! I loved seeing the beautiful and evocative photos, hearing about the Khmer courtship, engagement and wedding traditions and the reasons behind them, watching the wonderful videos, and wishing I could witness the whole process in person. Thank you so much for sharing this aspect of your culture with us!

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      writerkath 4 years ago

      Wow! You did a fabulous job with this incredible lens! What a wonderful and blessed glimpse into a lifestyle and culture I had only heard of. You brought it to life! :) Totally blessed!

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      Aunt-Mollie 5 years ago

      I truly enjoyed reading about the traditions. Marriage is a wonderful celebration in every culture.

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      Sharon Berry 5 years ago from Michigan

      Very interesting and what beautiful women.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @LeonMole: Good as that is really why this lens is made.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @mechanicaleye: I am happy you enjoyed this lens on Khmer wedding.

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      jordanthebestman 5 years ago

      Well, I was just invited to a Cambodian wedding :) It's good to know beforehand then

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      LeonMole 5 years ago

      I've learned a lot aboput Cmbodia traditions here. Thank you for sharing.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Suunnyy: Thank you so much. Cambodia Khmer wedding is really interesting.

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      Suunnyy 5 years ago

      Okay that was an interesting reading..your lens covers everything about cambodia weddings, it really is a great lens!

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Pat Goltz: Cambodian families still really follow the traditional ways especially in weddings.

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      Pat Goltz 5 years ago

      I love weddings. We're Americans, and one of our sons married a woman who was part Cambodian. We had a traditional negotiation to get her family to consent. The bride's family said they would serve the food if we brought the cake, so that's what we did. It is interesting how closely what we did is like the traditional way of doing things.

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      jonathanwm 5 years ago

      Love your len. Lot of information. thanks for sharing

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @anonymous: They are truly colourful.

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      CoolFool83 5 years ago

      Wow, this is some lense. Really well done!

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      Eda Škulj 5 years ago from Bosnia and Herzegvina

      I love to learn about different customs and traditions, so this lens was a real treat for me. Thank you for sharing!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Very interesting lens, I love these Cambodia wedding style.

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      darren-larson 5 years ago

      @aesta1: I believe you're right. We have a daughter on the way that I hope enjoys knowing more about where her family came from. Some day when she is old enough to remember going we will take her there.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @jaisonvincent: It was so interesting to me so I learned more about it.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @darren-larson: I can just imagine you enjoying your video for years to come.

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      jaisonvincent 5 years ago

      Its very interesting to know about the different wedding celebrations in different communities.

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      darren-larson 5 years ago

      Almost two years later I still put the wedding video on and see something I didn't notice before. In the next few years I think we will be going back to play surrogate parents to my best man for his wedding. Well the only one who came along, at the time I didn't know I'd need three!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Very interesting, it's good to learn something new

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @AshleyCarew1: Am happy you enjoyed your visit.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Mandy Stradley: It must be really worth looking at.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @getmoreinfo: We have attended weddings here at all levels and they are all grand.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @wattyan: Yes, they used to be part of one kingdom.

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      wattyan 5 years ago

      It is similar to Thailand.

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      getmoreinfo 5 years ago

      Wow this lens is absolutely gorgeous I love the Cambodia Khmer Wedding and the photos are really showing such a grand celebration. blessings

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      Mandy Stradley 5 years ago

      Beautiful celebration! My husband just photographed a traditional Cambodian wedding. Gorgeous!

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      AshleyCarew1 5 years ago

      What a truly wonderful lens, so informative. Thanks for sharing!

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Cavedweller: That is great. Enjoy it.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @VeseliDan: It is very interesting. The rituals are still followed.

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      VeseliDan 5 years ago

      This wedding sounds really interesting. *blessed*

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      Cavedweller 5 years ago

      yepp! Weddings are great! I have my cousins at the end of the month!

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @maryLuu: Wedding traditions are always interesting and I will be happy to see some from your country.

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      maryLuu 5 years ago

      Great lens!

      The most I like at weddings to see the bride and groom celebrating their love. I love their first dance and the traditions. In my country there are so many beautiful traditions.....

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @coolmon2009 lm: I hope you get a chance. It is a good way to understand people.

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      coolmon2009 lm 5 years ago

      I hope to participate in one of these weddings, Interesting lens

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Rosetta Slone: Doesn't it? In reality, it is more colorful.

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      Rosetta Slone 5 years ago from Under a coconut tree

      What a colourful and interesting lens you made. And that cake looks fantastic!

