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When should I get married? Does it matter?

Updated on March 10, 2013

Marriage is an adventure

Marrying Early

Back before women's rights and major movements in the 60s and 70s it was common for youngsters to marry right out of high school. Girls would get married even young at 14 and 15 years of age. So what has changed? Society is constantly frowning on marriage and its attributes. High school sweethearts are quicker to move in together(shack up) than they are to get married. Before, religious convictions drove people to marry quicker than did love. But now it is a question about what people want. It is about being financially secure, and able to explore all options before being tied down to commitment. But could marrying early possibly be a good thing? Yes, if you are grounded and if you know that the person you choose to marry has the same convictions and faith, your are on the right course to success. People have to realize it is more about what you bring as much as what you get out of the deal. If both the man and woman think this way they will always be aware to pay attention to their behavior before they focus on their spouse's.

Marrying young and growing old together can mean celebrating sucess and going through the rough times together. But you have to want to be a strong man or woman to avoid temptations. When you dislike what your sweetheart is becoming, do not trade them out for someone else unless they turn out psychopathic, work things out. Believe me, I know even as I am a Christian, you might want to give up sometimes. It is nothing like not being able to see eye to eye with someone you share your life with. Nevertheless, love can triumph over anything if it is real. Great things like life long marriages are worth the challenges. It does not matter how old you are, love and sacrifice means being strong.

It is not right to dispose of people for others without giving your best. It is not right to give up on what was started as a beautiful thing especially if you married for the right reasons.


Marrying Older

Marrying when you are older? If you are a women and you want to have kids within a marriage you might feel that you have only so much time to carry a baby without complications. These days, especially with the uncertainty of the economy, it seems like good advice to be individually financially secure before committing to marriage. Sometimes people do not find love when they are in their twenties and thirties. A lot of times it is hard to handle being an individual, not to mention handling somebody else's problems. So marrying when you are older and sure about your faith, goals, and ideas is very important. We all blossom and grow in our own time. Recognizing where you are mature should be very important in determining rather or not you are ready to marry. Some people want to have sex with everybody before they settle down to one. Really what is so wrong with being virtuous until marriage? Even if you have to wait for years, enjoying one person can be more satisfying and is worth the wait. There is a lot of baggage that comes with sleeping with multiple people. In such a sensual society, marrying older means you have as many bed buddies as you want without commitment. Some say, "hey it is my life and I can make my choices". Sure you can but morally, you are hurting yourself. There is so much substance and value in marrying for love and virtue. Rather you are old or young, marriage at any adult age can be a sucess. It is what we make it.

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      This is a very interesting and useful hub. Yes, people should be virtuous before getting married, but it is so hard with all of the temptations in modern life. I personally feel that a woman should devote herself to her husband and family rather than a job or career. So many marriages have failed when a man or a woman regard their job or profession as more important than the person they are with. Voted up and sharing.

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      editorsupremo 4 years ago from London, England

      Interesting subject. I agree with all you say, but thnk you have to be realistic and know that in this 21st century those morals and virtues you speak of are almost dead and gone, especially in the developed countries. There are some cultures outside the west that believe in remaining pure until marriage but even they are being infiltrated by modern society.

      I do believe you do not have to sacrifice your career or family, you can have both. It is a case of finding the right partner who is on the same wave length as you and prioritising what you want in life. I am example of that. I married in my 20's and built my legal career and put off having a family until I was in my 30s when we were both ready for the next chapter in our marriage. In my 40s I returned to my career and now we are a happy family, with love, happiness and professions.

      I think it becomes a problem when a woman sacrifices her personal happiness for a career. Because at the end of the day, a degree cannot give you love, warmth and joy on a cold night when you're alone.

      @Paul Kuehn. I think a man and woman should devote themselves to each other and their family, not just the woman. It should be an equal partnership and they should learn to juggle family and careers together.

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      Dominique Broomfield 4 years ago from Texas,USA

      Thanks for your comment, I have to say that I know young people with morals who have waited till marriage. I agree it is not popular but there are some who are strong and faithful. I also love what you said about your family, I am in that stage of raising my little ones, I already have my degree, but I wanted kids too!

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      editorsupremo 4 years ago from London, England

      That's great dbroomfi, so you see you can have it all!! Make the most of this time with your kids because time goes by so quickly and you cannot capture those special times again.

      I also know many young people in the church who are prepared to wait until marriage. But there are few and far between.

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      Dominique Broomfield 4 years ago from Texas,USA

      Thanks!!

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