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What a good wife does for her husband
What does it mean to be a good wife to your husband?
How do you determine what a good wife is?
What exactly is a good wife to her husband, you may be surprised to find out what it really means. There are so many misconceptions about the roles in a marriage. You may think that this is an article about being a good wife, but maybe there is more to it, so read forward and don't forget to take the poll to see if you are a good wife?
What a good wife does for her husband
This article is written for the women who are good wives and for the husbands that love and appreciate them for it. This is also written for those of us who are struggling in our marriage and need some answers.
What makes a good wife and what does a good wife do for her husband? Many husbands would like to know the answer to this question. We see those sweet older couples who have been married for 50 years that still hold hands, sneak in kisses and look at each other with love in their eyes, and the secret to their happiness is this ......
The woman choose the right man for her. A woman must chose the right man for her. A man that she accepts for who he is and does not want to change. She has passion for him, he is her best friend, she respects him, and understands his values.
This is the right way to start off a great marriage together. All of these elements need to be in place, because if one is not then that is exactly what will be at the root of the problem in a marriage. What a good wife does for her husband is to choose him well to begin with and here are the main ingredients of a happy marriage and notice I didn't put love in that category, we will get to that later.
When we look at these choices we can begin to look at our own marriage and find out some of the area's that need help.
The truth of the matter is that many of us are married to a spouse that we have problems with, some ot theses problems stem from the fact that we did not choose the right partner to begin with in all areas. Once we can find out which area is not working in the relationship then we can begin to accept that part of our spouse. Remember you made the choice to marry them for who they are and begin to focus on the positive rather than the negative part of that person.
Women can not change their husbands
Women cannot change their husbands, and they have to accept them for who they are. When a woman marries a man and then tries to change him, she is not accepting him for who he is and this is going to be hurtful to him.
A man can change certain things about himself if he wants to and a woman can be a guide to him in a positive way, but she cannot change him.
A good wife will understand this and finds ways to encourage her husband and let him change on his own as the relationship grows. If certain behaves bother her than they can work on it together. But she cannot change another person's core values or beliefs or who they are.
Your answer will help!
Are you a man or a woman reading this article?
Desire your man
Show your husband that you still desire him.
This is a big one for married couples; women!!! Do not marry a man that you are not attracted to nor have any chemistry with. This will only lead to disaster in the bedroom! This is not a good choice for a husband this is a friend!
You do not have to have sex with someone to know if there is chemistry and passion, if it is there you will feel it.
There has to be a spark not fireworks but at least a spark, something to light. Passion can grow in a marriage and make the relationship all that much stronger. A good wife will want to be intimate with her spouse because she will understand that a man needs to have sex with his wife for a deep connection and she desires him. Men connect through sex with the women that they love and a good wife knows this. Men that are unable to have regular sex with their wives become bitter and angry toward their spouse. Sex is suppose to be fun, and if it not work on it together to make it more exciting.
My Husband Wont Have Sex With Me
Friendship with your spouse
A good wife will find a man that she can laugh with and have fun with. Friendship in a marriage is so important and this includes good communication with one another. A good friendship and communication go together because that is what good friends do; they talk to each other and say what is on their mind.
They feel comfortable in opening up about their feelings and are safe to explore all areas of their life with that person. Friendship in a marriage is crucial, not only do you want to have passion in a marriage but you want your spouse to be your friend, and you want to like each other.
A good wife will know that she may be the one to initiate conversation many times, as typically (but not always) women are better at verbal skills then men and can come up with great ideas and conversations. Many times a husband who loves his wife because she is a good wife will let her bend his ear for a while if she needs to.
Have respect for him as a man
The reason I put down as a man is because a good wife will know how to treat her husband like a man.
Men need their wives to be supportive of them, they cherish how their wife see's them and when a good wife see's her husband as her man, it will give him the confidence to go about his day knowing that he has his wife's support. Many times in a marriage a man will learn to become dependent in a good way on his wife and she has the ability to love and support him and lift him up, or to nag, put him down and break his spirit.
A good wife will know that her husband is sensitive about her honoring him as a man. A good wife will also let her husband know that she loves him by kissing him, hugging him, holding his hand, and making him chicken soup when he is sick, because we all know when a man is sick he loves to be pampered.
Both men and woman can answer
What do you think is the most important part about being a good wife
This can be a bit tricky so before you get married it is import to discuss religion, and core values with your spouse to be.
Married couples that have different values and religious views have to come to an understanding before marriage. When two people have different religious views and then have children this will become an issue if it has not been resolved before the couple has children. It can create a distance in the marriage.
The same goes for core values, such as political views, how to raise children, and how to spend and save money these are all important issues in marriage. A good wife will try and chose a husband that has similar values to hers and if he does not then they will come to an agreement to agree to disagree on certain topics.
Growing In Love Together
The one part that I left out of the chosing process is the word "love" and that is because love is just that "a word" and when a couples marries they will love each other as new lovers do, but the true test of love is in the growing together in the marriage, and that is the sweetest part of a good marriage is the love that grows with it.
So what a good wife does for her husband is to chose him well.