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @JuserTM: Thank you for the thumbs up. Truly appreciate your visit.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @SteveKaye: They are but I wish I can take pictures like you do.

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      SteveKaye 5 years ago

      I agree. Weddings are joyful occasions. Thank you for publishing this lens. I enjoyed the tour. And the photos are beautiful.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Nice lense, great job

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      JuserTM 5 years ago

      Very nice lens, great job! Thumbs up!

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @anonymous: I hope you write about it.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Melissa Miotke: Yes, it is a very special occasion for families.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Wedding Ceremoni very interesting in my country recently wedding artist Anang-Ashanty Hold the Event Ngunduh Mantu in Jember

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      Melissa Miotke 5 years ago from Arizona

      I love weddings because it's a time for family to get together that doesn't see each other often. Great lens- I love learned about other cultures.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @jyothishwebtech: That is good you got the info you needed.

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      jyothishwebtech 5 years ago

      Very interesting informations you gave.I get some ideas about Cambodia wedding with the help of your post.Thank you for your posting.


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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @jlshernandez: They are. Asians have big families.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @sandi_x: Am happy you find this interesting.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @booknow: Sorry about that. It would have been an experience.

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      booknow 5 years ago

      Great lens! When I was in Cambodia in 2009 I didn't see a wedding unfortunately. But I really loved the country and the people I met there.

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      sandi_x 5 years ago

      interesting content and new informacion. Nice lens

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      jlshernandez 5 years ago

      Weddings seem to be a big production in most Asian countries. Thanks for sharing the Camobidan customs and lovely photos.

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      ottnepal 5 years ago

      you are mostly welcome to Nepal. Nepal is not only for climbing mountain. Nepal is a country which is naturally decorated. are lots of places for visiting. Nepal is birth place of Lord Buddha. You can visit Lumbini (birth place of Buddha) and can pray for peace in whole world.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Millionairemomma: They are very festive as many times, they involve the whole community.

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      Millionairemomma 5 years ago

      Wow, this lens was full of great content and photos. These weddings look so festive.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @avigarret: It is a beautiful tradition that people still practice.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @KimGiancaterino: I know I had been detailed here more for me to remember than anything else.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @WriterJanis2: Thank you so much for the blessing.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @miaponzo: They certainly have retained many of their rituals around weddings.

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      queenofduvetcover 5 years ago

      Beautiful lens!

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      miaponzo 5 years ago

      OMG .. this lens is so amazing and those Cambodian weddings are beautiful... loaded with special customs! Blessed!

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      WriterJanis2 5 years ago

      Such an interesting lens. Blessed!

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      KimGiancaterino 5 years ago

      Brides always look beautiful, but these colorful costumes really make for a festive celebration. As usual, you explain the traditions in excellent detail.

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      avigarret 5 years ago

      A beautiful tradition and an educational and fascinating lens, thanks for sharing.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Natalie W Schorr: Thank you for visiting my lens.

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      darren-larson 5 years ago

      @aesta1: The involvement was the biggest difference. It was even more important since my inlaws came back for the wedding. And for my niece and nephew, 4 and almost 2, the first time the family got to meet them as well. I think it was a bigger family celebration and reuinion because of it.

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      Natalie W Schorr 5 years ago

      Wow! Super well done lens!

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @bechand: Thanks Bechand. I truly appreciate this.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @anonymous: Yes, it is pretty.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @anonymous: I just love the family involvement.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Li-Li-ThePinkBookworm: Thank you LiLi for your generous comment.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      @Annamadagan: Good you enjoyed yourself.

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      Annamadagan 5 years ago

      Wow fancy! I love it. Thanks for sharing!!

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      Li-Li-ThePinkBookworm 6 years ago

      Wow, that was a lot of information. Normally I don't like lenses that are this long, but you stuck so much good information and pictures that it was well worth reading all the way through. Amazing work on this lens! You deserve all those Squid Blessings :)

      Li Li

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Having a Khmer wedding was, through my eyes, very elaborite. And as a U.S. groom it was very deep to meet my wife's (whole) family and village in this way. The video thankfully captured what it looked like to see everything. It was very different from my perspective. Its very different and far more festive than any western wedding I've been to.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      i like The Khmer Wedding Cake

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      bechand 6 years ago

      this is an AWESOME LENS - very deserving of it's purple star - and what the heck - another blessing ! :O)