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What to Do When Your Ex Girlfriend Is Dating Someone Else

Updated on September 14, 2013

What Can You Do When You Find Out Your Ex Girlfriend is Dating Someone... And It's Not YOU?

Oh, it hurts, It hurts like you cannot imagine. Just breathing is a chore right now. It feels like your gut is going around a bend at 150 miles per hour. You just found out that the worst thing imaginable has happened. Your ex girlfriend is dating someone else. This is what you feared the most after you broke up with her and now that you have to deal with it... it's even harder than you imagined. You picture some other guy, some dude with bad intentions is about to win her over and you are going to be just a memory to her. Is this the end? What can you do when your ex girlfriend is dating someone else?

Here's What You Need to Do if She is Seeing Someone Else

If your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else, you have to be very careful about how you are going to approach the situation. As tempting as it might be to drive a wedge in between her and the new beau, that is the last thing that you want to do. You could come off looking like a complete jerk, the kind of guy she despises if you do that.

Here's what you need to do:

1) Become okay with the fact that she is with someone else.

Right now, it probably is a shock to you that she is dating. And you are not. That accounts for a lot of the feelings that are coursing throughout your system right now. Not only that, you also probably had some pretty high hopes about being able to find a way to get her back, and this situation makes it seem like that will not happen. That's something else that you have to process. Let it process. Digest the information that she is seeing someone else and then... become okay with it. You don't have to like it, just become OKAY with it.

2) Do what she is doing and REBOUND.

You know, truthfully all she is probably doing right now is the classic rebound relationship. Why not do the same thing yourself? You are just going to feel worse if it seems like she is out having fun and you are sitting at home listening to yet another sad love song on the radio. Get out, meet some women... do whatever you can to keep you from just sitting in the house and thinking about how much it sucks that she is with someone else.

3) Be supportive, but not a fan boy of her new relationship.

You don't want to be a cheerleader for the new guy. On the other hand, it only bodes well for you if you can be supportive of her new relationship. Say something like: Hey, that's cool you are seeing someone. Leave it at that. Just let her know that you are not going to do the whole creepy ex boyfriend thing.

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More Information on Dealing With an Ex Girlfriend

You may need some more help, some more tips, and some more advice on how to get your girlfriend back or get over her.

How to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend

If your ex girlfriend is dating someone else, and things are going great for her and her new relationship, do you want to be the jerk who breaks them up? Probably not.

If this is the case, then you need to get over your ex girlfriend. Here are some tips on how to do this:

1) Hang Out With Friends.

2) Expand Your Social Circle.

3) Work on Your Goals.

4) Date.

5) Learn from Your Mistakes So They Don't Happen Again.

Panic Is Going to Make Things Worse

When you find out that your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else, the worst thing that you can do is panic. Not only does it make you do things that you probably would not normally do, but there is usually no reason to panic. That is, of course if you are not revolving your entire world around what happens between you and your ex girlfriend. If you are - then you need to stop that as soon as you can. Panic is what we do when we are afraid that something terrible is going to happen and we don't know how to handle the situation. When you understand what it is that you should do, and you are more than capable of handling the fact that your ex girlfriend has started to date someone else, you will see that panic just makes things worse so there is no reason at all for you to go down that road if you don't have to.

Why Something Like Setting Goals Helps

If you are just thinking about the fact that your ex girlfriend is dating again, then it might not really sink in at first why it would be good for you to set goals right now. Let's explore why this is. Okay, one of the things that really gets to you when you are in a situation like this is that your self confidence gets shot down for a little while. And that becomes a cycle that usually just gets worse and worse unless you do something about it. That's where setting a couple of goals comes into play.

Let's say that you take a look at yourself and realize that your finances are not in the best of shape. Take the time to get this in order and see how you feel when you do. Probably a little bit better. Then, let's say that you also realize that you are not in the best of shape. You can take the time to get in better shape and when you do - again you will feel better about yourself. And that is only going to enhance your chances for winning back your ex girlfriend or being able to attract someone else so that you don't even think about her anymore.

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