- Gender and Relationships
What leads to Relationship
what leads to relationship
Relationship is a state every individual must attain to, and it is very essential in an individual’s life. It is a very nice thing from God and it is usually interesting. The kind of relationship we enter will determine if we will benefit from it or not. Relationship is not what should be entered with a wrong motive. Before we enter into a relationship, we should first of all renew our mindset. The reasons for been in relationship have been misunderstood and misinterpreted. The reasons should be genue and not otherwise. Many people have been a victim of this circumstance. One of the reasons people witness disappointment in their relationship is due to the fact that they entered into that relationship with the wrong motive.
Recently, most people enter into a relationship because of the following reasons:
WHAT THEY CAN BENEFIT: Most people see relationship as their establishment and so they enter into a relationship for the love of money and not for the sake of love. You don’t love someone because of his or her money, such relationship will never last and even if it does, the love will not be there. This people remember you when they are in need of one thing or the other.
SEX: Another point that leads to relationship is sex. In fact this is the major reason why most people enter into a relationship. All most all the existing relationship is sex driven. They now have a slogan which says love without sex is an empty experience, but these things ought not to be so. Sex kills the love in any relationship if there is any love at all.
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APPEARANCE: Physical looks have been one other factor that leads to a relationship. This factor or point gives a stepping stone to a sex driven relationship. The looks (big boobs, hot lips, cat walking, big bottom, big hips) of a girl are what mostly attract a guy and the next thing that runs in his mind is sex. When all these qualities fade, the love itself will also fade.
TO BELONG: Most people enter into a relationship just to belong, just to be in the group of those that have a boy or a girl friend. Tell me, how will these relationship last. You wonder why your boy or girl friend is behaving strange at times. It’s advisable that before we enter any relationship, we should have reasons and it should be genue. You don’t experience what you didn’t expect, what you expect in your relationship is what you are bound to expect.
SECURITY: Most girls especially those in the higher institutions enter into relationship with guys that can give them maximum security in the school and for this reason they make friends with cultist. They believe that once they associate with such people they will be secured.
Most relationship leads to marriage and the way you design your relationship, that’s the way your marriage will be. Before I enter into any relationship, I read books on relationship, know how to control my relationship and make the best out of it. Books from great authors have really helped to build my relationship. Remember that relationship is a ship that will show you how to relate with people.
Must all relationships end up in marriage? The simple answer to the question is no? All relationships do not lead to marriage at the end of them all. Some have been into relationships for not less than ten years but at the end the partners separate and do not leave together as husbands and wives.
In some strong relationships, those who are into the contract may like to end up living as husbands and wives but the reverse becomes the case at the end. Among the root causes of this kind of occurrence are misunderstanding, insincerity, lack of money, and aging of the women into the business.
I have personally seen people who dream't to find themselves as husbands and wives after long-time relationship but did not make it at the end. Sometimes it is usually because the man did not have enough money to perform the marital rites involved.