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Wedding Tips For The Groom-To-Be
Groom Wedding Tips, Traditions and Tidbits
We have all heard of the term, "Bridezilla", to describe that frantic, hysterical, stressed-out bride-to-be. The one who, while planning her "perfect" wedding day, needs to be calmed and reassured by everyone around her. She is the center of attention and gets help and advice from family, friends, even complete strangers and of course demands nothing less then complete devoted patience from her waiting groom-to be.
But who takes the time to think about the poor, neglected, befuddled Groom, who is trapped in the middle of all the chaos, pondering wedding colors, china patterns, and seating arrangements?
Well, now here are some tips, tidbits and amusing insights into all the planning, expectations and superstitious wedding traditions, all designed to help any guy tie the knot with grace and confidence, while still keeping a much needed sense of humor.
The Groom's Checklist
From The Beginning
- The Engagement Ring: Know her ring size.
- Pop the Question: Make it a memorable moment.
- Choose a wedding date
- Pick out a reception location: Places get booked up very early. Especially if your wedding is in the summer months.
- Choose your Best Man, Groomsmen and Ushers.
- Start working on the guest list.
- Meet with a Priest, Rabbi or Justice of the Peace, the choice is yours.
- Choose the music: a band or disk jockey. Get references from friends. Meet with these candidates so you feel comfortable with their personality.
6 Months Before.
- Plan for your honeymoon: Apply for a passport if needed
- Shop for wedding rings
- Finish up the guest list
- Check state requirements for blood tests and the marriage license
- Secure transportation to the ceremony and reception
3 Months Left.
- Tuxes for the Grooms, Best Man and Groomsmen.
- Book your honeymoon.
- Get wedding band inscriptions, if desired. Order them.
2 Months Left.
- Meet with the person performing the ceremony to finalize details.
- Rehearsal Dinner: Plan it with your parents
- Work with your bride on flower arrangements.
30 Day Countdown.
- Buy your bride a wedding gift. Make sure it's personal and memorable gift.
- Schedule final fittings for tuxedos, and make sure all wedding attire has been ordered.
- Purchase gifts for Best Man, Groomsmen and Ushers.
- Take care of business and legal affairs. Add Bride's name to insurance policies, medical plans and checking accounts.
- File for your marriage license with your bride-to-be.
- If moving, get a change of address card to the Post Office. Arrange to have utilities turned on in your new home. If you're not moving, continue with cleaning and reorganizing your home and help your fiancé with the moving of her things
- Bachelor Party (see below)
- Pick up the tux
- Make sure Best Man and Ushers get their wedding attire
- Reconfirm all honeymoon reservations. If flying, make sure you have the plane tickets
- Make sure your attendants are at the rehearsal and know their duties
- Make sure your Ushers are aware of special seating arrangements
- Bring your wedding license to the official at rehearsal. Be sure it is filled out properly so it can be signed and returned to you after your wedding.
- Attend your Rehearsal Dinner. Relax and enjoy yourself!
The Wedding Day. Congratulations!
- Eat a a good breakfast with carbs, fat and protein to keep hunger at bay.
- Make sure your luggage is in the car or Hotel where you'll stay on your wedding night
- Get dressed. Start at least one hour before the ceremony.
- Give the Best Man the bride's wedding ring.
- Prepare the official's fee or gift in an envelope, and hand it to the best man so he can present it after the ceremony.
Source: Text from GroomsOnline.com
Groom's Survival Kit
He may think that he doesn't need this kit until disaster strikes, of course. this practical collection can help any guy tie the knot with composure and confidence.
A Groom's Guide to The Wedding
As the groom you have 2 speeches to make. One at the rehearsal dinner and one at the reception.
~ During Medieval times, a man would express his love for a woman by leaving a hawthorn branch outside her door, should her feelings not be mutual she would replace the branch with cauliflower.
~ Ancient tradition, called for the groom to give the bride's family offerings to prove his worthiness. Typically, he would bring cookies in a special red container. The cookies were then passed around to friends and family to announce the marriage.
~ It is bad luck for a man to encounter a Blind Person, Pregnant Woman, a Monk, or a Nun on his way to propose.
~ His life will be filled with good fortune if he happens upon a Pigeon, Wolf or Goat, on his way to propose, though.
The Bachelor Party
Plan your bachelor party for the weekend before the wedding. Whatever you do, never have it the night before the wedding 'cause you're gonna need to recuperate!
The Bachelor Party Oath of Secrecy:
I (state your name) do solemnly swear that as a gentleman of the world I will respect and honor my brothers. I will not reveal the secrets of the evening. In taking this oath I understand that violating it will result in punishment that could include castration by way of a dirty, dull, knife. If asked about the happenings of the evening I shall reply:
"We ate pizza and watched movies. The groom got really drunk and his grandfather was there."
PS- A word to the wise. Never, ever allow cameras, or video recorders to be present. This could really haunt you later..
Groomsmen Gift Ideas
Some couples choose to exchange gifts with each other before they get married, and at the rehearsal dinner, you are responsible for gifts for each of your Groomsmen.
Wedding Day Superstitions
Why was June traditionally the most popular for weddings?
~ During the 15th and 16th centuries, May was the month in which the "annual bath" was held. Thus, people still smelled "relatively" fresh in June; making it a good time to hold a wedding!
~ In Victorian times, it was believed lucky to marry, during the groom's birthday week, and the luckiest day to marry, was on the groom's actual birthday. (Perhaps so he would always remember his Anniversary?)
~ Hindu tradition, calls for the groom to eat honey on his wedding day.
~ It is lucky if the groom arrives at the church before the bride.
The Best Man
~ It is considered to be the Best Man's duty to protect the groom from bad luck.
~ The Best Man, must also arrange for the groom to carry a small charm in his pocket on the wedding day.
~ When the Best Man is paying the church minister's fee, he should pay him an odd sum, to bring luck to the couple.
~ The Veil
Long ago, the altar was where a bride and groom first met face to face. Either might or might not, like the looks of their new spouse, the bride wore a veil to delay the groom's first look until it was too late to back out.
~ If the groom drops the wedding band during the ceremony, the marriage is doomed.
~ Cutting the wedding cake together, symbolizes the couple's unity, a shared future, and their life together as one. The groom traditionally places his hand over the bride's hand, as a symbol of his desire to take care of her.
~ The bride and groom feed each other a taste of cake to symbolize the sharing of life's bounty.
Don't Forget The EXTRA special People on Your Gift List!
Father and Mother of both the Bride and Groom and of course your Best Man!
The Honeymoon and Beyond
~ The original purpose of the honeymoon was to keep the captive wife hidden away, until the groom could get her pregnant, so the bride's family would not want her back.
~ The groom's parents were once supposed to purchase a new bed for the newlywed couple. To symbolize a "fruitful" union, various dried fruits were scattered on the bed.
~ After the wedding, the bride must enter the new marital home through the main entrance. It is traditional for the groom to carry the bride over the threshold when they enter for the first time because if the bride should stumble upon entering, it is considered a bad omen. This is because demons were said to haunt doorways and would cause the bride to trip.
For The "Honey"moon
Couples once drank mead, a fermented drink made from honey, everyday for a month after they married, in order to "sweeten" the marriage. This was known as the "honey month" or their "honeymoon".